Silva Neves
@silvaneves.bsky.social
Award-winning psychosexual & relationship psychotherapist. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Author. Speaker. Media. AccCOSRT. UKCP.
Author. Speaker. Media. AccCOSRT. UKCP.
It’s always a joy to be invited to teach at the ESSM School and Advanced School in Budapest.
Today, I delivered two workshops:
🏳️🌈 Working with LGBTQ+ people
✅ Navigating consent
Tomorrow I’ll be teaching on the diverse landscapes of relationships! ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🩵
Today, I delivered two workshops:
🏳️🌈 Working with LGBTQ+ people
✅ Navigating consent
Tomorrow I’ll be teaching on the diverse landscapes of relationships! ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🩵
November 21, 2025 at 6:25 PM
It’s always a joy to be invited to teach at the ESSM School and Advanced School in Budapest.
Today, I delivered two workshops:
🏳️🌈 Working with LGBTQ+ people
✅ Navigating consent
Tomorrow I’ll be teaching on the diverse landscapes of relationships! ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🩵
Today, I delivered two workshops:
🏳️🌈 Working with LGBTQ+ people
✅ Navigating consent
Tomorrow I’ll be teaching on the diverse landscapes of relationships! ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🩵
It was lovely to catch up with colleague and friend Dr Brendan Dunlop while in Manchester! We share a passion for queer mental health! ❤️🌈
November 16, 2025 at 12:36 PM
It was lovely to catch up with colleague and friend Dr Brendan Dunlop while in Manchester! We share a passion for queer mental health! ❤️🌈
It was fantastic meeting David Ley in London!
His book “The Myth of Sex Addiction” was pivotal in transforming my career to what it is now.
And what great timing to meet in the week of the publication of the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on “sex/porn addiction”. 💜
His book “The Myth of Sex Addiction” was pivotal in transforming my career to what it is now.
And what great timing to meet in the week of the publication of the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on “sex/porn addiction”. 💜
November 9, 2025 at 10:09 PM
It was fantastic meeting David Ley in London!
His book “The Myth of Sex Addiction” was pivotal in transforming my career to what it is now.
And what great timing to meet in the week of the publication of the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on “sex/porn addiction”. 💜
His book “The Myth of Sex Addiction” was pivotal in transforming my career to what it is now.
And what great timing to meet in the week of the publication of the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on “sex/porn addiction”. 💜
The gonorrhea vaccine is now available on the NHS. Go and get it for extra protection.
November 8, 2025 at 12:20 PM
The gonorrhea vaccine is now available on the NHS. Go and get it for extra protection.
It was lovely to catch up with friend and colleague Ben Kaye.
He does such amazing work in the Chems@x scene. ❤️🏳️🌈
Working collaboratively is key to making real important change. We never stop learning from each other.
I wish everyone a fabulous Friday! ❤️🌈
He does such amazing work in the Chems@x scene. ❤️🏳️🌈
Working collaboratively is key to making real important change. We never stop learning from each other.
I wish everyone a fabulous Friday! ❤️🌈
November 7, 2025 at 12:31 PM
It was lovely to catch up with friend and colleague Ben Kaye.
He does such amazing work in the Chems@x scene. ❤️🏳️🌈
Working collaboratively is key to making real important change. We never stop learning from each other.
I wish everyone a fabulous Friday! ❤️🌈
He does such amazing work in the Chems@x scene. ❤️🏳️🌈
Working collaboratively is key to making real important change. We never stop learning from each other.
I wish everyone a fabulous Friday! ❤️🌈
It’s always a pleasure to offer clinical supervision to an international group of therapists for IOSS. The topic today was problematic porn use. We had very interesting in-depth conversations! 💚
November 6, 2025 at 6:14 PM
It’s always a pleasure to offer clinical supervision to an international group of therapists for IOSS. The topic today was problematic porn use. We had very interesting in-depth conversations! 💚
“Porn addiction” is not clinically endorsed. The body of scientific research actually hasn’t found any causation of mental health or sexual health issues. But there are correlations.
November 6, 2025 at 1:20 PM
“Porn addiction” is not clinically endorsed. The body of scientific research actually hasn’t found any causation of mental health or sexual health issues. But there are correlations.
COVID-19 jab done! ✅
It’s expensive but worth it, I think.
Flu jab on Monday, COVID today. It’s a jabby week this week! 😁
It’s expensive but worth it, I think.
Flu jab on Monday, COVID today. It’s a jabby week this week! 😁
November 6, 2025 at 10:02 AM
COVID-19 jab done! ✅
It’s expensive but worth it, I think.
Flu jab on Monday, COVID today. It’s a jabby week this week! 😁
It’s expensive but worth it, I think.
Flu jab on Monday, COVID today. It’s a jabby week this week! 😁
Great news!
I'm delighted to share the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on "sex/porn addiction", supported by clinicians around the world.
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
I'm delighted to share the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on "sex/porn addiction", supported by clinicians around the world.
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
Statement from the journal of sexual and relationship therapy: international perspectives on theory, research, and practice on ‘sex addiction,’ ‘pornography addiction’, out-of-control-sexual-behaviour...
