Ways With Weirds
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Ru Callender. Undertaker, ritualist, raver and author of "What Remains? Life death and the human art of undertaking." Described as "Best undertakers of all time, by a country mile." by Charles Cowling of Good Funeral Guide.
Nice to know that my work of 25 years as a groundbreaking green undertaker here in the UK, and the spread of that message through my memoir has reached the US Janitor Industry. Nice to see only part time. Ripples people. Making global ripples.
November 12, 2025 at 12:45 PM
Nice to know that my work of 25 years as a groundbreaking green undertaker here in the UK, and the spread of that message through my memoir has reached the US Janitor Industry. Nice to see only part time. Ripples people. Making global ripples.
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An essential precondition for authoritarianism is the neutering of sources of real news.
November 10, 2025 at 8:41 AM
An essential precondition for authoritarianism is the neutering of sources of real news.
I have been lucky enough to “do” Lewes with Mike Jay several times. Still got the scars.
November 4, 2025 at 9:29 AM
I have been lucky enough to “do” Lewes with Mike Jay several times. Still got the scars.
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Gilbert de Chambertrand. Parisian street, 1935.
November 3, 2025 at 1:42 PM
Gilbert de Chambertrand. Parisian street, 1935.
Happy Halloween from Uncle Bill.
October 31, 2025 at 2:11 PM
Happy Halloween from Uncle Bill.
Through the eye of the cremator.
October 28, 2025 at 11:45 PM
Through the eye of the cremator.
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“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at our phones.”
October 27, 2025 at 11:01 AM
“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at our phones.”
Really enjoyed talking about the People’s Pyramid at Rough Trade in my adopted hometown of Liverpool. Nicely chaired by Prof Annabelle Pollen, with Steve from L13 gallery and Johnny from Sports Banger. Thanks to friends and relatives who came.
October 25, 2025 at 3:32 PM
Really enjoyed talking about the People’s Pyramid at Rough Trade in my adopted hometown of Liverpool. Nicely chaired by Prof Annabelle Pollen, with Steve from L13 gallery and Johnny from Sports Banger. Thanks to friends and relatives who came.
Toxteth, Liverpool, England.
October 23, 2025 at 9:36 PM
Toxteth, Liverpool, England.
An extract from “What Remains? Life, death and the human art of undertaking” published by Chelsea Green and available in the US, until it’s banned..
October 22, 2025 at 12:11 PM
An extract from “What Remains? Life, death and the human art of undertaking” published by Chelsea Green and available in the US, until it’s banned..
A TED talk that I did with my ex partner Claire back in the day when Ted talks where a thing..
Death, grief, ritual and radical funerals | Claire & Rupert Callender | TEDxTotnes
YouTube video by TEDx Talks
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October 20, 2025 at 5:43 PM
A TED talk that I did with my ex partner Claire back in the day when Ted talks where a thing..
I never meant to cause this kerfuffle. But then again, I never meant to lay down the circles in a perfect triangle either. And here’s the kicker: there were four circles in the triangle..
October 17, 2025 at 8:17 AM
I never meant to cause this kerfuffle. But then again, I never meant to lay down the circles in a perfect triangle either. And here’s the kicker: there were four circles in the triangle..
Me and my gal.
October 16, 2025 at 2:20 PM
Me and my gal.
Sometimes, the simplest offering to the Ancestors is a clean, clear glass of water.
October 16, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Sometimes, the simplest offering to the Ancestors is a clean, clear glass of water.
I have gained some new followers, so I suppose you are wondering why I have gathered you all here today. It’s to show you my natural aquarium! with my fave inhabitants, the immortal hermaphrodite planarians. At the forefront of memory and ageing research. Ah, my boy/girls.
October 15, 2025 at 8:04 PM
I have gained some new followers, so I suppose you are wondering why I have gathered you all here today. It’s to show you my natural aquarium! with my fave inhabitants, the immortal hermaphrodite planarians. At the forefront of memory and ageing research. Ah, my boy/girls.
A cremation this morning, after a ceremony on Friday. So many people going for cheaper unattended ‘direct’ cremations, this is the opposite. In the UK, you have the right to go ‘backstage’ and witness the coffin going into the cremator. Few do. A powerful moment.
October 15, 2025 at 9:06 AM
A cremation this morning, after a ceremony on Friday. So many people going for cheaper unattended ‘direct’ cremations, this is the opposite. In the UK, you have the right to go ‘backstage’ and witness the coffin going into the cremator. Few do. A powerful moment.
The importance of ongoing ritual in my professional and personal life.
October 15, 2025 at 6:02 AM
The importance of ongoing ritual in my professional and personal life.
Burial at dawn.
October 15, 2025 at 5:58 AM
Burial at dawn.
A crop circle I made at Prawle Point in Devon. I was fascinated with crop circles in the 90’s, but didn’t start making them until 2013. I started to incorporate them into rituals to shed the accumulation of grief I felt as an undertaker. The first chapter of “What Remains..” recounts this practice.
October 14, 2025 at 2:40 PM
A crop circle I made at Prawle Point in Devon. I was fascinated with crop circles in the 90’s, but didn’t start making them until 2013. I started to incorporate them into rituals to shed the accumulation of grief I felt as an undertaker. The first chapter of “What Remains..” recounts this practice.
I miss my old fireplace.
October 13, 2025 at 4:32 PM
I miss my old fireplace.
Smudging the Satyr before the ceremony in KOKO London. Funeral for a much loved sound engineer.
October 13, 2025 at 3:55 PM
Smudging the Satyr before the ceremony in KOKO London. Funeral for a much loved sound engineer.
Lunch under the ancient Yew tree at Dartington Hall. I used branches from this to lay on the pyre of a baby.
October 10, 2025 at 11:22 AM
Lunch under the ancient Yew tree at Dartington Hall. I used branches from this to lay on the pyre of a baby.
A presentation I gave to Breaking Convention Psychedelic Convention 2024 about raving, trauma and psychedelia as a spiritual tool for dealing with our mortality, managing our grief and healing at the end of life. Forgive my weakness for always starting with a gag.
m.youtube.com/watch?v=HAUP...
m.youtube.com/watch?v=HAUP...
Rupert Callender - Raving in the Grave
YouTube video by Breaking Convention
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October 3, 2025 at 7:50 PM
A presentation I gave to Breaking Convention Psychedelic Convention 2024 about raving, trauma and psychedelia as a spiritual tool for dealing with our mortality, managing our grief and healing at the end of life. Forgive my weakness for always starting with a gag.
m.youtube.com/watch?v=HAUP...
m.youtube.com/watch?v=HAUP...