Unfuck Your Habitat
@teamufyh.bsky.social
Messiness is not a moral failing
https://www.patreon.com/unfckyourhabitat
https://www.patreon.com/unfckyourhabitat
Time for a break? Take just five minutes to clean up a flat surface (desk, counter, table, shelf, etc.) within sight. It'll help make things feel a little less chaotic.
April 29, 2025 at 3:28 PM
Time for a break? Take just five minutes to clean up a flat surface (desk, counter, table, shelf, etc.) within sight. It'll help make things feel a little less chaotic.
Never underestimate the smug sense of self-satisfaction you can get by putting a load of clean, dry dishes or laundry away immediately after they’re done.
Unstoppable. Indomitable. Can’t tell me shit. I could rule the world.
Try it.
Unstoppable. Indomitable. Can’t tell me shit. I could rule the world.
Try it.
April 16, 2025 at 9:27 PM
Never underestimate the smug sense of self-satisfaction you can get by putting a load of clean, dry dishes or laundry away immediately after they’re done.
Unstoppable. Indomitable. Can’t tell me shit. I could rule the world.
Try it.
Unstoppable. Indomitable. Can’t tell me shit. I could rule the world.
Try it.
Feeling exhausted, hopeless, or powerless due to [gestures wildly at everything]? Step away from the news and exert a little control over your immediate environment.
Clear off a counter. Wash a couple of dishes. Put away some laundry. It's a great way to interrupt the spiraling.
Clear off a counter. Wash a couple of dishes. Put away some laundry. It's a great way to interrupt the spiraling.
April 11, 2025 at 1:19 PM
Feeling exhausted, hopeless, or powerless due to [gestures wildly at everything]? Step away from the news and exert a little control over your immediate environment.
Clear off a counter. Wash a couple of dishes. Put away some laundry. It's a great way to interrupt the spiraling.
Clear off a counter. Wash a couple of dishes. Put away some laundry. It's a great way to interrupt the spiraling.
What household task can you half-ass today so it’s maybe just a little bit better than it was?
Giving yourself permission to not do a perfect job is really freeing. Give it a try if you can!
Giving yourself permission to not do a perfect job is really freeing. Give it a try if you can!
March 30, 2025 at 5:03 PM
What household task can you half-ass today so it’s maybe just a little bit better than it was?
Giving yourself permission to not do a perfect job is really freeing. Give it a try if you can!
Giving yourself permission to not do a perfect job is really freeing. Give it a try if you can!
Basically every author you know (including me!) has had their copyrighted work stolen by Meta to train their AI. The multi-billion dollar tech company could have legally licensed books and papers, but they stole them instead because it was cheaper and easier.
www.theatlantic.com/technology/a...
www.theatlantic.com/technology/a...
Search LibGen, the Pirated-Books Database That Meta Used to Train AI
Millions of books and scientific papers are captured in the collection’s current iteration.
www.theatlantic.com
March 20, 2025 at 4:24 PM
Basically every author you know (including me!) has had their copyrighted work stolen by Meta to train their AI. The multi-billion dollar tech company could have legally licensed books and papers, but they stole them instead because it was cheaper and easier.
www.theatlantic.com/technology/a...
www.theatlantic.com/technology/a...
Do you have a load of laundry in the washer that needs to go in the dryer? Go do that.
(If it’s been a while, run it through a quick wash cycle again with 1/2 the detergent and 1/2 a cup of white vinegar, if you have it. The vinegar smell doesn’t survive the dryer and kills the musty smell.)
(If it’s been a while, run it through a quick wash cycle again with 1/2 the detergent and 1/2 a cup of white vinegar, if you have it. The vinegar smell doesn’t survive the dryer and kills the musty smell.)
March 16, 2025 at 5:17 PM
Do you have a load of laundry in the washer that needs to go in the dryer? Go do that.
(If it’s been a while, run it through a quick wash cycle again with 1/2 the detergent and 1/2 a cup of white vinegar, if you have it. The vinegar smell doesn’t survive the dryer and kills the musty smell.)
(If it’s been a while, run it through a quick wash cycle again with 1/2 the detergent and 1/2 a cup of white vinegar, if you have it. The vinegar smell doesn’t survive the dryer and kills the musty smell.)
Being OK with doing tasks a little at a time without pressure to complete everything often results in more getting done overall, which is a nice little bonus! Plus you don't have the pressure or guilt you may have associated with cleaning your whole life.
