Jaron
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Autistic life for me is doing something somebody told me to do and then getting told that's wrong.
So I'm left completely confused as to why I was asked in the first place.
So I'm left completely confused as to why I was asked in the first place.
November 5, 2025 at 9:02 PM
Autistic life for me is doing something somebody told me to do and then getting told that's wrong.
So I'm left completely confused as to why I was asked in the first place.
So I'm left completely confused as to why I was asked in the first place.
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You ever get the feeling sometimes people intentionally use neurodivergent status to be terrible people to other neurodivergent people and operate under the understanding that only they can actually have autism , adhd or other brain stuff going on
November 4, 2025 at 11:27 PM
You ever get the feeling sometimes people intentionally use neurodivergent status to be terrible people to other neurodivergent people and operate under the understanding that only they can actually have autism , adhd or other brain stuff going on
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When one autistic person shares their experience, it doesn’t make anyone else’s experience less valid.
Their truth doesn’t erase yours.
And when you share your own story, remember that it’s yours alone to tell, not everyone’s.
Their truth doesn’t erase yours.
And when you share your own story, remember that it’s yours alone to tell, not everyone’s.
October 22, 2025 at 11:28 AM
When one autistic person shares their experience, it doesn’t make anyone else’s experience less valid.
Their truth doesn’t erase yours.
And when you share your own story, remember that it’s yours alone to tell, not everyone’s.
Their truth doesn’t erase yours.
And when you share your own story, remember that it’s yours alone to tell, not everyone’s.
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Every autistic human has meltdowns.
Because every autistic human has needs.
The question isn’t “how do I stop them?”
It’s “what are they trying to tell me?”
That’s where growth starts.
Because every autistic human has needs.
The question isn’t “how do I stop them?”
It’s “what are they trying to tell me?”
That’s where growth starts.
October 18, 2025 at 2:55 PM
Every autistic human has meltdowns.
Because every autistic human has needs.
The question isn’t “how do I stop them?”
It’s “what are they trying to tell me?”
That’s where growth starts.
Because every autistic human has needs.
The question isn’t “how do I stop them?”
It’s “what are they trying to tell me?”
That’s where growth starts.
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I say this as someone with Autism as well as General & Social Anxiety Disorders. If you use those or other disorders as an excuse to be nasty to others, dodge responsibilities that you're absolutely capable of fulfilling, or just to be a bad person, I want nothing to do with you.
October 19, 2025 at 4:50 AM
I say this as someone with Autism as well as General & Social Anxiety Disorders. If you use those or other disorders as an excuse to be nasty to others, dodge responsibilities that you're absolutely capable of fulfilling, or just to be a bad person, I want nothing to do with you.
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Most autistic people I meet *like* being autistic. It’s core to who they are & comes with many strengths
What’s hard is surviving in a society that rarely accommodates, respects or tries to understand us
There’s a BIG difference between being autistic & being unsupported
Let’s not confuse the two
What’s hard is surviving in a society that rarely accommodates, respects or tries to understand us
There’s a BIG difference between being autistic & being unsupported
Let’s not confuse the two
October 15, 2025 at 4:34 PM
Most autistic people I meet *like* being autistic. It’s core to who they are & comes with many strengths
What’s hard is surviving in a society that rarely accommodates, respects or tries to understand us
There’s a BIG difference between being autistic & being unsupported
Let’s not confuse the two
What’s hard is surviving in a society that rarely accommodates, respects or tries to understand us
There’s a BIG difference between being autistic & being unsupported
Let’s not confuse the two
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I'm afraid the original is artistically better in every way
October 14, 2025 at 6:15 PM
I'm afraid the original is artistically better in every way
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Being autistic is being told why didn’t you ask for help.
Because asking required social scripting, shame buffering, tone analysis, and a risk assessment.
Because asking required social scripting, shame buffering, tone analysis, and a risk assessment.
October 12, 2025 at 12:22 PM
Being autistic is being told why didn’t you ask for help.
Because asking required social scripting, shame buffering, tone analysis, and a risk assessment.
Because asking required social scripting, shame buffering, tone analysis, and a risk assessment.
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Autistic me is getting closer to 40 and yet I still feel like I'm emotionally a teenager.
