Karen
@facethesunbefree.bsky.social
Coercive control & Domestic Abuse survivor | DV campaigner, advocate & Consultant | Public speaker | Working to empower victims & survivors & promote DV awareness |
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The most dangerous time for a victim is often after they leave an abusive relationship.
The murders of Carol, Hannah, and Louise Hunt by Kyle Clifford are a devastating reminder of this reality.
#VAWG is a national crisis. It has to be treated as such.
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The most dangerous time for a victim is often after they leave an abusive relationship.
The murders of Carol, Hannah, and Louise Hunt by Kyle Clifford are a devastating reminder of this reality.
#VAWG is a national crisis. It has to be treated as such.
ow.ly/atgv50VgeYT
John Hunt pays tribute to daughter’s bravery as killer jailed for triple murder
Kyle Clifford given whole-life order for killing Louise Hunt, her sister Hannah and their mother, Carol
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March 12, 2025 at 8:26 AM
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The most dangerous time for a victim is often after they leave an abusive relationship.
The murders of Carol, Hannah, and Louise Hunt by Kyle Clifford are a devastating reminder of this reality.
#VAWG is a national crisis. It has to be treated as such.
ow.ly/atgv50VgeYT
The most dangerous time for a victim is often after they leave an abusive relationship.
The murders of Carol, Hannah, and Louise Hunt by Kyle Clifford are a devastating reminder of this reality.
#VAWG is a national crisis. It has to be treated as such.
ow.ly/atgv50VgeYT
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Abusers constantly change the rules. One day they want one thing, but when you deliver, it’s suddenly not enough. They move the goalposts so you’re always striving to meet impossible standards, feeling inadequate and off-balance, never able to satisfy them.
##CoerciveControl
##CoerciveControl
January 11, 2025 at 7:03 PM
Abusers constantly change the rules. One day they want one thing, but when you deliver, it’s suddenly not enough. They move the goalposts so you’re always striving to meet impossible standards, feeling inadequate and off-balance, never able to satisfy them.
##CoerciveControl
##CoerciveControl
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Not everything is as it seems with a controlling abuser - even gestures, gifts, and generosity can come with a hidden agenda.
##coercivecontrol ##emotionalabuse
##coercivecontrol ##emotionalabuse
January 11, 2025 at 11:01 PM
Not everything is as it seems with a controlling abuser - even gestures, gifts, and generosity can come with a hidden agenda.
##coercivecontrol ##emotionalabuse
##coercivecontrol ##emotionalabuse
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You don't have to "believe in yourself" at all times in trauma recovery. You're gonna doubt yourself. I doubt myself. It happens. It's normal.
Here's what I DO always believe, though: in every moment of decision, I CAN make a choice, even a small one, that supports my recovery.
Here's what I DO always believe, though: in every moment of decision, I CAN make a choice, even a small one, that supports my recovery.
December 21, 2024 at 11:08 PM
You don't have to "believe in yourself" at all times in trauma recovery. You're gonna doubt yourself. I doubt myself. It happens. It's normal.
Here's what I DO always believe, though: in every moment of decision, I CAN make a choice, even a small one, that supports my recovery.
Here's what I DO always believe, though: in every moment of decision, I CAN make a choice, even a small one, that supports my recovery.
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A known dangerous repeat offender. They need to be on a register. All new partners warned through Clare’s Law. This was an 8 stages homicide.
December 1, 2024 at 11:37 AM
A known dangerous repeat offender. They need to be on a register. All new partners warned through Clare’s Law. This was an 8 stages homicide.
Although there are things victims need to address around how they ended up in dynamic where someone was mistreating them, they are never, ever to blame for the abuse. #DomesticAbuseAwareness
November 25, 2024 at 11:09 AM
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Today is the beginning of 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence, International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women and Girls, and White Ribbon Day.
We’re shining a light on the role of Idvas/Idaas and their life-changing work supporting victims/survivors of domestic abuse.
We’re shining a light on the role of Idvas/Idaas and their life-changing work supporting victims/survivors of domestic abuse.
November 25, 2024 at 10:39 AM
Today is the beginning of 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence, International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women and Girls, and White Ribbon Day.
We’re shining a light on the role of Idvas/Idaas and their life-changing work supporting victims/survivors of domestic abuse.
We’re shining a light on the role of Idvas/Idaas and their life-changing work supporting victims/survivors of domestic abuse.
