Shannon Sanders
@shanders.bsky.social
THE GREAT WHEREVER (forthcoming from Holt, summer ‘26); COMPANY, 2024 winner of the L.A.Times Book Prizes Award for First Fiction: https://www.graywolfpress.org/books/company. Mom, twin mom, lawyer, Silver Springer. She/her
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The good people of Threads found some fascinating ways to misinterpret this
It is reasonable for working dads to want a brief moment to relax after work; and it is reasonable for working moms to want that same thing; and it is reasonable for that not to be an option for either when young children are involved
November 12, 2025 at 4:31 AM
The good people of Threads found some fascinating ways to misinterpret this
It is reasonable for working dads to want a brief moment to relax after work; and it is reasonable for working moms to want that same thing; and it is reasonable for that not to be an option for either when young children are involved
November 11, 2025 at 10:37 PM
It is reasonable for working dads to want a brief moment to relax after work; and it is reasonable for working moms to want that same thing; and it is reasonable for that not to be an option for either when young children are involved
This is incredible because I scrolled through at least 3 dozen comments and every single one was from a month other than December 😭
What interesting books are being released in December?
November 11, 2025 at 7:49 PM
This is incredible because I scrolled through at least 3 dozen comments and every single one was from a month other than December 😭
Disclaimer: I listen to Smartless and really enjoy it. I’m a fan of all three actors. But something I find really alienating is when they pull that act of being like “Why does anyone listen to this drivel??” Like I get that it must be embarrassing to be that well paid for that level of effort*, but
November 11, 2025 at 7:36 PM
Disclaimer: I listen to Smartless and really enjoy it. I’m a fan of all three actors. But something I find really alienating is when they pull that act of being like “Why does anyone listen to this drivel??” Like I get that it must be embarrassing to be that well paid for that level of effort*, but
The part of parenthood I find it hardest to get used to is that you and your partner can both be completely depleted from a full weekend, can be scraping your reserves to make it through Sunday night dinner and bedtime without totally flipping out, and then if you make it your reward is…a Monday
November 10, 2025 at 12:10 AM
The part of parenthood I find it hardest to get used to is that you and your partner can both be completely depleted from a full weekend, can be scraping your reserves to make it through Sunday night dinner and bedtime without totally flipping out, and then if you make it your reward is…a Monday
On rewatch, I think my favorite detail from Hill House is when Shirley asks a bartender for “the weirdest thing on the menu, the thing no one ever orders,” and the bartender produces…a plate of jerk wings
November 9, 2025 at 10:20 PM
On rewatch, I think my favorite detail from Hill House is when Shirley asks a bartender for “the weirdest thing on the menu, the thing no one ever orders,” and the bartender produces…a plate of jerk wings
Tell me what your community is like with respect to kids’ birthday parties. Ours is all in on the whole-family format—almost every time, both parents and any siblings of the invitee come and stay the whole time.
Pros: Community!! No male loneliness epidemic! Kids surrounded by ppl who love them
Pros: Community!! No male loneliness epidemic! Kids surrounded by ppl who love them
November 8, 2025 at 4:14 PM
Tell me what your community is like with respect to kids’ birthday parties. Ours is all in on the whole-family format—almost every time, both parents and any siblings of the invitee come and stay the whole time.
Pros: Community!! No male loneliness epidemic! Kids surrounded by ppl who love them
Pros: Community!! No male loneliness epidemic! Kids surrounded by ppl who love them
*whispers* All their cutesy opinion pieces about the secret benefits of RTO are also this
Kudos to the NYT for every day finding new ways to repackage the question: “Wouldn’t things be better if more women depended on men for access to food?”
November 7, 2025 at 1:56 PM
*whispers* All their cutesy opinion pieces about the secret benefits of RTO are also this
Kudos to the NYT for every day finding new ways to repackage the question: “Wouldn’t things be better if more women depended on men for access to food?”
November 7, 2025 at 12:56 PM
Kudos to the NYT for every day finding new ways to repackage the question: “Wouldn’t things be better if more women depended on men for access to food?”
Did we ever get to the bottom of why they cast two different, almost entirely dissimilar actors to play Hugh at ages 50 and 53 in Netflix’s The Haunting of Hill House (2018)
November 7, 2025 at 2:11 AM
Did we ever get to the bottom of why they cast two different, almost entirely dissimilar actors to play Hugh at ages 50 and 53 in Netflix’s The Haunting of Hill House (2018)
You know what I hate about this, besides everything? That whoever is next to live there after him will only have two choices: to abide this unspeakable tackiness or to invite intense criticism for whatever money/effort they put into untackying it
November 6, 2025 at 2:07 AM
You know what I hate about this, besides everything? That whoever is next to live there after him will only have two choices: to abide this unspeakable tackiness or to invite intense criticism for whatever money/effort they put into untackying it
I’m going through first pass pages for THE GREAT WHEREVER…what is it about having the book laid out like a book that makes it feel like a magic trick?? I’m loving it again finally
November 6, 2025 at 1:50 AM
I’m going through first pass pages for THE GREAT WHEREVER…what is it about having the book laid out like a book that makes it feel like a magic trick?? I’m loving it again finally
One sign that my parents did a great job of giving me confidence is that whenever I hear that someone was the first woman/Black XYZ, even if my rational brain knows it’s true and why, my subconscious shorts out a little bit and screams THAT CANNOT BE TRUE.
