some voters are in fact in possession of ideas that are a menace to society and decency. their mental structures are diseases and we will cure the disease by making communicating those views too costly for anyone who wishes to be able to interact with other humans.

Former leader of Scottish Labour there, just to really underline that none of this is organically arising and all of has always been elite derangement.

It's this very homoerotic phenomenon in which straight men consider what *they* find attractive in other men, and then just assume that's also what women find attractive in men.

I also just love this genre of post. "My friend, who absolutely sucks shit, is struggling to find a partner."

This feels like the central toxicity of these dude-gurus: They're feeding men an ideology that immediately casts it as "virtue signaling" whenever anyone states a moral value of any kind. An explicitly nihilistic worldview and a recipe for lifelong misery.

"Men need to spend money to get laid!"

Meanwhile, just the other day...

Can't imagine why someone who recoils at other people wanting to make the world a better place is struggling to find a girlfriend.

I can't imagine noticing the kind of bullshit these gurus give advice about — Have a firm handshake, pay the bill, make prolonged eye contact, etc. Even in gay world where things are much more looks- and sex-oriented I'm not going to have sex with you unless I like being around you!

Yes. Whether someone wants to sleep with you on a first date almost entirely comes down to whether they like you as a person!

If you suck it doesn't matter if you pay and if you're cool it doesn't matter if you split the bill. You can't lifehack your way out of forming chemistry.

There's this constant discourse about how "the left" (whoever that is) has to stop being condescending and speak directly to men's issues. But these gurus are, without fail, more condescending to men than any feminist or SJW I've ever met.