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Etiquetteer
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Etiquette writer and advisor. Twitter refugee.

Encouraging Perfect Propriety in an Imperfect World since 2001.

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Have you been a Holiday Orphan? Etiquetteer has a few tips for how to get through a Great Feast with someone else's family.

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#etiquette #manners #thanksgiving
Tips for Holiday Orphans, Vol. 24, Issue 34 — Etiquetteer
The Time of Great Feasts is almost upon us; November 27 is Thanksgiving this year, less than three weeks away. So right about now hosts will start checking in with friends, relations, and colleagues w...
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November 9, 2025 at 4:05 PM
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Now that #Halloween has passed, Etiquetteer meditates on the seasons of seasonal decorations, Christmas Creep, and when it's #PerfectlyProper to start listening to Mariah Carey.

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#etiquette #manners #decorativegourdseason
Seasonal Decorations, Vol. 24, Issue 33 — Etiquetteer
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1 “It’s decorative gourd season, [Insert Excessive Profanity Here].” — Colin Nissan, McSweeney’...
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November 2, 2025 at 6:51 PM
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Hallowe'en.
October 31, 2025 at 5:02 PM
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Today Etiquetteer takes a look at Clarissa: Muse to Power, the new biography of Clarissa Eden by Hugo Vickers:

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#etiquette #manners #bookreview #greatbritain #politicallife
Etiquetteer Reviews Clarissa: Muse to Power, Vol. 24, Issue 32 — Etiquetteer
Hugo Vickers became Cecil Beaton’s biographer* partly at the recommendation of a woman who became a mutual friend, the subject of his latest work, Clarissa, Muse to Power: The Untold Story of Clariss...
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October 29, 2025 at 2:38 PM
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For #FlashbackFriday, and considering the demolition of the East Wing, let's go back in time to #2015 and Etiquetteer's tour of the #WhiteHouse:

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#etiquette #manners #obamaadministration
Etiquetteer Tours the White House, Vol. 14, Issue 41 — Etiquetteer
Last week Etiquetteer had the great good fortune to tour the White House , and would like to recommend that you do so as well. Requests for White House tours are handled through the offices of your e...
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October 24, 2025 at 8:58 PM
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Today Etiquetteer sympathizes with a reader who believes a meal should be shared — even if that means waiting to start until everyone has been served:

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#etiquette #manners #tablemanners #patience
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October 22, 2025 at 3:13 PM
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A reader has HAD IT with people who say "Bless you!" after someone sneezes. Etiquetteer shares wisdom from Dear Mother, and more.

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#etiquette #manners #achoo #sneezing #patience
Bless You! Vol. 24, Issue 30 — Etiquetteer
Dear Etiquetteer: What can we do about the, to me, ridiculous need to say “bless you” when someone sneezes — even when it’s someone in the audience saying it to someone on stage at a conference who i...
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October 15, 2025 at 3:12 PM
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when you tie a tie, try to put in a dimple, like so
a black and white photo of a man in a pinstripe worsted suit, white shirt, and textured necktie. the tie has a nice dimple under the knot. a photo of donald trump upside down. there is also a nice dimple on his red tie
October 14, 2025 at 6:19 PM
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Dessert Day with some Rhapsodic Wax from Volume 19:

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#etiquette #manners #mignardise
National Dessert Day, Vol. 19, Issue 59 — Etiquetteer
Etiquetteer will admit to feeling a little down this morning, looking at an empty inbox bereft of queries. But then a glance at the calendar brought the sunshine, because October 14 is National Desser...
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October 14, 2025 at 5:48 PM
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If it's October 10, then it must be time for Etiquetteer to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Handbag Day with the traditional posting of Dame Edith Evans as Lady Bracknell.

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#etiquette #manners #handbag #handbagday #theimportanceofbeingearnest #linereading
A HANDBAG??! (high quality)
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October 10, 2025 at 10:27 AM
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Have you been trapped by someone eager to show you every single photo on their phone? Etiquetteer recommends a weapon in the Etiquette Arsenal to help extricate yourself.

