Kyle Miller- Narcissistic abuse healing
@kylemillercoaching.bsky.social
From healing to transformation! Healing from toxic, narcissistic emotionally abusive relationships. Build and embrace the life of your dreams! Love yourself and your life! Let's talk 👇
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Narcissists will use this when they want to play victim and blame everything on you. Then they can say everything is your fault and you’re leaving them, even though that’s what they wanted. This still hurts even if it’s the best thing that could happen. It may be the opportunity you need.
December 24, 2025 at 5:45 PM
Narcissists will use this when they want to play victim and blame everything on you. Then they can say everything is your fault and you’re leaving them, even though that’s what they wanted. This still hurts even if it’s the best thing that could happen. It may be the opportunity you need.
Narcissists will do everything in their power to destroy any and all relationships you have with anyone else. Part of this is for control for sure. Rather than trying to be better, change or face anything in their life. They will instead destroy your relationships with everyone they can.
December 24, 2025 at 5:15 PM
Narcissists will do everything in their power to destroy any and all relationships you have with anyone else. Part of this is for control for sure. Rather than trying to be better, change or face anything in their life. They will instead destroy your relationships with everyone they can.
Narcissists will try to trigger you forever in every interaction they have with you. It’s like a sick game to them. The hard part is how much we beat ourselves up when we react. It’s ok if you do react even though it sucks when we do. Do the best you can and be kind to you along the way.
December 24, 2025 at 4:44 PM
Narcissists will try to trigger you forever in every interaction they have with you. It’s like a sick game to them. The hard part is how much we beat ourselves up when we react. It’s ok if you do react even though it sucks when we do. Do the best you can and be kind to you along the way.
No matter what anyone else says or how you've been treated. This is something everyone deserves. As you build this beautiful life, be sure to do the work so you can accept and embrace it. Release the old wounds and hurt to make space for the new and the good that's coming into your life.
December 24, 2025 at 3:43 PM
No matter what anyone else says or how you've been treated. This is something everyone deserves. As you build this beautiful life, be sure to do the work so you can accept and embrace it. Release the old wounds and hurt to make space for the new and the good that's coming into your life.
Being out of a narcissistic relationship feels a lot like a hangover. Unlike a hangover from alcohol, it lasts for more than a day or 2. Detoxing takes time and it often doesn’t feel good. It is the path to being healthy again though. Take the time. Do the work. You are worth it!
December 23, 2025 at 5:44 PM
Being out of a narcissistic relationship feels a lot like a hangover. Unlike a hangover from alcohol, it lasts for more than a day or 2. Detoxing takes time and it often doesn’t feel good. It is the path to being healthy again though. Take the time. Do the work. You are worth it!
Every single thing a narcissist ever does for anyone else always comes with an expectation. Narcissists are calculated in many things they do. Even when they aren't though, they always expect more from us. Because to them, no one else matters. Nothing could be further from the truth! We all matter!
December 23, 2025 at 5:14 PM
Every single thing a narcissist ever does for anyone else always comes with an expectation. Narcissists are calculated in many things they do. Even when they aren't though, they always expect more from us. Because to them, no one else matters. Nothing could be further from the truth! We all matter!
Narcissists want us to react and blow up so they can show everyone else how crazy we are. In reality, we're not crazy for reacting to their abuse, it's much more the opposite. The hard part is they hide what they do to us from everyone else. This is another reason for us to learn how to not react.
December 23, 2025 at 4:44 PM
Narcissists want us to react and blow up so they can show everyone else how crazy we are. In reality, we're not crazy for reacting to their abuse, it's much more the opposite. The hard part is they hide what they do to us from everyone else. This is another reason for us to learn how to not react.
Courage is a skill just any other that we can develop. The more we develop it the more we can expand our lives to what we truly want. The opposite is also true. It's simply a choice we make everyday whether we're aware or not. Courage is what it takes to leave a narcissist and build a life you love!
December 23, 2025 at 3:44 PM
Courage is a skill just any other that we can develop. The more we develop it the more we can expand our lives to what we truly want. The opposite is also true. It's simply a choice we make everyday whether we're aware or not. Courage is what it takes to leave a narcissist and build a life you love!
