kermel
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WV to Raleigh, NC / Marshall U alumna / Carolina Hurricanes fan / dachshund lover / NEVER Trump / she/her
And if needed, break it into smaller steps. I don’t write “laundry,” I write “Laundry 1 - w / d.”
That’s the first load of laundry. I mark thru W when it goes in the washer, I mark thru D when it goes in the dryer.
If I need to do another load, then “Laundry 2 - w / d,” or “dog bedding,” etc.
That’s the first load of laundry. I mark thru W when it goes in the washer, I mark thru D when it goes in the dryer.
If I need to do another load, then “Laundry 2 - w / d,” or “dog bedding,” etc.
December 5, 2025 at 9:47 PM
And if needed, break it into smaller steps. I don’t write “laundry,” I write “Laundry 1 - w / d.”
That’s the first load of laundry. I mark thru W when it goes in the washer, I mark thru D when it goes in the dryer.
If I need to do another load, then “Laundry 2 - w / d,” or “dog bedding,” etc.
That’s the first load of laundry. I mark thru W when it goes in the washer, I mark thru D when it goes in the dryer.
If I need to do another load, then “Laundry 2 - w / d,” or “dog bedding,” etc.
Squishmallows during shots, too.
December 5, 2025 at 2:08 AM
Squishmallows during shots, too.
The NC Senator who voted to confirm said person should get the hell out, too.
December 4, 2025 at 4:06 PM
The NC Senator who voted to confirm said person should get the hell out, too.
“I voted for the best interests of my family.”
No the fuck you did not. You voted to hurt other people. If you voted selfishly, with only your family’s interests in mind, you would have voted D.
No the fuck you did not. You voted to hurt other people. If you voted selfishly, with only your family’s interests in mind, you would have voted D.
December 4, 2025 at 4:25 AM
“I voted for the best interests of my family.”
No the fuck you did not. You voted to hurt other people. If you voted selfishly, with only your family’s interests in mind, you would have voted D.
No the fuck you did not. You voted to hurt other people. If you voted selfishly, with only your family’s interests in mind, you would have voted D.
They took my splint off at around 16 days and it was really shocking how lizard my leg went in barely 2 weeks. Even though I could shower, it took daaaaays before I stopped leaving remnants everywhere. (The scooter pad was the worst.) 🤢
Being able to sleep without a boot is a great step!
Being able to sleep without a boot is a great step!
December 3, 2025 at 3:23 AM
They took my splint off at around 16 days and it was really shocking how lizard my leg went in barely 2 weeks. Even though I could shower, it took daaaaays before I stopped leaving remnants everywhere. (The scooter pad was the worst.) 🤢
Being able to sleep without a boot is a great step!
Being able to sleep without a boot is a great step!
Glad you’ll be able to go!
How’s recovery going?
How’s recovery going?
December 3, 2025 at 3:17 AM
Glad you’ll be able to go!
How’s recovery going?
How’s recovery going?
I mostly work from home, but I had a doctor’s appt this morning so I *had* to drive. 😩
December 2, 2025 at 2:00 PM
I mostly work from home, but I had a doctor’s appt this morning so I *had* to drive. 😩
People with dementia/Alzheimer’s (or other long hard battles, like cancer) … it becomes all-encompassing and can make it easy to dull others’ memories of who they were before. I think displaying some of her art would be lovely.
December 2, 2025 at 12:35 PM
People with dementia/Alzheimer’s (or other long hard battles, like cancer) … it becomes all-encompassing and can make it easy to dull others’ memories of who they were before. I think displaying some of her art would be lovely.
Plz, plz don’t! I think most of wish we could do something real to help. But in lieu of that, we can at least be an open ear/DM inbox when you just need to yell into the void.
Don’t add that guilt to the emotional/mental load you’re carrying — it’s heavy enough without adding unnecessary weight.
Don’t add that guilt to the emotional/mental load you’re carrying — it’s heavy enough without adding unnecessary weight.
