Lisa Kays
@lisakays.bsky.social
Shift Happens Collective | Therapist/Social Worker | Co-host: What If Nothing’s Wrong With You? podcast | #stopASWB | Mom | Sober | Comedy & Improv | Therapy, groups, and supervision
Some thoughts about the connections between improv and clinical hypnosis in my latest post on Substack: open.substack.com/pub/shifthap...
November 20, 2025 at 5:59 PM
Some thoughts about the connections between improv and clinical hypnosis in my latest post on Substack: open.substack.com/pub/shifthap...
Here's what might surprise you: Research consistently shows that group therapy is as effective as individual therapy—sometimes more so. Irvin Yalom has documented this over 60 years of controlled studies.
November 18, 2025 at 3:41 PM
Here's what might surprise you: Research consistently shows that group therapy is as effective as individual therapy—sometimes more so. Irvin Yalom has documented this over 60 years of controlled studies.
Curious about clinical hypnosis?
It can seem mystifying and a bit weird, woo woo, or even potentially embarrassing, i.e. what if I say something strange I wouldn't say otherwise?
As a therapist recently trained in it, I have to say, it's getting results for folks. And fast.
It can seem mystifying and a bit weird, woo woo, or even potentially embarrassing, i.e. what if I say something strange I wouldn't say otherwise?
As a therapist recently trained in it, I have to say, it's getting results for folks. And fast.
November 10, 2025 at 5:55 PM
Curious about clinical hypnosis?
It can seem mystifying and a bit weird, woo woo, or even potentially embarrassing, i.e. what if I say something strange I wouldn't say otherwise?
As a therapist recently trained in it, I have to say, it's getting results for folks. And fast.
It can seem mystifying and a bit weird, woo woo, or even potentially embarrassing, i.e. what if I say something strange I wouldn't say otherwise?
As a therapist recently trained in it, I have to say, it's getting results for folks. And fast.
What Is a Healthy Relationship?
This may sound obvious, but for many people, especially those socialized as women, this question gets blurry fast. A healthy relationship is mutual. Collaborative. Safe.
This may sound obvious, but for many people, especially those socialized as women, this question gets blurry fast. A healthy relationship is mutual. Collaborative. Safe.
November 5, 2025 at 5:57 PM
What Is a Healthy Relationship?
This may sound obvious, but for many people, especially those socialized as women, this question gets blurry fast. A healthy relationship is mutual. Collaborative. Safe.
This may sound obvious, but for many people, especially those socialized as women, this question gets blurry fast. A healthy relationship is mutual. Collaborative. Safe.
New ep drop! We answer a lovely listener's ? about if monogamy can be a good thing (the answer is yes, sometimes, of course, because many things are true at once!) and explore some ways to think about protecting your attention and using it as a force of good for you, and maybe even the world!
November 3, 2025 at 4:30 PM
New ep drop! We answer a lovely listener's ? about if monogamy can be a good thing (the answer is yes, sometimes, of course, because many things are true at once!) and explore some ways to think about protecting your attention and using it as a force of good for you, and maybe even the world!
I was recently led to remember leading a workshop at a recent professional conference called Improvisation for Decolonization. I had no idea when I proposed the workshop that October 7 would happen before I would offer it, meaning that when it was time to lead, I was unsure what I was walking into.
October 28, 2025 at 3:48 PM
I was recently led to remember leading a workshop at a recent professional conference called Improvisation for Decolonization. I had no idea when I proposed the workshop that October 7 would happen before I would offer it, meaning that when it was time to lead, I was unsure what I was walking into.
I taught improv for about a decade because it was profoundly healing for me—something I felt deeply as I began my MSW. I didn’t fully understand it at the time, but I knew improv and social work were connected.
October 24, 2025 at 3:37 PM
I taught improv for about a decade because it was profoundly healing for me—something I felt deeply as I began my MSW. I didn’t fully understand it at the time, but I knew improv and social work were connected.
A few words about Jane Goodall's "Famous Last Words" interview and what she has to teach us about mental health, authenticity, and making meaning in our lives.
Jane Goodall's "Famous Last Words" interview encourages us to look beyond black-and-white thinking to get to know ourselves.