Published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy (Ahead of Print, 2025)
www.tandfonline.com
November 5, 2025 at 11:03 AM
Great news!
I'm delighted to share the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on "sex/porn addiction", supported by clinicians around the world.
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
I'm delighted to share the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal position statement on "sex/porn addiction", supported by clinicians around the world.
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
The term “problematic porn use” (PPU) is commonly used by clinicians but it carries the bias that the problem with porn always lies with the person watching it.
However, often, the distress is felt by the partner of the person watching porn, not the person watching it.
However, often, the distress is felt by the partner of the person watching porn, not the person watching it.
November 4, 2025 at 12:02 PM
The term “problematic porn use” (PPU) is commonly used by clinicians but it carries the bias that the problem with porn always lies with the person watching it.
However, often, the distress is felt by the partner of the person watching porn, not the person watching it.
However, often, the distress is felt by the partner of the person watching porn, not the person watching it.
Flu jab done today ✅
November 3, 2025 at 8:31 PM
Flu jab done today ✅
Happy Halloween! 🎃
It is a time believed to be when the boundary between physical world and the spiritual is thinnest. 👻
How are you celebrating Halloween?
If you want a short queer read on Halloween, here’s my Psychology Today blog! 🎃👻💀🏳️🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
It is a time believed to be when the boundary between physical world and the spiritual is thinnest. 👻
How are you celebrating Halloween?
If you want a short queer read on Halloween, here’s my Psychology Today blog! 🎃👻💀🏳️🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
October 31, 2025 at 5:18 PM
Happy Halloween! 🎃
It is a time believed to be when the boundary between physical world and the spiritual is thinnest. 👻
How are you celebrating Halloween?
If you want a short queer read on Halloween, here’s my Psychology Today blog! 🎃👻💀🏳️🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
It is a time believed to be when the boundary between physical world and the spiritual is thinnest. 👻
How are you celebrating Halloween?
If you want a short queer read on Halloween, here’s my Psychology Today blog! 🎃👻💀🏳️🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
I’m back at the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes for a live webinar on working with compulsive sexual behaviours on Saturday 17th January at 9am (EST)/ 2pm (GMT).
Come and join us! 🇺🇸🇬🇧💜🌈
modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/product/work...
Come and join us! 🇺🇸🇬🇧💜🌈
modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/product/work...
October 30, 2025 at 4:24 PM
I’m back at the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes for a live webinar on working with compulsive sexual behaviours on Saturday 17th January at 9am (EST)/ 2pm (GMT).
Come and join us! 🇺🇸🇬🇧💜🌈
modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/product/work...
Come and join us! 🇺🇸🇬🇧💜🌈
modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/product/work...
It is Halloween week! 🎃👻💀
Although Halloween itself is about honouring the dead, the Halloween week is filled with horror movies and scary things in shops.
It is a good opportunity to ask ourselves: what is our biggest fear?
Although Halloween itself is about honouring the dead, the Halloween week is filled with horror movies and scary things in shops.
It is a good opportunity to ask ourselves: what is our biggest fear?
October 29, 2025 at 1:54 PM
It is Halloween week! 🎃👻💀
Although Halloween itself is about honouring the dead, the Halloween week is filled with horror movies and scary things in shops.
It is a good opportunity to ask ourselves: what is our biggest fear?
Although Halloween itself is about honouring the dead, the Halloween week is filled with horror movies and scary things in shops.
It is a good opportunity to ask ourselves: what is our biggest fear?
Therapists in therapy. It seems to be taboo. Why?
I’m in therapy. There, I said it!
I resumed therapy seven months ago, not long after my mother died.
This time, I chose an integrative and existential therapist.
I’m in therapy. There, I said it!
I resumed therapy seven months ago, not long after my mother died.
This time, I chose an integrative and existential therapist.
October 24, 2025 at 5:09 PM
Therapists in therapy. It seems to be taboo. Why?
I’m in therapy. There, I said it!
I resumed therapy seven months ago, not long after my mother died.
This time, I chose an integrative and existential therapist.
I’m in therapy. There, I said it!
I resumed therapy seven months ago, not long after my mother died.
This time, I chose an integrative and existential therapist.
I’m now in Soho, my home.
Blowing a kiss to you all!
We’re fabulously queer! We’re part of nature because nature is queer too! We have always been here since humans walked the Earth, and we will always be here.
Sending LOVE to you all! ❤️🌈❤️🌈❤️🌈
Blowing a kiss to you all!
We’re fabulously queer! We’re part of nature because nature is queer too! We have always been here since humans walked the Earth, and we will always be here.
Sending LOVE to you all! ❤️🌈❤️🌈❤️🌈
October 20, 2025 at 7:42 PM
I’m now in Soho, my home.
Blowing a kiss to you all!
We’re fabulously queer! We’re part of nature because nature is queer too! We have always been here since humans walked the Earth, and we will always be here.
Sending LOVE to you all! ❤️🌈❤️🌈❤️🌈
Blowing a kiss to you all!
We’re fabulously queer! We’re part of nature because nature is queer too! We have always been here since humans walked the Earth, and we will always be here.