September 26, 2025 at 12:20 PM
Autistic me is getting closer to 40 and yet I still feel like I'm emotionally a teenager.
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I’m autistic because that’s how my
brain works. That’s it. That’s the post.
brain works. That’s it. That’s the post.
September 26, 2025 at 1:28 AM
I’m autistic because that’s how my
brain works. That’s it. That’s the post.
brain works. That’s it. That’s the post.
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I wish more people understood that not all autism is visible, but all autism is disabling.
If you don't see it, it's because we're actively hiding it. (Not for us, for others.)
But hiding our autism means our needs are also invisible. And unmet needs = inner turmoil. 😣
If you don't see it, it's because we're actively hiding it. (Not for us, for others.)
But hiding our autism means our needs are also invisible. And unmet needs = inner turmoil. 😣
September 25, 2025 at 3:16 AM
I wish more people understood that not all autism is visible, but all autism is disabling.
If you don't see it, it's because we're actively hiding it. (Not for us, for others.)
But hiding our autism means our needs are also invisible. And unmet needs = inner turmoil. 😣
If you don't see it, it's because we're actively hiding it. (Not for us, for others.)
But hiding our autism means our needs are also invisible. And unmet needs = inner turmoil. 😣
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Telling autistic people we're
“not actually autistic” because we
don’t need 24/7 care isn’t concern
it’s ableism. You don’t get to erase
our diagnoses just because we don’t
fit your stereotype. We’re not the
problem. Your ignorance is.
“not actually autistic” because we
don’t need 24/7 care isn’t concern
it’s ableism. You don’t get to erase
our diagnoses just because we don’t
fit your stereotype. We’re not the
problem. Your ignorance is.
September 24, 2025 at 6:13 PM
Telling autistic people we're
“not actually autistic” because we
don’t need 24/7 care isn’t concern
it’s ableism. You don’t get to erase
our diagnoses just because we don’t
fit your stereotype. We’re not the
problem. Your ignorance is.
“not actually autistic” because we
don’t need 24/7 care isn’t concern
it’s ableism. You don’t get to erase
our diagnoses just because we don’t
fit your stereotype. We’re not the
problem. Your ignorance is.
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"Everyone is on the spectrum"
Not if by spectrum you mean the autism spectrum.
Everyone is on A spectrum. But not the autism spectrum.
The one everyone is on is the spectrum of human needs.
Not if by spectrum you mean the autism spectrum.
Everyone is on A spectrum. But not the autism spectrum.
The one everyone is on is the spectrum of human needs.
September 22, 2025 at 3:32 AM
"Everyone is on the spectrum"
Not if by spectrum you mean the autism spectrum.
Everyone is on A spectrum. But not the autism spectrum.
The one everyone is on is the spectrum of human needs.
Not if by spectrum you mean the autism spectrum.
Everyone is on A spectrum. But not the autism spectrum.
The one everyone is on is the spectrum of human needs.
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I wish I'd never have to hear the term generative AI again. Fuck that.
I refuse to use it and will make an effort to abandon software and services that try to force it on me.
I refuse to use it and will make an effort to abandon software and services that try to force it on me.
September 20, 2025 at 8:15 AM
I wish I'd never have to hear the term generative AI again. Fuck that.
I refuse to use it and will make an effort to abandon software and services that try to force it on me.
I refuse to use it and will make an effort to abandon software and services that try to force it on me.
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Most people think headphones are about volume. For many autistic people they’re about predictability. 1/4
September 20, 2025 at 6:19 AM
Most people think headphones are about volume. For many autistic people they’re about predictability. 1/4
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Yesterday I said everyone is brilliant and I got this comment from a well meaning person, which I'd like to unpack...
"No, not everyone is brilliant. Some people are severely intellectually disabled. Stop erasing them. They matter."
"No, not everyone is brilliant. Some people are severely intellectually disabled. Stop erasing them. They matter."
September 13, 2025 at 6:31 PM
Yesterday I said everyone is brilliant and I got this comment from a well meaning person, which I'd like to unpack...
"No, not everyone is brilliant. Some people are severely intellectually disabled. Stop erasing them. They matter."
"No, not everyone is brilliant. Some people are severely intellectually disabled. Stop erasing them. They matter."
