Joel 🌀∞
@didmentor.eu
After navigating life with DID (dissociative identity disorder) for half a century myself, I now actively support others dealing with trauma-based dissociative disorders.
I provide special (safe!) support for OEA/RAMCOA victims.
See https://didmentor.eu/
I provide special (safe!) support for OEA/RAMCOA victims.
See https://didmentor.eu/
This is how my middle alter Julia (on the right) and her 'sister' (a similarly aged alter of my wife, inspired by a young Viking character) liked to see themselves.
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
November 24, 2025 at 10:41 AM
This is how my middle alter Julia (on the right) and her 'sister' (a similarly aged alter of my wife, inspired by a young Viking character) liked to see themselves.
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
Reposted by Joel 🌀∞
This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife.
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
November 21, 2025 at 1:35 PM
This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife.
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife.
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
November 21, 2025 at 1:35 PM
This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife.
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma
Regretfully, I felt the need to increase my rates somewhat (you know, inflation and stuff)…
To make up for this and make it easy to get started with me, introduction/assessment *and* the first hour of (online!) support are free now - without any obligations.
#DID #OSDD #trauma #therapy #didsystem
To make up for this and make it easy to get started with me, introduction/assessment *and* the first hour of (online!) support are free now - without any obligations.
#DID #OSDD #trauma #therapy #didsystem
September 30, 2025 at 11:38 AM
Regretfully, I felt the need to increase my rates somewhat (you know, inflation and stuff)…
To make up for this and make it easy to get started with me, introduction/assessment *and* the first hour of (online!) support are free now - without any obligations.
#DID #OSDD #trauma #therapy #didsystem
To make up for this and make it easy to get started with me, introduction/assessment *and* the first hour of (online!) support are free now - without any obligations.
#DID #OSDD #trauma #therapy #didsystem
Because of yet another awful interaction with them - bringing back the following DNI:
🚫 narcissists, especially:
🚫 those using or faking illness (of themselves or others) just to supply their pathetic ego with attention - not caring in the slightest how much damage they cause others by doing that…
🚫 narcissists, especially:
🚫 those using or faking illness (of themselves or others) just to supply their pathetic ego with attention - not caring in the slightest how much damage they cause others by doing that…
September 20, 2025 at 12:17 PM
Because of yet another awful interaction with them - bringing back the following DNI:
🚫 narcissists, especially:
🚫 those using or faking illness (of themselves or others) just to supply their pathetic ego with attention - not caring in the slightest how much damage they cause others by doing that…
🚫 narcissists, especially:
🚫 those using or faking illness (of themselves or others) just to supply their pathetic ego with attention - not caring in the slightest how much damage they cause others by doing that…
This reply thread from last week about online mis/disinformation and social pressure around DID is important enough to post here too.
I consider this a serious issue and have always warned for it!
*Please* be careful whom you allow to influence you, and inform yourself using trustworthy sources…
I consider this a serious issue and have always warned for it!
*Please* be careful whom you allow to influence you, and inform yourself using trustworthy sources…
The mis/disinformation being spread online is a very real problem and doing a lot of damage. See these reddit discussions about the McLean video, which seem fairly balanced:
reddit.com/comments/123...
reddit.com/comments/121...
reddit.com/comments/123...
reddit.com/comments/121...
September 20, 2025 at 11:15 AM
This reply thread from last week about online mis/disinformation and social pressure around DID is important enough to post here too.
I consider this a serious issue and have always warned for it!
*Please* be careful whom you allow to influence you, and inform yourself using trustworthy sources…
I consider this a serious issue and have always warned for it!
*Please* be careful whom you allow to influence you, and inform yourself using trustworthy sources…
About why you can still be triggered after the traumatizing circumstances are (long) gone…
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #OSDD #DID
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #OSDD #DID
Sadly, it doesn't work like that… 🫂
Trauma basically sets up some relatively simple 'pattern matching' in your brain, to trigger you if it recognizes the pattern which put you in danger before. When the actual danger is gone, the response may still get triggered by mistake. Yeah, that sucks 🙄
Trauma basically sets up some relatively simple 'pattern matching' in your brain, to trigger you if it recognizes the pattern which put you in danger before. When the actual danger is gone, the response may still get triggered by mistake. Yeah, that sucks 🙄
September 16, 2025 at 9:20 PM
It's hard to believe, but there are actually people out there who believe that a politely disagreeing Bluesky message can be compared to OEA/RAMCOA 🤣
Well, here is my response. Enjoy the thread 🙃
#OEA #RAMCOA #narcissism
Well, here is my response. Enjoy the thread 🙃
#OEA #RAMCOA #narcissism
This week I spent time helping an OEA/RAMCOA victim in distress, who was trafficked and repeatedly violently gangraped at a young age. Are you seriously saying you consider yourself victimized now in a similar way - because of a politely disagreeing Bluesky message about the use of words?
