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All my loved ones are weird little freaks and that's exactly how it should be
January 25, 2026 at 11:45 AM
All my loved ones are weird little freaks and that's exactly how it should be
Enemies to lovers is a common romance trope because love and hate are more closely related than we'd generally like to think
January 25, 2026 at 8:34 AM
Enemies to lovers is a common romance trope because love and hate are more closely related than we'd generally like to think
The opposite of hate is love, but the opposite of love is indifference
January 25, 2026 at 8:34 AM
The opposite of hate is love, but the opposite of love is indifference
To live is to experience
And to experience is to be reshaped like sea glass
And to experience is to be reshaped like sea glass
January 25, 2026 at 8:32 AM
To live is to experience
And to experience is to be reshaped like sea glass
And to experience is to be reshaped like sea glass
My least favorite part of being on T is probably the nose hairs
January 25, 2026 at 8:31 AM
My least favorite part of being on T is probably the nose hairs
I still see you everywhere
I found myself looking for pieces of you in internet strangers and the pre-recorded tarot readings that suddenly filled my feed
I found myself looking for pieces of you in internet strangers and the pre-recorded tarot readings that suddenly filled my feed
January 24, 2026 at 8:54 AM
I still see you everywhere
I found myself looking for pieces of you in internet strangers and the pre-recorded tarot readings that suddenly filled my feed
I found myself looking for pieces of you in internet strangers and the pre-recorded tarot readings that suddenly filled my feed
I do all my best thinking/creating in my home. I need my space. I need my little cave.
Going outside is good for my overall mental health, but, creatively, being out there makes my brain feel like:
Going outside is good for my overall mental health, but, creatively, being out there makes my brain feel like:
January 23, 2026 at 6:59 AM
I do all my best thinking/creating in my home. I need my space. I need my little cave.
Going outside is good for my overall mental health, but, creatively, being out there makes my brain feel like:
Going outside is good for my overall mental health, but, creatively, being out there makes my brain feel like:
The concept behind the term "reactive abuse" is real.
Even a worm will turn. People react when pushed past their edge, sometimes intensely. Sometimes very out of character.
But to call it abuse even only in name implies the victim and abuser are somehow equal in harm. And they're not
Even a worm will turn. People react when pushed past their edge, sometimes intensely. Sometimes very out of character.
But to call it abuse even only in name implies the victim and abuser are somehow equal in harm. And they're not
January 20, 2026 at 11:14 PM
The concept behind the term "reactive abuse" is real.
Even a worm will turn. People react when pushed past their edge, sometimes intensely. Sometimes very out of character.
But to call it abuse even only in name implies the victim and abuser are somehow equal in harm. And they're not
Even a worm will turn. People react when pushed past their edge, sometimes intensely. Sometimes very out of character.
But to call it abuse even only in name implies the victim and abuser are somehow equal in harm. And they're not
I rebuke the term "reactive abuse"
January 20, 2026 at 11:04 PM
I rebuke the term "reactive abuse"
Lately, for the first time, I've been able to tell myself
"This argument is not worth handing over sanity I know they would gladly take from me to protect their own ego and control issues. I trust my eyes, my ears, and my intuition."
And actually act like I believe it
"This argument is not worth handing over sanity I know they would gladly take from me to protect their own ego and control issues. I trust my eyes, my ears, and my intuition."
And actually act like I believe it
January 19, 2026 at 3:31 PM
Lately, for the first time, I've been able to tell myself
"This argument is not worth handing over sanity I know they would gladly take from me to protect their own ego and control issues. I trust my eyes, my ears, and my intuition."
And actually act like I believe it
"This argument is not worth handing over sanity I know they would gladly take from me to protect their own ego and control issues. I trust my eyes, my ears, and my intuition."
And actually act like I believe it
Clarity is a gift, and it is a gift you can give yourself if you can stop seeking it from people who benefit from withholding it
January 18, 2026 at 7:12 AM
Clarity is a gift, and it is a gift you can give yourself if you can stop seeking it from people who benefit from withholding it
Kids do know who they are. The knowledge just gets covered up by a lot of ideas and "shoulds" gifted by adults around them
January 18, 2026 at 7:11 AM
Kids do know who they are. The knowledge just gets covered up by a lot of ideas and "shoulds" gifted by adults around them
At some point you do need to stop collecting data and make some decisions even if you don't feel like you have ALL the data.
You have enough
New post up on substonk!
You have enough
New post up on substonk!
January 18, 2026 at 12:30 AM
At some point you do need to stop collecting data and make some decisions even if you don't feel like you have ALL the data.
You have enough
New post up on substonk!
You have enough
New post up on substonk!
