Stella Duffy
@stellduffy.bsky.social
Pākehā Londoner; Dr (not the medical kind), existential psychotherapist, supervisor, doctoral research in postmenopause; writer of 17 novels/70+ stories/15 plays, yoga for writing workshops; 2 x breast cancer; knee, hip, & some brain mended with metal
Yay for this side of surgery. Recovery-pain way better than pain-pain. 🙏🏿 brilliant staff & whoever invented titanium (2 hips now & ruptured brain aneurysm), 🙏🏿 painkillers!, grateful for prehab & new exercises just started. My 8th big surgery, I know a dip is likely, enjoying the up while it lasts!
August 9, 2025 at 5:17 PM
Yay for this side of surgery. Recovery-pain way better than pain-pain. 🙏🏿 brilliant staff & whoever invented titanium (2 hips now & ruptured brain aneurysm), 🙏🏿 painkillers!, grateful for prehab & new exercises just started. My 8th big surgery, I know a dip is likely, enjoying the up while it lasts!
When I was a kid, I spent hours lying on my back looking at the sky feeling the earth beneath me. Doing that now. Still got it.
August 8, 2025 at 5:27 PM
When I was a kid, I spent hours lying on my back looking at the sky feeling the earth beneath me. Doing that now. Still got it.
Took old hip for last sea swim, thanked it for all the running, jumping, dancing, jetés, pliés, cartwheels, walkovers, splits, swims, handstands, headstands, asanas, biking & walks.This time next week, 🤞, I’ll be made of even more titanium (other hip & knee & brain already metalled) and healing. 🙏🏿✨
August 3, 2025 at 9:00 AM
Took old hip for last sea swim, thanked it for all the running, jumping, dancing, jetés, pliés, cartwheels, walkovers, splits, swims, handstands, headstands, asanas, biking & walks.This time next week, 🤞, I’ll be made of even more titanium (other hip & knee & brain already metalled) and healing. 🙏🏿✨
Football ready in our house @shelleysilas.bsky.social #lionesses
July 27, 2025 at 2:31 PM
Football ready in our house @shelleysilas.bsky.social #lionesses
#transpride ready #LwiththeT then, now, always.
July 25, 2025 at 8:52 PM
#transpride ready #LwiththeT then, now, always.
The absolute joy of swimming in the rain, silent beach, no noise but the sound of tiny droplets falling on the larger body of water. Glorious.
July 20, 2025 at 12:53 PM
The absolute joy of swimming in the rain, silent beach, no noise but the sound of tiny droplets falling on the larger body of water. Glorious.
Mmm. Morning swims, before the fairweather hoardes arrive at Brockwell Lido, before work, before the rain, before next hip replacement … all the pleasure.
July 15, 2025 at 10:08 AM
Mmm. Morning swims, before the fairweather hoardes arrive at Brockwell Lido, before work, before the rain, before next hip replacement … all the pleasure.
Utterly glorious afternoon watching premiere of 3000 Lesbians Go To York - documentary about years of #YLAF, York Lesbian Arts Festival. So impt to see both archive footage of this vital piece of queer & lesbian herstory, not least because we were then AND STILL ARE #LwiththeT. Proudly, gratefully.
July 13, 2025 at 2:27 PM
Utterly glorious afternoon watching premiere of 3000 Lesbians Go To York - documentary about years of #YLAF, York Lesbian Arts Festival. So impt to see both archive footage of this vital piece of queer & lesbian herstory, not least because we were then AND STILL ARE #LwiththeT. Proudly, gratefully.
Teaching all day today so not marching (also would be limping not marching anyway!) but seeing families heading to family #pride & enjoying the pleasure they’re getting from my T-shirt. Thanks again @profjosharp.bsky.social
July 5, 2025 at 8:27 AM
Teaching all day today so not marching (also would be limping not marching anyway!) but seeing families heading to family #pride & enjoying the pleasure they’re getting from my T-shirt. Thanks again @profjosharp.bsky.social
Swam a mile before breakfast this morning. Felt a) brilliant & b) brilliant.
July 4, 2025 at 10:24 AM
Swam a mile before breakfast this morning. Felt a) brilliant & b) brilliant.
