tonight at 6pm at the Pegasus Books on Shattuck in Berkeley is the one and only reading I’m doing for the second Women’s Hotel book. come by!
I'm only doing one stop on the book tour for Christmas at the Women's Hotel -- this Monday at Pegasus Books in Berkeley with @soleilho.com. Don't miss it!
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Daniel Lavery - "Christmas at the Women's Hotel", with Soleil Ho
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November 3, 2025 at 4:51 PM
tonight at 6pm at the Pegasus Books on Shattuck in Berkeley is the one and only reading I’m doing for the second Women’s Hotel book. come by!
Reposted by Danny Lavery
so excited to be in convo with my brother Danny!!
I'm only doing one stop on the book tour for Christmas at the Women's Hotel -- this Monday at Pegasus Books in Berkeley with @soleilho.com. Don't miss it!
pegasusbookstore.com/event/2025-1...
pegasusbookstore.com/event/2025-1...
Daniel Lavery - "Christmas at the Women's Hotel", with Soleil Ho
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November 2, 2025 at 6:48 PM
so excited to be in convo with my brother Danny!!
"Five days a week, should I particularly wish it, I might eat a hot lunch with gravy at no cost to myself, and without lifting a finger to prepare it."
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www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
Fielding Questions About My New Job's Shift Meal Policy
DANIEL: The burden is easy; the yoke is light. I receive no more than two to three emails a day on average. FRIENDS: Surely not —!DANIEL: It is not unheard of to go an entire day at work without recei...
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October 31, 2025 at 8:40 PM
"Five days a week, should I particularly wish it, I might eat a hot lunch with gravy at no cost to myself, and without lifting a finger to prepare it."
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
I'm only doing one stop on the book tour for Christmas at the Women's Hotel -- this Monday at Pegasus Books in Berkeley with @soleilho.com. Don't miss it!
pegasusbookstore.com/event/2025-1...
pegasusbookstore.com/event/2025-1...
Daniel Lavery - "Christmas at the Women's Hotel", with Soleil Ho
***SEARCH HERE FOR NEW BOOKS. FOR INFORMATION ABOUT USED BOOKS, PLEASE CALL OR EMAIL US.***
pegasusbookstore.com
October 31, 2025 at 8:33 PM
I'm only doing one stop on the book tour for Christmas at the Women's Hotel -- this Monday at Pegasus Books in Berkeley with @soleilho.com. Don't miss it!
pegasusbookstore.com/event/2025-1...
pegasusbookstore.com/event/2025-1...
rescuing gooners from themselves: dazed, blue-eyed, limpid, wearing hospital gowns, ready for rehab
October 26, 2025 at 2:39 PM
rescuing gooners from themselves: dazed, blue-eyed, limpid, wearing hospital gowns, ready for rehab
It’s also very funny to sentimentalize forest porn caches as like, “Oh, you really had to work for your nut then, porn had to be earned by hard work and honest sweat.”
"If you believe these guys are avatars of sexual ruination/failed masculinity, you’re buying into the thing they’re getting off on. Lots of trans people get off to similar ideas. Cis men just don’t have the escape hatch of calling it a coping mechanism for trauma"
www.thechatner.com/p/but-pornos...
www.thechatner.com/p/but-pornos...
"But PornosexualGooner101 Died 35 Years Ago...This Very Night!"
"There’s this idea that straight cis men have an entirely uncomplicated relationship to porn because they’re the most normative porn consumer demographic, but straight cis men are often surprisingly t...
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October 25, 2025 at 7:34 PM
It’s also very funny to sentimentalize forest porn caches as like, “Oh, you really had to work for your nut then, porn had to be earned by hard work and honest sweat.”
"If you believe these guys are avatars of sexual ruination/failed masculinity, you’re buying into the thing they’re getting off on. Lots of trans people get off to similar ideas. Cis men just don’t have the escape hatch of calling it a coping mechanism for trauma"
www.thechatner.com/p/but-pornos...
www.thechatner.com/p/but-pornos...
"But PornosexualGooner101 Died 35 Years Ago...This Very Night!"
