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He doesn't want things fixed, he just wants continue to be abusive.
My (28F) bf (30M) isn't speaking to me since we went to couples counselling. Any advice? Me and my boyfriend of 2 years have been having lots of issues, mainly around him not considering me and if I tell him something upset me, he reacts angrily and has recently said and done some really mean things. So we started counselling as I'm at a breaking point. IG & Threads: @ask_aubry First session the counsellor was just getting to know us - and I really avoided saying anything too negative as my bf had said the day before "are you going to say mean things about me?". I hyped myself up for the second session, feeling confident that I am more than reasonable to be hurt by these things and struggling to forgive when there's no effort to repair. The second session was yesterday and essentially all I got to say was that my goal for this was for him to treat me with respect and not call me names anymore. He shut down from that point, which the counsellor commented on and tried to bring him back down. Reflecting on it now, it just feels like we were both coddling him the whole time and being like "i know it's hurtful to hear you've hurt her". Like I'm the one that's deeply hurt, why are we focusing on him being hurt that he's hurt me? I didn't even say specific examples of what he's said and done to me because he was clearly shut down to the whole thing. Since then, he's I'm just so confused. We're going to couples counselling to help repair these things - we have to talk about them. And it feels like he's punishing me for even mentioning that I want to be treated nicer. Does anyone have any advice? How can we talk about these issues without him shutting down and then punishing me for it? Genuinely wanting advice on what to do IG & Threads: @ask_aubry
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