Etiquetteer
@etiquetteer.bsky.social
Etiquette writer and advisor. Twitter refugee.
Encouraging Perfect Propriety in an Imperfect World since 2001.
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Encouraging Perfect Propriety in an Imperfect World since 2001.
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Orange Wine Day. No, it's not made from oranges, silly! In winemaking, when the grape skins are not removed from white wine grapes, the resulting color is this delicate orange or amber. Serve as you would other white wines. #delicious
October 6, 2025 at 9:33 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Orange Wine Day. No, it's not made from oranges, silly! In winemaking, when the grape skins are not removed from white wine grapes, the resulting color is this delicate orange or amber. Serve as you would other white wines. #delicious
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalcoffeeday. The problem with a #coffee mug is, where do you put the spoon if there's no saucer? It's bad manners to put used silverware directly onto the table. Maybe it's time to Bring Back the Saucer?
#etiquette #manners #tablemanners
#etiquette #manners #tablemanners
September 29, 2025 at 2:44 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalcoffeeday. The problem with a #coffee mug is, where do you put the spoon if there's no saucer? It's bad manners to put used silverware directly onto the table. Maybe it's time to Bring Back the Saucer?
#etiquette #manners #tablemanners
#etiquette #manners #tablemanners
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #felthatday. Now it's time to bed down our straw hats for the winter and brush up our favorite felts. (I don't make the rules, it's the National Day Calendar.)
Read Etiquetteer's history of the tradition here: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2015...
Read Etiquetteer's history of the tradition here: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2015...
September 15, 2025 at 1:38 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #felthatday. Now it's time to bed down our straw hats for the winter and brush up our favorite felts. (I don't make the rules, it's the National Day Calendar.)
Read Etiquetteer's history of the tradition here: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2015...
Read Etiquetteer's history of the tradition here: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2015...
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper birthday of Elizabeth I (1533), whose Rainbow Portrait I saw at Hatfield House this summer.
Elizabeth's abhorred scented leather. Gentlemen who wd appear before her wearing scented leather gloves would basically be sent to the end of the line.
Elizabeth's abhorred scented leather. Gentlemen who wd appear before her wearing scented leather gloves would basically be sent to the end of the line.
September 7, 2025 at 4:29 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper birthday of Elizabeth I (1533), whose Rainbow Portrait I saw at Hatfield House this summer.
Elizabeth's abhorred scented leather. Gentlemen who wd appear before her wearing scented leather gloves would basically be sent to the end of the line.
Elizabeth's abhorred scented leather. Gentlemen who wd appear before her wearing scented leather gloves would basically be sent to the end of the line.
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalreadabookday. And what could be more Perfectly Proper than to return to the Pure Milk of the Word, Emily Post's 1922 edition of Etiquette?
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
September 6, 2025 at 9:27 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalreadabookday. And what could be more Perfectly Proper than to return to the Pure Milk of the Word, Emily Post's 1922 edition of Etiquette?
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #NationalDogDay with this gentle reminder to #curbyourdog. Signs like this shouldn't have to be so explicit. But then, as good dog owners will hasten to point out, there are no bad dogs, only bad dog owners.
#etiquette #manners #petiquette
#etiquette #manners #petiquette
August 26, 2025 at 3:19 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #NationalDogDay with this gentle reminder to #curbyourdog. Signs like this shouldn't have to be so explicit. But then, as good dog owners will hasten to point out, there are no bad dogs, only bad dog owners.
#etiquette #manners #petiquette
#etiquette #manners #petiquette
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalproseccoday. Tonight a bit of lavender syrup has been added to the prosecco. Does that make it a Lavender Menace?
#etiquette #manners #cocktailhour
#etiquette #manners #cocktailhour
August 13, 2025 at 9:13 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalproseccoday. Tonight a bit of lavender syrup has been added to the prosecco. Does that make it a Lavender Menace?
#etiquette #manners #cocktailhour
#etiquette #manners #cocktailhour
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #NationalBookLoversDay. Most of my preferred resources have been long dead, or of at least the last century. But Just Good Manners by @williamhanson.bsky.social is very much a book for OUR century.
#etiquette #bookloversday #bibliophile
#etiquette #bookloversday #bibliophile
August 9, 2025 at 3:15 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #NationalBookLoversDay. Most of my preferred resources have been long dead, or of at least the last century. But Just Good Manners by @williamhanson.bsky.social is very much a book for OUR century.
#etiquette #bookloversday #bibliophile
#etiquette #bookloversday #bibliophile
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #nationaloysterday. Oysters should go down with one slurp, which makes the oyster fork one of the most useful utensils on any dinner table. Don't risk it; always probe your oyster to be sure it's entirely free of the shell.
