Darius Quebec 🏳️⚧️
@ksej.bsky.social
Trans, mental, trying to write more, gestational dad to xCLP and Scunthorpe United until one of us dies. Now with a Ko-fi https://ko-fi.com/ksej2610
I was going to say that my dad took it fairly well, considering, but approximately 24 hours after I first came out to him, he told me I'd lived in his house long enough and needed to find a place of my own, so :-/
I do have to point out that even with a more-accepting society, there is a gulf between "I am okay with queers" and "I am okay with my kid being a queer". People can support LGBT rights in the abstract and then get spooked when their own precious cinnamon roll makes them a "non-traditional family".
January 21, 2026 at 12:30 PM
I was going to say that my dad took it fairly well, considering, but approximately 24 hours after I first came out to him, he told me I'd lived in his house long enough and needed to find a place of my own, so :-/
I had a bloke today whose Ring kept alerting his phone while I was trying to suck his dick, so it's just bad on all levels tbh
I've been saying to get rid of your ring for years, but SERIOUSLY. Get rid of your ring!!!
It was inevitable.
January 19, 2026 at 9:33 PM
I had a bloke today whose Ring kept alerting his phone while I was trying to suck his dick, so it's just bad on all levels tbh
I need to rebut a weirdo who thinks trans men should just play women's football but all the citations I've turned up are misgendering trans women. Does anyone have anything?
January 19, 2026 at 9:18 PM
I need to rebut a weirdo who thinks trans men should just play women's football but all the citations I've turned up are misgendering trans women. Does anyone have anything?
"High profile transphobe is secretly trans" all you're doing with this is implying being trans is shameful and blaming transphobia on trans people. Stop it
January 19, 2026 at 7:12 PM
"High profile transphobe is secretly trans" all you're doing with this is implying being trans is shameful and blaming transphobia on trans people. Stop it
Reminds me when I was first trying to get care, over 20 years ago now. The professionals wanted me to have a seamless theory of gender and how it works, and they poked holes devotedly in everything I came up with. And since I could never satisfy them, they expected me to just agree I was a woman
Like I honestly don't care whether or not a politician thinks I'm "really" a woman or whatever. I care that I'm allowed to access healthcare that I need. I care that I shouldn't be discriminated against on the basis of being trans. "Hurr hurr what is a woman?" is a troll question.
January 19, 2026 at 4:09 PM
Reminds me when I was first trying to get care, over 20 years ago now. The professionals wanted me to have a seamless theory of gender and how it works, and they poked holes devotedly in everything I came up with. And since I could never satisfy them, they expected me to just agree I was a woman
Do fast food staff in Minneapolis still have to ask customers if they'd like ice with their drinks? I imagine that would get some interesting responses
January 19, 2026 at 2:49 PM
Do fast food staff in Minneapolis still have to ask customers if they'd like ice with their drinks? I imagine that would get some interesting responses
buttondown.com/ksej/archive... late publishing this but here is why I can't manage to set a goal like my CPN wanted
Goal setting
Discusses generalised suicidal ideation. You can probably assume everything I write will do that My CPN (Community Psychiatric Nurse, the professional...
buttondown.com
January 19, 2026 at 1:31 PM
buttondown.com/ksej/archive... late publishing this but here is why I can't manage to set a goal like my CPN wanted
"This fare includes a journey across London by tube, DLR, or train" I'm transferring from King's Cross to St Pancras, a transfer effected by using my feet to cross the road
January 18, 2026 at 6:18 PM
"This fare includes a journey across London by tube, DLR, or train" I'm transferring from King's Cross to St Pancras, a transfer effected by using my feet to cross the road
You remember how I used to say "sweet baby Jesus and Alex Calvo-Garcia" to curse? I realised the other day their birthdays are exactly a week apart. They're both Capricorns
January 18, 2026 at 5:45 PM
You remember how I used to say "sweet baby Jesus and Alex Calvo-Garcia" to curse? I realised the other day their birthdays are exactly a week apart. They're both Capricorns
Some people are just stressed and knee jerking wildly. Some are doing this deliberately in bad faith. I only wish I could tell them apart
probably my single least favorite thing about posting here; you can say, explicitly, “I am not endorsing this, I think it’s bad, I’m just explaining how it works” and you will get attacked for endorsing it anyway
this site seems to genuinely have an issue with viewing explanation as a form of endorsement
January 17, 2026 at 9:01 PM
Some people are just stressed and knee jerking wildly. Some are doing this deliberately in bad faith. I only wish I could tell them apart
If you are a heterosexual man who likes having his dick sucked, shaming women who suck dick is really fucking stupid. That so many men do it all the same proves that patriarchy is not based on anything resembling logic
January 17, 2026 at 8:34 PM
If you are a heterosexual man who likes having his dick sucked, shaming women who suck dick is really fucking stupid. That so many men do it all the same proves that patriarchy is not based on anything resembling logic
I keep thinking about how transphobes say "trans people" should have their own spaces. Have they forgotten that trans people come in two birth assignments? Or have we all forfeited that single sex dignity they're always yammering on about?