I recognised my partner was abusive long before my heart caught up & said no more. Don’t allow yourself to feel regret for feeling stuck & not leaving sooner. Look back at that version of you with kindness & compassion. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. #DomesticAbuse
November 24, 2024 at 4:51 PM
I recognised my partner was abusive long before my heart caught up & said no more. Don’t allow yourself to feel regret for feeling stuck & not leaving sooner. Look back at that version of you with kindness & compassion. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. #DomesticAbuse
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An abuser creates an environment in which they are the sole source of solace or comfort to their partner.
So, the victim will work hard to preserve the relationship as it is their only means of maintaining connection and fulfilling the deep and human need to belong.
#DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
So, the victim will work hard to preserve the relationship as it is their only means of maintaining connection and fulfilling the deep and human need to belong.
#DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
November 24, 2024 at 12:42 PM
An abuser creates an environment in which they are the sole source of solace or comfort to their partner.
So, the victim will work hard to preserve the relationship as it is their only means of maintaining connection and fulfilling the deep and human need to belong.
#DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
So, the victim will work hard to preserve the relationship as it is their only means of maintaining connection and fulfilling the deep and human need to belong.
#DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
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🧵 “I thought I’d rather be dead than leave him. He felt like a god to me, but now all I see is evil.”
Kayleigh, 20, endured months of horrific abuse from her ex-partner Callum Cummings, who tormented her throughout her pregnancy and beyond.
Kayleigh, 20, endured months of horrific abuse from her ex-partner Callum Cummings, who tormented her throughout her pregnancy and beyond.
This evil abuser strangled his former partner in front of their baby
This evil abuser strangled his former partner in front of their baby - now she can finally tell her story
www.walesonline.co.uk
November 24, 2024 at 11:09 AM
🧵 “I thought I’d rather be dead than leave him. He felt like a god to me, but now all I see is evil.”
Kayleigh, 20, endured months of horrific abuse from her ex-partner Callum Cummings, who tormented her throughout her pregnancy and beyond.
Kayleigh, 20, endured months of horrific abuse from her ex-partner Callum Cummings, who tormented her throughout her pregnancy and beyond.
When you’re considering leaving or when you first leave, it can feel totally overwhelming knowing what to do, when and how. Taking each day, one at a time, even an hour, minute or second at a time, will develop the momentum you need to keep moving forward, one small step at a time.
November 24, 2024 at 9:36 AM
When you’re considering leaving or when you first leave, it can feel totally overwhelming knowing what to do, when and how. Taking each day, one at a time, even an hour, minute or second at a time, will develop the momentum you need to keep moving forward, one small step at a time.
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Leaving isn’t as simple as people think.
It’s weighing your safety against the unknown.
It’s financial fear and a lack of support.
It’s mourning the dream of who they pretended to be.
It’s feeling stuck, even when you know you need to go.
Leaving isn’t easy—but it’s possible, and it’s worth it.
It’s weighing your safety against the unknown.
It’s financial fear and a lack of support.
It’s mourning the dream of who they pretended to be.
It’s feeling stuck, even when you know you need to go.
Leaving isn’t easy—but it’s possible, and it’s worth it.
November 23, 2024 at 8:07 AM
Leaving isn’t as simple as people think.
It’s weighing your safety against the unknown.
It’s financial fear and a lack of support.
It’s mourning the dream of who they pretended to be.
It’s feeling stuck, even when you know you need to go.
Leaving isn’t easy—but it’s possible, and it’s worth it.
It’s weighing your safety against the unknown.
It’s financial fear and a lack of support.
It’s mourning the dream of who they pretended to be.
It’s feeling stuck, even when you know you need to go.
Leaving isn’t easy—but it’s possible, and it’s worth it.
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hello, hi, I know it’s usually sims content over here but I’m a domestic abuse survivor and I want to make sure that you have this resource about whether or not your relationship is healthy IN CASE you ever need it but I hope you don’t
www.womensaid.org.uk/information-...
stay safe ♥️
www.womensaid.org.uk/information-...
stay safe ♥️
I'm not sure if my relationship is healthy - Women’s Aid
The Survivor’s Handbook provides practical support and information for women experiencing domestic abuse, with simple guidance on every aspect of seeking support.
www.womensaid.org.uk
November 20, 2024 at 9:18 AM
hello, hi, I know it’s usually sims content over here but I’m a domestic abuse survivor and I want to make sure that you have this resource about whether or not your relationship is healthy IN CASE you ever need it but I hope you don’t
www.womensaid.org.uk/information-...
stay safe ♥️
www.womensaid.org.uk/information-...
stay safe ♥️
For those who need to hear this today. Take the first step, even it's a tiny one. The first step could be getting out of bed. The second getting dressed. The third going out the door to get to work. Build each day with little steps & the momentum will push you forward to where you need to be.
