L Biery
@bujoldy.bsky.social
Instructional designer, writer, practicing equanimity in 2020+ is hard af
I sensed he wanted to remember her in an idealized, romanticized past. But he was there, and did not announce himself to her, and give her a choice in NOT seeing him. I really have a hard time with the male/female power dynamic in those times. Good old granny came through for her though.
December 1, 2025 at 4:41 AM
I sensed he wanted to remember her in an idealized, romanticized past. But he was there, and did not announce himself to her, and give her a choice in NOT seeing him. I really have a hard time with the male/female power dynamic in those times. Good old granny came through for her though.
As much as I empathize with the need to self-soothe and sympathize with how hard it is to discover a new way to do it, handing money over to elite over the holidays is too close to a stamp of approval for me. I’ve slowly found other ways.
November 29, 2025 at 9:01 PM
As much as I empathize with the need to self-soothe and sympathize with how hard it is to discover a new way to do it, handing money over to elite over the holidays is too close to a stamp of approval for me. I’ve slowly found other ways.
My father and uncle both found they had prostate cancer through screening. My uncle chose aggressive treatment, my father chose the least aggressive. Either could have chosen no treatment. It’s about informed choice. And with no screening, there is neither information or choice.
November 29, 2025 at 4:02 PM
My father and uncle both found they had prostate cancer through screening. My uncle chose aggressive treatment, my father chose the least aggressive. Either could have chosen no treatment. It’s about informed choice. And with no screening, there is neither information or choice.
The ice, the labor involved in the meringue, the fruit, especially if exotic, I can see the status markers.
November 28, 2025 at 10:26 PM
The ice, the labor involved in the meringue, the fruit, especially if exotic, I can see the status markers.
I can’t think of a time he’s properly been invited to see her, other than the first time. He travels to her on pretenses. Never invited inside by her. Sees her on a bench. Along road on way home from church. Lies in wait outside Beauforts. Surprise carriage. It’s so aggressive.
November 27, 2025 at 3:33 AM
I can’t think of a time he’s properly been invited to see her, other than the first time. He travels to her on pretenses. Never invited inside by her. Sees her on a bench. Along road on way home from church. Lies in wait outside Beauforts. Surprise carriage. It’s so aggressive.
It was powerful. May is furious and determined to win this battle. I
November 26, 2025 at 10:01 PM
It was powerful. May is furious and determined to win this battle. I
It’s such a slap. Thoroughbred horse breeding was a solid gentleman’s hobby. Horse-dealer you say? That’s just a shady job.
November 24, 2025 at 10:21 PM
It’s such a slap. Thoroughbred horse breeding was a solid gentleman’s hobby. Horse-dealer you say? That’s just a shady job.
Well that makes sense.
November 22, 2025 at 2:30 AM
Well that makes sense.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that two fields that have a significant majority of women in them were chosen either.
November 21, 2025 at 5:59 PM
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that two fields that have a significant majority of women in them were chosen either.
Her contemporaries, thinking. DH Lawrence was considered obscene, hmm, Joyce too, most were cerebral though, Woolf did not do passion, Katherine Mansfield portrayed more fire, even in queer subtexts, this does make me wish I’d read more Americans. Maybe, like new Paris gowns, passion best shut away?
November 21, 2025 at 5:22 PM
Her contemporaries, thinking. DH Lawrence was considered obscene, hmm, Joyce too, most were cerebral though, Woolf did not do passion, Katherine Mansfield portrayed more fire, even in queer subtexts, this does make me wish I’d read more Americans. Maybe, like new Paris gowns, passion best shut away?
It’s so odd. I wonder if it seemed as odd to readers in 1920?
November 21, 2025 at 3:28 PM
It’s so odd. I wonder if it seemed as odd to readers in 1920?
I keep forgetting they knew each other as children. It sparks intimacy and affection at the party. And he certainly is more accepting of who she is than the others. Her behavior at times makes me doubt romantic love though. It’s an odd portrayal. All tears, no passion.
November 21, 2025 at 2:52 PM
I keep forgetting they knew each other as children. It sparks intimacy and affection at the party. And he certainly is more accepting of who she is than the others. Her behavior at times makes me doubt romantic love though. It’s an odd portrayal. All tears, no passion.
I really think Archer prefers to project his own ideas of what a woman thinks or feels or “is” onto his objects of affection until inevitably the jig is up…
November 21, 2025 at 4:13 AM
I really think Archer prefers to project his own ideas of what a woman thinks or feels or “is” onto his objects of affection until inevitably the jig is up…
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who sometimes doubts if she is attracted to him whatsoever at all.
November 21, 2025 at 3:32 AM
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who sometimes doubts if she is attracted to him whatsoever at all.
I think it comes down to him not being threatening and abusive, like her husband, and being more conversant in culture than others in the New York society. A married woman had slim pickings for romantic entanglements that weren’t of the Beaufort sort? She strikes me as a realist.
November 20, 2025 at 3:44 PM
I think it comes down to him not being threatening and abusive, like her husband, and being more conversant in culture than others in the New York society. A married woman had slim pickings for romantic entanglements that weren’t of the Beaufort sort? She strikes me as a realist.
Mrs. Welland is Outlook Calendar foretold.
November 20, 2025 at 3:05 PM
Mrs. Welland is Outlook Calendar foretold.
He is not burdened by many constraints in NY society, he’d have so few consequences if he were to go ahead and live as he pleases. Ellen navigates her incredibly narrow constraints and still pushes more than he does to live on her own terms. Maybe that’s why she attracts him? She has what he lacks.
November 17, 2025 at 1:11 AM
He is not burdened by many constraints in NY society, he’d have so few consequences if he were to go ahead and live as he pleases. Ellen navigates her incredibly narrow constraints and still pushes more than he does to live on her own terms. Maybe that’s why she attracts him? She has what he lacks.
Archer doesn’t just swim with the current, he passively floats along. It’s maddening to listen to his well observed criticisms of New York society life and still just float along.
November 16, 2025 at 9:02 PM
Archer doesn’t just swim with the current, he passively floats along. It’s maddening to listen to his well observed criticisms of New York society life and still just float along.
We are doing it again? I have a copy waiting to read.
November 16, 2025 at 4:50 AM
We are doing it again? I have a copy waiting to read.