September 6, 2025 at 3:06 PM
It's hard to believe, but there are actually people out there who believe that a politely disagreeing Bluesky message can be compared to OEA/RAMCOA 🤣
Well, here is my response. Enjoy the thread 🙃
#OEA #RAMCOA #narcissism
Well, here is my response. Enjoy the thread 🙃
#OEA #RAMCOA #narcissism
So #OSDD wifey and #DID me decided to count the relationships between our parts. Just the true romantic ones, and ones perceived as family such as parent-child bonds. And only between original parts, not fused ones.
We counted 24 such relationships between us… Yes, our relationship is complex 🙄😂
We counted 24 such relationships between us… Yes, our relationship is complex 🙄😂
August 18, 2025 at 10:11 AM
Reposted by Joel 🌀∞
Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
July 6, 2025 at 11:46 AM
Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
July 6, 2025 at 11:46 AM
Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable.
#trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
#grooming #trafficking
#OEA #RAMCOA
Reposted by Joel 🌀∞
⭐️Project Plureal:
"When selected you will receive extensive free (online) guidance and support from two experts; we only ask you to allow publication of (not too personal) parts of your interaction with us."
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
didmentor.eu/plureal/
"When selected you will receive extensive free (online) guidance and support from two experts; we only ask you to allow publication of (not too personal) parts of your interaction with us."
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
didmentor.eu/plureal/
DID Mentor
didmentor.eu
April 22, 2025 at 9:44 AM
⭐️Project Plureal:
"When selected you will receive extensive free (online) guidance and support from two experts; we only ask you to allow publication of (not too personal) parts of your interaction with us."
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
didmentor.eu/plureal/
"When selected you will receive extensive free (online) guidance and support from two experts; we only ask you to allow publication of (not too personal) parts of your interaction with us."
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
didmentor.eu/plureal/
I had no idea really how much my Beast/cat part had been integrated or fused, because not much communication is possible with it (it's nonverbal). Beast is basically just feelings and behavior of an affectionate cat, which surfaces sometimes.
July 4, 2025 at 6:06 AM
I had no idea really how much my Beast/cat part had been integrated or fused, because not much communication is possible with it (it's nonverbal). Beast is basically just feelings and behavior of an affectionate cat, which surfaces sometimes.
Apologies everyone, for my lack of interaction here… Been rather occupied 🙄
July 4, 2025 at 5:25 AM
Apologies everyone, for my lack of interaction here… Been rather occupied 🙄
Reposted by Joel 🌀∞
Maybe people don't have to be cowards… Maybe some of them agree? 😁
Anyway, I think kink can be healthy too. Like, responsible BDSM practices can be a great way to overcome (sexual) trauma… and I suspect traumatized people naturally flock to BDSM for that.
Anyway, I think kink can be healthy too. Like, responsible BDSM practices can be a great way to overcome (sexual) trauma… and I suspect traumatized people naturally flock to BDSM for that.
July 2, 2025 at 8:58 AM
Maybe people don't have to be cowards… Maybe some of them agree? 😁
Anyway, I think kink can be healthy too. Like, responsible BDSM practices can be a great way to overcome (sexual) trauma… and I suspect traumatized people naturally flock to BDSM for that.
Anyway, I think kink can be healthy too. Like, responsible BDSM practices can be a great way to overcome (sexual) trauma… and I suspect traumatized people naturally flock to BDSM for that.
"This and other remarkable differences between our senses, motor skills, and even involuntary muscle control, quickly led to the observation that it was as if the two alters had different 'sets of wiring' in our body"
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #alters #headmate
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #alters #headmate
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
Alters or parts often have different skill sets, which makes sense… | Joel Onstenk-Lamberts MSc
Alters or parts often have different skill sets, which makes sense considering they are likely to acquire different skills for various reasons. Reinoud (my host) was quite surprised by some of the ski...
