Yes yessss!

May I screenshot this for Instagram?

Love that y'all were able to talk it out! I think that willingness and ability is a great green flag

With long-term partners who mattered to me, "Will he respect me if I LOVE sex?" was (and for me should be!) a non-concern

It was more like, "Okay, she's such a wonderful human. Cultural conditioning about sex makes me wonder whether she feels the same way — but it’s worth it to ask. She's worth it"

IME intercourse on the first date isn't a huge deal, though

Literally ALL of my past serious relationships started with what the other person worried might be "just" a hookup

If they wanted to date me, they asked for clarity, said it was okay either way, defined intentions. And we dated

I kindly pushed back:

Could one honestly say that mentoring orphans or serving a temple in an underprivileged country would always be less fulfilling than raising a child in America?

You get what I'm saying?

Asian fetishists exist

AND, at the same time:

Asian women also get to be hot to normal-ass, healthy-minded men who respect grown women's autonomy, TF?

Criticize people who infantilize and try to control girls and women — for their actual behavior

Consider not pathologizing grown women for existing and enjoying their lives as adults

(It's not attraction to a grown woman that’s the problem; it's male entitlement and expectation of subservience)

Even Buddhist monks at some temples appreciate setting up cute decor for rituals and celebrations

Treating yourself can amplify your intentions — especially when sharing joy with other people

WEAR THE FANCY BRA/BUSTIER UNDER A SWEATSHIRT

SCRUB YOUR FEET WITH SOMETHING THAT SMELLS NICE

TAKE NICE PIX OF YOURSELF AS YOU ARE

SCHEDULE THAT MASSAGE

TRADE SKILLS WITH FRIENDS

REPURPOSE OR THROW AWAY UNBLENDABLE EYESHADOW

USE UP YOUR FAVORITE PAINT COLOR

WEAR THAT DRESS THAT'S "TOO" CUTE

I'm not a fan of "BUY MORE, SAVE MORE" when it comes to marketing toy sales

Buuuut I do remember the excitement of sharing an online shopping cart with a friend so we could get bigger discounts and free shipping

Excessive consumerism can be bad, AND you can enjoy the experiences that objects bring

"6'3" BECAUSE APPARENTLY THAT MATTERS"

TWO GOLDFISH FIGHTING OVER AN ALGAE WAFER IS MY CURRENT FAVORITE THING