Tess Grossman (They/Them)
@tessgrossman.bsky.social
🎮 Community & Social Media Manager for @goodtrouble.bsky.social & @abletoplay.com
🏳️🌈 Butch 🦻 Deaf 🍉 Say Tess Tickle out loud.
💌 email: tess@goodtrouble.team
🏳️🌈 Butch 🦻 Deaf 🍉 Say Tess Tickle out loud.
💌 email: tess@goodtrouble.team
this sparks joy
September 4, 2025 at 6:26 PM
this sparks joy
We used to have funny lil placeholders 😞
July 1, 2025 at 8:44 PM
We used to have funny lil placeholders 😞
Growing up my dream job was to be a diver thanks to Endless Ocean: Blue World. Deaf people can't dive as a career, so now my dream is to make an ocean game. 🐠
Endless Ocean was the *foundation* of my love for the sea and game development.
Endless Ocean was the *foundation* of my love for the sea and game development.
June 5, 2025 at 5:41 PM
Growing up my dream job was to be a diver thanks to Endless Ocean: Blue World. Deaf people can't dive as a career, so now my dream is to make an ocean game. 🐠
Endless Ocean was the *foundation* of my love for the sea and game development.
Endless Ocean was the *foundation* of my love for the sea and game development.
I've been a Honkai: Star Rail player since Day 1. Today I pulled *two* double five stars back-to-back 😭🙏 I prayed for times like this
April 18, 2025 at 12:48 AM
I've been a Honkai: Star Rail player since Day 1. Today I pulled *two* double five stars back-to-back 😭🙏 I prayed for times like this
Butch-femme has always been about taking care of each other. But society hasn’t taken care of us in return. Lesbians have faced police brutality, violent bullying, and "dykebreaking" meant to erase us.
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Butch-femme has always been about taking care of each other. But society hasn’t taken care of us in return. Lesbians have faced police brutality, violent bullying, and "dykebreaking" meant to erase us.
Transmasc femmes exist. Transfem butches exist. GNC lesbians. He/Him & They/Them lesbians exist. Butch-femme isn’t just an aesthetic—it’s a community. A history of mutual care, love, and radical resistance, including Black liberation, disability justice, Jewish resistance, and more.
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Transmasc femmes exist. Transfem butches exist. GNC lesbians. He/Him & They/Them lesbians exist. Butch-femme isn’t just an aesthetic—it’s a community. A history of mutual care, love, and radical resistance, including Black liberation, disability justice, Jewish resistance, and more.
Butch-femme dynamics weren’t just about style or attraction. They were about recognition, validation, and resistance. Butch and femme are more than expressions of sexualities—they are genders in themselves.
Butch and femme identities have always included transmasc and transfem people.
Butch and femme identities have always included transmasc and transfem people.
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Butch-femme dynamics weren’t just about style or attraction. They were about recognition, validation, and resistance. Butch and femme are more than expressions of sexualities—they are genders in themselves.
Butch and femme identities have always included transmasc and transfem people.
Butch and femme identities have always included transmasc and transfem people.
Likewise, femme isn’t just femininity—it’s femininity reinterpreted for lesbians, much like drag queens perform femininity. Femme is a powerful, radical identity of its own!
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Likewise, femme isn’t just femininity—it’s femininity reinterpreted for lesbians, much like drag queens perform femininity. Femme is a powerful, radical identity of its own!
Butch isn’t "imitating men." Butch masculinity is for the lesbian gaze—for femmes. It reclaims masculinity, much like drag kings do, as a rejection of toxic masculinity.
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Butch isn’t "imitating men." Butch masculinity is for the lesbian gaze—for femmes. It reclaims masculinity, much like drag kings do, as a rejection of toxic masculinity.
This opened up spaces where "single women" could gather, leading to lesbian bars in cities like LA, NYC, and Chicago. These bars became crucial spaces for butches, femmes to meet. Outside of them, butches were seen as "predatory" or "man-lite"—a misunderstanding that still persists today.
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
This opened up spaces where "single women" could gather, leading to lesbian bars in cities like LA, NYC, and Chicago. These bars became crucial spaces for butches, femmes to meet. Outside of them, butches were seen as "predatory" or "man-lite"—a misunderstanding that still persists today.
Butch and femme identities emerged in the early 1940s among working-class lesbians. Before then, women couldn’t even enter bars alone—they had to be accompanied by men or risk being thrown out.
During WWII, women took on jobs previously held by men, including bartending!
During WWII, women took on jobs previously held by men, including bartending!
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Butch and femme identities emerged in the early 1940s among working-class lesbians. Before then, women couldn’t even enter bars alone—they had to be accompanied by men or risk being thrown out.
During WWII, women took on jobs previously held by men, including bartending!
During WWII, women took on jobs previously held by men, including bartending!
Hi there! I'm a butch game dev 👋
Today I want to talk about butches and femmes—why language and teaching lesbian history matter. For example, femme is a lesbian-exclusive term. If you’re looking for a general term for feminine-presenting people, the word you want is fem. More below!🧵👇
Today I want to talk about butches and femmes—why language and teaching lesbian history matter. For example, femme is a lesbian-exclusive term. If you’re looking for a general term for feminine-presenting people, the word you want is fem. More below!🧵👇
March 25, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Hi there! I'm a butch game dev 👋
Today I want to talk about butches and femmes—why language and teaching lesbian history matter. For example, femme is a lesbian-exclusive term. If you’re looking for a general term for feminine-presenting people, the word you want is fem. More below!🧵👇
Today I want to talk about butches and femmes—why language and teaching lesbian history matter. For example, femme is a lesbian-exclusive term. If you’re looking for a general term for feminine-presenting people, the word you want is fem. More below!🧵👇