Kyle Miller- Narcissistic abuse healing
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From healing to transformation! Healing from toxic, narcissistic emotionally abusive relationships. Build and embrace the life of your dreams! Love yourself and your life! Let's talk 👇
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We're often referred to as the problem child or screw up and we're blamed for everything. This doesn't end in childhood. It will continue until someone, probably the scapegoat themselves ends the cycle. The family knowing or not cannot let their voice be heard because it could shatter the illusion.
February 3, 2026 at 10:34 PM
We're often referred to as the problem child or screw up and we're blamed for everything. This doesn't end in childhood. It will continue until someone, probably the scapegoat themselves ends the cycle. The family knowing or not cannot let their voice be heard because it could shatter the illusion.
Many toxic people are highly intelligent and educated. This makes them that much harder to spot often. They seem like they are intelligent & aware and they are. They are also toxic though and know how to use everything against us. This is another reason it takes time to build healthy relationships.
February 3, 2026 at 6:44 PM
Many toxic people are highly intelligent and educated. This makes them that much harder to spot often. They seem like they are intelligent & aware and they are. They are also toxic though and know how to use everything against us. This is another reason it takes time to build healthy relationships.
The nuances of toxic relationships are extremely subtle and hard to understand unless you've been through it. Even then, it's hard to actually understand what happened. This makes it even harder to talk to anyone else or get help because most people simply don't understand. Find people who do!
February 3, 2026 at 4:45 PM
The nuances of toxic relationships are extremely subtle and hard to understand unless you've been through it. Even then, it's hard to actually understand what happened. This makes it even harder to talk to anyone else or get help because most people simply don't understand. Find people who do!
What's worse is it creates fear of leaving even though there is no connection. Narcissistic abuse traps us with an invisible partner that's never actually available. Leaving is painful even when we see the truth. It requires self compassion and kindness. Allow yourself all that you need to get out!
February 3, 2026 at 3:44 PM
What's worse is it creates fear of leaving even though there is no connection. Narcissistic abuse traps us with an invisible partner that's never actually available. Leaving is painful even when we see the truth. It requires self compassion and kindness. Allow yourself all that you need to get out!
Many of us try to get people to understand what actually happened when the smear campaign starts. Many or most people won't listen unfortunately. Facing this reality sucks and there's no easy way to deal with it. The only thing we really can do is move on with our lives and let these people go.
February 3, 2026 at 12:52 AM
Many of us try to get people to understand what actually happened when the smear campaign starts. Many or most people won't listen unfortunately. Facing this reality sucks and there's no easy way to deal with it. The only thing we really can do is move on with our lives and let these people go.
Too many people try to get help from the people who are supposed to be there for help. Only to get arrested or have their lives turned upside down worse than they were already. It doesn't happen all the time, but it does happen. This is another reason we need good people we can trust in our lives.
February 2, 2026 at 10:18 PM
Too many people try to get help from the people who are supposed to be there for help. Only to get arrested or have their lives turned upside down worse than they were already. It doesn't happen all the time, but it does happen. This is another reason we need good people we can trust in our lives.
We’re already a month into the new year. No matter how much you’ve gotten done or not, it’s important to recognize how far you’ve come from last year. Even if that was making it through the year, that’s still a huge accomplishment. Take the time to acknowledge yourself and your progress!
February 2, 2026 at 4:43 PM
We’re already a month into the new year. No matter how much you’ve gotten done or not, it’s important to recognize how far you’ve come from last year. Even if that was making it through the year, that’s still a huge accomplishment. Take the time to acknowledge yourself and your progress!
After being gaslit for years we lose trust in our thoughts and intuition. It happens slowly over time and this is the same way we must gain it back. This isn't something we can wait for, we must do the work to regain it. It's not easy, but that's one of the steps in getting your life back!
February 2, 2026 at 4:22 PM
After being gaslit for years we lose trust in our thoughts and intuition. It happens slowly over time and this is the same way we must gain it back. This isn't something we can wait for, we must do the work to regain it. It's not easy, but that's one of the steps in getting your life back!
