Caitlin Poffenbarger
@poffenbarger17.bsky.social
I seriously struggle with human contact. Everything I say or do feels wrong in one way or another. Either like I'm trying too hard or just don't care.
November 20, 2025 at 5:10 AM
I seriously struggle with human contact. Everything I say or do feels wrong in one way or another. Either like I'm trying too hard or just don't care.
And considering I have a memory disabled grandmother, an emotionally detached and absent mother, and a distanced little sister in total to talk about this shit to, it's not really that big of a surprise. 🤷🏽♀️
November 20, 2025 at 4:08 AM
And considering I have a memory disabled grandmother, an emotionally detached and absent mother, and a distanced little sister in total to talk about this shit to, it's not really that big of a surprise. 🤷🏽♀️
I've been discussing these things with Google Gemini, since, you know, it's not like I've got anyone else to really talk to about this. Any time I've tried venting these problems, it's been entirely useless and unproductive in the relationships I do have. Basically brushed right over. Ignored.
November 20, 2025 at 4:06 AM
I've been discussing these things with Google Gemini, since, you know, it's not like I've got anyone else to really talk to about this. Any time I've tried venting these problems, it's been entirely useless and unproductive in the relationships I do have. Basically brushed right over. Ignored.
I'm ready to open things back up again, but at the same time, I'm almost positive she will immediately take that opportunity to bombard me with her problems again. And I won't deal with that shit. I just won't. So I have to figure out how to actually get that through to her.
November 20, 2025 at 4:04 AM
I'm ready to open things back up again, but at the same time, I'm almost positive she will immediately take that opportunity to bombard me with her problems again. And I won't deal with that shit. I just won't. So I have to figure out how to actually get that through to her.
Anyway, that's basically the main reason I have such a problem with her at this point. I KNOW what it's like to depend on others for everything. And still, I did not act as entitled and spoiled as this girl has been acting. Yes, girl, because she sure doesn't act like a woman.
November 20, 2025 at 4:03 AM
Anyway, that's basically the main reason I have such a problem with her at this point. I KNOW what it's like to depend on others for everything. And still, I did not act as entitled and spoiled as this girl has been acting. Yes, girl, because she sure doesn't act like a woman.
I don't make it seem like it's life or death if they say no. I make it very clear that I do not expect them to say yes and that I'd be so appreciative if it is yes. And I repeatedly thank them if they do say yes. I certainly don't push the limits to see what I can get from them daily.
November 20, 2025 at 4:01 AM
I don't make it seem like it's life or death if they say no. I make it very clear that I do not expect them to say yes and that I'd be so appreciative if it is yes. And I repeatedly thank them if they do say yes. I certainly don't push the limits to see what I can get from them daily.
As someone that has asked others for help, I truly cannot understand her approach to this situation. Any time I have asked for help it has been once, letting them know I will absolutely understand if they can't or don't want to help me. I give them a run down of the situation and give them the out.
November 20, 2025 at 4:00 AM
As someone that has asked others for help, I truly cannot understand her approach to this situation. Any time I have asked for help it has been once, letting them know I will absolutely understand if they can't or don't want to help me. I give them a run down of the situation and give them the out.
Just to give an idea of how much she takes advantage of the help I offered her. Like, if you want help again in the future, what real reason do I have to ever offer it again when I know you'll just take advantage of it and get everything you can take out of it?
November 20, 2025 at 3:59 AM
Just to give an idea of how much she takes advantage of the help I offered her. Like, if you want help again in the future, what real reason do I have to ever offer it again when I know you'll just take advantage of it and get everything you can take out of it?
You know, just to throw it out there and get it off my chest. (About Dena) I fucking got her McDonald's one time and told her she could get whatever she wanted. Typically when someone offers this to you, you don't take that opportunity to order one of the most expensive things on the menu. This 1/
November 20, 2025 at 3:57 AM
You know, just to throw it out there and get it off my chest. (About Dena) I fucking got her McDonald's one time and told her she could get whatever she wanted. Typically when someone offers this to you, you don't take that opportunity to order one of the most expensive things on the menu. This 1/
I don't remember where I was going with that. 😂 Maybe I'll remember. At some point.
November 20, 2025 at 2:56 AM
I don't remember where I was going with that. 😂 Maybe I'll remember. At some point.
So now I'm not sure if it won't jump because I just didn't connect the battery well enough or because something else is wrong with it to make it not start. And I'm not trying to electrocute myself trying to figure it out, so my BIL is coming to look at it for me. He lives 45 mins away and I had 1/
November 20, 2025 at 2:55 AM
So now I'm not sure if it won't jump because I just didn't connect the battery well enough or because something else is wrong with it to make it not start. And I'm not trying to electrocute myself trying to figure it out, so my BIL is coming to look at it for me. He lives 45 mins away and I had 1/
Alright so my car won't start right now and I'm not entirely sure on why. It jumped when it wouldn't start at first. Then the next day we tried to jump it again because it wouldn't start on its own. This was after I had unhooked and reconnected my battery to my car because we figured dead battery.
November 20, 2025 at 2:50 AM
Alright so my car won't start right now and I'm not entirely sure on why. It jumped when it wouldn't start at first. Then the next day we tried to jump it again because it wouldn't start on its own. This was after I had unhooked and reconnected my battery to my car because we figured dead battery.