If you set a boundary, I'll respect it
If I later learn something about you that explains the boundary, I'll reiterate that I respect that boundary bc it feels relevant. This does not mean I didn't respect it already. I'm just reaffirming bc it matters to me that you know
If I later learn something about you that explains the boundary, I'll reiterate that I respect that boundary bc it feels relevant. This does not mean I didn't respect it already. I'm just reaffirming bc it matters to me that you know
January 15, 2026 at 7:08 AM
If you set a boundary, I'll respect it
If I later learn something about you that explains the boundary, I'll reiterate that I respect that boundary bc it feels relevant. This does not mean I didn't respect it already. I'm just reaffirming bc it matters to me that you know
If I later learn something about you that explains the boundary, I'll reiterate that I respect that boundary bc it feels relevant. This does not mean I didn't respect it already. I'm just reaffirming bc it matters to me that you know
Need me a partner with a fat ass asap actually
Caked up on a Tuesday afternoon for what?
For my peepers and my gribby grabbers that's what
Caked up on a Tuesday afternoon for what?
For my peepers and my gribby grabbers that's what
January 15, 2026 at 6:57 AM
Need me a partner with a fat ass asap actually
Caked up on a Tuesday afternoon for what?
For my peepers and my gribby grabbers that's what
Caked up on a Tuesday afternoon for what?
For my peepers and my gribby grabbers that's what
A feralpost a day keeps the existential dread at bay
January 15, 2026 at 6:56 AM
A feralpost a day keeps the existential dread at bay
I'm tired of the rhetoric that you should "get back up on the horse" or "get under someone to get over another".
Let me learn how to breathe again first damn
Let me learn how to breathe again first damn
January 15, 2026 at 6:26 AM
I'm tired of the rhetoric that you should "get back up on the horse" or "get under someone to get over another".
Let me learn how to breathe again first damn
Let me learn how to breathe again first damn
Growing up singing duets from Wicked the musical, my sibling would take the Galinda parts and I preferred Elphaba.
The foreshadowing in that was wild.
The foreshadowing in that was wild.
January 15, 2026 at 6:13 AM
Growing up singing duets from Wicked the musical, my sibling would take the Galinda parts and I preferred Elphaba.
The foreshadowing in that was wild.
The foreshadowing in that was wild.
One time in high school a male friend in my grade that I'd known for years asked me to help talk to a female friend of his who had body dysmorphia and a potential ED.
I knew I was unqualified, and had a somewhat weird relationship with food myself, but he begged so I gave it a shot.
🧵 1/
I knew I was unqualified, and had a somewhat weird relationship with food myself, but he begged so I gave it a shot.
🧵 1/
January 14, 2026 at 10:44 AM
One time in high school a male friend in my grade that I'd known for years asked me to help talk to a female friend of his who had body dysmorphia and a potential ED.
I knew I was unqualified, and had a somewhat weird relationship with food myself, but he begged so I gave it a shot.
🧵 1/
I knew I was unqualified, and had a somewhat weird relationship with food myself, but he begged so I gave it a shot.
🧵 1/
I don't even know how I feel about marriage as a concept after... everything.
It's certainly not a goal
I think I'd be down for it if it was, like, an afterthought?
It's certainly not a goal
I think I'd be down for it if it was, like, an afterthought?
January 13, 2026 at 9:40 AM
I don't even know how I feel about marriage as a concept after... everything.
It's certainly not a goal
I think I'd be down for it if it was, like, an afterthought?
It's certainly not a goal
I think I'd be down for it if it was, like, an afterthought?
Some people can never be openly polyamorous because they prefer cheating
January 12, 2026 at 10:41 PM
Some people can never be openly polyamorous because they prefer cheating
I used to think people who cheated were just poly people who felt trapped in a mono-normative society and didn't know being open and honest was a real option...
Until I, an openly poly person, was cheated on for years by someone who claimed to be monogamous.
Until I, an openly poly person, was cheated on for years by someone who claimed to be monogamous.
January 12, 2026 at 10:41 PM
I used to think people who cheated were just poly people who felt trapped in a mono-normative society and didn't know being open and honest was a real option...
Until I, an openly poly person, was cheated on for years by someone who claimed to be monogamous.
Until I, an openly poly person, was cheated on for years by someone who claimed to be monogamous.
Polyamory is unfortunately not the cure for cheating.
Some people genuinely just prefer cheating
Some people genuinely just prefer cheating
January 12, 2026 at 10:40 PM
Polyamory is unfortunately not the cure for cheating.
Some people genuinely just prefer cheating
Some people genuinely just prefer cheating
I don't need your life to be perfect to find the value in your criticism
But I WILL point it out if you're actively avoiding living your values while pushing others to adhere to them
But I WILL point it out if you're actively avoiding living your values while pushing others to adhere to them
January 12, 2026 at 10:23 PM
I don't need your life to be perfect to find the value in your criticism
But I WILL point it out if you're actively avoiding living your values while pushing others to adhere to them
But I WILL point it out if you're actively avoiding living your values while pushing others to adhere to them
A lot of people are already in non-monogamous relationships and don't know it
Polyamorous people just do it openly and ethically - with the consent of everyone involved
Polyamorous people just do it openly and ethically - with the consent of everyone involved
January 12, 2026 at 10:19 PM
A lot of people are already in non-monogamous relationships and don't know it
Polyamorous people just do it openly and ethically - with the consent of everyone involved
Polyamorous people just do it openly and ethically - with the consent of everyone involved