Maria H.
@coolauntie.bsky.social
Medical research & science communicator. Cranky, middle-aged gal who's never been to Paris. This is a compassion-filled, nuclear-free zone. I will not tolerate intolerance. And how's your first Fascist coup going?
I’m the midst of thing most ungracious, let’s hear from @etiquetteer.bsky.social about all things gracious!
Today Etiquetteer has a few thoughts on #graciousliving, and how it differs from elegant living. (They are not mutually exclusive.)
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#etiquette #manners #courtesy #kindness
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#etiquette #manners #courtesy #kindness
Thoughts on Gracious Living, Vol. 25, Issue 8 — Etiquetteer
Etiquetteer first heard the term “gracious living” in Judith Martin’s wise, stern, but lighthearted Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior ; it turns out Mrs. Martin’s major at Welles...
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February 15, 2026 at 10:40 PM
I’m the midst of thing most ungracious, let’s hear from @etiquetteer.bsky.social about all things gracious!
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Valentine's Day.
From ten years ago, how to deflect an unwanted marriage proposal:
vimeo.com/155140636
#etiquette #manners
From ten years ago, how to deflect an unwanted marriage proposal:
vimeo.com/155140636
#etiquette #manners
How to React to an Unwanted Marriage Proposal in Public
Etiquetteer offers some advice on how to react when receiving an unwanted marriage proposal in a public place, such as a restaurant, stadium, or concert hall. A…
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February 14, 2026 at 1:59 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Valentine's Day.
From ten years ago, how to deflect an unwanted marriage proposal:
vimeo.com/155140636
#etiquette #manners
From ten years ago, how to deflect an unwanted marriage proposal:
vimeo.com/155140636
#etiquette #manners
Miller is evil. I’m not sure what twisted him, but he’s truly evil.
January 24, 2026 at 11:36 PM
Miller is evil. I’m not sure what twisted him, but he’s truly evil.
Alex Pretti was “one of us”—a VA nurse who started in research.
And now, he’s been murdered at the hands of this horrible, authoritarian regime.
And now, he’s been murdered at the hands of this horrible, authoritarian regime.
January 24, 2026 at 11:28 PM
Alex Pretti was “one of us”—a VA nurse who started in research.
And now, he’s been murdered at the hands of this horrible, authoritarian regime.
And now, he’s been murdered at the hands of this horrible, authoritarian regime.
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Agreed!!
I don’t know who this Minnesota man is, but he absolutely speaks for me.
January 16, 2026 at 4:01 AM
Agreed!!
This is a fantastic piece and well worth the read.
"The Grift Bubble: A Political Theory of American Collapse"
"Those who work against the grifters... may be acting from love, or from law, because they know that these things are real. And so they should also know, in acting thus, that they are the patriots."
snyder.substack.com/p/the-grift-...
"Those who work against the grifters... may be acting from love, or from law, because they know that these things are real. And so they should also know, in acting thus, that they are the patriots."
snyder.substack.com/p/the-grift-...
The Grift Bubble
A Political Theory of American Collapse
snyder.substack.com
November 16, 2025 at 10:53 PM
This is a fantastic piece and well worth the read.
What the actual f*ck is going on at the Times?
The single largest protest in American history and they run a below-the-fold box with a jump to the end of the A section???
The single largest protest in American history and they run a below-the-fold box with a jump to the end of the A section???
Those with sharp eyes might detect a subtle difference in NYT play last month of an event in one city, w 100,000+ attendees, versus play this morning of some 2500+ events w many millions of attendees, in all 50 states.
See if you can spot it! /s
Then you can find today's story on p A23
See if you can spot it! /s
Then you can find today's story on p A23
October 19, 2025 at 2:40 PM
What the actual f*ck is going on at the Times?
The single largest protest in American history and they run a below-the-fold box with a jump to the end of the A section???
The single largest protest in American history and they run a below-the-fold box with a jump to the end of the A section???
Let’s do our best to saturate the internet with this news. These people ought to be ashamed of themselves, but that would require compassion and a functioning moral compass.
www.politico.com/news/2025/10...
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‘I love Hitler’: Leaked messages expose Young Republicans’ racist chat
Thousands of private messages reveal young GOP leaders joking about gas chambers, slavery and rape.
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October 15, 2025 at 3:12 PM
Let’s do our best to saturate the internet with this news. These people ought to be ashamed of themselves, but that would require compassion and a functioning moral compass.
www.politico.com/news/2025/10...
www.politico.com/news/2025/10...