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#etiquette #manners #kindness
Too Many Photos, Vol. 24, Issue 29 — Etiquetteer
Dear Etiquetteer: What should I do when trapped with someone who wants to show me ALL THEIR VACATION PHOTOS? I was at a party not long ago where someone had just checked something off his bucket lis...
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October 8, 2025 at 3:40 PM
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Orange Wine Day. No, it's not made from oranges, silly! In winemaking, when the grape skins are not removed from white wine grapes, the resulting color is this delicate orange or amber. Serve as you would other white wines. #delicious
October 6, 2025 at 9:33 PM
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Is it rude to ask someone about their scent? Etiquetteer offers an opinion, and of course has to drag in Charlotte Vale and Nancy Mitford:

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#etiquette #manners #perfume #cologne #mystery #discretion
Asking About Scent, Vol. 24, Issue 28 — Etiquetteer
Dear Etiquetteer: Is it rude to inquire of someone, upon expressing admiration for the scent that they are wearing, what the name of the scent is? When I was working in a downtown office, the boss’s ...
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October 5, 2025 at 2:40 PM
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Etiquetteer is just in a dire mood today considering the Current State of things. This column is little more than a daydream of old etiquette books, current examples of heckling, and the need for all of us to represent the behavior we most want to see. #manners

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Etiquette for the End of Civilization, Vol. 24, Issue 27 — Etiquetteer
“I guess things like hands and ladies don’t matter so much any more.” — Carreen O’Hara “Let all things be done decently and in order.” — Corinthians I 14:40 “Where are we going, and why am I in ...
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October 1, 2025 at 3:21 PM
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalcoffeeday. The problem with a #coffee mug is, where do you put the spoon if there's no saucer? It's bad manners to put used silverware directly onto the table. Maybe it's time to Bring Back the Saucer?

#etiquette #manners #tablemanners
September 29, 2025 at 2:44 PM
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Today Etiquetteer offers a checklist of invitation basics before you start sending out your holiday party invitations. It’s never to early to consider the details.

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Invitation Basics, Vol. 24, Issue 26 — Etiquetteer
Let’s think about our invitations today, as it will soon be time to think about holiday parties, both giving and going to them. As you create your invitation, use a Who What When Where checklist to b...
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September 24, 2025 at 4:26 PM
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Quite possibly one of the most disgusting things one can see or hear on #publictransportation is someone clipping their fingernails. Faugh! For the sake of Perfect Propriety, don’t leave home until your grooming is complete.

#etiquette #manners #decency #courtesy
September 23, 2025 at 3:45 PM
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"My husband lets me play" is the new "My wife doesn't understand me." 🙄

#etiquette #manners #adultery
September 22, 2025 at 9:29 PM
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Blocking Nazis, trolls, and fascists doesn’t make it an “echo chamber.” People need to stop gaslighting us into thinking we have to listen to Nazis and debate trolls in order to be informed.
November 17, 2024 at 12:52 AM
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A reader's query about steering discussion away from politics at big family celebrations inevitably includes a lot of dialogue from Jezebel (1938):

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#etiquette #manners #holidays #braceyourselfmillicent #politics
Staying Off Politics at the Holidays. Vol. 24, Issue 25 — Etiquetteer
Dear Etiquetteer: I am already starting to worry about how to get through the holidays without having a big political blow-up. Our family has a wide range of views (I’m not going to tell you mine or ...
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September 21, 2025 at 2:41 PM
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As the Not Nice Babysitter used to say, "Do it NOW!" Today Etiquetteer advises on holiday preparation you can start in September and October, to make November and December that much smoother:

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#etiquette #manners #christmas #thanksgiving
Holiday Preparation, Vol. 24, Issue 24 — Etiquetteer
Are you feeling anxious about the holidays already? Granted, there’s so much to feel anxious about, but Holiday Anxiety can feel as much a tradition as the Winter Holidays Themselves. Now, you can dec...
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September 17, 2025 at 2:21 PM
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #felthatday. Now it's time to bed down our straw hats for the winter and brush up our favorite felts. (I don't make the rules, it's the National Day Calendar.)

Read Etiquetteer's history of the tradition here: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2015...
September 15, 2025 at 1:38 PM
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For those of you who might be wanting to express an opinion to the Supreme Court, here's how to do so with Perfect Propriety:

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#etiquette #manners #scotus
How to Write the United States Supreme Court, Vol. 23, Issue 43 — Etiquetteer
An unusual amount of interest has been generated in the recent decisions handed down by the United States Supreme Court. Many citizens have been, or should be, prompted to express their opinions to th...
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September 8, 2025 at 5:45 PM
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If you're the sort to get out the good china and silver for a dinner date at home, he'd better be the sort who wants to help you clean up after dinner.

#etiquette #manners #usethegoodstuff #niceyoungmenwhosellantiquesdoit
September 7, 2025 at 9:23 PM
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper birthday of Elizabeth I (1533), whose Rainbow Portrait I saw at Hatfield House this summer.

Elizabeth's abhorred scented leather. Gentlemen who wd appear before her wearing scented leather gloves would basically be sent to the end of the line.
September 7, 2025 at 4:29 PM