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November 18, 2025 at 6:07 PM
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November 17, 2025 at 11:54 PM
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Anyway, I said this and then the bartenders, like, scattered almost immediately. 😂 Like, I am so sorry, guys. I totally wasn't trying to kill your night. I just get real open when I've had a few to drink. 🤷🏽♀️😂
November 14, 2025 at 7:22 AM
Anyway, I said this and then the bartenders, like, scattered almost immediately. 😂 Like, I am so sorry, guys. I totally wasn't trying to kill your night. I just get real open when I've had a few to drink. 🤷🏽♀️😂
I was at the bar earlier and we (the bartenders and I) got real philosophical and talked about how everything will be digital or automated in the future and shit and I said how then it'd be so easy for us to have a technological apocalypse if something crazy like the sun threw a massive solar 1/
November 14, 2025 at 7:20 AM
I was at the bar earlier and we (the bartenders and I) got real philosophical and talked about how everything will be digital or automated in the future and shit and I said how then it'd be so easy for us to have a technological apocalypse if something crazy like the sun threw a massive solar 1/
I can't want to help someone so much that isn't willing to accept what she needs to do in order to be able to seek the help she knows she needs. If she's not willing to cut her family, most especially her mom, from her life, at the very least temporarily, she likely won't be able to get out of this.
November 14, 2025 at 5:18 AM
I can't want to help someone so much that isn't willing to accept what she needs to do in order to be able to seek the help she knows she needs. If she's not willing to cut her family, most especially her mom, from her life, at the very least temporarily, she likely won't be able to get out of this.
I actually call her mom the queen of gaslighting because she literally does it to her on a daily basis. And I want to help her SO MUCH. I do. But unless she can manage to care enough to get out of her mother's house or do literally anything to improve her situation, I just can't.
November 14, 2025 at 5:17 AM
I actually call her mom the queen of gaslighting because she literally does it to her on a daily basis. And I want to help her SO MUCH. I do. But unless she can manage to care enough to get out of her mother's house or do literally anything to improve her situation, I just can't.
Anyway, that all happened and just like a week ago, she mentioned it to her mom and her mom said that it never even happened. 😳 Like what? That is literally gaslighting! It absolutely did happen and she's trying to make her kid feel crazy for thinking it did when her mom says it didn't.
November 14, 2025 at 5:15 AM
Anyway, that all happened and just like a week ago, she mentioned it to her mom and her mom said that it never even happened. 😳 Like what? That is literally gaslighting! It absolutely did happen and she's trying to make her kid feel crazy for thinking it did when her mom says it didn't.
And that shit don't happen unless they KNOW they have enough to prove beyond a reasonable doubt.
November 14, 2025 at 5:13 AM
And that shit don't happen unless they KNOW they have enough to prove beyond a reasonable doubt.
She (her mom) literally got picked up by this girl's ex boyfriend that BEAT HER UP to the point that the man she got with after made her file a police report and they took pictures of the injuries and bruises he left on her. It was bad enough that even though she wouldn't press charges, the city did
November 14, 2025 at 5:12 AM
She (her mom) literally got picked up by this girl's ex boyfriend that BEAT HER UP to the point that the man she got with after made her file a police report and they took pictures of the injuries and bruises he left on her. It was bad enough that even though she wouldn't press charges, the city did
I've actually not really talked to my sister or mom much lately either. Them and my grandma and grandpa are the only other people in my life that I feel the need to help solve their problems - even if they don't realize they have the problem, which is actually part of the problem - they're too 1/
November 14, 2025 at 5:11 AM
I've actually not really talked to my sister or mom much lately either. Them and my grandma and grandpa are the only other people in my life that I feel the need to help solve their problems - even if they don't realize they have the problem, which is actually part of the problem - they're too 1/
So I guess that's just the role I've taken up since childhood. It's a hard habit to break and to understand that I don't HAVE TO help everyone I care about with EVERY problem they have. I don't have to give myself away to the point that I can't recognize myself. I just don't have to.
November 14, 2025 at 5:07 AM
So I guess that's just the role I've taken up since childhood. It's a hard habit to break and to understand that I don't HAVE TO help everyone I care about with EVERY problem they have. I don't have to give myself away to the point that I can't recognize myself. I just don't have to.
I'm good at finding things like resources when someone else needs them. I'm great at problem solving and critical thinking, so when some crazy problem in someone I care about's life comes up, I try to help them solve it. It's just who I am. Everyone can't solve every problem on their own.
November 14, 2025 at 5:05 AM
I'm good at finding things like resources when someone else needs them. I'm great at problem solving and critical thinking, so when some crazy problem in someone I care about's life comes up, I try to help them solve it. It's just who I am. Everyone can't solve every problem on their own.
I feel so bad about literally just about everything. It honestly surprises me that I've been able to stick to the boundary I'm trying to set with this girl. Every time someone I care about has a problem, I feel like I should find a way to help them. It's the least I could do.
November 14, 2025 at 5:03 AM
I feel so bad about literally just about everything. It honestly surprises me that I've been able to stick to the boundary I'm trying to set with this girl. Every time someone I care about has a problem, I feel like I should find a way to help them. It's the least I could do.