Graham Johnston
@gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social
Therapist, author and podcaster. School governor. NCFC fan.
Interested in the science of mental health; how/why therapy works; the science of good relationships.
grahamjohnston.uk
amazon.co.uk/dp/1915220335
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Interested in the science of mental health; how/why therapy works; the science of good relationships.
grahamjohnston.uk
amazon.co.uk/dp/1915220335
rss.com/podcasts/crazyinlove
Reposted by Graham Johnston
My local town football team. It was mostly away games the following season. "some corner of a foreign field"
November 9, 2025 at 10:59 AM
My local town football team. It was mostly away games the following season. "some corner of a foreign field"
The three hour night.
One hour for chores. One hour with your partner. One hour of "self-care" (whatever that means; I'm not a fan of the term).
Could it save your struggling relationship?
Find out in the latest episode of Crazy In Love!
Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko on Pexels.
One hour for chores. One hour with your partner. One hour of "self-care" (whatever that means; I'm not a fan of the term).
Could it save your struggling relationship?
Find out in the latest episode of Crazy In Love!
Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko on Pexels.
November 1, 2025 at 11:29 AM
The three hour night.
One hour for chores. One hour with your partner. One hour of "self-care" (whatever that means; I'm not a fan of the term).
Could it save your struggling relationship?
Find out in the latest episode of Crazy In Love!
Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko on Pexels.
One hour for chores. One hour with your partner. One hour of "self-care" (whatever that means; I'm not a fan of the term).
Could it save your struggling relationship?
Find out in the latest episode of Crazy In Love!
Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko on Pexels.
Reposted by Graham Johnston
I spoke with BACP for this piece on sleep anxiety and the clocks changing. As a light sleeper myself, let’s just say I have a personal interest in the subject!
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
News from BACP | Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
www.bacp.co.uk
October 30, 2025 at 9:58 AM
I spoke with BACP for this piece on sleep anxiety and the clocks changing. As a light sleeper myself, let’s just say I have a personal interest in the subject!
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
I spoke with BACP for this piece on sleep anxiety and the clocks changing. As a light sleeper myself, let’s just say I have a personal interest in the subject!
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
News from BACP | Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
www.bacp.co.uk
October 30, 2025 at 9:58 AM
I spoke with BACP for this piece on sleep anxiety and the clocks changing. As a light sleeper myself, let’s just say I have a personal interest in the subject!
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
Main take aways from the Attanasio Q&A. He should be taking advice from those outside the club given his lack of football knowledge. But his ability to acknowledge mistakes (a number of them), to see that chopping and changing is not the answer, makes me confident in the long term picture. #ncfc
October 29, 2025 at 6:58 PM
Main take aways from the Attanasio Q&A. He should be taking advice from those outside the club given his lack of football knowledge. But his ability to acknowledge mistakes (a number of them), to see that chopping and changing is not the answer, makes me confident in the long term picture. #ncfc
The Importance of Managing Romantic Expectations | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-...
The Importance of Managing Romantic Expectations
The switch from love and companionship to mutual growth has raised the bar to unrealistically high levels. Here's how to re-evaluate your expectations.
www.psychologytoday.com
October 15, 2025 at 1:58 PM
The Importance of Managing Romantic Expectations | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-...
***New episode of Crazy In Love is up***
We continue our short series on neurodiversity and relationships by exploring autism.
tinyurl.com/4mzzd3k4
Photo by Polina at Pexels.com.
We continue our short series on neurodiversity and relationships by exploring autism.
tinyurl.com/4mzzd3k4
Photo by Polina at Pexels.com.
October 13, 2025 at 3:13 PM
***New episode of Crazy In Love is up***
We continue our short series on neurodiversity and relationships by exploring autism.
tinyurl.com/4mzzd3k4
Photo by Polina at Pexels.com.
We continue our short series on neurodiversity and relationships by exploring autism.
tinyurl.com/4mzzd3k4
Photo by Polina at Pexels.com.
Reposted by Graham Johnston
i looked at the methodology for this and it is
a. sex addiction counseling group in texas did a surveymonkey and extrapolated the results to the entire us population which is the sort of research design that earns you an ff on an intro methods class (the extra f is for extra effort), and
b. p-hacked
a. sex addiction counseling group in texas did a surveymonkey and extrapolated the results to the entire us population which is the sort of research design that earns you an ff on an intro methods class (the extra f is for extra effort), and
b. p-hacked
Nearly a third of Americans have had a ‘romantic relationship’ with an AI bot, new survey says
1 in 3 Americans have had a ‘romantic relationship’ with an AI bot, new survey says
www.independent.co.uk
October 3, 2025 at 2:15 AM
i looked at the methodology for this and it is
a. sex addiction counseling group in texas did a surveymonkey and extrapolated the results to the entire us population which is the sort of research design that earns you an ff on an intro methods class (the extra f is for extra effort), and
b. p-hacked
a. sex addiction counseling group in texas did a surveymonkey and extrapolated the results to the entire us population which is the sort of research design that earns you an ff on an intro methods class (the extra f is for extra effort), and
b. p-hacked
Some lunchtime listening.
