Sinclair Sexsmith
@sugarbutch.net
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Sinclair Sexsmith
@sugarbutch.net
· Oct 21
I'm officially taking a break until the end of January.
no scheduled posts, no promo. I'll still be doing some teaching, and will send out newsletters monthly with the schedule & info. and I will do some promo for Year in Kink because — it's that time of year!
otherwise, I'm on social media break
no scheduled posts, no promo. I'll still be doing some teaching, and will send out newsletters monthly with the schedule & info. and I will do some promo for Year in Kink because — it's that time of year!
otherwise, I'm on social media break
if someone says they have a "partner" and a "boyfriend" (or girlfriend), which would you assume is the more significant relationship?
December 25, 2025 at 3:28 AM
if someone says they have a "partner" and a "boyfriend" (or girlfriend), which would you assume is the more significant relationship?
hiii if you're into films, let's be friends on letterboxd letterboxd.com/mrsexsmith/
mrsexsmith’s profile
mrsexsmith uses Letterboxd to share film reviews and lists. 1,119 films watched. Favorites: True Romance (1993), Bound (1996), Station Eleven (2021), The Usual Suspects (1995).
letterboxd.com
December 24, 2025 at 1:09 AM
hiii if you're into films, let's be friends on letterboxd letterboxd.com/mrsexsmith/
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When I hear "there's no gay romance" "m/m was created by women" "romance is for women" I think of the number of author bios in the back of "Best Gay Romance" books, or magazines, especially the 90s, ending with notations of when those authors died and I get so fucking angry I cannot even tell you.
December 22, 2025 at 2:05 AM
When I hear "there's no gay romance" "m/m was created by women" "romance is for women" I think of the number of author bios in the back of "Best Gay Romance" books, or magazines, especially the 90s, ending with notations of when those authors died and I get so fucking angry I cannot even tell you.
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Four books. One grand prize. Five days left until voting ends.
2025 was the year of the transfeminine contemporary novel, and the four novels shortlisted for Best Transfeminine Fiction are leading the charge.
If you haven't voted yet, now is the time. Voting closes Dec. 26th at 11:59pm EST 🩷
2025 was the year of the transfeminine contemporary novel, and the four novels shortlisted for Best Transfeminine Fiction are leading the charge.
If you haven't voted yet, now is the time. Voting closes Dec. 26th at 11:59pm EST 🩷
The 2025 Shortlist for Best Transfeminine Fiction (TFR Awards)
Four books. One grand prize. Vote now in the 2025 TFR Awards, open until Dec. 26 at 11:59pm EST.
thetransfemininereview.com
December 22, 2025 at 2:03 AM
Four books. One grand prize. Five days left until voting ends.
2025 was the year of the transfeminine contemporary novel, and the four novels shortlisted for Best Transfeminine Fiction are leading the charge.
If you haven't voted yet, now is the time. Voting closes Dec. 26th at 11:59pm EST 🩷
2025 was the year of the transfeminine contemporary novel, and the four novels shortlisted for Best Transfeminine Fiction are leading the charge.
If you haven't voted yet, now is the time. Voting closes Dec. 26th at 11:59pm EST 🩷
watching the lovely Brandi Carlile holiday livestream concert tonight — this is about as much xmas music as I can take these days tbh
December 22, 2025 at 2:35 AM
watching the lovely Brandi Carlile holiday livestream concert tonight — this is about as much xmas music as I can take these days tbh
My friend & colleague M'kali-Hashiki is running a 2-part ritual (Dec 27-28) using breath + self-pleasure to compost 2025's bullshit and conjure 2026's magic. QTIPOC-centered (open to all), bodies-of-all-kinds welcome. Info: www.fiercepassions.com/conjure
Compost & Conjure — FiercePassions
www.fiercepassions.com
December 17, 2025 at 4:18 AM
My friend & colleague M'kali-Hashiki is running a 2-part ritual (Dec 27-28) using breath + self-pleasure to compost 2025's bullshit and conjure 2026's magic. QTIPOC-centered (open to all), bodies-of-all-kinds welcome. Info: www.fiercepassions.com/conjure
looks like I'm doing the (first annual??) 2025 Sugarbutch Cock Awards as a final roundup of the year!
what categories am I missing??
