Segregationists believed it, and tested it by sending busses of Black migrants up to Northern cities under the assumption that the reaction would prove them right. It didn't work out that way. www.npr.org/sections/cod...

Should’ve gone with “Who is Rob Jetton, the politician fiancé of hot Olympian.. etc”

actively sought me out to tell me to dial back one of my Modes. I know a lot about X, but it’s overwhelming them both!

… my mother, the Emotions Parent, did not say that. My father however correctly identified how I was fucking up! Mum would not have pinpointed that OR walked up to me to say it 🤷

I call less often but I clearly have much in common with both!

I have actually very similar skills / failure modes to my mother. Truly illuminating in my life was a time when we were all on edge and prone to failure modes of usually acceptable communication and my _father_

My mother is actually a net Good Listener, but she is also a good Reality Checker of Highly Strung Children, and she has one kid she needs to both validate and set parameters for and one who she has long realised she mainly needs to Listen To Steam Blowing Off.

Anyway if I immediately spotted the bullshit in evangelical Advice Books (downstream of pop psychology about Men and Women and/or Marriage) it was, in hindsight, not because of woke but because reality doesn’t map onto pop psychology… and my family is somewhat odd.

Me: I’m in a rut where, like. I’m okay at work but on the weekend I go blank & don’t talk to anyone* or do anything except MAYBE laundry.

My Mother, the emotion management relative: well, what are we going to do about that?

[*fact dumping excepted]

So much for goon of fortune 😢

Honey, literally nothing in the last thirty years prepared me for the suggestion of Trump blowing Bill Clinton.