November 20, 2024 at 6:20 AM
For those who need to hear this today. Take the first step, even it's a tiny one. The first step could be getting out of bed. The second getting dressed. The third going out the door to get to work. Build each day with little steps & the momentum will push you forward to where you need to be.
Never underestimate the courage & bravery needed to leave & stay away from an abuser. Abuse recovery is challenging. We have to rebuild boundaries & relearn how to make even the simplest of decisions for ourselves which can feel overwhelming at the start. Take small steps each day. You can do it!
November 19, 2024 at 7:01 PM
Never underestimate the courage & bravery needed to leave & stay away from an abuser. Abuse recovery is challenging. We have to rebuild boundaries & relearn how to make even the simplest of decisions for ourselves which can feel overwhelming at the start. Take small steps each day. You can do it!
They plan what they’re going to do. They know it will upset, harm, frustrate & break you & they choose to do it anyway. They want a less confident, isolated, smaller version of you so they have more control & power over you. It’s ALWAYS a choice no matter what narrative they feed you. #DomesticAbuse
November 18, 2024 at 9:14 AM
They plan what they’re going to do. They know it will upset, harm, frustrate & break you & they choose to do it anyway. They want a less confident, isolated, smaller version of you so they have more control & power over you. It’s ALWAYS a choice no matter what narrative they feed you. #DomesticAbuse
For anyone else trying to follow people in the field who’ve made it to Bluesky. Thanks @sheraresearch.bsky.social this was really helpful. Please could you add me to your list?
Resharing for the new folks :-) go.bsky.app/NCCEjuu
November 18, 2024 at 8:03 AM
For anyone else trying to follow people in the field who’ve made it to Bluesky. Thanks @sheraresearch.bsky.social this was really helpful. Please could you add me to your list?
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Not all hurt people, hurt people. Some of them remember how much it cost them and couldn’t imagine putting someone else through that.
November 17, 2024 at 4:47 PM
Not all hurt people, hurt people. Some of them remember how much it cost them and couldn’t imagine putting someone else through that.
#Coercivecontrol is so insidious & under the radar when we live with it for a long time. For me, it’s only looking back in retrospect that I can see it in its entirety. It makes our lives smaller bit by bit, until we are completely isolated & unable to make the smallest decisions. #DomesticAbuse
November 17, 2024 at 6:51 PM
#Coercivecontrol is so insidious & under the radar when we live with it for a long time. For me, it’s only looking back in retrospect that I can see it in its entirety. It makes our lives smaller bit by bit, until we are completely isolated & unable to make the smallest decisions. #DomesticAbuse
“If only they understood the harm they caused, I could move on.”
Abusers 100% know the harm they cause & choose to do it anyway! They will never give you closure. Your experience & knowing your truth is all the validation you need. #DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
Abusers 100% know the harm they cause & choose to do it anyway! They will never give you closure. Your experience & knowing your truth is all the validation you need. #DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
November 17, 2024 at 10:30 AM
“If only they understood the harm they caused, I could move on.”
Abusers 100% know the harm they cause & choose to do it anyway! They will never give you closure. Your experience & knowing your truth is all the validation you need. #DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
Abusers 100% know the harm they cause & choose to do it anyway! They will never give you closure. Your experience & knowing your truth is all the validation you need. #DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
Moved over from the dark side - hoping the algorithms on Bluesky will allow my voice to be heard without interference! Here to advocate for domestic abuse victims & raise awareness of DA & coercive control. I’m passionate about DA victims & survivors being seen & feeling heard.
November 17, 2024 at 10:25 AM
Moved over from the dark side - hoping the algorithms on Bluesky will allow my voice to be heard without interference! Here to advocate for domestic abuse victims & raise awareness of DA & coercive control. I’m passionate about DA victims & survivors being seen & feeling heard.