Sarah Murray
@smmurray.bsky.social
Seeking peace by standing for justice.
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“I can’t let it go, when I’m responsible to make sure it doesn’t happen again.”
-Your nervous system.
-Your nervous system.
February 19, 2025 at 6:33 PM
“I can’t let it go, when I’m responsible to make sure it doesn’t happen again.”
-Your nervous system.
-Your nervous system.
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“But, it made you stronger.”
It didn’t though. Our society calls it strength when it’s hypervigilance. There’s deep grief with healing. The loss of what you knew & acceptance that life will be different. “It made you stronger” doesn’t respect the depth of what really happened.
It didn’t though. Our society calls it strength when it’s hypervigilance. There’s deep grief with healing. The loss of what you knew & acceptance that life will be different. “It made you stronger” doesn’t respect the depth of what really happened.
February 6, 2025 at 4:34 PM
“But, it made you stronger.”
It didn’t though. Our society calls it strength when it’s hypervigilance. There’s deep grief with healing. The loss of what you knew & acceptance that life will be different. “It made you stronger” doesn’t respect the depth of what really happened.
It didn’t though. Our society calls it strength when it’s hypervigilance. There’s deep grief with healing. The loss of what you knew & acceptance that life will be different. “It made you stronger” doesn’t respect the depth of what really happened.
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Safe relationships are not threatened by honesty, & safe people are not threatened by you working your trauma or addiction recovery.
If a connection seems to be threatened by you getting real & working your recovery, get curious about what the hell that's about.
If a connection seems to be threatened by you getting real & working your recovery, get curious about what the hell that's about.
February 14, 2025 at 2:28 AM
Safe relationships are not threatened by honesty, & safe people are not threatened by you working your trauma or addiction recovery.
If a connection seems to be threatened by you getting real & working your recovery, get curious about what the hell that's about.
If a connection seems to be threatened by you getting real & working your recovery, get curious about what the hell that's about.
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If it matters to you, it is not a "waste of time." You don't need anybody's validation to make something a worthy investment of your time & focus-- & you definitely don't need your abusers' or bullies' approval, real or imagined, to make an activity or interest valid.
February 10, 2025 at 10:19 PM
If it matters to you, it is not a "waste of time." You don't need anybody's validation to make something a worthy investment of your time & focus-- & you definitely don't need your abusers' or bullies' approval, real or imagined, to make an activity or interest valid.
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I need you to remember that fear is a reflex. We don't "choose" fear. There is no shame in fear. You're experiencing a conditioned response-- no more, no less. Your "choice" is in how you talk to yourself & support your inner child through this fearful moment.
Breathe. Breathe.
Breathe. Breathe.
February 6, 2025 at 10:04 PM
I need you to remember that fear is a reflex. We don't "choose" fear. There is no shame in fear. You're experiencing a conditioned response-- no more, no less. Your "choice" is in how you talk to yourself & support your inner child through this fearful moment.
Breathe. Breathe.
Breathe. Breathe.
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The body of Christ is called to be like Christ as individuals and as a gathered body of those who are one with Him. Anything that does not look like Christ is NOT the church, even if it purports to be.
February 5, 2025 at 5:00 PM
The body of Christ is called to be like Christ as individuals and as a gathered body of those who are one with Him. Anything that does not look like Christ is NOT the church, even if it purports to be.
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The length of the grieving is determined by the griever, not by how long you, as a comforter, can stand to be sad.
January 30, 2025 at 10:01 PM
The length of the grieving is determined by the griever, not by how long you, as a comforter, can stand to be sad.
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I find it's useful to think of trauma recovery as a relationship between the "parts" of us that hold trauma feelings & memories, "parts" that hold hopes & dreams, & "parts" that just want a normal, functional life.
Every "part" matters, needs care, & needs to be listened to.
Every "part" matters, needs care, & needs to be listened to.
January 30, 2025 at 5:01 PM
I find it's useful to think of trauma recovery as a relationship between the "parts" of us that hold trauma feelings & memories, "parts" that hold hopes & dreams, & "parts" that just want a normal, functional life.
Every "part" matters, needs care, & needs to be listened to.