Realizing this approach is totally ok has honestly been life-changing. “Just take out the trash, you don’t also have to scrub the entire kitchen, it’s fine.”
March 14, 2025 at 2:19 PM
Being OK with doing tasks a little at a time without pressure to complete everything often results in more getting done overall, which is a nice little bonus! Plus you don't have the pressure or guilt you may have associated with cleaning your whole life.
This is WAY more common than you'd think. Lots of people having breakthroughs outside of therapy when they realize how much their upbringing fucked with how they approach (or don't approach) housework.
Moved out? Good news! You can clean how you want. Your home, your rules. Or lack thereof.
Moved out? Good news! You can clean how you want. Your home, your rules. Or lack thereof.
“It’s fine if it’s not the way your parents demanded it get done”
I am way too perceived by a profile about cleaning.
I am way too perceived by a profile about cleaning.
This is also "I don't have time to clean the whole bathroom top to bottom, so I'm putting it off again." Wipe the counter next time you're in there. Time after that, 2-minute toilet scrub. It's fine if it's not the way your parents demanded it get done.
March 14, 2025 at 2:09 PM
This is WAY more common than you'd think. Lots of people having breakthroughs outside of therapy when they realize how much their upbringing fucked with how they approach (or don't approach) housework.
Moved out? Good news! You can clean how you want. Your home, your rules. Or lack thereof.
Moved out? Good news! You can clean how you want. Your home, your rules. Or lack thereof.
Usually, having the household task done, even imperfectly, is infinitely better than having it done "right."
This applies both to tasks you do yourself or tasks someone else in your household does (but not the way you'd do it).
Is the outcome an improvement over the starting point? Awesome.
This applies both to tasks you do yourself or tasks someone else in your household does (but not the way you'd do it).
Is the outcome an improvement over the starting point? Awesome.
March 14, 2025 at 1:59 PM
Usually, having the household task done, even imperfectly, is infinitely better than having it done "right."
This applies both to tasks you do yourself or tasks someone else in your household does (but not the way you'd do it).
Is the outcome an improvement over the starting point? Awesome.
This applies both to tasks you do yourself or tasks someone else in your household does (but not the way you'd do it).
Is the outcome an improvement over the starting point? Awesome.
Reposted by Unfuck Your Habitat
Have you reached the point where literally anything is better than marinating in the constant horrors of current existence by doomscrolling through bad news all day?
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
March 13, 2025 at 5:03 PM
Have you reached the point where literally anything is better than marinating in the constant horrors of current existence by doomscrolling through bad news all day?
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
Have you reached the point where literally anything is better than marinating in the constant horrors of current existence by doomscrolling through bad news all day?
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
March 13, 2025 at 5:03 PM
Have you reached the point where literally anything is better than marinating in the constant horrors of current existence by doomscrolling through bad news all day?
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
Good news! Taking a few minutes to do some dishes, pick up some clutter, or put away laundry qualifies as literally anything!
I highly recommend taking a picture of a messy spot in your home before you clean it, and then taking another one after it’s clean.
Having tangible proof that you accomplished something is so helpful, plus it reminds you that you can get it back to that state when it gets messy again.
Having tangible proof that you accomplished something is so helpful, plus it reminds you that you can get it back to that state when it gets messy again.
March 5, 2025 at 8:01 PM
I highly recommend taking a picture of a messy spot in your home before you clean it, and then taking another one after it’s clean.
Having tangible proof that you accomplished something is so helpful, plus it reminds you that you can get it back to that state when it gets messy again.
Having tangible proof that you accomplished something is so helpful, plus it reminds you that you can get it back to that state when it gets messy again.
I just took a load of laundry out of the dryer as soon as it finished and then immediately folded everything and put it away.
Nobody can tell me shit today. I feel like a superhero.
Nobody can tell me shit today. I feel like a superhero.
March 1, 2025 at 8:34 PM
I just took a load of laundry out of the dryer as soon as it finished and then immediately folded everything and put it away.
Nobody can tell me shit today. I feel like a superhero.
Nobody can tell me shit today. I feel like a superhero.