***ADHD and Relationships***
The new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social is the first in a short series on neurodiversity and relationships, with this episode focusing on ADHD.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/n...
Photo by Tara Winstead on Pexels.
The new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social is the first in a short series on neurodiversity and relationships, with this episode focusing on ADHD.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/n...
Photo by Tara Winstead on Pexels.
October 1, 2025 at 10:59 AM
Some lunchtime listening.
***ADHD and Relationships***
The new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social is the first in a short series on neurodiversity and relationships, with this episode focusing on ADHD.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/n...
Photo by Tara Winstead on Pexels.
The new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social is the first in a short series on neurodiversity and relationships, with this episode focusing on ADHD.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/n...
Photo by Tara Winstead on Pexels.
September 30, 2025 at 1:03 PM
***ADHD and Relationships***
The new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social is the first in a short series on neurodiversity and relationships, with this episode focusing on ADHD.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/n...
Photo by Tara Winstead on Pexels.
The new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social is the first in a short series on neurodiversity and relationships, with this episode focusing on ADHD.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/n...
Photo by Tara Winstead on Pexels.
*NEW POD EPISODE*
Can marginal gains lead to big improvements in your relationship?
Calories in, calories out. Harm reduction in substance abuse. All very sensible: but can modest, realistic interventions drive genuine transformation in your relationship?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/t...
Can marginal gains lead to big improvements in your relationship?
Calories in, calories out. Harm reduction in substance abuse. All very sensible: but can modest, realistic interventions drive genuine transformation in your relationship?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/t...
September 16, 2025 at 2:03 PM
*NEW POD EPISODE*
Can marginal gains lead to big improvements in your relationship?
Calories in, calories out. Harm reduction in substance abuse. All very sensible: but can modest, realistic interventions drive genuine transformation in your relationship?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/t...
Can marginal gains lead to big improvements in your relationship?
Calories in, calories out. Harm reduction in substance abuse. All very sensible: but can modest, realistic interventions drive genuine transformation in your relationship?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/t...
Penalties are ludicrous. An almost certain goal for a minor foul, in most cases.
There should be a game clock of 35 minutes that stops for fouls and throw ins.
The offside rule is pretty pointless at the top end of the game. We should trial scrapping it.
CDMs are underrated and Gods among men.
There should be a game clock of 35 minutes that stops for fouls and throw ins.
The offside rule is pretty pointless at the top end of the game. We should trial scrapping it.
CDMs are underrated and Gods among men.
Everybody should absolutely view this as an invitation to drop your spiciest soccer takes.
lol I’m gonna need bluesky’s biggest soccer post ever to balance out all the politics engagement im burying myself under.
September 11, 2025 at 9:47 PM
Penalties are ludicrous. An almost certain goal for a minor foul, in most cases.
There should be a game clock of 35 minutes that stops for fouls and throw ins.
The offside rule is pretty pointless at the top end of the game. We should trial scrapping it.
CDMs are underrated and Gods among men.
There should be a game clock of 35 minutes that stops for fouls and throw ins.
The offside rule is pretty pointless at the top end of the game. We should trial scrapping it.
CDMs are underrated and Gods among men.
Correlation does not equal causation, part 21346725.
"Sweeteners can harm cognitive health equivalent to 1.6 years of ageing, study finds"
Or does it? Let's take a look at this "study"...
www.theguardian.com/food/2025/se...
Or does it? Let's take a look at this "study"...
www.theguardian.com/food/2025/se...
Sweeteners can harm cognitive health equivalent to 1.6 years of ageing, study finds
Researchers say low- and no-calorie sweeteners appear to affect thinking and memory in middle age
www.theguardian.com
September 10, 2025 at 7:40 PM
Correlation does not equal causation, part 21346725.
Loved this episode of Plain English with @dkthomp.bsky.social. Suzanne O’Sullivan is such a sane, compassionate and helpful voice in the field of medicine and mental health.
pca.st/episode/5972...
pca.st/episode/5972...
America in the Age of Diagnosis
pca.st
September 9, 2025 at 11:37 AM
Loved this episode of Plain English with @dkthomp.bsky.social. Suzanne O’Sullivan is such a sane, compassionate and helpful voice in the field of medicine and mental health.
pca.st/episode/5972...
pca.st/episode/5972...
Reposted by Graham Johnston
***NEW PODCAST EPISODE***
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
September 4, 2025 at 10:18 AM
***NEW PODCAST EPISODE***
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
***NEW PODCAST EPISODE***
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
September 4, 2025 at 10:18 AM
***NEW PODCAST EPISODE***
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should be someone we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
Reposted by Graham Johnston
Self-care is overrated—helping others has the biggest benefits for everyone involved
A new 2-week intervention finds that helping others improves well-being more than "self-kindness", with benefits for depressed mood, anxiety, and loneliness due to social connection psycnet.apa.org/record/2026-...
