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Silva Neves
@silvaneves.bsky.social
Award-winning psychosexual & relationship psychotherapist. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
Author. Speaker. Media. AccCOSRT. UKCP.
It’s always a joy to be invited to teach at the ESSM School and Advanced School in Budapest.
Today, I delivered two workshops:
🏳️‍🌈 Working with LGBTQ+ people
✅ Navigating consent

Tomorrow I’ll be teaching on the diverse landscapes of relationships! ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🩵
November 21, 2025 at 6:25 PM
It was lovely to catch up with colleague and friend Dr Brendan Dunlop while in Manchester! We share a passion for queer mental health! ❤️🌈
November 16, 2025 at 12:36 PM
It was fantastic meeting David Ley in London!

His book “The Myth of Sex Addiction” was pivotal in transforming my career to what it is now.

And what great timing to meet in the week of the publication of the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on “sex/porn addiction”. 💜
November 9, 2025 at 10:09 PM
The gonorrhea vaccine is now available on the NHS. Go and get it for extra protection.
November 8, 2025 at 12:20 PM
It was lovely to catch up with friend and colleague Ben Kaye.
He does such amazing work in the Chems@x scene. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

Working collaboratively is key to making real important change. We never stop learning from each other.

I wish everyone a fabulous Friday! ❤️🌈
November 7, 2025 at 12:31 PM
It’s always a pleasure to offer clinical supervision to an international group of therapists for IOSS. The topic today was problematic porn use. We had very interesting in-depth conversations! 💚
November 6, 2025 at 6:14 PM
“Porn addiction” is not clinically endorsed. The body of scientific research actually hasn’t found any causation of mental health or sexual health issues. But there are correlations.
November 6, 2025 at 1:20 PM
COVID-19 jab done! ✅
It’s expensive but worth it, I think.

Flu jab on Monday, COVID today. It’s a jabby week this week! 😁
November 6, 2025 at 10:02 AM
The term “problematic porn use” (PPU) is commonly used by clinicians but it carries the bias that the problem with porn always lies with the person watching it.
However, often, the distress is felt by the partner of the person watching porn, not the person watching it.
November 4, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Flu jab done today ✅
November 3, 2025 at 8:31 PM
Happy Halloween! 🎃

It is a time believed to be when the boundary between physical world and the spiritual is thinnest. 👻

How are you celebrating Halloween?

If you want a short queer read on Halloween, here’s my Psychology Today blog! 🎃👻💀🏳️‍🌈

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
October 31, 2025 at 5:18 PM
I’m back at the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes for a live webinar on working with compulsive sexual behaviours on Saturday 17th January at 9am (EST)/ 2pm (GMT).

Come and join us! 🇺🇸🇬🇧💜🌈

modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/product/work...
October 30, 2025 at 4:24 PM
It is Halloween week! 🎃👻💀

Although Halloween itself is about honouring the dead, the Halloween week is filled with horror movies and scary things in shops.

It is a good opportunity to ask ourselves: what is our biggest fear?
October 29, 2025 at 1:54 PM
Therapists in therapy. It seems to be taboo. Why?

I’m in therapy. There, I said it!

I resumed therapy seven months ago, not long after my mother died.
This time, I chose an integrative and existential therapist.
October 24, 2025 at 5:09 PM
October 21, 2025 at 1:14 PM
I’m now in Soho, my home.
Blowing a kiss to you all!
We’re fabulously queer! We’re part of nature because nature is queer too! We have always been here since humans walked the Earth, and we will always be here.
Sending LOVE to you all! ❤️🌈❤️🌈❤️🌈
October 20, 2025 at 7:42 PM
We had a gorgeous sunny Summer this year, so I’m now ready for Autumn. Such a beautiful season! 🍁

It is soothing to observe and be in nature doing its thing in the changing seasons, recycling, transitioning, renewing in its slow regular patterns 🧡
October 17, 2025 at 9:55 AM
It’s the third time I am in the Canary Islands.
It is always poignant for me.

My grandmother who devoted her life to support her family had only one wish for herself: to visit the Canary Islands.

But her husband didn’t want to travel so she never made it.
October 1, 2025 at 10:16 PM
I’m grateful for Yasmina Floyer spotlighting my critique of sex addiction in the October issue of Psychologies.

As you know I’m passionate about highlighting the harm done by applying an addiction treatment to sexual behaviours. And offering ethical and sex-positive methods instead ❤️
September 29, 2025 at 3:31 PM
Yesterday I delivered an EMDR workshop for the regional group in Bedfordshire, Buckinghamshire and Hertfordshire on recovery after sexual assault.
September 26, 2025 at 8:14 AM
It was great seeing some colleagues and friends for an informal gathering celebrating my latest book Sexual Diversity.
It is so good to be with each other in-person having a laugh! ❤️🌈
September 20, 2025 at 8:54 PM
Raising a glass of champagne to congratulate Erin Stevens, Matt Cormack and Bumi Akinmutande for being elected as BACP Trustees.

I feel very hopeful that BACP will become a more ethical and effective membership organisation now! Yay! 🎉

www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
September 19, 2025 at 6:47 PM
It’s always good to take a day out of my office and do some filming to send some sex-positive information to the public. We talked sex, sexual compulsivity, and what it is like to be a LGBTQ+ person in today’s world. 🏳️‍🌈❤️
September 19, 2025 at 4:27 PM
Just spent an existential weekend in the glorious nature of Northern England.

After my mother’s passing earlier this year in April, it was so important for me to stop and reflect on life and death, on endings and new beginnings, and on my meaning of life.
September 15, 2025 at 1:15 PM
We will never forget 9/11. 🇺🇸❤️
September 11, 2025 at 12:18 PM