"There’s this idea that straight cis men have an entirely uncomplicated relationship to porn because they’re the most normative porn consumer demographic, but straight cis men are often surprisingly t...
www.thechatner.com
October 25, 2025 at 7:16 PM
"If you believe these guys are avatars of sexual ruination/failed masculinity, you’re buying into the thing they’re getting off on. Lots of trans people get off to similar ideas. Cis men just don’t have the escape hatch of calling it a coping mechanism for trauma"
www.thechatner.com/p/but-pornos...
www.thechatner.com/p/but-pornos...
my third novel is about a relentless string of friendship bust-ups. MEETING NEW PEOPLE comes out summer 2026
October 21, 2025 at 10:39 PM
my third novel is about a relentless string of friendship bust-ups. MEETING NEW PEOPLE comes out summer 2026
when is too soon to ask to join the sacred band of thebes in a new relationship open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
Being Asked to Join the Sacred Band of Thebes a Little Too Soon in a New Relationship
We had talked about the possibility in a general way once or twice, I’m sure. Lots of lovers do. They do it in the same way you might also talk about retiring to one of your villas in the countryside,...
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October 21, 2025 at 2:12 PM
when is too soon to ask to join the sacred band of thebes in a new relationship open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
in Calvinism it’s “buy me Bonestorm and go to Hell”
October 16, 2025 at 8:29 PM
in Calvinism it’s “buy me Bonestorm and go to Hell”
Cupid and Psyche, part IV: “Chores for wives, house arrest for husbands, was the order of the day.”
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
Cupid and Psyche, Part IV: Somebody Get Me Some Wool
Cupid, meanwhile, was grounded. Recuperating. Chores for wives, house arrest for husbands, was the order of the day.
open.substack.com
October 14, 2025 at 4:52 PM
Cupid and Psyche, part IV: “Chores for wives, house arrest for husbands, was the order of the day.”
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
an excerpt from Christmas at the Women’s Hotel, out next week: open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
An Excerpt from "Christmas at the Women's Hotel"
Christmas at the Women’s Hotel is coming out in about a week.
open.substack.com
October 7, 2025 at 5:23 PM
an excerpt from Christmas at the Women’s Hotel, out next week: open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
Reposted by Danny Lavery
getting a lot of questions about just how big the big bus I'm driving for work is. happy to answer them here:
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
Fielding Questions About How Big the Bus I Get to Drive for Work is
Driving the big bus at work makes me feel like a character in Richard Scarry’s Busytown, alive with purpose, and surrounded by co-laborers who manage to unite both ease and zeal in their activities of...
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September 29, 2025 at 6:58 PM
getting a lot of questions about just how big the big bus I'm driving for work is. happy to answer them here:
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
getting a lot of questions about just how big the big bus I'm driving for work is. happy to answer them here:
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
Fielding Questions About How Big the Bus I Get to Drive for Work is
Driving the big bus at work makes me feel like a character in Richard Scarry’s Busytown, alive with purpose, and surrounded by co-laborers who manage to unite both ease and zeal in their activities of...
www.thechatner.com
September 29, 2025 at 6:58 PM
getting a lot of questions about just how big the big bus I'm driving for work is. happy to answer them here:
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
www.thechatner.com/p/fielding-q...
"I am going to write a husband no one but myself will much like" -- Jane Austen writing Edmund Bertram, probably
Mansfield Park ends with both Edmund and Mary Crawford in an odd relationship with time after he accidentally puts a curse on them both in chapter twelve (I have proof of this).
A Mild Defense of Mansfield Park's Edmund Bertram
“I am going to write a husband whom no one but myself will much like"
open.substack.com
September 24, 2025 at 8:50 PM
"I am going to write a husband no one but myself will much like" -- Jane Austen writing Edmund Bertram, probably
Mansfield Park ends with both Edmund and Mary Crawford in an odd relationship with time after he accidentally puts a curse on them both in chapter twelve (I have proof of this).
A Mild Defense of Mansfield Park's Edmund Bertram
“I am going to write a husband whom no one but myself will much like"
open.substack.com
September 24, 2025 at 3:12 PM
Mansfield Park ends with both Edmund and Mary Crawford in an odd relationship with time after he accidentally puts a curse on them both in chapter twelve (I have proof of this).
huge unexpected split on Jan Brett's 'The Mitten':
"I think Nikki is a liar and Grandma knows exactly what happened."