December 2, 2025 at 2:40 AM
Plz, plz don’t! I think most of wish we could do something real to help. But in lieu of that, we can at least be an open ear/DM inbox when you just need to yell into the void.
Don’t add that guilt to the emotional/mental load you’re carrying — it’s heavy enough without adding unnecessary weight.
Don’t add that guilt to the emotional/mental load you’re carrying — it’s heavy enough without adding unnecessary weight.
I stopped 2 years ago for a bathroom break — it was the fall but some bldgs were obviously closed perm.
Drove by in October and given that Buc-ee’s is about 30 mins away now, I can’t imagine SotB has a lot of years left.
Drove by in October and given that Buc-ee’s is about 30 mins away now, I can’t imagine SotB has a lot of years left.
December 1, 2025 at 11:38 PM
I stopped 2 years ago for a bathroom break — it was the fall but some bldgs were obviously closed perm.
Drove by in October and given that Buc-ee’s is about 30 mins away now, I can’t imagine SotB has a lot of years left.
Drove by in October and given that Buc-ee’s is about 30 mins away now, I can’t imagine SotB has a lot of years left.
I understand struggling with that and I’m not sure you can turn it off, esp in this situation. But hopefully you can at least convince your brain that not everything has to be — or can be — done *right now*.
November 30, 2025 at 4:47 PM
I understand struggling with that and I’m not sure you can turn it off, esp in this situation. But hopefully you can at least convince your brain that not everything has to be — or can be — done *right now*.
Yes, honor their wishes as best you can, protect assets, etc. But you are the living — it is also the time to shift back to taking care of yourself, making yourself a priority. Nothing can hurt or endanger your parents now — remember to take care of you. /5
November 30, 2025 at 1:24 PM
Yes, honor their wishes as best you can, protect assets, etc. But you are the living — it is also the time to shift back to taking care of yourself, making yourself a priority. Nothing can hurt or endanger your parents now — remember to take care of you. /5
— done immediately, even though it feels like it is that urgent.
Try to remember that life is for the living. You sacrificed a lot the last several years for your parents. I don’t mean this as heartless as it sounds, but they are gone and will be completely unaffected by what is done now. /4
Try to remember that life is for the living. You sacrificed a lot the last several years for your parents. I don’t mean this as heartless as it sounds, but they are gone and will be completely unaffected by what is done now. /4
November 30, 2025 at 1:20 PM
— done immediately, even though it feels like it is that urgent.
Try to remember that life is for the living. You sacrificed a lot the last several years for your parents. I don’t mean this as heartless as it sounds, but they are gone and will be completely unaffected by what is done now. /4
Try to remember that life is for the living. You sacrificed a lot the last several years for your parents. I don’t mean this as heartless as it sounds, but they are gone and will be completely unaffected by what is done now. /4
(If you need to empty and sell their house, there are companies you can outsource the entire emptying/estate sale process to.) Take a half hour to do a priority list/timeline. (everloved.com/articles/end... Google: “what to do when someone dies checklist”).
Not everything has to be — or can be /3
Not everything has to be — or can be /3
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November 30, 2025 at 1:16 PM
(If you need to empty and sell their house, there are companies you can outsource the entire emptying/estate sale process to.) Take a half hour to do a priority list/timeline. (everloved.com/articles/end... Google: “what to do when someone dies checklist”).
Not everything has to be — or can be /3
Not everything has to be — or can be /3
yourself to do *any* of this — your job, your life, estate stuff, etc. If you throw all the spoons at the estate stuff right now, you are endangering the things that need to still be there when you get through the estate stuff — every facet of your health and life.
Enlist help wherever you can. /2
Enlist help wherever you can. /2
November 30, 2025 at 1:05 PM
yourself to do *any* of this — your job, your life, estate stuff, etc. If you throw all the spoons at the estate stuff right now, you are endangering the things that need to still be there when you get through the estate stuff — every facet of your health and life.
