David J. Ley Ph.D.
@davidleyphd.bsky.social
Shrink, author, sex and psychology expert witness. Black belt in BJJ, Burner, beer and bourbon enthusiast. Oh. And Dad jokes. Sorry.
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I’m going to start offering “quantum psychology services.” Patient comes to my office & there’s a box. Maybe I’m in the box. Maybe not. An hour later they leave. Do they get better? Only if they resist urge to look in the box. - Dr. Schrödinger, Registered quantum psychotherapist
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Absolutely amazing balloon fiesta day!! Made the full NM experience complete with a close call with a western diamondback rattlesnake during balloon retrieval. 🐍😬 @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
October 5, 2025 at 7:04 PM
Absolutely amazing balloon fiesta day!! Made the full NM experience complete with a close call with a western diamondback rattlesnake during balloon retrieval. 🐍😬 @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
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Fridays are also for balloons! Besos Amigos flight with @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
Missed you @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
Missed you @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
July 4, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Fridays are also for balloons! Besos Amigos flight with @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
Missed you @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
Missed you @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
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If you want a balanced and evidence-based perspective on sex and porn use, follow @silvaneves.bsky.social @nicolerprause.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
"This idea — that porn is now hurting men at a significant scale — has been embraced by a variety of right-leaning and anti-woke influencers who have helped push the anti-porn movement beyond conservative circles."
We should talk about this more.
We should talk about this more.
The idea that War on Porn will only have positive outcomes! That it will only target "bad" stuff, that it doesn't require broad digital surveillance, or suppression of sexuality, or that it won't be turned against marginalized people.
The same absolute hubris of these people.
The same absolute hubris of these people.
June 23, 2025 at 7:19 PM
If you want a balanced and evidence-based perspective on sex and porn use, follow @silvaneves.bsky.social @nicolerprause.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
Who had June 5 in the bet on what day Trump and Musk would turn on each other? I know I didn’t. I’d predicted March 3.
June 6, 2025 at 1:16 AM
Who had June 5 in the bet on what day Trump and Musk would turn on each other? I know I didn’t. I’d predicted March 3.
Hearing that Jobcorps is being defunded across the country, given a week to close?
June 4, 2025 at 7:19 PM
Hearing that Jobcorps is being defunded across the country, given a week to close?
Super thrilled to help author this paper exploring the intersections between modern politics, sexual health, and ethics in psychology. Was honored to support a crew of extraordinary scholars and clinicians.
Really proud of this paper and so grateful for the amazing team that wrote it! We discuss principles and guidelines for navigating clinical practice, research, and advocacy in the post-Dobbs sexual and reproductive health landscape for behavioral health disciplines.
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May 22, 2025 at 3:38 AM
Super thrilled to help author this paper exploring the intersections between modern politics, sexual health, and ethics in psychology. Was honored to support a crew of extraordinary scholars and clinicians.
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Shout out to coauthors: @tabachnickar.bsky.social @cassie-boness.bsky.social @stef-l-sequeira.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
Plus many who aren’t on Bluesky
Let us know what you think and how you are grappling with this in your work!
Plus many who aren’t on Bluesky
Let us know what you think and how you are grappling with this in your work!
May 21, 2025 at 7:00 PM
Shout out to coauthors: @tabachnickar.bsky.social @cassie-boness.bsky.social @stef-l-sequeira.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
Plus many who aren’t on Bluesky
Let us know what you think and how you are grappling with this in your work!
Plus many who aren’t on Bluesky
Let us know what you think and how you are grappling with this in your work!
I randomly emailed an author of a paper on sexual regret, looking for a PDF. (Don’t know him, just found his email) No lie, he had just this morning been on my own website looking for info on me after reading one of my papers. He initially thought my email was some kind of auto spam. Small world.
May 16, 2025 at 10:43 PM
I randomly emailed an author of a paper on sexual regret, looking for a PDF. (Don’t know him, just found his email) No lie, he had just this morning been on my own website looking for info on me after reading one of my papers. He initially thought my email was some kind of auto spam. Small world.
Feeling this pretty hard. Like, rigid, granite, in your face level of over exaggerated expression.
