a therapist called Bion once claimed that "the purest form of listening is to listen without memory or desire"

it's similar to what Freud called hovering attention, or alert passivity, and modern psychoanalysts call 'evenly suspended attention'

something I'll spend my life trying to get better at

everyone should read this, tho tbh, you might have read it already

i’m heavily into my marble race era right now… if anyone has opinions about marble races (irl or digital) lmk 🔴🟠🟡🟢🔵🟣

If you’re going to have a midlife crisis, you should at least try to make it generative rather than consumptive

This really is just like being on your phone… although if I’m honest it was slightly less dissociative and more entertaining than normal. Other than that would highly recommend.

reciprocals are really useful, especially when someone sends you a screenshot of a KPI showing a big % change and you're curious what it was before, then you remember reciprocals are really simple but feel like magic, and this is the kind of thing you should do in the evenings to relax

it’s funny to think about, but vitality comes from desire, and desire really does function like a carrot on a stick… the ideal carrot is something that remains fresh and out of reach… you don’t want it to go stale, or worse, actually eat it

I kicked off 2025 by closing 1432 tabs (even I was a bit surprised), and removing 194 apps from my phone, 18 of which don’t even work anymore.

One of my unpopular opinions is that you should live your life in service of others, and the biggest threats to your wellbeing are over-indexing on self-care, benchmarking yourself against the global elite, and failing to recognise algorithms as paperclip maximisers

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tfw your work focuses on decentralisation and your government drops a white paper on it 👀

assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/676028...

hanging out with 9yo and her chosen activities are kawaii christmas doodles (you can see mine below) and building a Mayan afterlife in minecraft, next up is Hades 👀

Realised today I joined bsky when it was 3 orders of magnitude smaller.

Old enough to remember the hellthread and how impressed i was with @berduck.deepfates.com

Very excited for this!

Deal with decision fatigue and support social mobility by playing games at the same time as your friends!

I love the idea of community game passes, and proud of the @intogames.bsky.social team for making it happen.

I’m thankful that a place like this exists… that the bluesky team believed in this enough to build it, that they continue to articulate their intent so well, and that people are remembering social media can be a place where creativity and positivity can flourish (if you choose!)

this is very funny… even as someone committed to the importance of decentralisation I still feel the flinch haha

It’s pretty clear that this place is already a lot more useful than X.

That makes me a little sad… twitter had a massive positive influence on my life and there’s a huge amount of value there that people are willing to see burn because they dislike Musk.

Hopefully this place will be different! 👀

We need to talk about Misty!

(the most *wonderfully* frustrating card in pokemon tcg pocket and latest contributor to the randomness-in-game-design discourse)

It is possible to make cool things, still