Every "part" matters, needs care, & needs to be listened to.
Hope is terrifying when you’ve learned to expect pain.
January 28, 2025 at 10:22 PM
Hope is terrifying when you’ve learned to expect pain.
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God demonstrates His words in the flesh with full integrity so that what He says and what He lives look the same; they match. His words, His process of carrying them out through actions in relationships, and the end result - they are all identical.
January 27, 2025 at 9:54 PM
God demonstrates His words in the flesh with full integrity so that what He says and what He lives look the same; they match. His words, His process of carrying them out through actions in relationships, and the end result - they are all identical.
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We're not doing anyone we care about or who depends on us any favors by denying, ignoring, or "stuffing" our trauma. Ask me how I know.
Working our recovery w/ clarity, consistency, & humility is an act of love toward the people, pets, projects, & causes we care about.
Working our recovery w/ clarity, consistency, & humility is an act of love toward the people, pets, projects, & causes we care about.
January 27, 2025 at 12:01 AM
We're not doing anyone we care about or who depends on us any favors by denying, ignoring, or "stuffing" our trauma. Ask me how I know.
Working our recovery w/ clarity, consistency, & humility is an act of love toward the people, pets, projects, & causes we care about.
Working our recovery w/ clarity, consistency, & humility is an act of love toward the people, pets, projects, & causes we care about.
Trauma and brokenness takes really beautiful things and twists them.
Self sacrificial love can twist into people pleasing. Caring well for others can twist into trying to earn our worth. Empathy can twist into “fixing” other people.
Part of healing is untwisting the beautiful pieces of who we are.
Self sacrificial love can twist into people pleasing. Caring well for others can twist into trying to earn our worth. Empathy can twist into “fixing” other people.
Part of healing is untwisting the beautiful pieces of who we are.
January 27, 2025 at 3:43 AM
Trauma and brokenness takes really beautiful things and twists them.
Self sacrificial love can twist into people pleasing. Caring well for others can twist into trying to earn our worth. Empathy can twist into “fixing” other people.
Part of healing is untwisting the beautiful pieces of who we are.
Self sacrificial love can twist into people pleasing. Caring well for others can twist into trying to earn our worth. Empathy can twist into “fixing” other people.
Part of healing is untwisting the beautiful pieces of who we are.
Tonight, I am tired of being strong enough. I am weary of carrying so much of life alone.
January 24, 2025 at 5:59 AM
Tonight, I am tired of being strong enough. I am weary of carrying so much of life alone.
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Stop. Saying. Telling. The. Truth. Doesn’t. Matter.
It matters.
Saying it doesn’t matter because it won’t change things is just enabling utilitarianism wrapped up in pseudorighteousness.
Tell the truth.
Scream it into the void.
Truth has value in itself. Or it’s not truth.
It matters.
Saying it doesn’t matter because it won’t change things is just enabling utilitarianism wrapped up in pseudorighteousness.
Tell the truth.
Scream it into the void.
Truth has value in itself. Or it’s not truth.
January 23, 2025 at 6:54 PM
Stop. Saying. Telling. The. Truth. Doesn’t. Matter.
It matters.
Saying it doesn’t matter because it won’t change things is just enabling utilitarianism wrapped up in pseudorighteousness.
Tell the truth.
Scream it into the void.
Truth has value in itself. Or it’s not truth.
It matters.
Saying it doesn’t matter because it won’t change things is just enabling utilitarianism wrapped up in pseudorighteousness.
Tell the truth.
Scream it into the void.
Truth has value in itself. Or it’s not truth.
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When you marry someone, you make a commitment, and you promise to stay with that person through good times and bad. But the moment your spouse abuses you, your obligation to them is over. Marriage is not a vow to be abused!
January 23, 2025 at 7:03 PM
When you marry someone, you make a commitment, and you promise to stay with that person through good times and bad. But the moment your spouse abuses you, your obligation to them is over. Marriage is not a vow to be abused!
I am finding myself struggling with my belief that as Christians we forgive and offer grace and live a life of redemption. I want that to be who I am, who we are as a people, but sometimes things are so damaged it feels impossible.