Thanks to Jonathan Phang for making me & @shelleysilas.bsky.social look pretty
@divamag.bsky.social awards. Thrilled for @valmcdermid.bsky.social's Writer of the Year Award, splendid to see friends, LOVED the calls for joy, connection, compassion, celebration, action, hope &, as always, #LwiththeT
@divamag.bsky.social awards. Thrilled for @valmcdermid.bsky.social's Writer of the Year Award, splendid to see friends, LOVED the calls for joy, connection, compassion, celebration, action, hope &, as always, #LwiththeT
April 26, 2025 at 1:06 PM
Thanks to Jonathan Phang for making me & @shelleysilas.bsky.social look pretty
@divamag.bsky.social awards. Thrilled for @valmcdermid.bsky.social's Writer of the Year Award, splendid to see friends, LOVED the calls for joy, connection, compassion, celebration, action, hope &, as always, #LwiththeT
@divamag.bsky.social awards. Thrilled for @valmcdermid.bsky.social's Writer of the Year Award, splendid to see friends, LOVED the calls for joy, connection, compassion, celebration, action, hope &, as always, #LwiththeT
April 23, 2025 at 10:35 AM
April 18, 2025 at 10:03 PM
Sending love to my trans sisters today.
You are recognised.
You are seen.
You are women.
(Feeling rather less keen on the hetero women determined to assure me that “lesbians want this”. Not this lesbian & not the vast majority of lesbian women I know.)
You are recognised.
You are seen.
You are women.
(Feeling rather less keen on the hetero women determined to assure me that “lesbians want this”. Not this lesbian & not the vast majority of lesbian women I know.)
April 16, 2025 at 12:31 PM
Sending love to my trans sisters today.
You are recognised.
You are seen.
You are women.
(Feeling rather less keen on the hetero women determined to assure me that “lesbians want this”. Not this lesbian & not the vast majority of lesbian women I know.)
You are recognised.
You are seen.
You are women.
(Feeling rather less keen on the hetero women determined to assure me that “lesbians want this”. Not this lesbian & not the vast majority of lesbian women I know.)
My 2nd session yesterday @improbable1.bsky.social #dandd20 - improvisation & psychotherapy, the joins. An exhausting, joyous, hopeful, possible, deeply worthwhile Devoted & Disgruntled weekend. 20 years’ worth of conversations & action. Love & gratitude to Improbable and all the connections. X
April 13, 2025 at 5:26 PM
My 2nd session yesterday @improbable1.bsky.social #dandd20 - improvisation & psychotherapy, the joins. An exhausting, joyous, hopeful, possible, deeply worthwhile Devoted & Disgruntled weekend. 20 years’ worth of conversations & action. Love & gratitude to Improbable and all the connections. X
April 12, 2025 at 12:44 PM
Delighted to be here Improbable’s 21st D&D, 20 years of D&D, birthplace of Chaosbaby & Fun Palacea, what will this weekend birth?! (Also, Regina’s dolls!) #DandD20
April 12, 2025 at 11:15 AM
Delighted to be here Improbable’s 21st D&D, 20 years of D&D, birthplace of Chaosbaby & Fun Palacea, what will this weekend birth?! (Also, Regina’s dolls!) #DandD20
If you no longer have a mother, if you’re not a mother and wanted to be, if your relationship with your mother is problematic … today (UK Mothers’ Day) can be tricky. It’s ok if you don’t like any of it. Allow the hurt, give it space, then give yourself a break & do something lovely for you.
March 30, 2025 at 9:02 AM
If you no longer have a mother, if you’re not a mother and wanted to be, if your relationship with your mother is problematic … today (UK Mothers’ Day) can be tricky. It’s ok if you don’t like any of it. Allow the hurt, give it space, then give yourself a break & do something lovely for you.
Happy birthday to me. Privileged to get to 62 after so many illnesses and dramas. Grateful and glad to be here. Bloody loving getting old.
March 2, 2025 at 12:37 PM
Happy birthday to me. Privileged to get to 62 after so many illnesses and dramas. Grateful and glad to be here. Bloody loving getting old.
Puddles. Not just for kids.
February 24, 2025 at 9:46 PM
Puddles. Not just for kids.
While the world is increasingly disastrous, tiny & slow change remains joyous - today my 25 week old knee allowed me to manage a (very ungainly) crow pose. Phew.
February 23, 2025 at 5:02 PM
While the world is increasingly disastrous, tiny & slow change remains joyous - today my 25 week old knee allowed me to manage a (very ungainly) crow pose. Phew.
February 19, 2025 at 12:32 PM
Marvel is happy about this gentle Sunday morning.
February 2, 2025 at 10:15 AM
Marvel is happy about this gentle Sunday morning.