Here's why complexity, nuance, and non-binary thinking are critical for our mental health, and, in her view, the planet.
shifthappenscollective.substack.com
October 22, 2025 at 4:42 PM
A few words about Jane Goodall's "Famous Last Words" interview and what she has to teach us about mental health, authenticity, and making meaning in our lives.
If you’re curious about whether group psychotherapy may be the right fit for you, here are a few principles/themes from Irvin Yalom that group therapy helps provide:
October 22, 2025 at 4:41 PM
If you’re curious about whether group psychotherapy may be the right fit for you, here are a few principles/themes from Irvin Yalom that group therapy helps provide:
As times get tighter financially, group therapy is an excellent--and misunderstood--option for many. Evidence shows it is often as effective as individual psychotherapy, and has the benefit of costing less to participants while covering therapist labor.
October 15, 2025 at 2:03 PM
As times get tighter financially, group therapy is an excellent--and misunderstood--option for many. Evidence shows it is often as effective as individual psychotherapy, and has the benefit of costing less to participants while covering therapist labor.
Episode drop! Just in time for Halloween and spooky season, horror stories, therapy style!
shifthappenscollective.com/podcast
shifthappenscollective.com/podcast
October 11, 2025 at 9:55 PM
Episode drop! Just in time for Halloween and spooky season, horror stories, therapy style!
shifthappenscollective.com/podcast
shifthappenscollective.com/podcast
My latest Substack, wherein I go to water aerobics and drive to work and end up on a cautionary journey through blame, projection, and the importance of assessing power and systemic issues before we turn on the annoying person next to us.
shifthappenscollective.substack.com/p/before-poi...
shifthappenscollective.substack.com/p/before-poi...
October 1, 2025 at 7:18 PM
My latest Substack, wherein I go to water aerobics and drive to work and end up on a cautionary journey through blame, projection, and the importance of assessing power and systemic issues before we turn on the annoying person next to us.
shifthappenscollective.substack.com/p/before-poi...
shifthappenscollective.substack.com/p/before-poi...
Reposted by Lisa Kays
September 25, 2025 at 1:45 PM
As new President Elect of the Board of MAGPS, I am thrilled to invite you to consider this upcoming conference in Baltimore. MAGPS is a wonderful conference for learning about and experiencing group therapy skills and dynamics, but it's also relevant for any therapist or social worker! Join us!
September 24, 2025 at 4:33 PM
As new President Elect of the Board of MAGPS, I am thrilled to invite you to consider this upcoming conference in Baltimore. MAGPS is a wonderful conference for learning about and experiencing group therapy skills and dynamics, but it's also relevant for any therapist or social worker! Join us!
In this episode, we discuss a relatively new treatment for depression, ketamine, as well as the power and importance of friends in our lives. We also discuss how and why our culture doesn't support the value and importance of friends. Fight fascism...make friends! And more, in this episode...
September 23, 2025 at 4:44 PM
In this episode, we discuss a relatively new treatment for depression, ketamine, as well as the power and importance of friends in our lives. We also discuss how and why our culture doesn't support the value and importance of friends. Fight fascism...make friends! And more, in this episode...
For many folks, the hardest part of getting sober isn't giving up alcohol, it's the social weirdness that ensues. So, I decided to make this sober Bingo card that may be helpful in taking the edge off of weddings and other big events in early sobriety #sobersky
Sober Bingo!
The experiment mindset and distraction you didn't know you needed for the first big wedding, cocktail party, or family event where you aren't going to drink.
open.substack.com
September 3, 2025 at 4:23 PM
For many folks, the hardest part of getting sober isn't giving up alcohol, it's the social weirdness that ensues. So, I decided to make this sober Bingo card that may be helpful in taking the edge off of weddings and other big events in early sobriety #sobersky
Feeling tired, depleted, exhausted, or like you can't keep up? This tool may help you explore if that's a "me" problem or something bigger going on with how the world around you is supporting you.
open.substack.com/pub/shifthap...
open.substack.com/pub/shifthap...
