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Individuation is an important step in healing. It allows you 2 c ur parents or the system as separate from u so u can c their actions objectively. It is the way to see how these actions impact your view of the world and yourself. This is how you decolonize your view of the world and heal yourself.
January 14, 2026 at 3:07 PM
Individuation is an important step in healing. It allows you 2 c ur parents or the system as separate from u so u can c their actions objectively. It is the way to see how these actions impact your view of the world and yourself. This is how you decolonize your view of the world and heal yourself.
When someone can’t see how big a deal what it is you are doing, that is your cue to find a new room where you appreciate how much effort went into your accomplishment. Your best is not their best. It’s yours so the job of celebration, lies with you!
January 13, 2026 at 2:25 PM
When someone can’t see how big a deal what it is you are doing, that is your cue to find a new room where you appreciate how much effort went into your accomplishment. Your best is not their best. It’s yours so the job of celebration, lies with you!
We are by nature flawed as humans. We learn we learn through mistakes. It takes courage to see that something is wrong so we can change and do better. When someone in relationship with you refuses, that is not your trigger to comply, but your invitation to change yourself.
January 12, 2026 at 2:17 PM
We are by nature flawed as humans. We learn we learn through mistakes. It takes courage to see that something is wrong so we can change and do better. When someone in relationship with you refuses, that is not your trigger to comply, but your invitation to change yourself.
Life is not hard to make you feel stuck, but to help you emotionally grow. So if you’re feeling stuck, make an effort to be curious about the lesson hidden in the moment of stillness.
January 9, 2026 at 1:52 PM
Life is not hard to make you feel stuck, but to help you emotionally grow. So if you’re feeling stuck, make an effort to be curious about the lesson hidden in the moment of stillness.
Without courage there is limited curiosity to discover what we don’t know or what makes us uncomfortable. This means courage isn’t just about being curious about others, but about ourselves. Our path of what makes us curious is what can ultimately give us purpose.
January 8, 2026 at 1:39 PM
Without courage there is limited curiosity to discover what we don’t know or what makes us uncomfortable. This means courage isn’t just about being curious about others, but about ourselves. Our path of what makes us curious is what can ultimately give us purpose.
Many people prefer nostalgia to the actual knowledge of history. With actual history, we start to make sense. It’s not always about who did it, but how it impacted you. You can’t understand why you are who you are until you understand what happened to you.
January 7, 2026 at 2:26 PM
Many people prefer nostalgia to the actual knowledge of history. With actual history, we start to make sense. It’s not always about who did it, but how it impacted you. You can’t understand why you are who you are until you understand what happened to you.
Your fear is not meant to have you avoid things, but to help guide you through life so you accomplish goals of empowerment. You can’t be brave without overcoming your fear.
January 6, 2026 at 1:42 PM
Your fear is not meant to have you avoid things, but to help guide you through life so you accomplish goals of empowerment. You can’t be brave without overcoming your fear.
Extreme effort put in the wrong places makes us feel helpless and we give up hope that we have an impact on our lives. This is why it is critical that we place our will and effort in places where we are able to have an impact. That is almost always in the way we thing, and do things.
January 5, 2026 at 12:58 PM
Extreme effort put in the wrong places makes us feel helpless and we give up hope that we have an impact on our lives. This is why it is critical that we place our will and effort in places where we are able to have an impact. That is almost always in the way we thing, and do things.
Without a will or desire to change -nothing will change. But, if you want to emotionally grow then there is always a way.
January 2, 2026 at 1:58 PM
Without a will or desire to change -nothing will change. But, if you want to emotionally grow then there is always a way.
When our self-worth is so low, we don’t see how much power we have. We settle for crumbs. The love you need and want won’t come from anyone or thing outside of you. The love you desire is inside you. This is where the universe knows you will never look for it. Now, you know.
January 1, 2026 at 1:53 PM
When our self-worth is so low, we don’t see how much power we have. We settle for crumbs. The love you need and want won’t come from anyone or thing outside of you. The love you desire is inside you. This is where the universe knows you will never look for it. Now, you know.
Naming the cage of abuse helps u open the door. But, integrating the information of what you learned into who you are, by processing what happened to you, forever changes you allowing you to walk out of the cage of abuse. This is where the hero’s journey prevents repeating the patterns of the past.
December 31, 2025 at 1:59 PM
Naming the cage of abuse helps u open the door. But, integrating the information of what you learned into who you are, by processing what happened to you, forever changes you allowing you to walk out of the cage of abuse. This is where the hero’s journey prevents repeating the patterns of the past.
Manipulation is a way to confuse and trick someone into thinking they are worthless. In this state, you can be used by the manipulator to make them feel better about themselves. Because they only feel better for a moment, the manipulation must be constant.
December 30, 2025 at 3:04 PM
Manipulation is a way to confuse and trick someone into thinking they are worthless. In this state, you can be used by the manipulator to make them feel better about themselves. Because they only feel better for a moment, the manipulation must be constant.
The lessons we are to learn in life cannot all come from our life alone. Learn from those around you whether you like them or not. They are all here to teach you something. Your hero’s journey is not about who acquires the most things, but who has the awareness and inner peace.
December 29, 2025 at 3:08 PM
The lessons we are to learn in life cannot all come from our life alone. Learn from those around you whether you like them or not. They are all here to teach you something. Your hero’s journey is not about who acquires the most things, but who has the awareness and inner peace.