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
"I think Nikki is a liar and Grandma knows exactly what happened."
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
Three Parents Discuss Children's Books, Part II
"I think Nikki is a liar and Grandma knows exactly what happened."
www.thechatner.com
September 20, 2025 at 8:29 PM
huge unexpected split on Jan Brett's 'The Mitten':
"I think Nikki is a liar and Grandma knows exactly what happened."
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
"I think Nikki is a liar and Grandma knows exactly what happened."
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
I just got tickets to tour my local wastewater facility if you even care
September 19, 2025 at 3:37 AM
I just got tickets to tour my local wastewater facility if you even care
Reposted by Danny Lavery
@coyotemedia.org is alive!! Please take a moment to check us out, sign up for our newsletter and subscribe if you can. ❤️❤️❤️
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September 15, 2025 at 8:01 PM
@coyotemedia.org is alive!! Please take a moment to check us out, sign up for our newsletter and subscribe if you can. ❤️❤️❤️
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my first piece for @coyotemedia.org is a guide to becoming flakier
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www.coyotemedia.org/how-to-flake...
How to Flake Like a True Bay Area Local
Might as well match the energy while you’re here.
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September 15, 2025 at 5:20 PM
my first piece for @coyotemedia.org is a guide to becoming flakier
www.coyotemedia.org/how-to-flake...
www.coyotemedia.org/how-to-flake...
Reposted by Danny Lavery
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COYOTE Media Collective is live!! We’re so incredibly proud of this smart, fierce, unapologetic Bay Area media project. Dive in, see what we’ve been building, read our stories, and join the pack! coyotemedia.org
September 15, 2025 at 1:54 PM
❤️🔥 HOT OFF THE PRESSES! 🔥❤️
COYOTE Media Collective is live!! We’re so incredibly proud of this smart, fierce, unapologetic Bay Area media project. Dive in, see what we’ve been building, read our stories, and join the pack! coyotemedia.org
COYOTE Media Collective is live!! We’re so incredibly proud of this smart, fierce, unapologetic Bay Area media project. Dive in, see what we’ve been building, read our stories, and join the pack! coyotemedia.org
"I tend to get antsy about anything that feels like it’s trying too hard to impart a childhlike sense of wonder to the child. Because they’ve already got that childlike sense of wonder!"
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
September 8, 2025 at 6:00 PM
"I tend to get antsy about anything that feels like it’s trying too hard to impart a childhlike sense of wonder to the child. Because they’ve already got that childlike sense of wonder!"
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
www.thechatner.com/p/three-pare...
“If Pauline was still wearing brown, as she had been this morning, then Lucianne had better wear something blue, to heighten the charm of the difference between them. Luckily it would not matter what Katherine was wearing.”
Women’s Hotel is out in paperback now, sequel is out next month!
Women’s Hotel is out in paperback now, sequel is out next month!
September 4, 2025 at 8:41 PM
“If Pauline was still wearing brown, as she had been this morning, then Lucianne had better wear something blue, to heighten the charm of the difference between them. Luckily it would not matter what Katherine was wearing.”
Women’s Hotel is out in paperback now, sequel is out next month!
Women’s Hotel is out in paperback now, sequel is out next month!
it’s your first day as a medieval chef! time to start rubbing costly spices into rotten meat for some reason:
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
It's Your First Day As A Medieval Chef. Time To Learn To Use Spices To Mask The Taste of Rotting Meat
Related: The middle class is always emerging, there must have been at least one good reason to join the Puritans in 1600, and middle-class striver narratives always end up making you feel sorry for th...
open.substack.com
September 2, 2025 at 2:21 PM
it’s your first day as a medieval chef! time to start rubbing costly spices into rotten meat for some reason:
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery...
comprehensive list of everything Henry James refers to as "vulgar" in his personal correspondence
www.thechatner.com/p/everything...
www.thechatner.com/p/everything...
Everything Henry James Calls "Vulgar" In His Personal Correspondence
Oh, everything is vulgar to you. Sitting is vulgar. Typewriters. Going to Austria.
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August 25, 2025 at 6:28 PM
comprehensive list of everything Henry James refers to as "vulgar" in his personal correspondence
www.thechatner.com/p/everything...
www.thechatner.com/p/everything...