Amaya Stagg
amayastagg.bsky.social
Amaya Stagg
@amayastagg.bsky.social
Just another writer in the digital void
Instead of leaving Threads for BlueSky, I think I’m leaving it all for blue sky and green grass.
January 7, 2025 at 1:11 PM
No one knew who Nancy Mace was 2 weeks ago. And now, everyone is talking about her.

This is the same thing we did with Gaetz and MTG and BoBo.

Bc the things they say are outrageous, we amplify them. And then they learn that saying outlandish things gives them more power.
November 25, 2024 at 1:51 PM
How to effectively fight a sociopath: 🧵
I’ve written about how the freak out and outrage is unhelpful. Our emotional reaction feeds his narcissism. It makes it MORE likely that he will say (and maybe do) the thing that scares you the most. /1
November 21, 2024 at 10:38 PM
Narcissism and sociopathy are extremely predictable if you understand the pathology.

Anyhow, I want you all to know I was right! 😂
Matt Gaetz won’t last even one Scaramucci.
November 21, 2024 at 6:09 PM
I find it harder to post here than on Threads because I have to break up my thoughts unnaturally as a result of the character limit.
November 21, 2024 at 3:42 PM
Silence isn’t violence when the screaming is actually causing greater harm to the people you want to protect. #grayrock
November 18, 2024 at 6:36 PM
Sociopaths derive their power from the emotional energy of their victims (over explaining, defending, arguing, fighting about what is right and good).

Your outrage gives him power.
November 18, 2024 at 4:03 PM
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This is the rallying call that I've needed to hear since November 6th. From Roxane Gay in today's New York Times www.nytimes.com/2024/11/17/o...
November 17, 2024 at 7:43 PM
I don’t disagree with the strategy of initially sucking up to Trump a la MSNBC. There are lots of ways to be strategic to protect the country from his worst impulses.

The absolute worst way to do so is to be sucked into outrage and pull hard against him.
November 18, 2024 at 1:57 PM
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Like many of you, I’ve spent the last few days taking stock. Very much unlike 2016, I feel neither despair nor paralysis. Instead, I shift between a clear-eyed detachment and a grim determination.

My latest:
www.marytrump.org/p/dont-let-t...
Don't let the shadows hold back the dawn
Sundays
www.marytrump.org
November 18, 2024 at 12:59 AM
The more time you spend in a relationship w a narcissist, the more narcissistic you become yourself. It’s the only way you can stay. We see this a lot on the right. But I also see it happening on the left. The more consumed by outrage over Trump, the less engaged in your own life you become.
November 18, 2024 at 11:50 AM
Selling fear - whether on the left or right - works.
November 18, 2024 at 11:47 AM
Did you touch grass today?

One of the best ways to stay sane over the next 4 years is to put down the phone, go outside, and connect with nature and others.
November 17, 2024 at 10:31 PM
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Make America Healthy Again lasted less than a Scaramucci
November 17, 2024 at 5:56 PM
“With words we lie,
Can say peace
When we mean war,
Foul thought, speak fair
And promise falsely”
- United Nations Hymn
November 17, 2024 at 7:35 PM
Trump’s first term broken promises: 🧵
1. 1. Trump said he would build a wall and Mexico would pay for it. During his 1st term, a mere 80 miles of barriers were added to existing fencing, and only 47 of that was an actual wall. I don’t have to tell you who paid for it. (BBC)
November 17, 2024 at 6:33 PM
After I divorced a sociopath, I started paying attention to what he said vs what he did. His words were intended to inflame. But he actually DID little.

Trump’s was terrible, but he failed to deliver on some of his worst promises. Do we think he will get more done now w the morons he is nominating?
November 17, 2024 at 6:12 PM
You can tell who was never on Threads because they keep posting about how there aren’t any ads here.
November 17, 2024 at 2:00 PM
This is the message I have for the left. “The right can’t exist without people to antagonize.”

Your greatest power lies in your ability to not react, to be boring to them, to completely disengage. In narcissistic abuse, it’s called gray rock, but online, it’s the block/mute button!
it’s pretty funny watching the right, who thrive online off of hate and “triggering the libs”, migrate here because people are abandoning twitter

the online right can’t exist without people to antagonize
November 16, 2024 at 10:34 PM
I have been a part of other social media exoduses. It will only be a matter of weeks before the vibes here will shift and everyone starts yelling at each other again. Outrage is a feature of social media, not a bug.
November 16, 2024 at 10:24 PM
I remember telling Roger at a meeting in 2015 some of the problems I saw with FB. He told me never to tell anyone that or I would be blackballed in SV. I am glad they he finally came around and is now the most outspoken figure in naming the issues with social media writ large.
We should acknowledge that MAGA and Trump’s victory were enabled by internet platforms whose business models reward fear and outrage. Dems had 8 yrs after FB enabled Trump and never had a floor vote in either chamber on a single bill that could possibly have addressed the harms. 🧵1/x
November 16, 2024 at 10:08 PM
I was married to a sociopath for 10 years. I fought him in family court for 5. Years ago, I started telling my kids “we don’t play the what if game.” I encourage all of us to adopt the same mentality now.
November 16, 2024 at 8:35 PM
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To President Biden and all elected Democrats: Stop playing by rules that no longer exist. At this point, it's not just spinelessness, it's complicity.
November 16, 2024 at 2:46 AM
Morally unconstrained collective egoism
November 16, 2024 at 8:17 PM