#oyster #tablemanners
#oyster #tablemanners
August 5, 2025 at 11:03 AM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #nationaloysterday. Oysters should go down with one slurp, which makes the oyster fork one of the most useful utensils on any dinner table. Don't risk it; always probe your oyster to be sure it's entirely free of the shell.
#oyster #tablemanners
#oyster #tablemanners
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #NationalWineandCheeseDay. While you may feel louche and decadent holding your #wineglass by its bowl, you are only going to warm the wine — and isn't it hot enough already? Keep as cool as you can as long as you can w/ a light grip on the stem.
July 25, 2025 at 5:45 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #NationalWineandCheeseDay. While you may feel louche and decadent holding your #wineglass by its bowl, you are only going to warm the wine — and isn't it hot enough already? Keep as cool as you can as long as you can w/ a light grip on the stem.
Seersucker may be worn whenever the local weather is warm enough, especially after a long cold spring, even if it's the day before Easter!
Here's what Etiquetteer has to say on the subject: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020...
#menswear #suiting #seersuckersuit #etiquette #manners
Here's what Etiquetteer has to say on the subject: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020...
#menswear #suiting #seersuckersuit #etiquette #manners
April 19, 2025 at 10:53 PM
Seersucker may be worn whenever the local weather is warm enough, especially after a long cold spring, even if it's the day before Easter!
Here's what Etiquetteer has to say on the subject: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020...
#menswear #suiting #seersuckersuit #etiquette #manners
Here's what Etiquetteer has to say on the subject: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020...
#menswear #suiting #seersuckersuit #etiquette #manners
It’s been a long time since Etiquetteer saw anyone spit inside a subway car.
#etiquette #manners #mbta #courtesycounts #courtesycountsontheT #gross
#etiquette #manners #mbta #courtesycounts #courtesycountsontheT #gross
April 13, 2025 at 9:54 PM
It’s been a long time since Etiquetteer saw anyone spit inside a subway car.
#etiquette #manners #mbta #courtesycounts #courtesycountsontheT #gross
#etiquette #manners #mbta #courtesycounts #courtesycountsontheT #gross
Researching a talk I'm giving Saturday (on Freemasons on the Titanic), I was surprised to find out that there's a cenotaph for a victim, Fletcher Lambert Williams, at the cemetery near my house. (Mr. Williams was not a Freemason, but his business partner was.)
#rmstitanic #tombstone #memorial
#rmstitanic #tombstone #memorial
April 10, 2025 at 7:40 PM
Researching a talk I'm giving Saturday (on Freemasons on the Titanic), I was surprised to find out that there's a cenotaph for a victim, Fletcher Lambert Williams, at the cemetery near my house. (Mr. Williams was not a Freemason, but his business partner was.)
#rmstitanic #tombstone #memorial
#rmstitanic #tombstone #memorial
I very much encourage you to seek out this biography. A marvelous portrait of a life that evolved from mere beauty to thoughtful power.
April 1, 2025 at 5:26 PM
I very much encourage you to seek out this biography. A marvelous portrait of a life that evolved from mere beauty to thoughtful power.
That Alice was a Saucy Minx!
April 1, 2025 at 4:52 PM
That Alice was a Saucy Minx!
#bookoftheday: The Rituals of Dinner: The Origins, Evolution, Eccentricities, and Meaning of #TableManners, by Margaret Visser.
A Christmas gift years ago from Dear Mother (may she rest in peace) and an invaluable resource.
#etiquette #manners #dinnertime
A Christmas gift years ago from Dear Mother (may she rest in peace) and an invaluable resource.
#etiquette #manners #dinnertime
March 30, 2025 at 3:22 PM
#bookoftheday: The Rituals of Dinner: The Origins, Evolution, Eccentricities, and Meaning of #TableManners, by Margaret Visser.
A Christmas gift years ago from Dear Mother (may she rest in peace) and an invaluable resource.
#etiquette #manners #dinnertime
A Christmas gift years ago from Dear Mother (may she rest in peace) and an invaluable resource.
#etiquette #manners #dinnertime
#bookoftheday: Letitia Baldrige’s New Manners for New Times: A Complete Guide to Etiquette.
Delightful read, and includes many of her own faux pas.
Delightful read, and includes many of her own faux pas.
March 26, 2025 at 3:34 PM
#bookoftheday: Letitia Baldrige’s New Manners for New Times: A Complete Guide to Etiquette.
Delightful read, and includes many of her own faux pas.
Delightful read, and includes many of her own faux pas.