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No Kings. October 18th. Free speech is action. Please join in.
www.nokings.org
www.nokings.org
No Kings
As the president escalates his authoritarian power grab, the NO KINGS non-violent movement continues to rise stronger. We are united once again to remind the world: America has No Kings and the power ...
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October 9, 2025 at 12:29 PM
No Kings. October 18th. Free speech is action. Please join in.
www.nokings.org
www.nokings.org
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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalreadabookday. And what could be more Perfectly Proper than to return to the Pure Milk of the Word, Emily Post's 1922 edition of Etiquette?
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
September 6, 2025 at 9:27 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalreadabookday. And what could be more Perfectly Proper than to return to the Pure Milk of the Word, Emily Post's 1922 edition of Etiquette?
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
What are YOU reading?
#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday
My First Day of School
What did you learn today, honey?
I learned how to hide.
I learned how to be quiet.
I learned I am not safe.
I learned how to grieve.
I learned fear.
I learned no one wants to protect me.
I learned that adults play pretend, too.
I learned what murder means.
What did you learn today, honey?
I learned how to hide.
I learned how to be quiet.
I learned I am not safe.
I learned how to grieve.
I learned fear.
I learned no one wants to protect me.
I learned that adults play pretend, too.
I learned what murder means.
August 27, 2025 at 11:31 PM
My First Day of School
What did you learn today, honey?
I learned how to hide.
I learned how to be quiet.
I learned I am not safe.
I learned how to grieve.
I learned fear.
I learned no one wants to protect me.
I learned that adults play pretend, too.
I learned what murder means.
What did you learn today, honey?
I learned how to hide.
I learned how to be quiet.
I learned I am not safe.
I learned how to grieve.
I learned fear.
I learned no one wants to protect me.
I learned that adults play pretend, too.
I learned what murder means.
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I will be most interested to learn what you think of The Glitter and the Gold!
August 10, 2025 at 1:36 PM
I will be most interested to learn what you think of The Glitter and the Gold!
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There is a destruction of leadership at the CDC. The newly confirmed Director is out
Most of the top leaders who run key centers have resigned en masse
Wholesale implosion
All because of @SecKennedy leadership
What a disaster
Most of the top leaders who run key centers have resigned en masse
Wholesale implosion
All because of @SecKennedy leadership
What a disaster
August 27, 2025 at 10:53 PM
There is a destruction of leadership at the CDC. The newly confirmed Director is out
Most of the top leaders who run key centers have resigned en masse
Wholesale implosion
All because of @SecKennedy leadership
What a disaster
Most of the top leaders who run key centers have resigned en masse
Wholesale implosion
All because of @SecKennedy leadership
What a disaster
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Yup. Just another day in our autocracy. Pinochet would be proud.
Federal agents violently detained a food delivery driver as he emerged from a D.C. coffee shop Saturday morning.
The incident captured on video showed the officers throwing him to the ground and beating him before sweeping him away in an unmarked vehicle. wapo.st/45Egtkc
The incident captured on video showed the officers throwing him to the ground and beating him before sweeping him away in an unmarked vehicle. wapo.st/45Egtkc
August 18, 2025 at 2:58 AM
Yup. Just another day in our autocracy. Pinochet would be proud.
Thanks to @etiquetteer.bsky.social, I’ve just started the memoir of Consuelo Vanderbilt! #readbooks
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #NationalBookLoversDay. Most of my preferred resources have been long dead, or of at least the last century. But Just Good Manners by @williamhanson.bsky.social is very much a book for OUR century.
#etiquette #bookloversday #bibliophile
#etiquette #bookloversday #bibliophile
August 10, 2025 at 3:03 AM
Thanks to @etiquetteer.bsky.social, I’ve just started the memoir of Consuelo Vanderbilt! #readbooks
I've lived my entire life knowing that the Corporation for Public Broadcasting was there to supply thoughtful, fun, interesting, and reliable media to our entire country.
This is—as have been so many others—a sad day.
cpb.org/pressroom/Co...
This is—as have been so many others—a sad day.
cpb.org/pressroom/Co...
Corporation for Public Broadcasting Addresses Operations Following Loss of Federal Funding
WASHINGTON, D.C. (August 1, 2025) – The Corporation for Public Broadcasting (CPB) announced today that it will begin an orderly wind-down of its operations following the passage of a federal rescissio...