One of my absolute favorite things about patrolling on nights is the opportunity to shut all the lights down and ride the lift in the dark after everything is closed. We were absolutely spoiled last night with this beautiful moon with a distinct circle around it. Absolutely gorgeous!
February 1, 2026 at 6:15 PM
One of my absolute favorite things about patrolling on nights is the opportunity to shut all the lights down and ride the lift in the dark after everything is closed. We were absolutely spoiled last night with this beautiful moon with a distinct circle around it. Absolutely gorgeous!
They literally create & reinforce the trauma bond to trap us in their nightmare. They hurt us and then are there to comfort us. We are trained to go to them for support and they isolate us to perpetuate this cycle. This is another reason we need other people in our lives to help us break this cycle.
February 1, 2026 at 5:55 PM
They literally create & reinforce the trauma bond to trap us in their nightmare. They hurt us and then are there to comfort us. We are trained to go to them for support and they isolate us to perpetuate this cycle. This is another reason we need other people in our lives to help us break this cycle.
Grief is never easy to go through. We will be stuck in it until we allow ourselves to work through and release it. Even if it's dull and in the background. Allowing ourselves to feel and process it allows us to move forward in our lives in many ways that aren't possible while holding onto it.
February 1, 2026 at 5:31 PM
Grief is never easy to go through. We will be stuck in it until we allow ourselves to work through and release it. Even if it's dull and in the background. Allowing ourselves to feel and process it allows us to move forward in our lives in many ways that aren't possible while holding onto it.
Narcissists may seem similar to psychopaths, but they’re definitely different even if it’s subtle. The common theme is neither one cares about anyone else. Narcissists feel shame about the things they get caught doing or the way they’re perceived, but psychopaths don’t have the shame. Both are bad!
February 1, 2026 at 4:44 PM
Narcissists may seem similar to psychopaths, but they’re definitely different even if it’s subtle. The common theme is neither one cares about anyone else. Narcissists feel shame about the things they get caught doing or the way they’re perceived, but psychopaths don’t have the shame. Both are bad!
Narcissists target their victims & attack them in private where no one else will see. If it's done in public it will be done quietly so no one else sees the attack. They continue to show their shiny exterior to everyone else to hide who they truly are. Even if no one else saw it, it still happened!
February 1, 2026 at 3:43 PM
Narcissists target their victims & attack them in private where no one else will see. If it's done in public it will be done quietly so no one else sees the attack. They continue to show their shiny exterior to everyone else to hide who they truly are. Even if no one else saw it, it still happened!
If you call a narcissist out as a narcissist this will bring an entire new level of anger, rage and vindictiveness. I don't recommend doing this under any circumstance at all. We are often looking for understanding or closure, which probably won't happen. You can learn, grow and heal yourself.
January 31, 2026 at 7:42 PM
If you call a narcissist out as a narcissist this will bring an entire new level of anger, rage and vindictiveness. I don't recommend doing this under any circumstance at all. We are often looking for understanding or closure, which probably won't happen. You can learn, grow and heal yourself.
Leaving a narcissist will make them angry & they will probably try to destroy you, your character & credibility. They're probably doing this already and will now do more of it. It doesn't matter if they don't want you anymore, they need you to want them. They'll definitely blame you for all of this.
January 31, 2026 at 6:05 PM
Leaving a narcissist will make them angry & they will probably try to destroy you, your character & credibility. They're probably doing this already and will now do more of it. It doesn't matter if they don't want you anymore, they need you to want them. They'll definitely blame you for all of this.
Most of us question if we are the narcissist in a relationship especially if the actual narcissist accuses us. Most often if we are trying to fix and work on things and we’re accountable for our actions. If we actually care about people, not just our image, most likely we're not a narcissist.
January 31, 2026 at 4:44 PM
Most of us question if we are the narcissist in a relationship especially if the actual narcissist accuses us. Most often if we are trying to fix and work on things and we’re accountable for our actions. If we actually care about people, not just our image, most likely we're not a narcissist.
We often shame ourselves for grieving the loss of a relationship with a narcissist. There are many layers of grief for us, even if it was all fake or a setup for them. It was still real for us. Allow the emotions, process them and allow yourself the compassion that you offer everyone else.