January 17, 2026 at 9:46 AM
I keep thinking about how transphobes say "trans people" should have their own spaces. Have they forgotten that trans people come in two birth assignments? Or have we all forfeited that single sex dignity they're always yammering on about?
Leeds station is full of people in claret and gold scarves. For a minute I thought they were Read Another Book fans but Iooked more carefully and realised they're Bradford City fans
January 17, 2026 at 9:39 AM
Leeds station is full of people in claret and gold scarves. For a minute I thought they were Read Another Book fans but Iooked more carefully and realised they're Bradford City fans
I was thinking on the way home about how 15 or so years ago, there were ridiculous bureaucratic barriers to doing things like communicating with the DWP or getting a criminal record check because being trans was treated like being a secret agent or some shit
January 16, 2026 at 9:19 PM
I was thinking on the way home about how 15 or so years ago, there were ridiculous bureaucratic barriers to doing things like communicating with the DWP or getting a criminal record check because being trans was treated like being a secret agent or some shit
Everything is terrible but I made Celebrations truffles
January 16, 2026 at 5:21 PM
Everything is terrible but I made Celebrations truffles
Those threads that are just screenshots from tumblr or wherever are kind of cool but what would really elevate them for me is a little bit of text to say why you like that particular screenshot
January 16, 2026 at 12:01 PM
Those threads that are just screenshots from tumblr or wherever are kind of cool but what would really elevate them for me is a little bit of text to say why you like that particular screenshot
I am going to present Trump with my third place from the under 8s Egg and Spoon race
I am going to present Trump with my 20 yards swimming certificate.
January 16, 2026 at 11:34 AM
I am going to present Trump with my third place from the under 8s Egg and Spoon race
Things in the US have got so bad that even my incredibly low information fellow volunteers have an opinion on it
FV: he's not allowed another term, is he?
Me: depends if enough of his friends on the Supreme Court say he is...
FV: he's not allowed another term, is he?
Me: depends if enough of his friends on the Supreme Court say he is...
January 15, 2026 at 6:51 PM
Things in the US have got so bad that even my incredibly low information fellow volunteers have an opinion on it
FV: he's not allowed another term, is he?
Me: depends if enough of his friends on the Supreme Court say he is...
FV: he's not allowed another term, is he?
Me: depends if enough of his friends on the Supreme Court say he is...
If you see this, we IMPLORE YOU to post a picture from whatever device you’re using without explanation.
January 15, 2026 at 9:14 AM
If you see this, we IMPLORE YOU to post a picture from whatever device you’re using without explanation.
2026 is up and running
Dicks: 1
Scunthorpe goals: 3
Scunthorpe points: none, BUT progress in the FA Trophy
Dicks: 1
Scunthorpe goals: 3
Scunthorpe points: none, BUT progress in the FA Trophy
January 13, 2026 at 10:35 PM
2026 is up and running
Dicks: 1
Scunthorpe goals: 3
Scunthorpe points: none, BUT progress in the FA Trophy
Dicks: 1
Scunthorpe goals: 3
Scunthorpe points: none, BUT progress in the FA Trophy
*post about a trans girl standing up for her rights and the rights of other trans girls*
Darius: I shall read the replies, which will surely be 100% trans supportive and not in any way fill me with rage and despair
Darius: I shall read the replies, which will surely be 100% trans supportive and not in any way fill me with rage and despair
January 13, 2026 at 3:53 PM
*post about a trans girl standing up for her rights and the rights of other trans girls*
Darius: I shall read the replies, which will surely be 100% trans supportive and not in any way fill me with rage and despair
Darius: I shall read the replies, which will surely be 100% trans supportive and not in any way fill me with rage and despair
"If everyone you meet is an arsehole, you may be the arsehole" I mean you may. Or you may just be identifiably trans or mentally ill, that will also do it
January 12, 2026 at 1:48 PM
"If everyone you meet is an arsehole, you may be the arsehole" I mean you may. Or you may just be identifiably trans or mentally ill, that will also do it
Apparently if I read @naomikritzer.bsky.social short stories just before falling asleep, my brain creates a new and infinitely more confusing ending for them while I sleep
January 12, 2026 at 12:45 PM
Apparently if I read @naomikritzer.bsky.social short stories just before falling asleep, my brain creates a new and infinitely more confusing ending for them while I sleep
"I used to be against eugenics but Nazis shouldn't be allowed to breed" if this is a joke it's a shit one. If you're serious you're a shit person
January 12, 2026 at 3:18 AM
"I used to be against eugenics but Nazis shouldn't be allowed to breed" if this is a joke it's a shit one. If you're serious you're a shit person
Overtraining at the gym, partly in the hope it makes me look more manly but mostly just so I can feel something
January 11, 2026 at 3:20 PM
Overtraining at the gym, partly in the hope it makes me look more manly but mostly just so I can feel something