When it comes to housework:
-“Good enough” is fine
-Perfection is a trap
-It’s OK if you’re not up to trying your best
-Half-assing things is still progress
-There’s nothing wrong with getting started and then stopping when you need to
-Letting go of the “right way” to do something can free you
-“Good enough” is fine
-Perfection is a trap
-It’s OK if you’re not up to trying your best
-Half-assing things is still progress
-There’s nothing wrong with getting started and then stopping when you need to
-Letting go of the “right way” to do something can free you
February 26, 2025 at 8:14 PM
When it comes to housework:
-“Good enough” is fine
-Perfection is a trap
-It’s OK if you’re not up to trying your best
-Half-assing things is still progress
-There’s nothing wrong with getting started and then stopping when you need to
-Letting go of the “right way” to do something can free you
-“Good enough” is fine
-Perfection is a trap
-It’s OK if you’re not up to trying your best
-Half-assing things is still progress
-There’s nothing wrong with getting started and then stopping when you need to
-Letting go of the “right way” to do something can free you
I love this framing.
If life is an endless cycle of laundry and dishes that also means it's an endless cycle of hot meals and fresh clean clothes
Domestic tasks are incredibly annoying because they’re cyclical. You do them, time elapses, and then you have to do them AGAIN. It sucks.
Switching your mindset to accept this cycle instead of fighting it can help you let go of some of the frustration and resentment that comes with housework.
Switching your mindset to accept this cycle instead of fighting it can help you let go of some of the frustration and resentment that comes with housework.
February 25, 2025 at 7:19 PM
I love this framing.
And just a reminder: not all advice will work for everyone! Neurodivergent people can have different challenges than other people with the same neurodivergence. Life circumstances vary wildly!
I try to offer advice that’s adaptable enough for many people. Sometimes it won’t work for you.
I try to offer advice that’s adaptable enough for many people. Sometimes it won’t work for you.
February 25, 2025 at 7:16 PM
And just a reminder: not all advice will work for everyone! Neurodivergent people can have different challenges than other people with the same neurodivergence. Life circumstances vary wildly!
I try to offer advice that’s adaptable enough for many people. Sometimes it won’t work for you.
I try to offer advice that’s adaptable enough for many people. Sometimes it won’t work for you.
Domestic tasks are incredibly annoying because they’re cyclical. You do them, time elapses, and then you have to do them AGAIN. It sucks.
Switching your mindset to accept this cycle instead of fighting it can help you let go of some of the frustration and resentment that comes with housework.
Switching your mindset to accept this cycle instead of fighting it can help you let go of some of the frustration and resentment that comes with housework.
February 25, 2025 at 7:04 PM
Domestic tasks are incredibly annoying because they’re cyclical. You do them, time elapses, and then you have to do them AGAIN. It sucks.
Switching your mindset to accept this cycle instead of fighting it can help you let go of some of the frustration and resentment that comes with housework.
Switching your mindset to accept this cycle instead of fighting it can help you let go of some of the frustration and resentment that comes with housework.
Do you have something on your to-do list that’s been hanging over your head for ages and will take less than 10–20 minutes to do?
Doing it, crossing it off, and not having to think about it anymore will feel SO good. Try it! (Yes, even if you may need to do it again in the future.)
Doing it, crossing it off, and not having to think about it anymore will feel SO good. Try it! (Yes, even if you may need to do it again in the future.)
February 25, 2025 at 6:53 PM
Do you have something on your to-do list that’s been hanging over your head for ages and will take less than 10–20 minutes to do?
Doing it, crossing it off, and not having to think about it anymore will feel SO good. Try it! (Yes, even if you may need to do it again in the future.)
Doing it, crossing it off, and not having to think about it anymore will feel SO good. Try it! (Yes, even if you may need to do it again in the future.)
People are sometimes surprised I support outsourcing domestic labor if you can. My goal isn’t to make you clean your own house, it’s to help you get a clean house without sacrificing your mental or physical health.
As long as everyone is treated and paid fairly, I’m in favor. Get your time back.
As long as everyone is treated and paid fairly, I’m in favor. Get your time back.
February 22, 2025 at 10:36 PM
People are sometimes surprised I support outsourcing domestic labor if you can. My goal isn’t to make you clean your own house, it’s to help you get a clean house without sacrificing your mental or physical health.
As long as everyone is treated and paid fairly, I’m in favor. Get your time back.
As long as everyone is treated and paid fairly, I’m in favor. Get your time back.
My most important message re: housework is that if you have a way to make it easier for yourself, do that, even if it’s not the way it’s “supposed” to be done.
We have so much judgment and morality around household tasks and it just doesn’t make sense.
We have so much judgment and morality around household tasks and it just doesn’t make sense.