A new 2-week intervention finds that helping others improves well-being more than "self-kindness", with benefits for depressed mood, anxiety, and loneliness due to social connection psycnet.apa.org/record/2026-...
September 3, 2025 at 2:23 PM
Self-care is overrated—helping others has the biggest benefits for everyone involved
A new 2-week intervention finds that helping others improves well-being more than "self-kindness", with benefits for depressed mood, anxiety, and loneliness due to social connection psycnet.apa.org/record/2026-...
A new 2-week intervention finds that helping others improves well-being more than "self-kindness", with benefits for depressed mood, anxiety, and loneliness due to social connection psycnet.apa.org/record/2026-...
***NEW POD EPISODE***
Big "T" trauma. Little "t" trauma. The likes of Gabor Maté and Bessel Van Der Kolk have brought the understanding of trauma far beyond the field of mental health and into everyday life.
But what actually is trauma?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
Big "T" trauma. Little "t" trauma. The likes of Gabor Maté and Bessel Van Der Kolk have brought the understanding of trauma far beyond the field of mental health and into everyday life.
But what actually is trauma?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
Crazy in Love
Mental Health Podcast · Updated fortnightly · A Relationships Podcast hosted by therapists Matt Wotton and Graham Johnston
Contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com
Podcast theme music by Transisto...
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August 23, 2025 at 11:56 AM
***NEW POD EPISODE***
Big "T" trauma. Little "t" trauma. The likes of Gabor Maté and Bessel Van Der Kolk have brought the understanding of trauma far beyond the field of mental health and into everyday life.
But what actually is trauma?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
Big "T" trauma. Little "t" trauma. The likes of Gabor Maté and Bessel Van Der Kolk have brought the understanding of trauma far beyond the field of mental health and into everyday life.
But what actually is trauma?
podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/c...
I'm in today's Metro on "four words that will instantly annoy your partner".
It's annoying to be faced with indecision when you know, deep down, your partner wants something but doesn't want to bear the responsibility of stating an opinion or making a decision.
metro.co.uk/2025/08/20/f...
It's annoying to be faced with indecision when you know, deep down, your partner wants something but doesn't want to bear the responsibility of stating an opinion or making a decision.
metro.co.uk/2025/08/20/f...
Four words that'll instantly annoy your partner — no matter how well-intentioned
It's not as helpful as you think it is...
metro.co.uk
August 20, 2025 at 3:31 PM
I'm in today's Metro on "four words that will instantly annoy your partner".
It's annoying to be faced with indecision when you know, deep down, your partner wants something but doesn't want to bear the responsibility of stating an opinion or making a decision.
metro.co.uk/2025/08/20/f...
It's annoying to be faced with indecision when you know, deep down, your partner wants something but doesn't want to bear the responsibility of stating an opinion or making a decision.
metro.co.uk/2025/08/20/f...
Reposted by Graham Johnston
Relationships aren't fragile. They need healthy stress to make them strong.
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
August 11, 2025 at 9:39 AM
Relationships aren't fragile. They need healthy stress to make them strong.
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
Relationships aren't fragile. They need healthy stress to make them strong.
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
August 11, 2025 at 9:39 AM
Relationships aren't fragile. They need healthy stress to make them strong.
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
In the new episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social, we explore how the language of safe spaces has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships.
Links below ⬇️⬇️⬇️
Photo by Vera Arsic | Pexels
Why Empathy in Relationships Is Overrated | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-...
Why Empathy in Relationships Is Overrated
Empathy helps you hear a partner, but it doesn’t tell you what to do with what you’ve heard. There's a better way to build on empathy in a relationship.
www.psychologytoday.com
August 6, 2025 at 4:05 PM
Why Empathy in Relationships Is Overrated | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-...
Is empathy massively over-rated as a virtue in relationships and therapy?
In the latest episode of Crazy in Love, we explore the work of psychologist Paul Bloom, who argues that empathy makes us over-value in-groups, and prefer people who look like us and act like us.
📷 Melvin Matute via Pexels.
In the latest episode of Crazy in Love, we explore the work of psychologist Paul Bloom, who argues that empathy makes us over-value in-groups, and prefer people who look like us and act like us.
📷 Melvin Matute via Pexels.
August 1, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Is empathy massively over-rated as a virtue in relationships and therapy?
In the latest episode of Crazy in Love, we explore the work of psychologist Paul Bloom, who argues that empathy makes us over-value in-groups, and prefer people who look like us and act like us.
📷 Melvin Matute via Pexels.
In the latest episode of Crazy in Love, we explore the work of psychologist Paul Bloom, who argues that empathy makes us over-value in-groups, and prefer people who look like us and act like us.
📷 Melvin Matute via Pexels.
The Leftovers, Six Feet Under.
Take away all the GOAT candidates: The Wire, Sopranos, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, and Lost.
What’s the best show outside of that group?
What’s the best show outside of that group?
August 1, 2025 at 7:27 AM
The Leftovers, Six Feet Under.
A penalty competition. @footballramble.bsky.social
July 17, 2025 at 9:37 PM
A penalty competition. @footballramble.bsky.social