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Heidi & Mand
@laughbeforedeath.bsky.social
We have #metastaticbreastcancer

Our motto is: we are dying but not right now!

We have difficult conversations, we find each other funny. What’s not to like?!

Podcast👇

https://open.spotify.com/show/4L343Uhn1pHbJH8nDCFZvW?si=LUfKykErQieM5_96tMQLZw
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Mand & I are coincidental friends with #metastaticbreastcancer in common.

We talk about what’s it like to live with terminal disease. A lot of cancer conversations are about recovery so we talk about death and dying so you feel you can too.
#BraveNewWorld

Meet-up to work out the details of recording our next podcast online, by doing a trial run (topic; exercise and cancer 🤫)

Video recording was invented in the 90s yet the process feel like a temperamental beast we’re yet to master 😆😂

#cansky #oncsky #cancer
November 12, 2025 at 4:42 PM
Today, I’ve done some ‘death admin’. As in collating a list of cancellations to be done on my demise such pensions, benefits, bills.

I’m dying but not today. (Death admin) process is methodically satisfying 🤷‍♀️

#cancer #cansky #oncsky
November 2, 2025 at 5:07 PM
“Hope takes on many different forms”… and that is exactly what we talk with Kevin about in our later podcast episode.

@storiescancerhope.bsky.social

See link below 👇

#cansky #cancer #metastaticcancer
October 30, 2025 at 8:26 PM
We’re dying, but not right now.

So we keep going, and we keep enjoying life.

On this picture we’re celebrating Mand’s birthday (and her fancy new dress, which I made for her).

#oncsky #cansky #metastaticcancer
October 25, 2025 at 8:03 AM
Thanks for sharing our link. We really appreciate it ❤️

The podcast recording with you is being edited as I type!

Great to meet you and lovely to be part of an ever expanding circle of friendship across the #cancer community.

#cansky #oncsky
It was lovely to meet Heidi and Mand in Chesterfield last week and to have a wonderful chat. They are both living with secondary breast cancer and host the amazing Podcast Laugh Before Death open.spotify.com/show/4L343Uh...
@laughbeforedeath.bsky.social
October 23, 2025 at 8:08 PM
After an afternoon rest (@cancerfatigue can do one!) I’ve been reflecting on Kevin’s talk today. @storiescancerhope.bsky.social is life affirming and a cancer community hug, all in one.

Podcast episode completed (recorded with Kevin) and ready for editing. Watch this space…

#cansky
October 16, 2025 at 5:36 PM
Packing up and ready to go to the #Macmillan #cancer event focusing on #hope. I’m excited to listen to Kevin speak about the @storiescancerhope.bsky.social project ❤️
October 16, 2025 at 8:25 AM
How many out there are of a similar disposition?

#cansky
When people ask if I will quit using dark humor to cope with my cancer diagnosis. #Cansky
October 15, 2025 at 9:24 AM
It’s my birthday today and I’m having cancer treatment.

My intention is to have more cake than chemo, so wish me luck on readdressing the imbalance 😆

#cansky #oncsky
October 9, 2025 at 12:55 PM
We’re young at heart but not in the ‘young adult’ category for this symposium.

We support our young comrades and hope this event gets a good turnout ❤️
Hey my #Cansky folks. I’m happy to announce Vanderbilt Ingram Cancer Center is hosting a young adults cancers symposium in November! Come join me.

It’s FREE for patients. Would appreciate anyone spreading the word 🫶🏻 #Oncsky #Medsky
September 30, 2025 at 6:44 AM
No (additional) filter, no post editing, just a big fat coincidence…

Both of us were taken unawares during a garden party for #macmillancoffeemorning. I was caught up in a bubble, Mand was caught mid chew 😆

#cansky #oncsky #metastaticcancer
September 28, 2025 at 6:55 AM
This is a happy photo. Mand is happy because the dress I made her fits perfectly. I’m happy for the same reason!

There’s so much more to life than #cancer. And on sunny afternoons, life feels eternal. We’re dying but not today.

#cansky #oncsky
September 26, 2025 at 7:17 AM
We used to be cool… now we’re even COOLER (😆).

We took part in an attempt at breaking the record for number of participants who completed ‘chair based exercise’ over a 30 minute period.

(Record was broken in case you wonder🏅)

#cansky #oncsky #metastaticcancer
September 25, 2025 at 1:11 PM
It really is a privilege. Science is amazing.

#oncsky #cansky #cancer
Today, I'm MRI-ing & living the dream lying perfectly still in a giant magnet scanning for answers, not setbacks. If you've not had a scan on your head before, this is incredibly noisy as the vibrating gradient coils bang, clank and knock. It's an experience and a privilege.
September 22, 2025 at 9:14 AM
First round of chemo done and the side effects are manageable.

I do think living with #metastaticcancer, we live with a degree of discomfort and pain. So chemotherapy is a bit like a ‘busman’s holiday’, right?!

#oncsky #cansky #cancer
September 20, 2025 at 5:34 PM
First day back on IV chemo and I’m feeling hopeful.

#cansky #oncsky #chemo
September 18, 2025 at 7:03 AM
Waiting is testing my patience…

A hark back to last year’s episode on this topic. While the cancer is progressing, patients are expected to just be patient (on so many levels 😁)

#cansky #oncsky #cancer

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Not so patient!
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September 17, 2025 at 9:28 AM
Laughter helps us feel free and alive.

#cansky #oncsky

open.spotify.com/episode/56FT...
Is it okay to laugh?
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August 29, 2025 at 5:13 PM
We look too happy to be talking about ill health retirement but that’s just what we did in our latest podcast episode 👇

open.spotify.com/episode/0ftt...
August 27, 2025 at 6:32 AM
Greetings from the Cancer ward waiting room. Sun is out, shorts are on, and ‘September’ (by Earth Wind and Fire) is played on the radio.

Life is not all bad ❤️

#cansky #oncsky #cancertreatment
August 25, 2025 at 10:34 AM
This is an emotional and honest reflection of Duncan’s experience of anticipatory grief.

Lovely 🥰

#oncsky #cansky #metastaticcancer
Sometimes i will wake up with an empty feeling in my body, wondering what is the point of it all. Today is one of those days. It is the anticipatory grief deciding to raise its head, the bugger. www.buymeacoffee.com/fletcherduU/...
Anticipatory Grief — Duncan F
Post by Duncan F
www.buymeacoffee.com
August 21, 2025 at 9:45 AM
Never one to forego adventures, Mand volunteered to be ‘dead lifted’. No play on words necessary here 😆

What a life affirming lass she is #MetastaticCancer can do one!

#cansky #oncsky
August 19, 2025 at 12:33 PM
We got 1000 streams. Whoop whoop 🙌

We talk about death and dying so you feel you can too.

#cansky #oncsky #cancer #death
August 17, 2025 at 6:55 AM
Does anyone else fall asleep during their scans?

It’s the most magical snooze (enabled by the ‘stuff’ we are injected with, I wonder 🤔)

#oncsky #cansky #cancer #scans
August 13, 2025 at 12:09 PM
I’m sharing this in the hope of reading more food related facts and opinions from Dr Nutella 😁
1 post = 1 food opinion. I'm just going to add to this thread until I get bored, likes have nothing to do with it.
August 8, 2025 at 4:01 PM