Because I looked up "from whence", discovered another great word: pleonasm dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/e...
pleonasm
1. the use of more words than are needed to express a meaning, done either…
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May 14, 2025 at 1:57 AM
Feeling this pretty hard. Like, rigid, granite, in your face level of over exaggerated expression.
folks who believe in sex addiction see it as external to the person, separate from who they are, acting "like a drug" on a person, and not entwined with or reflective of who the person is. they really do believe these people are victims and at the control of their sexuality.
May 13, 2025 at 7:42 PM
folks who believe in sex addiction see it as external to the person, separate from who they are, acting "like a drug" on a person, and not entwined with or reflective of who the person is. they really do believe these people are victims and at the control of their sexuality.
Seems like accepting a plane from a foreign country with known Russian ties and using the plane to transport the President might have some security concerns. Surely the plane might not be wired for monitoring or have secret killswitch?
May 11, 2025 at 11:48 PM
Seems like accepting a plane from a foreign country with known Russian ties and using the plane to transport the President might have some security concerns. Surely the plane might not be wired for monitoring or have secret killswitch?
Some rando sent me a ChatGPT “analysis” of one of my articles. Was rather reassuring how inaccurate it was. Apparently ChatGPT believes “porn hijack’s dopamine systems”?
May 7, 2025 at 3:57 PM
Some rando sent me a ChatGPT “analysis” of one of my articles. Was rather reassuring how inaccurate it was. Apparently ChatGPT believes “porn hijack’s dopamine systems”?
Traveling always inflames my sciatica. Yikes. Is there an airline where I could fly inverted? Or doing yoga?
May 7, 2025 at 2:32 AM
Traveling always inflames my sciatica. Yikes. Is there an airline where I could fly inverted? Or doing yoga?
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also you all need to see this, because this is something I don't think *anybody* could predict for where this ad goes
May 6, 2025 at 1:17 PM
also you all need to see this, because this is something I don't think *anybody* could predict for where this ad goes
Semen is not a magic fluid that gives you superpowers when retained. Can’t believe this still needs to be said. No, Abstinence Won't Increase Your Testosterone. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
No, Abstinence Won't Increase Your Testosterone
Claims that testosterone is increased by abstinence are based on rather poor science, and seem unlikely to be accurate.
www.psychologytoday.com
May 6, 2025 at 3:37 PM
Semen is not a magic fluid that gives you superpowers when retained. Can’t believe this still needs to be said. No, Abstinence Won't Increase Your Testosterone. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
Utah psychologist, BYU grad, affiliated with LDS Church, author of a workbook on treating porn addiction gets caught with what? (Drumroll) yes. Child sex abuse material. And charged with exploitation of children he treated. (Not a drag queen, btw). floodlit.org/a/a837/
Robert Virgil Dindinger Mormon sex abuse case
floodlit.org
April 26, 2025 at 2:07 AM
Utah psychologist, BYU grad, affiliated with LDS Church, author of a workbook on treating porn addiction gets caught with what? (Drumroll) yes. Child sex abuse material. And charged with exploitation of children he treated. (Not a drag queen, btw). floodlit.org/a/a837/
Are AI generated romantic partners good or bad for us? I think it depends. But 1 in 4 young adults have used them. We have to start wrestling with this, like it or not! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
AI Romantic and Sexual Partners — More Common Than You Think
Many young people are using AI for sex and romantic purposes, and some report they find it more appealing and comfortable than dealing with real people.
www.psychologytoday.com
April 18, 2025 at 7:51 PM
Are AI generated romantic partners good or bad for us? I think it depends. But 1 in 4 young adults have used them. We have to start wrestling with this, like it or not! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
Every time someone says “COVID was a fake/fraud/panic,” I say “you took John Prine away motherfucker!” Then, well, I can’t say anything else according to my attorney. See. I can listen.
April 18, 2025 at 2:25 AM
Every time someone says “COVID was a fake/fraud/panic,” I say “you took John Prine away motherfucker!” Then, well, I can’t say anything else according to my attorney. See. I can listen.