- best all around
- best harness
- best XXL
- best pack & play
- best packer
- best non-realistic
- best realistic / prosthetic
- best ejaculator
- best for anal
??
what categories am I missing??
- best all around
- best harness
- best XXL
- best pack & play
- best packer
- best non-realistic
- best realistic / prosthetic
- best ejaculator
- best for anal
??
December 9, 2025 at 10:48 PM
looks like I'm doing the (first annual??) 2025 Sugarbutch Cock Awards as a final roundup of the year!
what categories am I missing??
- best all around
- best harness
- best XXL
- best pack & play
- best packer
- best non-realistic
- best realistic / prosthetic
- best ejaculator
- best for anal
??
what categories am I missing??
- best all around
- best harness
- best XXL
- best pack & play
- best packer
- best non-realistic
- best realistic / prosthetic
- best ejaculator
- best for anal
??
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It's my pleasure to announce the Longlist for Best Transfeminine Fiction in the 2025 TFR Reader's Choice Awards!
This year, TFR recognizes 14 titles from every genre and section of the industry 🩷
Thank you to everyone who voted early to craft this list! Voting ends December 26th at 11:59 PM EST.
This year, TFR recognizes 14 titles from every genre and section of the industry 🩷
Thank you to everyone who voted early to craft this list! Voting ends December 26th at 11:59 PM EST.
The 2025 Longlist for Best Transfeminine Fiction (TFR Awards)
Thirteen early contenders for the best transfeminine novel of 2025. Voting is open until December 26th at 11:59 PM EST.
thetransfemininereview.com
December 7, 2025 at 9:34 PM
It's my pleasure to announce the Longlist for Best Transfeminine Fiction in the 2025 TFR Reader's Choice Awards!
This year, TFR recognizes 14 titles from every genre and section of the industry 🩷
Thank you to everyone who voted early to craft this list! Voting ends December 26th at 11:59 PM EST.
This year, TFR recognizes 14 titles from every genre and section of the industry 🩷
Thank you to everyone who voted early to craft this list! Voting ends December 26th at 11:59 PM EST.
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tapping the sign
December 4, 2025 at 4:35 PM
tapping the sign
would you rather see a post on
best of 2025 - round up of my posts, stories, & personal favorite media
OR
my year in kink (based on the workbook I released earlier this year)
OR
a list of the Sugarbutch 2025 Cock Awards (best strap on & prosthetics & packer toys)
?
best of 2025 - round up of my posts, stories, & personal favorite media
OR
my year in kink (based on the workbook I released earlier this year)
OR
a list of the Sugarbutch 2025 Cock Awards (best strap on & prosthetics & packer toys)
?
December 2, 2025 at 10:36 PM
would you rather see a post on
best of 2025 - round up of my posts, stories, & personal favorite media
OR
my year in kink (based on the workbook I released earlier this year)
OR
a list of the Sugarbutch 2025 Cock Awards (best strap on & prosthetics & packer toys)
?
best of 2025 - round up of my posts, stories, & personal favorite media
OR
my year in kink (based on the workbook I released earlier this year)
OR
a list of the Sugarbutch 2025 Cock Awards (best strap on & prosthetics & packer toys)
?
when Sugarbutch started, I did posts on World AIDS Day (Dec 1) every year. coming out queer in the late 90s, AIDS was very much not over, though the drugs were much improved and fewer people in the US were dying.
it is an abomination that this administration is not celebrating World AIDS Day.
it is an abomination that this administration is not celebrating World AIDS Day.
December 2, 2025 at 2:01 AM
when Sugarbutch started, I did posts on World AIDS Day (Dec 1) every year. coming out queer in the late 90s, AIDS was very much not over, though the drugs were much improved and fewer people in the US were dying.
it is an abomination that this administration is not celebrating World AIDS Day.
it is an abomination that this administration is not celebrating World AIDS Day.
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It’s World AIDS day. You would have grown up with queer elders to guide you had Republicans not murdered us in droves, allowing AIDS to cull us.
