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Lisa Kays
@lisakays.bsky.social
Shift Happens Collective | Therapist/Social Worker | Co-host: What If Nothing’s Wrong With You? podcast | #stopASWB | Mom | Sober | Comedy & Improv | Therapy, groups, and supervision
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November 18, 2025 at 3:41 PM
-The "Emotional Lab": Group provides a practice arena for skills you're learning in individual therapy. You can test out new ways of being in a safe container with immediate feedback.
November 18, 2025 at 3:41 PM
-Real-Time Feedback: Group members trust and take in feedback from peers differently than from therapists. When someone in a group says, "You do this thing where you apologize after everything you say," it lands differently than when a therapist says it.
November 18, 2025 at 3:41 PM
-Multiple Transferences: In individual therapy, you might successfully avoid certain types of people or dynamics. In a group, they show up—the person who reminds you of your critical mother, the one who triggers your people-pleasing, the one whose confidence you envy.
November 18, 2025 at 3:41 PM
Group therapy does things individual therapy simply cannot:
November 18, 2025 at 3:41 PM
But I get the resistance. Most people think, "It can't be as good as individual therapy, right?"

Wrong.
November 18, 2025 at 3:41 PM
And when it works, the results seem to hold, too.

The solutions clients find for themselves are often innovative and surprising--to both of us.

I wrote a bit about it here in case your're curious about it, or your therapist has offered it, and you aren't so sure...
November 10, 2025 at 5:55 PM
Subscribe to my Substack to read more about relationships and how they're impacted by the social container and culture we're sitting in: shifthappenscollective.substack.com
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November 5, 2025 at 5:57 PM
Sometimes, the most insidious thing that happens is that your truth is never acknowledged. When we suppress our own thoughts and feelings, we know it takes a toll on our physical and mental health.
November 5, 2025 at 5:57 PM
It’s not always physical abuse. Often, it’s what we call coercive control—a slow erosion of autonomy through monitoring, isolation, and subtle threats. You start second-guessing yourself. Diminishing your needs. Shrinking to keep the peace.
November 5, 2025 at 5:57 PM
And when they name it, they’re often met with gaslighting, excuses, deflection, or silence. They are asked to hold and take more seriously the experiences of everyone but themselves.
November 5, 2025 at 5:57 PM
And yet, so many of the relationships I hear about don’t meet that basic bar. Women carry the majority of unpaid labor, from child-rearing and housework to emotional support and mental load.
November 5, 2025 at 5:57 PM
It's a space where everyone can flourish—not just survive. There’s no coercion or abuse. No one benefits at the other’s expense. Everyone’s labor—emotional, cognitive, physical—is recognized and respected.
November 5, 2025 at 5:57 PM
I talk about this experience on the Therapist Uncensored podcast and continue to write and reflect on it. For upcoming writing and thinking about improv's role in social justice and anti-oppressive ways of being, subscribe to my Substack: shifthappenscollective.substack.com
Lisa Kays | Substack
News and information about the private practice of Lisa Kays, The Shift Happens Collective. The Shift Happens Collective serves clients and social work supervisees in DC, VA, MD, and OR. Click to read...
shifthappenscollective.substack.com
October 28, 2025 at 3:48 PM
And somehow, through that strange mix of laughter and grief, we found a way to talk about oppression, power, and identity without collapsing into shame or rage.

We didn’t fix the world. But we stayed present. We stayed kind. And we stayed connected.
October 28, 2025 at 3:48 PM
And then we played.

We did movement-based games. We clapped when someone made a mistake. We laughed. We shared painful truths. We said “yes, and” instead of “yes, but.” We practiced being in our bodies, together.
October 28, 2025 at 3:48 PM
But I grounded myself in what I know improv can do. I opened the session with a personal “yes, and” statement—naming the harm I’ve caused and the harm I’ve experienced due to varying places of privilege and marginalization. I situated myself in complexity. I asked the group to do the same.
October 28, 2025 at 3:48 PM
Tensions were high. The room was filled with therapists—many of them brilliant, passionate, and understandably wary of being vulnerable in a group.

Honestly? I was scared.
October 28, 2025 at 3:48 PM