How do we discern what is true repentance while being wise/safe?
How do we discern what is true repentance while being wise/safe?
January 23, 2025 at 4:03 PM
I am finding myself struggling with my belief that as Christians we forgive and offer grace and live a life of redemption. I want that to be who I am, who we are as a people, but sometimes things are so damaged it feels impossible.
How do we discern what is true repentance while being wise/safe?
How do we discern what is true repentance while being wise/safe?
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Traumas suggest we are worthless and do not matter.
Talking tells the truth and gives dignity because the story matters, as does its impact.
Talking tells the truth and gives dignity because the story matters, as does its impact.
January 23, 2025 at 1:45 PM
Traumas suggest we are worthless and do not matter.
Talking tells the truth and gives dignity because the story matters, as does its impact.
Talking tells the truth and gives dignity because the story matters, as does its impact.
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Repentance is not verbal only. It is always demonstrated consistently in a life over time. And true repentance is a process that requires time and more time to be made evident.
January 22, 2025 at 10:00 PM
Repentance is not verbal only. It is always demonstrated consistently in a life over time. And true repentance is a process that requires time and more time to be made evident.
This. To do it all the right way and still end up with brokenness and pain is such a hard reality.
You can do right and still have everything turn out wrong. I am not certain where we got the idea that was not so, given that the one we follow and call God did do everything right and ended up treated with gross injustice.
January 21, 2025 at 10:37 PM
This. To do it all the right way and still end up with brokenness and pain is such a hard reality.
There is a fine line between dwelling on and drowning in the memories and holding them while you grieve.
I don’t want to forget. It is not worth it to erase the beautiful good things just to avoid the pain.
I keep the words and look at the pictures and the tears are expressions of love.
I don’t want to forget. It is not worth it to erase the beautiful good things just to avoid the pain.
I keep the words and look at the pictures and the tears are expressions of love.
January 21, 2025 at 7:44 PM
There is a fine line between dwelling on and drowning in the memories and holding them while you grieve.
I don’t want to forget. It is not worth it to erase the beautiful good things just to avoid the pain.
I keep the words and look at the pictures and the tears are expressions of love.
I don’t want to forget. It is not worth it to erase the beautiful good things just to avoid the pain.
I keep the words and look at the pictures and the tears are expressions of love.
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When you grow up in an abusive home, you don’t become a people pleaser to please people. You become a people pleaser to keep the potential for more abuse away.
January 19, 2025 at 5:30 PM
When you grow up in an abusive home, you don’t become a people pleaser to please people. You become a people pleaser to keep the potential for more abuse away.
There is something so uniquely painful about grieving the loss of dreams, of a future you wanted, of hope you had.
And it is not a grief limited to death.
There are broken relationships that change the course of your life and that is no less painful.
And it is not a grief limited to death.
There are broken relationships that change the course of your life and that is no less painful.
January 19, 2025 at 7:00 PM
There is something so uniquely painful about grieving the loss of dreams, of a future you wanted, of hope you had.
And it is not a grief limited to death.
There are broken relationships that change the course of your life and that is no less painful.
And it is not a grief limited to death.
There are broken relationships that change the course of your life and that is no less painful.
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January 17, 2025 at 3:02 AM
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It's not "childish" or "weak" to feel resentful that we have to cope w/ & process the pain we have to cope w/ & process, or to be jealous of those who don't have to-- and but also, we can't let that resentment or jealousy keep us from working our recovery today.
January 15, 2025 at 10:04 PM
It's not "childish" or "weak" to feel resentful that we have to cope w/ & process the pain we have to cope w/ & process, or to be jealous of those who don't have to-- and but also, we can't let that resentment or jealousy keep us from working our recovery today.
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Abuse survivors are heavily triggered by dishonest people. When you’ve sacrificed your time and security in order to figure out the truth, people who lack truth will feel like they’re pulling you back to your darkest days.
January 14, 2025 at 7:59 PM
Abuse survivors are heavily triggered by dishonest people. When you’ve sacrificed your time and security in order to figure out the truth, people who lack truth will feel like they’re pulling you back to your darkest days.