Most of the things that I talk about is from personal experience or similar personal experience. I definitely learn other things and a lot from clients experience too, but I've been through most of it myself. Be kind to yourself if you feel called out. These are a reminder for me too!
December 23, 2025 at 4:02 AM
Most of the things that I talk about is from personal experience or similar personal experience. I definitely learn other things and a lot from clients experience too, but I've been through most of it myself. Be kind to yourself if you feel called out. These are a reminder for me too!
I realize most people are just trying to be helpful when they say, “Just don’t let them get to you”. Often it’s not helpful. When we can, we do. The rest of the time the most important thing is to not beat ourselves up for it. And when we do beat ourselves up for it. Have compassion for yourself!
December 22, 2025 at 6:15 PM
I realize most people are just trying to be helpful when they say, “Just don’t let them get to you”. Often it’s not helpful. When we can, we do. The rest of the time the most important thing is to not beat ourselves up for it. And when we do beat ourselves up for it. Have compassion for yourself!
Relationships are confusing sometimes. If you leave every conversation with someone feeling confused and like you are the only problem, there's probably a bigger problem going on. They may be projecting everything onto you and that's not ok! Own what's yours, not what's theirs.
December 22, 2025 at 5:49 PM
Relationships are confusing sometimes. If you leave every conversation with someone feeling confused and like you are the only problem, there's probably a bigger problem going on. They may be projecting everything onto you and that's not ok! Own what's yours, not what's theirs.
Narcissists blame us for everything, especially when we “piss them off”. Often times this is because we didn’t listen to them in the way they wanted or do exactly what they told us in the way they wanted it done.
We also end up often apologizing to them for something we don’t owe an apology for.
We also end up often apologizing to them for something we don’t owe an apology for.
December 22, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Narcissists blame us for everything, especially when we “piss them off”. Often times this is because we didn’t listen to them in the way they wanted or do exactly what they told us in the way they wanted it done.
We also end up often apologizing to them for something we don’t owe an apology for.
We also end up often apologizing to them for something we don’t owe an apology for.
Everything for them and nothing for you. They get to take everything and complain about everything and you'd better not say anything about anything other than how wonderful they are and how lucky you are to have them. This is all a lie and complete BS! We don't have to live with or deal with this!
December 22, 2025 at 3:44 PM
Everything for them and nothing for you. They get to take everything and complain about everything and you'd better not say anything about anything other than how wonderful they are and how lucky you are to have them. This is all a lie and complete BS! We don't have to live with or deal with this!
We unfortunately lose too many people through and after toxic relationships. Some are good people who simply don't understand. Some are people unwilling to even have a conversation or gain understanding and simply cut us off. Those people are not worth the attempt at a conversation. Let them go!
December 21, 2025 at 9:26 PM
We unfortunately lose too many people through and after toxic relationships. Some are good people who simply don't understand. Some are people unwilling to even have a conversation or gain understanding and simply cut us off. Those people are not worth the attempt at a conversation. Let them go!
Life is busy and many times we don't take time for ourselves amidst the chaos of daily life. It's essential for us to do though. To ground and center ourselves or even to catch our breath. The breaks are just as essential as everything else we do in our lives. Take a moment, make the time for you!
December 21, 2025 at 6:10 PM
Life is busy and many times we don't take time for ourselves amidst the chaos of daily life. It's essential for us to do though. To ground and center ourselves or even to catch our breath. The breaks are just as essential as everything else we do in our lives. Take a moment, make the time for you!
Shout out to the wonderful people who made our Christmas party happen! I don't wear sweaters and don't really like them, but I decided to get one and try a new experience. Definitely felt awkward, but I kind of like it, other than being hot.🥵 The drink pocket is a bonus I like.😜
December 21, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Shout out to the wonderful people who made our Christmas party happen! I don't wear sweaters and don't really like them, but I decided to get one and try a new experience. Definitely felt awkward, but I kind of like it, other than being hot.🥵 The drink pocket is a bonus I like.😜
So many people say that everything happens for a reason as a way to try to justify or make people feel better. This almost never works and it's never really helpful. I don't believe everything happens for a reason. I do believe that we can make meaning out of everything that does happen though.
