And all of this is absolutely inspired by my own personal struggles with being in situations where I had been forced to dissociate from myself. Which takes a toll on you mentally and physically over time. I don't want to -just- be providing a safe, fantasy container for people anymore.

Maybe even unlock new areas to explore. I'm a guide who isn't just gonna be dishing out fantasies and pain for healing; I wish to help mend. That will take other areas of skill and study than what I can provide with my experience with kink/bdsm.

I'm about being truama informed and helping people heal parts of themselves through a consensual, kink based, somatic, spiritual practice, so they can connect and be present with their whole selves again.

I'm absolutely doing things differently as a professional dominant. To bad if some folks won't "get it". I'm deeply thinking on my approach and what service I provide.

Like--I'm not comfy using Master, Lord, Majesty, Goddess, anything or the sort. Including nonbinary variations of them. I also tried Mx. but it still doesn't feel good for me cause it's a nonbinary form of Mr. which feels too formal. I've come up with some ideas....

Such as me trying to find a new bdsm title not been used before, as a professional kink provider, that isn't based in eurocentric words that come from genocidal, gentrified, hierarchical pasts. They just don't sit well with my personal spirit anymore.

(10) People can't even use my f-ing pronouns so ofc this is a hot mess and I'm beyond pissed about it.

(9) AND I also can choose to be just as vocal about myself, as much as CIS endosex people discuss their junk or those who are trans and medically transition who talk about how they have different junk now.

(8) I'm tired of folks glossing over or constantly invalidating me not hiding the fact I'm intersex; like me being open about it Im fetishizing intersexism when I'm literally intersex.

(7) Like I grow a f-ing beard and stashe and bulk out without even exercising OFF TESTOSTERONE. And no I do not have PCOS.Now imagine what could happen when I start HRT.

(6) And now ya'll gonna have to hard swallow the fact I'm a man with TWO holes & a d!ck that's larger than anyone I've ever seen OFF TESTOSTERONE.

(5) Like yes---hello, I am reclaiming the word 'atrocity' who is proud of it given how I've spent my whole like dealing with bullsh*t because of it regardless of how I identified my gender.

(4) Personally I feel more dysphoric if I'm in a situation or in a conversation that implies I should be masking the fact I have a bvssy entirely or that I'm being assumed that I don't have a 🍆 when I have both.

(3) I know that some folks might be uncomfortable with how I describe myself but honestly that's a -them- problem; I feel grounded and esteem in myself being born intersex by describing myself as a nonbinary IX man versus JUST a nonbinary man.

(2) It also feels really good to be able too add my gender identity to my bluesky description so folks fully understand it. Which helps me also find the right crowd who'd be interested in me as a pr0-dominant and/or my 🌽 content, especially once I can start HRT & get top surgery next year.

Ohhhhh! Okay got you! Now that you put it that way I can see how you were surprised cause you didn't even remember if you signed anything nor if they even reached out. This just really made me feel shocked along with you though!

This is true but like, did you sign an agreement that this was okay? Did you even know they were going to do that? My point being is that you could sue for something like this. I personally find it very distasteful and disrespectful.