Enlist help wherever you can. /2
Enlist help wherever you can. /2
sleep has made you a zombie at 7 am, so you postpone the start for 2-3 hours so you can grab a little more sleep. Yes, a later arrival, but you prob would have been a danger on the road if you’d stuck to the original plan. Arriving safely is far more important.
You HAVE to keep a spoon for /2
You HAVE to keep a spoon for /2
November 30, 2025 at 12:54 PM
sleep has made you a zombie at 7 am, so you postpone the start for 2-3 hours so you can grab a little more sleep. Yes, a later arrival, but you prob would have been a danger on the road if you’d stuck to the original plan. Arriving safely is far more important.
You HAVE to keep a spoon for /2
You HAVE to keep a spoon for /2
Obviously, you know your whole situation better than any of us, but perhaps think of a day off now — to rest, to recharge, to take care of your own stuff, to do yourself a kindness — as an investment for the estate stuff later.
Like intending to start a road trip at 7 am, but a terrible night’s /1
Like intending to start a road trip at 7 am, but a terrible night’s /1
November 30, 2025 at 12:50 PM
Obviously, you know your whole situation better than any of us, but perhaps think of a day off now — to rest, to recharge, to take care of your own stuff, to do yourself a kindness — as an investment for the estate stuff later.
Like intending to start a road trip at 7 am, but a terrible night’s /1
Like intending to start a road trip at 7 am, but a terrible night’s /1
felt like Fri night to us. We meant to call “in the morning,” but on 1-2 hrs of sleep, totally forgot. Crashed someone else’s appt on Sat morning. I felt like such an ass.)
But they’ve seen family fights, ex-spouse drama, etc. No way are you their worst, not by a long shot!
2/2
But they’ve seen family fights, ex-spouse drama, etc. No way are you their worst, not by a long shot!
2/2
November 29, 2025 at 4:42 AM
felt like Fri night to us. We meant to call “in the morning,” but on 1-2 hrs of sleep, totally forgot. Crashed someone else’s appt on Sat morning. I felt like such an ass.)
But they’ve seen family fights, ex-spouse drama, etc. No way are you their worst, not by a long shot!
2/2
But they’ve seen family fights, ex-spouse drama, etc. No way are you their worst, not by a long shot!
2/2
I feel sure they have seen worse.
(We accidentally busted in on someone else’s appt. Dad died around 2 am. When mom talked to funeral home around 3-4 am, they said “10 am tomorrow.” When she told me, we both questioned *which* tomorrow — Sat or Sun? We had not even gone home, so 4 am Sat still /1
(We accidentally busted in on someone else’s appt. Dad died around 2 am. When mom talked to funeral home around 3-4 am, they said “10 am tomorrow.” When she told me, we both questioned *which* tomorrow — Sat or Sun? We had not even gone home, so 4 am Sat still /1
November 29, 2025 at 4:38 AM
I feel sure they have seen worse.
(We accidentally busted in on someone else’s appt. Dad died around 2 am. When mom talked to funeral home around 3-4 am, they said “10 am tomorrow.” When she told me, we both questioned *which* tomorrow — Sat or Sun? We had not even gone home, so 4 am Sat still /1
(We accidentally busted in on someone else’s appt. Dad died around 2 am. When mom talked to funeral home around 3-4 am, they said “10 am tomorrow.” When she told me, we both questioned *which* tomorrow — Sat or Sun? We had not even gone home, so 4 am Sat still /1
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Is there anyone you could outsource that task to? Or at least rope into helping? A cousin, a friend from mom’s church, etc.? It may be easier for someone who is not carrying the same emotional weight.
If someone has said, “Let me know if I can do anything,” this is on the “anything” list.
If someone has said, “Let me know if I can do anything,” this is on the “anything” list.
November 28, 2025 at 2:50 AM
Is there anyone you could outsource that task to? Or at least rope into helping? A cousin, a friend from mom’s church, etc.? It may be easier for someone who is not carrying the same emotional weight.
If someone has said, “Let me know if I can do anything,” this is on the “anything” list.
If someone has said, “Let me know if I can do anything,” this is on the “anything” list.