Years ago I explored writing a book with a woman who was a former Mormon polygamist sister wife. She’d entered polygamous marriage in order to be with another woman, whom she was in love with. As a lesbian, she embraced polygamy as a means to be with her female lover. Fascinating story…
April 16, 2025 at 1:47 AM
Years ago I explored writing a book with a woman who was a former Mormon polygamist sister wife. She’d entered polygamous marriage in order to be with another woman, whom she was in love with. As a lesbian, she embraced polygamy as a means to be with her female lover. Fascinating story…
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The idea of porn addiction should be abandoned, argues @davidleyphd.bsky.social—according to a meta-analysis, it is not the frequency of pornography use that predicts problems with porn, but religiosity and the associated moral incongruence leading to guilt and shame:
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April 13, 2025 at 6:53 AM
The idea of porn addiction should be abandoned, argues @davidleyphd.bsky.social—according to a meta-analysis, it is not the frequency of pornography use that predicts problems with porn, but religiosity and the associated moral incongruence leading to guilt and shame:
buff.ly/DFbcjUH
buff.ly/DFbcjUH
This is one of the most fun trainings I get to do. Why are group play, orgies, threesomes and cuckolding such popular fantasies? We explore every nook and cranny! ;-)
April 13, 2025 at 6:11 PM
This is one of the most fun trainings I get to do. Why are group play, orgies, threesomes and cuckolding such popular fantasies? We explore every nook and cranny! ;-)
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After one of the most stressful weeks of my career. Thankful to inflate with the Besos Amigos crew today. Saturdays are for balloons. @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
April 12, 2025 at 11:07 PM
After one of the most stressful weeks of my career. Thankful to inflate with the Besos Amigos crew today. Saturdays are for balloons. @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
Wonder why i despise the proliferation and blurring ofbthe concept of addiction? Heres a good example. I call this “Valley Girl Science.” Just because using bassl spray may be “like” substance use doesn’t mean it’s an addiction. pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC...
Does nose spray addiction exist? A qualitative analysis of addiction components in rhinitis medicamentosa
Nasal congestion is a prevalent symptom often alleviated with over-the-counter nasal sprays containing decongestants. Rhinitis medicamentosa (RM), caused by the overuse of decongestants leading to rec...
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
April 11, 2025 at 3:13 PM
Wonder why i despise the proliferation and blurring ofbthe concept of addiction? Heres a good example. I call this “Valley Girl Science.” Just because using bassl spray may be “like” substance use doesn’t mean it’s an addiction. pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC...
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I've been slamming "sex addiction" since early 2011; by November of that year @davidleyphd.bsky.social was calling it "hype" after Newsweek published a cover story on it. maggiemcneill.com/2011/12/04/n...
Duggar's case didn't start blowing up until summer of '15. maggiemcneill.com/2015/09/02/i...
Duggar's case didn't start blowing up until summer of '15. maggiemcneill.com/2015/09/02/i...
Neither Addiction nor Epidemic
Thought is an infection. In the case of certain thoughts, it becomes an epidemic. – Wallace Stevens Back in February I published “Not an Addiction”, in which I criticized the popular confus…
maggiemcneill.com
April 9, 2025 at 4:08 AM
I've been slamming "sex addiction" since early 2011; by November of that year @davidleyphd.bsky.social was calling it "hype" after Newsweek published a cover story on it. maggiemcneill.com/2011/12/04/n...
Duggar's case didn't start blowing up until summer of '15. maggiemcneill.com/2015/09/02/i...
Duggar's case didn't start blowing up until summer of '15. maggiemcneill.com/2015/09/02/i...
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"porn addiction isn't real" finally has scientific proof in a meta study because it finds the root cause - religious upbringing. And this was conducted by people who *went in thinking the addiction was real*! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
Science Stopped Believing in Porn Addiction. You Should, Too
Research finds that porn-related problems are predominantly caused by religious conflict. Clinically, this means people need help, but not necessarily with the porn.
www.psychologytoday.com
April 5, 2025 at 7:17 PM
"porn addiction isn't real" finally has scientific proof in a meta study because it finds the root cause - religious upbringing. And this was conducted by people who *went in thinking the addiction was real*! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...