I think the biggest mental benefit has been not just the time savings and mental load reduction, but the fact that clean clothes don’t live in piles that constantly make me feel like I’m behind and failing at adulting.
February 22, 2025 at 10:32 PM
My most important message re: housework is that if you have a way to make it easier for yourself, do that, even if it’s not the way it’s “supposed” to be done.
We have so much judgment and morality around household tasks and it just doesn’t make sense.
We have so much judgment and morality around household tasks and it just doesn’t make sense.
If it gets done, and it gets done in a way that works in favor of your mental health instead of against it, that’s the goal! However that gets accomplished is fine!
It doesn’t make sense to torment yourself doing something you hate or find difficult when a way exists that you don’t have to.
It doesn’t make sense to torment yourself doing something you hate or find difficult when a way exists that you don’t have to.
for some reason, cleaning my bathroom is the one chore that always makes me want to DIE INSIDE and giving myself permission to hire someone to do it instead has been such a gamechanger for my mental health.
This is absolutely not cheating! It’s not inherently more virtuous to do your own laundry when you have an alternative that fits your life and budget. There are many ways to make sure household tasks get done, and outsourcing is a completely acceptable and logical solution.
February 22, 2025 at 10:27 PM
If it gets done, and it gets done in a way that works in favor of your mental health instead of against it, that’s the goal! However that gets accomplished is fine!
It doesn’t make sense to torment yourself doing something you hate or find difficult when a way exists that you don’t have to.
It doesn’t make sense to torment yourself doing something you hate or find difficult when a way exists that you don’t have to.
This is absolutely not cheating! It’s not inherently more virtuous to do your own laundry when you have an alternative that fits your life and budget. There are many ways to make sure household tasks get done, and outsourcing is a completely acceptable and logical solution.
This is cheating, but for the price of $2.95/lb, a local laundromat will pickup, wash, fold, and deliver our laundry once a week. It’s $80-$100/wk for the clothes for our family of 4, so if you have room in your budget, it can wipe out a whole day of laundry chores.
February 22, 2025 at 10:05 PM
This is absolutely not cheating! It’s not inherently more virtuous to do your own laundry when you have an alternative that fits your life and budget. There are many ways to make sure household tasks get done, and outsourcing is a completely acceptable and logical solution.
Did you know there’s a whole spectrum of stuff in between “spend all weekend cleaning your house” and “don’t do anything at all because it’s so overwhelming”?
Wipe down one counter. Put away half a load of laundry. Vacuum one room. You can do a little bit, and it helps! And then you can stop!
Wipe down one counter. Put away half a load of laundry. Vacuum one room. You can do a little bit, and it helps! And then you can stop!
February 22, 2025 at 4:03 PM
Did you know there’s a whole spectrum of stuff in between “spend all weekend cleaning your house” and “don’t do anything at all because it’s so overwhelming”?
Wipe down one counter. Put away half a load of laundry. Vacuum one room. You can do a little bit, and it helps! And then you can stop!
Wipe down one counter. Put away half a load of laundry. Vacuum one room. You can do a little bit, and it helps! And then you can stop!
Today’s challenge: Identify an invisible corner* and set a 5-minute timer to tackle whatever you can in that time.
(*Invisible corner: any collection of random stuff in a weird place that’s been there so long that you don’t even register it anymore when you look at it)
(*Invisible corner: any collection of random stuff in a weird place that’s been there so long that you don’t even register it anymore when you look at it)
February 21, 2025 at 6:45 PM
Today’s challenge: Identify an invisible corner* and set a 5-minute timer to tackle whatever you can in that time.
(*Invisible corner: any collection of random stuff in a weird place that’s been there so long that you don’t even register it anymore when you look at it)
(*Invisible corner: any collection of random stuff in a weird place that’s been there so long that you don’t even register it anymore when you look at it)
Today's challenge: Every time you start spinning out in panic from reading the news or catching up on social media, put down the phone and spend 5 min. cleaning up/picking up/tidying/somehow improving your home environment.
And then notice how much of a difference your small effort can make.
And then notice how much of a difference your small effort can make.
February 7, 2025 at 3:01 PM
Today's challenge: Every time you start spinning out in panic from reading the news or catching up on social media, put down the phone and spend 5 min. cleaning up/picking up/tidying/somehow improving your home environment.
And then notice how much of a difference your small effort can make.
And then notice how much of a difference your small effort can make.