You're no different.

The more you can accept yourself as you are. Without judgment or hatred.

The more you will love yourself.

And the more you will change into the person you want to become.

I've never seen it fail.

But it's worked wonders in my relationships!

Try it out this week with someone you care about, and let me know how it goes.

(Or post like that on here!)

I've used this for months with my girlfriend & it's made sharing breezy for both of us.

It eases worries for the sharer without putting that burden on the listener/helper.

Like all direct communication methods, it takes practice!
And two willing participants.

These 3 pieces set expectations and ground rules for the conversation. Making it easier for both people.

The speaker knows they have attention. And a reminder that the person is listening until they raise their hand.

The listener knows what's needed of them, and has a way out if they need it.

3.)"I can struggle with feeling like I'm talking too much. Can I trust you to raise your hand when you're overwhelmed or confused, and I'll stop? That way I don't worry."

Giving them an out from the conversation, without you spending all of your energy reading their body language.

2.) Tell them what you need. Do you need to be helped or heard?

"I just need to share my thoughts so they don't feel all jumbled in my head"

Or

"Can you help me figure out what to do next? I'll give you the basics first."

This helps them know what's required of them for you to feel loved.

1.) Ask "Are you in the space for me to share about (topic)?"

This gives the other person the ability to decide how they want to show up for you. It drives home how important it is to you.

It also lets them know what you're talking about, and whether they can handle that in the moment.

It's really hard to keep up with, right?

What program is this?

I absolutely love this! Can't wait to do that with my own kids

I think TTRPGs help people build so many skills and so much confidence.

And notice if that next action feels easier!

In doing so, we subconsciously teach ourselves this cycle

(or now consciously)

And we make it easier to implement this in everyday life.

Learning the skills of how to change.

If this has been helpful, go create a character!

Then the next time you struggle ask "how would they respond?"

Because this feels awkward or difficult at times, one of my favorite ways to start this cycle is with creating a character in Dungeons & Dragons.

We're creating a new identity. And we decide the whole circle until outcomes.

It lets us practice new thoughts, emotions and actions.

To change action, you only need to do a thing, regardless of how you feel.

Simple. Not easy.
So we need to start with something small.

What's one small thing you want to change in your life?

How can you work toward the new outcome for 5 minutes a day?

A great Snow crunch provides a full days worth of dopamine.