January 31, 2026 at 4:20 PM
We often shame ourselves for grieving the loss of a relationship with a narcissist. There are many layers of grief for us, even if it was all fake or a setup for them. It was still real for us. Allow the emotions, process them and allow yourself the compassion that you offer everyone else.
Flying monkeys aren’t always evil or other narcissists. They always cause harm though. Some will understand in time & most won’t. It’s best to let them go, even though it hurts. They’ve shown they’re not safe for us at least until proven otherwise. They won’t understand if or until they’re ready to.
January 30, 2026 at 6:44 PM
Flying monkeys aren’t always evil or other narcissists. They always cause harm though. Some will understand in time & most won’t. It’s best to let them go, even though it hurts. They’ve shown they’re not safe for us at least until proven otherwise. They won’t understand if or until they’re ready to.
Why can’t we just get over it?! Because we gave them everything, lost everything including ourselves in the process of loving them with everything we had! Now we are starting over in the ashes of the life we thought we had knowing we will never get the closure we want. That’s why!!!
January 30, 2026 at 5:43 PM
Why can’t we just get over it?! Because we gave them everything, lost everything including ourselves in the process of loving them with everything we had! Now we are starting over in the ashes of the life we thought we had knowing we will never get the closure we want. That’s why!!!
Complete accountability is really important. It’s not healthy when it’s used against us though. We get to own everything for ourselves, but so does everyone else. Nothing is ever completely our fault even if we take accountability for all of our actions. Make sure you own your part, but not theirs!
January 30, 2026 at 4:44 PM
Complete accountability is really important. It’s not healthy when it’s used against us though. We get to own everything for ourselves, but so does everyone else. Nothing is ever completely our fault even if we take accountability for all of our actions. Make sure you own your part, but not theirs!
Everyone gets to have a bad day or moment. When it becomes a pattern of mistreatment, that's abuse. No one deserves that. There is no justification for it and they don't value you. We all deserve people in our lives that value us. Find these people and let go of the rest. Never settle!
January 30, 2026 at 3:43 PM
Everyone gets to have a bad day or moment. When it becomes a pattern of mistreatment, that's abuse. No one deserves that. There is no justification for it and they don't value you. We all deserve people in our lives that value us. Find these people and let go of the rest. Never settle!
It feels like anything but love. It may feel familiar, but love is much different. Just because it's familiar, doesn't mean we deserve to go through it because we don't! Now we get to pick up the pieces and give ourselves all the love we actually deserve.
January 29, 2026 at 11:06 PM
It feels like anything but love. It may feel familiar, but love is much different. Just because it's familiar, doesn't mean we deserve to go through it because we don't! Now we get to pick up the pieces and give ourselves all the love we actually deserve.
So many people including me talk about healing. Doing the work to heal almost has nothing to do with healing. It's all about moving forward no matter what happens in your life and having the skills, tools and capacity to do it. It's about building, living and embracing a life you truly love!
January 29, 2026 at 9:56 PM
So many people including me talk about healing. Doing the work to heal almost has nothing to do with healing. It's all about moving forward no matter what happens in your life and having the skills, tools and capacity to do it. It's about building, living and embracing a life you truly love!
If we are not being treated in a way that is kind, loving and supportive. This is probably the only sign we need to see to know that this is not a healthy relationship. If they are not willing to admit, face and actually work on these things. Then it's probably not a healthy relationship.
January 29, 2026 at 6:43 PM
If we are not being treated in a way that is kind, loving and supportive. This is probably the only sign we need to see to know that this is not a healthy relationship. If they are not willing to admit, face and actually work on these things. Then it's probably not a healthy relationship.
Narcissistic relationships are confusing because everything is subtle and hidden. It’s also not all bad all the time or we would leave. We hold onto hope and every breadcrumb we get hoping things will get back to the way they were. The way it was and the hopes are the illusion that keeps us stuck.
January 29, 2026 at 5:44 PM
Narcissistic relationships are confusing because everything is subtle and hidden. It’s also not all bad all the time or we would leave. We hold onto hope and every breadcrumb we get hoping things will get back to the way they were. The way it was and the hopes are the illusion that keeps us stuck.