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June 5, 2025 at 8:09 AM
"This and other remarkable differences between our senses, motor skills, and even involuntary muscle control, quickly led to the observation that it was as if the two alters had different 'sets of wiring' in our body"
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #alters #headmate
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
#DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #alters #headmate
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
It seems rather suspicious how my mother would always aggressively try to fix anything related to my outward appearance through medical means, like unnecessary surgeries for appearing just a bit sickly, and heavy physical therapy for just a minor posture issue.
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
Medical neglect.
It seems rather suspicious how my mother would always… | Joel Onstenk-Lamberts MSc
Medical neglect.
It seems rather suspicious how my mother would always aggressively try to fix anything related to my outward appearance through medical means, like unnecessary surgeries for appearin...
www.linkedin.com
June 1, 2025 at 3:01 PM
It seems rather suspicious how my mother would always aggressively try to fix anything related to my outward appearance through medical means, like unnecessary surgeries for appearing just a bit sickly, and heavy physical therapy for just a minor posture issue.
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
This is how I perceived my inner world after final fusion: a tiny close-knit family consisting of the former fronting alters Reinoud, Julia, and Beast (the cat, always close to Julia). Their separate thoughts and feelings were still recognizable, but they were present within a single identity - me…
May 14, 2025 at 1:44 PM
This is how I perceived my inner world after final fusion: a tiny close-knit family consisting of the former fronting alters Reinoud, Julia, and Beast (the cat, always close to Julia). Their separate thoughts and feelings were still recognizable, but they were present within a single identity - me…
Reposted by Joel 🌀∞
Project Plureal, a chance at free support:
"As part of an exciting new coaching/publishing project we are looking for interesting and engaging 'systems' who are able to express themselves clearly"
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
"As part of an exciting new coaching/publishing project we are looking for interesting and engaging 'systems' who are able to express themselves clearly"
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
Starting an exciting new project!
Project PLUREAL: the Reality of… | Joel Onstenk-Lamberts MSc
Starting an exciting new project!
Project PLUREAL: the Reality of Plurality
Are you navigating life with OSDD/DID and wish for more specialized support than therapy has been able to offer? Preferabl...
www.linkedin.com
April 21, 2025 at 9:04 AM
Project Plureal, a chance at free support:
"As part of an exciting new coaching/publishing project we are looking for interesting and engaging 'systems' who are able to express themselves clearly"
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
"As part of an exciting new coaching/publishing project we are looking for interesting and engaging 'systems' who are able to express themselves clearly"
#OSDD
#DID
#didsystem
#dissociativeidentitydisorder
#plural
#trauma
www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...
Well, I guess I've become a singlet now 😢. My 'sides', the previous parts after fusion, used to still have a separate presence (and gender) inside me, but now all their features seem to be mine. Recognizable - I know which side things come from - but they're mine…
Fusion is such a weird process!
Fusion is such a weird process!
Umm, I think I do not identify as nonbinary anymore for some reason… Which is funny because I'm also not really cis or anything like that. I'm just *me*, OK? 😂
May 9, 2025 at 12:26 PM
Well, I guess I've become a singlet now 😢. My 'sides', the previous parts after fusion, used to still have a separate presence (and gender) inside me, but now all their features seem to be mine. Recognizable - I know which side things come from - but they're mine…
Fusion is such a weird process!
Fusion is such a weird process!
Umm, I think I do not identify as nonbinary anymore for some reason… Which is funny because I'm also not really cis or anything like that. I'm just *me*, OK? 😂
May 8, 2025 at 11:38 AM
Umm, I think I do not identify as nonbinary anymore for some reason… Which is funny because I'm also not really cis or anything like that. I'm just *me*, OK? 😂
Beautiful words…
Healing from trauma takes time because you are like a work of art, not a cartoon. Time, attention, courage, and heart go into every great work of art.
May 7, 2025 at 6:22 PM
Beautiful words…
Another day of hard work 😎, this time including a walk to the river flowing around the village here, in beautiful Galicia, Spain
May 7, 2025 at 5:48 PM
Another day of hard work 😎, this time including a walk to the river flowing around the village here, in beautiful Galicia, Spain
Great little thread on grief after trauma…
Once shame starts to lose its grip, trauma recovery work is grief work. Its mourning protections we didn't know, love we didn't feel, a childhood we didn’t have.
Just know, grief is a sign of growth. Growth, if anything, requires some loss. It's real bitter, but grief needs to happen.
#cptsd
Just know, grief is a sign of growth. Growth, if anything, requires some loss. It's real bitter, but grief needs to happen.
#cptsd
April 28, 2025 at 9:14 AM
Great little thread on grief after trauma…