Hot people process their feelings.
We don’t make the rules.
But we do offer free, confidential Spaces at totem.org.

Your feelings called and they want a happy hour.
Make space for them this year.
Free, confidential spaces at totem.org.
Come for community. Come for support. Come for healing.
Come fully you.

🌲 How are you really arriving today?
Reminder emotions are allowed to coexist.

We don’t talk enough about the pressure to perform during the holidays.
To smile. To host. To keep the peace. To “make it magical” even when we’re exhausted.
Some of us are barely holding it together, and still feel guilty for not doing more.

What do you wish others knew about you?

It's okay to forgive yourself for the things you didn’t know.

Is it exhaustion… or are you abandoning your own needs again?

Thanksgiving is tomorrow, and for many of us it means the emotional Olympics are about to begin. A few simple tools like breathwork, a comforting object, a photo that makes you smile, or a quick moment of movement can help you stay present instead of spiraling. What’s going in your kit?

Ever notice how people start respecting your boundaries once you stop explaining them?
Today’s reflection: What boundary did you once feel guilty for setting but now feels like self-respect?

👻 Time for a Monster Match!
If you had to team up with a classic monster, who would it be, and what kind of chaos or kindness would you create together?

🕯 Everyone has one story that still gives them chills.
What’s the spookiest experience you’ve ever had?

🧟♂️ The zombies are loose and Halloween is in full swing.
What’s your survival plan for the night? Bonus points if it involves snacks.

The veil thins this time of year — and something in us stirs.
Join Between the Living and the Dead, a digital gathering for the words we never got to say.
🕯 Oct 30 @ 10PM EDT | Free | www.totem.org/spaces/event...

🎵 Even monsters get tired of hiding behind the same mask.🎭

We all wear one, sometimes to survive, sometimes to be seen. What’s yours hiding?