December 1, 2025 at 3:19 PM
It’s World AIDS day. You would have grown up with queer elders to guide you had Republicans not murdered us in droves, allowing AIDS to cull us.
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Every year since 1988, the United States has recognized World AIDS Day — until now.
Why not? Maybe because the Trump administration doesn’t want to acknowledge that its foreign aid cuts led to nearly 150,000 deaths from AIDS, according to Boston University researchers.
Shameful.
Why not? Maybe because the Trump administration doesn’t want to acknowledge that its foreign aid cuts led to nearly 150,000 deaths from AIDS, according to Boston University researchers.
Shameful.
Trump Administration Will No Longer Commemorate World AIDS Day
www.nytimes.com
December 1, 2025 at 10:02 PM
Every year since 1988, the United States has recognized World AIDS Day — until now.
Why not? Maybe because the Trump administration doesn’t want to acknowledge that its foreign aid cuts led to nearly 150,000 deaths from AIDS, according to Boston University researchers.
Shameful.
Why not? Maybe because the Trump administration doesn’t want to acknowledge that its foreign aid cuts led to nearly 150,000 deaths from AIDS, according to Boston University researchers.
Shameful.
20% off!? WHAT!!! fucken love their stuff so much
You've got tonight and tomorrow to take advantage of our 20% off sale!
Here we have Atlan in nebula and crimson shift; Basio Short & Thick in lilac shift, pearl violet, and vivid violet; Lunaris Werewolf Knot in celestial and pearl green; and an Element 4 Abstract in luster black and red.
Here we have Atlan in nebula and crimson shift; Basio Short & Thick in lilac shift, pearl violet, and vivid violet; Lunaris Werewolf Knot in celestial and pearl green; and an Element 4 Abstract in luster black and red.
November 30, 2025 at 11:51 PM
20% off!? WHAT!!! fucken love their stuff so much
serious question:
what do yall name your sex playlist??
what do yall name your sex playlist??
November 30, 2025 at 9:01 PM
serious question:
what do yall name your sex playlist??
what do yall name your sex playlist??
do any of you toy aficionados know of a fully insertable vibrator? something like an egg or cardinal plug (without the base), that perhaps has a remote to control the vibrations? that must exist right??
November 30, 2025 at 9:49 AM
do any of you toy aficionados know of a fully insertable vibrator? something like an egg or cardinal plug (without the base), that perhaps has a remote to control the vibrations? that must exist right??
doing Daddy 101 through Wicked Grounds tonight, I freakin love that workshop! always inspires me
(it really is a 101, but I've been working on a 201!)
(it really is a 101, but I've been working on a 201!)
November 26, 2025 at 1:54 AM
doing Daddy 101 through Wicked Grounds tonight, I freakin love that workshop! always inspires me
(it really is a 101, but I've been working on a 201!)
(it really is a 101, but I've been working on a 201!)
I didn't even know vaginal plugs were a thing until Uberrime's! and tbh I love them — wearing them under a harness is a pro move if you like internal stimulation.
The Sensi Vaginal Plug, a short plump toy with a rounded head for clenching.
Great for kegeling, warming up for something larger/longer, or avoiding the bulky base or cumbersome length of a dildo.
Available in 3 sizes, in your choice of firmness and 1-3 colors: uberrime.com/a/search?q=s...
Great for kegeling, warming up for something larger/longer, or avoiding the bulky base or cumbersome length of a dildo.
Available in 3 sizes, in your choice of firmness and 1-3 colors: uberrime.com/a/search?q=s...
November 26, 2025 at 12:02 AM
I didn't even know vaginal plugs were a thing until Uberrime's! and tbh I love them — wearing them under a harness is a pro move if you like internal stimulation.