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Telling someone who’s autistic or ADHD that they’re “not trying hard enough” is one of the most harmful things you can say
We’ve heard it all our lives (especially from loved ones)
You only see the tip of the iceberg - not everything else beneath
Those words only deepen our guilt, shame & burnout
We’ve heard it all our lives (especially from loved ones)
You only see the tip of the iceberg - not everything else beneath
Those words only deepen our guilt, shame & burnout
September 12, 2025 at 2:59 PM
Telling someone who’s autistic or ADHD that they’re “not trying hard enough” is one of the most harmful things you can say
We’ve heard it all our lives (especially from loved ones)
You only see the tip of the iceberg - not everything else beneath
Those words only deepen our guilt, shame & burnout
We’ve heard it all our lives (especially from loved ones)
You only see the tip of the iceberg - not everything else beneath
Those words only deepen our guilt, shame & burnout
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One of the first lessons you learn as an autistic person: When someone says they don’t like mean people, 9 times out of 10 they’re only talking about people that are mean to them. Being a mean person is acceptable to most people. They only care that you’re being mean WITH them and not TO them.
September 12, 2025 at 10:44 AM
One of the first lessons you learn as an autistic person: When someone says they don’t like mean people, 9 times out of 10 they’re only talking about people that are mean to them. Being a mean person is acceptable to most people. They only care that you’re being mean WITH them and not TO them.
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in case you need to hear this too:
you are not crazy or insane, you just have extreme pattern recognition, to the point where you regularly feel like losing your mind, because what is obvious for you, seems invisible to others.
you are not crazy or insane, you just have extreme pattern recognition, to the point where you regularly feel like losing your mind, because what is obvious for you, seems invisible to others.
September 11, 2025 at 4:01 PM
in case you need to hear this too:
you are not crazy or insane, you just have extreme pattern recognition, to the point where you regularly feel like losing your mind, because what is obvious for you, seems invisible to others.
you are not crazy or insane, you just have extreme pattern recognition, to the point where you regularly feel like losing your mind, because what is obvious for you, seems invisible to others.
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Many autistic people struggle with identifying and understanding their feelings, and I think there can be many layers to that:
- alexithymia
- delayed emotional processing
- a lifetime of being told your feelings aren’t valid so you start to doubt or ignore any feelings you DO have 💔
- alexithymia
- delayed emotional processing
- a lifetime of being told your feelings aren’t valid so you start to doubt or ignore any feelings you DO have 💔
September 10, 2025 at 2:58 PM
Many autistic people struggle with identifying and understanding their feelings, and I think there can be many layers to that:
- alexithymia
- delayed emotional processing
- a lifetime of being told your feelings aren’t valid so you start to doubt or ignore any feelings you DO have 💔
- alexithymia
- delayed emotional processing
- a lifetime of being told your feelings aren’t valid so you start to doubt or ignore any feelings you DO have 💔
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i've never met an autistic person who didn't suffer from severe trauma.
September 10, 2025 at 10:24 AM
i've never met an autistic person who didn't suffer from severe trauma.
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Autistic relationships don’t need to look like everyone else's.
Not every bond is built on constant contact or endless intimacy.
Performance is not connection.
Sustainability is.
Not every bond is built on constant contact or endless intimacy.
Performance is not connection.
Sustainability is.
September 8, 2025 at 4:31 PM
Autistic relationships don’t need to look like everyone else's.
Not every bond is built on constant contact or endless intimacy.
Performance is not connection.
Sustainability is.
Not every bond is built on constant contact or endless intimacy.
Performance is not connection.
Sustainability is.
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I’ve never met an autistic human who doesn’t carry the weight of misunderstood intention.
The grief of being misread runs deep.
That’s why a bunch of us are trying to build spaces where we don’t need to explain our tone, our face, our silence.
The grief of being misread runs deep.
That’s why a bunch of us are trying to build spaces where we don’t need to explain our tone, our face, our silence.
September 8, 2025 at 4:34 PM
I’ve never met an autistic human who doesn’t carry the weight of misunderstood intention.
The grief of being misread runs deep.
That’s why a bunch of us are trying to build spaces where we don’t need to explain our tone, our face, our silence.
The grief of being misread runs deep.
That’s why a bunch of us are trying to build spaces where we don’t need to explain our tone, our face, our silence.