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August 2, 2025 at 4:18 PM
I've lived my entire life knowing that the Corporation for Public Broadcasting was there to supply thoughtful, fun, interesting, and reliable media to our entire country.
This is—as have been so many others—a sad day.
cpb.org/pressroom/Co...
This is—as have been so many others—a sad day.
cpb.org/pressroom/Co...
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I’ve been surprised how little anyone outside of (here) is complaining about the destruction of the NIH and thereby academic medical centers. Probably because medical schools are quiet. If they won’t speak up, hard to imagine the average doctor noticing or caring. Pretty devastating
July 30, 2025 at 12:52 AM
I’ve been surprised how little anyone outside of (here) is complaining about the destruction of the NIH and thereby academic medical centers. Probably because medical schools are quiet. If they won’t speak up, hard to imagine the average doctor noticing or caring. Pretty devastating
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A new exhibition in Paris celebrates the haute couture designer Charles Frederick Worth, featuring more than 400 hundred rarely exhibited works that trace the House of Worth’s history from its founding to the Jazz Age.
The Extravagant Eye of Charles Frederick Worth
A blockbuster show in Paris celebrates the designer whose over-the-top aesthetic embodied his money-mad era—and speaks to our own.
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July 27, 2025 at 2:16 PM
A new exhibition in Paris celebrates the haute couture designer Charles Frederick Worth, featuring more than 400 hundred rarely exhibited works that trace the House of Worth’s history from its founding to the Jazz Age.
Scandal among the ton is hardly new! Take a break from present day salacious headlines and enjoy learning more about the Loubat case from @etiquetteer.bsky.social!
Researching a presentation last spring, Etiquetteer ended up finding out a lot about the Loubat Case, a scandal at the Union Club that started because of a Dirty Word:
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#etiquette #manners #profanity #useyourwords #butnotlikethat #honor
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#etiquette #manners #profanity #useyourwords #butnotlikethat #honor
Mind Your Words: A Victorian Story, Vol. 24, Issue 19 — Etiquetteer
As a child, Etiquetteer thought everyone in the past had been Perfectly Proper. Only with adulthood and an education outside school curriculum did Etiquetteer learn the Unhappy Truth, particularly abo...
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July 27, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Scandal among the ton is hardly new! Take a break from present day salacious headlines and enjoy learning more about the Loubat case from @etiquetteer.bsky.social!
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If we really wanted to reduce healthcare costs, we’d increase AHRQ funding. This is tragic and short-sighted. Another disappeared federal agency that no one knows about but has helped save numerous lives (Q=Quality) and lots of money
Heard from #AHRQ that the entire grants staff has been let go! They are unable to issue funds for grants already funded, let alone fund new grants. This is outrageous and will make Americans poorer and sicker. Why? A brief thread about just some recent AHRQ-funded research: #MedSky #HealthPolicy
July 24, 2025 at 1:18 AM
If we really wanted to reduce healthcare costs, we’d increase AHRQ funding. This is tragic and short-sighted. Another disappeared federal agency that no one knows about but has helped save numerous lives (Q=Quality) and lots of money
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I just left the Everglades Immigrant Interment Camp. No, I’m not using their ridiculous name. It was a very tough to witness humans in those cages. Every Floridian should be ashamed that our taxpayer money is being used for this.
July 12, 2025 at 11:28 PM
I just left the Everglades Immigrant Interment Camp. No, I’m not using their ridiculous name. It was a very tough to witness humans in those cages. Every Floridian should be ashamed that our taxpayer money is being used for this.
Okay, as someone who has spent a LOT of time at the beach, near, on, or around the ocean, I have never wondered why we don't see baby seagulls. Yes, you can see pre-molting adolescents coming into their adult plumage, but LOOK AT THIS LITTLE ONE!!! HOW CUTE IS THIS????
Species: Herring Gull
Patient Number: 1098 of 2025
Reason for Admission: Orphaned
Patient Number: 1098 of 2025
Reason for Admission: Orphaned
July 5, 2025 at 2:19 PM
Okay, as someone who has spent a LOT of time at the beach, near, on, or around the ocean, I have never wondered why we don't see baby seagulls. Yes, you can see pre-molting adolescents coming into their adult plumage, but LOOK AT THIS LITTLE ONE!!! HOW CUTE IS THIS????