November 5, 2025 at 2:41 AM
One sign that my parents did a great job of giving me confidence is that whenever I hear that someone was the first woman/Black XYZ, even if my rational brain knows it’s true and why, my subconscious shorts out a little bit and screams THAT CANNOT BE TRUE.
Is anyone else starting to feel hopeful 😭
November 5, 2025 at 2:16 AM
Is anyone else starting to feel hopeful 😭
Reposted by Shannon Sanders
EVERY 👏 SINGLE 👏 COUNTY 👏
November 5, 2025 at 2:13 AM
EVERY 👏 SINGLE 👏 COUNTY 👏
Reposted by Shannon Sanders
Decision Desk calls it for Mamdani already
let's gooooo!
let's gooooo!
November 5, 2025 at 2:08 AM
Decision Desk calls it for Mamdani already
let's gooooo!
let's gooooo!
Love this. The suffering this will avert would have been so unnecessary.
NEW: Maryland Gov. Wes Moore is committing $62M so that SNAP participants get full benefits in November.
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Moore: Maryland will ensure full SNAP benefits in November
More than 680,000 Marylanders — nearly 40% of them children — receive SNAP benefits each month to help keep food on the table. The average benefit is $180.
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November 4, 2025 at 4:01 AM
Love this. The suffering this will avert would have been so unnecessary.
I can’t explain it but for every one day school is closed, I fall behind on everything by an average of three days. Every time
November 3, 2025 at 9:43 PM
I can’t explain it but for every one day school is closed, I fall behind on everything by an average of three days. Every time
Nobody:
A British actor doing an otherwise flawless, completely unimpeachable American English accent: Anathing
A British actor doing an otherwise flawless, completely unimpeachable American English accent: Anathing
November 3, 2025 at 1:18 AM
Nobody:
A British actor doing an otherwise flawless, completely unimpeachable American English accent: Anathing
A British actor doing an otherwise flawless, completely unimpeachable American English accent: Anathing
Ok I have an informal poll to do about something I hear about all the time.
Parents—be honest—have you ever pressured anyone (other than a sibling or your own child) to have a baby, even lightly? Describe
Parents—be honest—have you ever pressured anyone (other than a sibling or your own child) to have a baby, even lightly? Describe
November 2, 2025 at 3:01 PM
Ok I have an informal poll to do about something I hear about all the time.
Parents—be honest—have you ever pressured anyone (other than a sibling or your own child) to have a baby, even lightly? Describe
Parents—be honest—have you ever pressured anyone (other than a sibling or your own child) to have a baby, even lightly? Describe
I swear this is the opposite of a humblebrag, the fellow parents around me start worrying about DST days/weeks in advance and every year I wonder what they’re doing differently that they’re going to notice a difference in quality of life!! We just never ever get enough sleep ever
Not to brag, but DST doesn’t faze us around here! 💁🏽♀️
(The kids in this house are all in the low end of the sleep needs range, so the adults are sleep-deprived 365 days a year and no amount of clock-shifting can change that)
(The kids in this house are all in the low end of the sleep needs range, so the adults are sleep-deprived 365 days a year and no amount of clock-shifting can change that)
November 2, 2025 at 12:02 PM
I swear this is the opposite of a humblebrag, the fellow parents around me start worrying about DST days/weeks in advance and every year I wonder what they’re doing differently that they’re going to notice a difference in quality of life!! We just never ever get enough sleep ever
Not to brag, but DST doesn’t faze us around here! 💁🏽♀️
(The kids in this house are all in the low end of the sleep needs range, so the adults are sleep-deprived 365 days a year and no amount of clock-shifting can change that)
(The kids in this house are all in the low end of the sleep needs range, so the adults are sleep-deprived 365 days a year and no amount of clock-shifting can change that)
November 2, 2025 at 11:48 AM
Not to brag, but DST doesn’t faze us around here! 💁🏽♀️
(The kids in this house are all in the low end of the sleep needs range, so the adults are sleep-deprived 365 days a year and no amount of clock-shifting can change that)
(The kids in this house are all in the low end of the sleep needs range, so the adults are sleep-deprived 365 days a year and no amount of clock-shifting can change that)
“What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you—oh good, great job. What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say?”
November 1, 2025 at 1:18 AM
“What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you—oh good, great job. What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say? What do you say?”
Nor would it feel anything when it finally succeeded
October 30, 2025 at 10:29 PM
Nor would it feel anything when it finally succeeded
AI could never fail at this this many times
October 30, 2025 at 8:35 PM
AI could never fail at this this many times