We struggle to give people chances because we don’t want to lose them. It seems the kind thing to do. But, we also don’t want to be alone. Our connection to ourselves gives us the courage to listen to our inner voice and trust it while feeling connection to our compassion state.
December 26, 2025 at 1:43 PM
We struggle to give people chances because we don’t want to lose them. It seems the kind thing to do. But, we also don’t want to be alone. Our connection to ourselves gives us the courage to listen to our inner voice and trust it while feeling connection to our compassion state.
There is no better gift than feeling validated for who you are and not what you do or have. Life can feel easy in this way because you have the inner fortitude to handle anything because so much of your life is effortless.
December 25, 2025 at 1:03 PM
There is no better gift than feeling validated for who you are and not what you do or have. Life can feel easy in this way because you have the inner fortitude to handle anything because so much of your life is effortless.
Binary think makes us worry about the outcome. We have to succeed. When we just put our attention on how we practice the skill of attempting something new. We change our mindset about the situation and no matter what happens, we win something even if it’s just the lesson of the process.
December 24, 2025 at 1:58 PM
Binary think makes us worry about the outcome. We have to succeed. When we just put our attention on how we practice the skill of attempting something new. We change our mindset about the situation and no matter what happens, we win something even if it’s just the lesson of the process.
If the inner child’s sadness is a burden they carry for every year the child grows then by 16 or 26, the burden is that many years heavy. This is why the pain is so profound they just need it to stop. When you are helpless to stop the pain, desperation can make us consider any and everything.
December 23, 2025 at 1:34 PM
If the inner child’s sadness is a burden they carry for every year the child grows then by 16 or 26, the burden is that many years heavy. This is why the pain is so profound they just need it to stop. When you are helpless to stop the pain, desperation can make us consider any and everything.
The child of the father who leaves fantasizes about how their life would be different if their dad was there. The child of the abusive father wonders how their life could be different if they were the kid their father wanted. The hope is to have one fairly descent parent or adult in your life. One.
December 22, 2025 at 1:34 PM
The child of the father who leaves fantasizes about how their life would be different if their dad was there. The child of the abusive father wonders how their life could be different if they were the kid their father wanted. The hope is to have one fairly descent parent or adult in your life. One.
When we have the courage to be ourselves, we can ask and receive what we need so that we stay connected to our humanity rather than our anxiety.
December 19, 2025 at 1:53 PM
When we have the courage to be ourselves, we can ask and receive what we need so that we stay connected to our humanity rather than our anxiety.
Stereotypes and standards of behavior are designed to keep you in your place using your fear of being excluded, left out. If I can help you focus on the fear of exclusion then, you will live in so much shame that I can control u from wherever I am. Your shame becomes a remote control to ur behavior.
December 18, 2025 at 1:43 PM
Stereotypes and standards of behavior are designed to keep you in your place using your fear of being excluded, left out. If I can help you focus on the fear of exclusion then, you will live in so much shame that I can control u from wherever I am. Your shame becomes a remote control to ur behavior.
Shame is the act of blaming ourselves for behavior that we can’t control in a person we need to depend on to care for us. We start this at very young ages and it binds us to people who treat us like our original caretakers. Unless you start to understand this process.
December 17, 2025 at 1:41 PM
Shame is the act of blaming ourselves for behavior that we can’t control in a person we need to depend on to care for us. We start this at very young ages and it binds us to people who treat us like our original caretakers. Unless you start to understand this process.
Manipulation has a pattern and the first place you recognized it is in your body. Then, you start to hear it in your automated response. When you get curious and see the pattern, you understand why your belly hurts or why you feel bad when it happens. The obligated response is the desired effect.
December 16, 2025 at 1:47 PM
Manipulation has a pattern and the first place you recognized it is in your body. Then, you start to hear it in your automated response. When you get curious and see the pattern, you understand why your belly hurts or why you feel bad when it happens. The obligated response is the desired effect.
The way shame works is that I see the entire world as rejecting me because of who I am. So when I see someone who has something I don’t, but wish I had; I attack so I can make you feel as bad as I do. Don’t fall for the one doke!
December 15, 2025 at 1:24 PM
The way shame works is that I see the entire world as rejecting me because of who I am. So when I see someone who has something I don’t, but wish I had; I attack so I can make you feel as bad as I do. Don’t fall for the one doke!
The hierarchy established in many homes is meant to indoctrinate obligation and loyalty so we obey. It removes diversity and individuality so that who we are is what the eldest says we are. We have no choice.
December 12, 2025 at 1:12 PM
The hierarchy established in many homes is meant to indoctrinate obligation and loyalty so we obey. It removes diversity and individuality so that who we are is what the eldest says we are. We have no choice.
Not being emotionally seen by caretakers has created a need to be seen by the masses whether you have something to offer or not. Emotional maturity can be nurtured by parents, but our journey is such that we are meant to discover this for ourselves. We are the ones who need to see our value first.
December 11, 2025 at 1:25 PM
Not being emotionally seen by caretakers has created a need to be seen by the masses whether you have something to offer or not. Emotional maturity can be nurtured by parents, but our journey is such that we are meant to discover this for ourselves. We are the ones who need to see our value first.