I started Orphan Black Echoes + I'm *obsessed*
I really liked the first OB series, and this builds on it in amazing ways
(I'm spending a lot of time on my own = watching a lot of shows = yes I'm ok but also)
I really liked the first OB series, and this builds on it in amazing ways
(I'm spending a lot of time on my own = watching a lot of shows = yes I'm ok but also)
November 23, 2025 at 9:38 AM
I started Orphan Black Echoes + I'm *obsessed*
I really liked the first OB series, and this builds on it in amazing ways
(I'm spending a lot of time on my own = watching a lot of shows = yes I'm ok but also)
I really liked the first OB series, and this builds on it in amazing ways
(I'm spending a lot of time on my own = watching a lot of shows = yes I'm ok but also)
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After hundreds of hours of reading and research, my 2025 Starter Guide to transfeminine literature is finally live!
No matter your experience level, there's a book for you! 🏳️⚧️📚 #transbooks
The list covers a vast range of genres. There are 78 handcrafted recs on this list, and I've read all but two.
No matter your experience level, there's a book for you! 🏳️⚧️📚 #transbooks
The list covers a vast range of genres. There are 78 handcrafted recs on this list, and I've read all but two.
Start Here (2025 Edition)
Are you questioning your gender and searching for fiction that’ll help you figure out what a transition might look like? Are you a trans woman or a femmeby who’s never seen herself on the tradition…
thetransfemininereview.com
November 7, 2025 at 2:11 AM
After hundreds of hours of reading and research, my 2025 Starter Guide to transfeminine literature is finally live!
No matter your experience level, there's a book for you! 🏳️⚧️📚 #transbooks
The list covers a vast range of genres. There are 78 handcrafted recs on this list, and I've read all but two.
No matter your experience level, there's a book for you! 🏳️⚧️📚 #transbooks
The list covers a vast range of genres. There are 78 handcrafted recs on this list, and I've read all but two.
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Still thinking queer porn doesn't exist? (WRONG!)
Here's a banger post by THEM with recommendations of porn made by and for queer and trans folks -- including our very own QTPOC+BIPOC- owned and operated membership site, CrashPadSeries.com ❤️
www.them.us/story/how-to...
Here's a banger post by THEM with recommendations of porn made by and for queer and trans folks -- including our very own QTPOC+BIPOC- owned and operated membership site, CrashPadSeries.com ❤️
www.them.us/story/how-to...
How to Find Actually Good Queer Porn
There’s plenty of porn out there made by actual queer people and studios that are pro-sex worker.
www.them.us
November 13, 2025 at 8:49 PM
Still thinking queer porn doesn't exist? (WRONG!)
Here's a banger post by THEM with recommendations of porn made by and for queer and trans folks -- including our very own QTPOC+BIPOC- owned and operated membership site, CrashPadSeries.com ❤️
www.them.us/story/how-to...
Here's a banger post by THEM with recommendations of porn made by and for queer and trans folks -- including our very own QTPOC+BIPOC- owned and operated membership site, CrashPadSeries.com ❤️
www.them.us/story/how-to...
do any of y'all who run a site allow paid 'guest' posts? I have no idea what to charge for things like that — if you do it, can we chat? DM me please
November 4, 2025 at 2:04 AM
do any of y'all who run a site allow paid 'guest' posts? I have no idea what to charge for things like that — if you do it, can we chat? DM me please
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A big THANK YOU to all our Bootblack-Level Partners for this year's Event:
Pandastory, Sinclair Sexsmith (@sugarbutch.net), Cecelia Tan Publishing, and Talking to Storms
Pandastory, Sinclair Sexsmith (@sugarbutch.net), Cecelia Tan Publishing, and Talking to Storms
November 3, 2025 at 3:22 PM
A big THANK YOU to all our Bootblack-Level Partners for this year's Event:
Pandastory, Sinclair Sexsmith (@sugarbutch.net), Cecelia Tan Publishing, and Talking to Storms
Pandastory, Sinclair Sexsmith (@sugarbutch.net), Cecelia Tan Publishing, and Talking to Storms
sometimes things with my name on tumblr are ... kinda amazing
(ps I WISH that was my whole job)
(ps I WISH that was my whole job)
November 3, 2025 at 6:29 AM
sometimes things with my name on tumblr are ... kinda amazing
(ps I WISH that was my whole job)
(ps I WISH that was my whole job)
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PSA for all trans girls, and I do mean all
November 1, 2025 at 5:18 PM
PSA for all trans girls, and I do mean all