December 21, 2025 at 5:02 PM
So many people say that everything happens for a reason as a way to try to justify or make people feel better. This almost never works and it's never really helpful. I don't believe everything happens for a reason. I do believe that we can make meaning out of everything that does happen though.
Toxic people will blame & shame you for doing anything for you including finding or creating safety from them. It feels like we're betraying them when we do this. This is not betrayal. They betrayed us when we had to find safety away from them. Choose yourself & find the support you need & deserve!
December 20, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Toxic people will blame & shame you for doing anything for you including finding or creating safety from them. It feels like we're betraying them when we do this. This is not betrayal. They betrayed us when we had to find safety away from them. Choose yourself & find the support you need & deserve!
Toxic people are after our emotional reaction. This allows them to perpetuate & create more chaos. They want this because it makes it easier to control us. The less we react, the less control they have & the more we take our power back. It's not easy and we'll still react sometimes. Be kind to you!
December 20, 2025 at 3:54 PM
Toxic people are after our emotional reaction. This allows them to perpetuate & create more chaos. They want this because it makes it easier to control us. The less we react, the less control they have & the more we take our power back. It's not easy and we'll still react sometimes. Be kind to you!
Toxic people will try to convince you that you are unreasonable and demanding for asking for basic human decency. This is a lie. We will never truly get the things we need from toxic people. We can learn to give these things to ourselves though. This is what we actually need. Choose yourself!
December 20, 2025 at 3:33 PM
Toxic people will try to convince you that you are unreasonable and demanding for asking for basic human decency. This is a lie. We will never truly get the things we need from toxic people. We can learn to give these things to ourselves though. This is what we actually need. Choose yourself!
Toxic people think we are stupid, or at least they want to control us. If they can make us think we are stupid, than they can control us even more. They are after control and power. You aren't stupid even if you've been in relationships with them. We don't have to play their games. Choose yourself!
December 19, 2025 at 10:35 PM
Toxic people think we are stupid, or at least they want to control us. If they can make us think we are stupid, than they can control us even more. They are after control and power. You aren't stupid even if you've been in relationships with them. We don't have to play their games. Choose yourself!
Toxic people train and program us that we can't ever talk to anyone else about much of anything in our lives. This is another way they isolate us. It feels like we are betraying them when we reach out for help and support. This is not true! We are simply choosing ourselves and our health.
December 19, 2025 at 7:04 PM
Toxic people train and program us that we can't ever talk to anyone else about much of anything in our lives. This is another way they isolate us. It feels like we are betraying them when we reach out for help and support. This is not true! We are simply choosing ourselves and our health.
So many of us pour so much love into everyone else, but have not yet learned how to show up and give ourselves that same love. This means you have the skills and the heart. We just get to learn how to start giving to ourselves first. It's literally a new skill for many of us. It feels uncomfortable.
December 19, 2025 at 6:23 PM
So many of us pour so much love into everyone else, but have not yet learned how to show up and give ourselves that same love. This means you have the skills and the heart. We just get to learn how to start giving to ourselves first. It's literally a new skill for many of us. It feels uncomfortable.
There will always be challenges & issues in relationships and in life. How we treat each other through all the challenges is the most important thing. How and if we repair the relationship if we don't respond well is essential for a healthy relationship. These things matter much more than the issues
December 19, 2025 at 4:22 PM
There will always be challenges & issues in relationships and in life. How we treat each other through all the challenges is the most important thing. How and if we repair the relationship if we don't respond well is essential for a healthy relationship. These things matter much more than the issues
Sometimes saving ourselves is the best we can do. We can't fix or save anyone else and if they're holding us back from being healthy, it's probably time to leave. You and everyone else around you, deserve for you to be healthy. Do the work and let everything else go and embrace the life you want!
December 19, 2025 at 3:53 PM
Sometimes saving ourselves is the best we can do. We can't fix or save anyone else and if they're holding us back from being healthy, it's probably time to leave. You and everyone else around you, deserve for you to be healthy. Do the work and let everything else go and embrace the life you want!