August 27, 2025 at 3:17 PM
Feeling tired, depleted, exhausted, or like you can't keep up? This tool may help you explore if that's a "me" problem or something bigger going on with how the world around you is supporting you.
open.substack.com/pub/shifthap...
open.substack.com/pub/shifthap...
Important news you can use: Self-silencing is making women sick. I work with a lot of women in my practice on becoming more disappointing, as this author writes, as well as in "being just a little less competent." Well worth a read.
Self-Silencing Is Making Women Sick
For women, being more disappointing could be a lifesaver, writes Maytal Eyal.
time.com
August 20, 2025 at 6:41 PM
Important news you can use: Self-silencing is making women sick. I work with a lot of women in my practice on becoming more disappointing, as this author writes, as well as in "being just a little less competent." Well worth a read.
Two GenX therapists raised by Boomers and who see many of their children in therapy discuss this perplexing generation and offer some theories, guesses, and perspectives. Links to the full episode here: open.substack.com/pub/winwwu/p...
August 20, 2025 at 11:34 AM
Two GenX therapists raised by Boomers and who see many of their children in therapy discuss this perplexing generation and offer some theories, guesses, and perspectives. Links to the full episode here: open.substack.com/pub/winwwu/p...
Need a therapist in Virginia? Our new associate, Robyn Gearey, may be a good fit for you. We're so glad she's joining us next month at the Shift Happens Collective!
August 13, 2025 at 2:48 PM
Need a therapist in Virginia? Our new associate, Robyn Gearey, may be a good fit for you. We're so glad she's joining us next month at the Shift Happens Collective!
Women are not only silencing themselves to a great degree, but we're often not letting our friends or therapists know what's really going on with us. The reason? Patriarchy, of course. More here: shifthappenscollective.substack.com/p/are-you-tr...
July 30, 2025 at 3:20 PM
Women are not only silencing themselves to a great degree, but we're often not letting our friends or therapists know what's really going on with us. The reason? Patriarchy, of course. More here: shifthappenscollective.substack.com/p/are-you-tr...
In Episode 23, we get into therapy terms that are sometimes not used correctly, and why we think that is. Join us to learn more about boundaries, narcissism/toxic people, depression, trauma bonding, and more! Substack summary: open.substack.com/pub/winwwu/p...
July 24, 2025 at 1:43 PM
In Episode 23, we get into therapy terms that are sometimes not used correctly, and why we think that is. Join us to learn more about boundaries, narcissism/toxic people, depression, trauma bonding, and more! Substack summary: open.substack.com/pub/winwwu/p...
A text message from @katiejettwalls.bsky.social got me thinking about family photos, and what they might have to do with our psychological well-being. Full reflection on my Substack: shorturl.at/SZKlJ
Why the family pictures in my office aren't all smiles and perfect poses.
Can how we take and display family photos help increase self-compassion and empathy for others? I'm not sure what the experts would say, but intuitively, I think so.
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July 23, 2025 at 2:58 PM
A text message from @katiejettwalls.bsky.social got me thinking about family photos, and what they might have to do with our psychological well-being. Full reflection on my Substack: shorturl.at/SZKlJ
New substack article with resources on choosing a therapist now available, also with a link to the workshop I'm co-leading this Saturday on Zoom with @lsherper.bsky.social on relationship education for women in heterosexual relationships. Spots still open if you want to register!
July 16, 2025 at 2:53 PM
New substack article with resources on choosing a therapist now available, also with a link to the workshop I'm co-leading this Saturday on Zoom with @lsherper.bsky.social on relationship education for women in heterosexual relationships. Spots still open if you want to register!
Online dating! People shopping! What a strange thing to do! And yet, it's hard to date or find friends these days without doing it! What to do? We have thoughts! Episode summary here, or listen to me and @pauladatkinson.bsky.social blab on anywhere you listen to your podcasts! tinyurl.com/bdd7bp8a
June 30, 2025 at 8:04 PM
Online dating! People shopping! What a strange thing to do! And yet, it's hard to date or find friends these days without doing it! What to do? We have thoughts! Episode summary here, or listen to me and @pauladatkinson.bsky.social blab on anywhere you listen to your podcasts! tinyurl.com/bdd7bp8a