"An infallible indication of well-bred people is the desire to be liked. No [one] is liked who is constantly treading upon the established conventions, who is discourteous, who says and does things that are painful or disagreeable to others." Lillian Eichler, Today's Etiquette, 1940
#quoteoftheday
#quoteoftheday
March 19, 2025 at 2:45 PM
"An infallible indication of well-bred people is the desire to be liked. No [one] is liked who is constantly treading upon the established conventions, who is discourteous, who says and does things that are painful or disagreeable to others." Lillian Eichler, Today's Etiquette, 1940
#quoteoftheday
#quoteoftheday
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Saint Patrick's Day — which of course is possible when you reject the stereotype of public drunkenness so often associated with the holiday.
Gentlemen of the Oscar Wilde Sort remember to wear their green carnations today.
#posypin #boutonniere
Gentlemen of the Oscar Wilde Sort remember to wear their green carnations today.
#posypin #boutonniere
March 17, 2025 at 4:25 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Saint Patrick's Day — which of course is possible when you reject the stereotype of public drunkenness so often associated with the holiday.
Gentlemen of the Oscar Wilde Sort remember to wear their green carnations today.
#posypin #boutonniere
Gentlemen of the Oscar Wilde Sort remember to wear their green carnations today.
#posypin #boutonniere
Another #etiquettebook of the day, A Book of Courtesy by Sister Mary Mercedes, O.P. Why this is wonderful: this 2001 edition was rewritten by Sister's high school class of 1950 as part of their 50th reunion in 2000. A wise and wonderful book for young women, and all people.
#etiquette #manners
#etiquette #manners
March 10, 2025 at 11:24 PM
Another #etiquettebook of the day, A Book of Courtesy by Sister Mary Mercedes, O.P. Why this is wonderful: this 2001 edition was rewritten by Sister's high school class of 1950 as part of their 50th reunion in 2000. A wise and wonderful book for young women, and all people.
#etiquette #manners
#etiquette #manners
Another etiquette #bookoftheday: A Young Shaker's Guide to Good Manners, edited by Flo Morse and Vincent Newton. While the original manuscript is from 1844, its wisdom is timeless, particularly around #tablemanners.
Purchased in 1994 at Hancock Shaker Village.
Purchased in 1994 at Hancock Shaker Village.
March 6, 2025 at 1:45 PM
Another etiquette #bookoftheday: A Young Shaker's Guide to Good Manners, edited by Flo Morse and Vincent Newton. While the original manuscript is from 1844, its wisdom is timeless, particularly around #tablemanners.
Purchased in 1994 at Hancock Shaker Village.
Purchased in 1994 at Hancock Shaker Village.
Another etiquette book of the day: Maidcraft (1937) by Lita Price & Harriet Bonnet, "a guide for the one-maid household." Tips on how to schedule domestic tasks, entertain, and how the live-in maid could see her friends in the kitchen.
All from when the middle class could hire help on one salary.
All from when the middle class could hire help on one salary.
March 4, 2025 at 1:16 PM
Another etiquette book of the day: Maidcraft (1937) by Lita Price & Harriet Bonnet, "a guide for the one-maid household." Tips on how to schedule domestic tasks, entertain, and how the live-in maid could see her friends in the kitchen.
All from when the middle class could hire help on one salary.
All from when the middle class could hire help on one salary.
Yesterday's Elements of the American Wedding program at the Gibson House went off with Perfect Propriety (as one would hope).
Here I'm standing in for the late J. Mason Warren with the bridal overdress of Annie Crowninshield, his bride. It's amazing what house museums retain!
Here I'm standing in for the late J. Mason Warren with the bridal overdress of Annie Crowninshield, his bride. It's amazing what house museums retain!
February 23, 2025 at 2:47 PM
Yesterday's Elements of the American Wedding program at the Gibson House went off with Perfect Propriety (as one would hope).
Here I'm standing in for the late J. Mason Warren with the bridal overdress of Annie Crowninshield, his bride. It's amazing what house museums retain!
Here I'm standing in for the late J. Mason Warren with the bridal overdress of Annie Crowninshield, his bride. It's amazing what house museums retain!
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Super Bowl Sunday. Fill yours with snacks for later today.
Why yes, it IS by Wedgwood.
Why yes, it IS by Wedgwood.
February 9, 2025 at 1:12 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Super Bowl Sunday. Fill yours with snacks for later today.
Why yes, it IS by Wedgwood.
Why yes, it IS by Wedgwood.
A Perfectly Proper message from the Chapel of Saint Catherine in Porto, Portugal.
Really, sometimes silence is the ONLY possible response.
#etiquette #manners #bequiet
Really, sometimes silence is the ONLY possible response.
#etiquette #manners #bequiet
February 2, 2025 at 4:11 PM
A Perfectly Proper message from the Chapel of Saint Catherine in Porto, Portugal.
Really, sometimes silence is the ONLY possible response.
#etiquette #manners #bequiet
Really, sometimes silence is the ONLY possible response.
#etiquette #manners #bequiet