Sending LOVE to you all! ❤️🌈❤️🌈❤️🌈
I really enjoyed writing this blog for Psychology Today.
I hope you will enjoy reading it! 🎃👻💀🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
I hope you will enjoy reading it! 🎃👻💀🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
Halloween and Queer Culture
Halloween is a fun celebration for many, but for queer people, it can be an especially meaningful opportunity to honour their community, counter stigma, and find belonging.
www.psychologytoday.com
October 20, 2025 at 9:52 AM
I really enjoyed writing this blog for Psychology Today.
I hope you will enjoy reading it! 🎃👻💀🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
I hope you will enjoy reading it! 🎃👻💀🌈
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...
We had a gorgeous sunny Summer this year, so I’m now ready for Autumn. Such a beautiful season! 🍁
It is soothing to observe and be in nature doing its thing in the changing seasons, recycling, transitioning, renewing in its slow regular patterns 🧡
It is soothing to observe and be in nature doing its thing in the changing seasons, recycling, transitioning, renewing in its slow regular patterns 🧡
October 17, 2025 at 9:55 AM
We had a gorgeous sunny Summer this year, so I’m now ready for Autumn. Such a beautiful season! 🍁
It is soothing to observe and be in nature doing its thing in the changing seasons, recycling, transitioning, renewing in its slow regular patterns 🧡
It is soothing to observe and be in nature doing its thing in the changing seasons, recycling, transitioning, renewing in its slow regular patterns 🧡
Last week, a group of Christian Evangelicals calling themselves “Kings Army” descended upon Soho shouting homophobic slurs.
As a gay man, Soho is one of the only safe places where I can be fully myself. It is my safe place and I consider it my home.
As a gay man, Soho is one of the only safe places where I can be fully myself. It is my safe place and I consider it my home.
October 15, 2025 at 10:57 PM
Last week, a group of Christian Evangelicals calling themselves “Kings Army” descended upon Soho shouting homophobic slurs.
As a gay man, Soho is one of the only safe places where I can be fully myself. It is my safe place and I consider it my home.
As a gay man, Soho is one of the only safe places where I can be fully myself. It is my safe place and I consider it my home.
It’s the third time I am in the Canary Islands.
It is always poignant for me.
My grandmother who devoted her life to support her family had only one wish for herself: to visit the Canary Islands.
But her husband didn’t want to travel so she never made it.
It is always poignant for me.
My grandmother who devoted her life to support her family had only one wish for herself: to visit the Canary Islands.
But her husband didn’t want to travel so she never made it.
October 1, 2025 at 10:16 PM
It’s the third time I am in the Canary Islands.
It is always poignant for me.
My grandmother who devoted her life to support her family had only one wish for herself: to visit the Canary Islands.
But her husband didn’t want to travel so she never made it.
It is always poignant for me.
My grandmother who devoted her life to support her family had only one wish for herself: to visit the Canary Islands.
But her husband didn’t want to travel so she never made it.
I’m grateful for Yasmina Floyer spotlighting my critique of sex addiction in the October issue of Psychologies.
As you know I’m passionate about highlighting the harm done by applying an addiction treatment to sexual behaviours. And offering ethical and sex-positive methods instead ❤️
As you know I’m passionate about highlighting the harm done by applying an addiction treatment to sexual behaviours. And offering ethical and sex-positive methods instead ❤️
September 29, 2025 at 3:31 PM
I’m grateful for Yasmina Floyer spotlighting my critique of sex addiction in the October issue of Psychologies.
As you know I’m passionate about highlighting the harm done by applying an addiction treatment to sexual behaviours. And offering ethical and sex-positive methods instead ❤️
As you know I’m passionate about highlighting the harm done by applying an addiction treatment to sexual behaviours. And offering ethical and sex-positive methods instead ❤️
It was a pleasure to be a guest on the Let’s Talk About Love The Podcast hosted by Kayte.
We talked about sexual compulsivity, porn viewing and queer love!
Enjoy!
open.spotify.com/episode/6VSm...
We talked about sexual compulsivity, porn viewing and queer love!
Enjoy!
open.spotify.com/episode/6VSm...
Beyond Shame: Queer Love, Porn, and the Myths of Compulsive Sexual Behaviours and Addictions- with Silva Neves
Spotify video
open.spotify.com
September 26, 2025 at 1:06 PM
It was a pleasure to be a guest on the Let’s Talk About Love The Podcast hosted by Kayte.
We talked about sexual compulsivity, porn viewing and queer love!
Enjoy!
open.spotify.com/episode/6VSm...
We talked about sexual compulsivity, porn viewing and queer love!
Enjoy!
open.spotify.com/episode/6VSm...
New publication!
My peer-reviewed article has just been published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal!
Adopting a queer lens working with LGBTQ+ young people. ❤️🌈
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
My peer-reviewed article has just been published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal!
Adopting a queer lens working with LGBTQ+ young people. ❤️🌈
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
Adopting a queer lens working with LGBTQ+ young people
This opinion piece discusses what clinicians need to pay attention to when working with LGBTQ+ young people. Working with young people in general is challenging because the clinician needs to be cu...
www.tandfonline.com
September 26, 2025 at 8:55 AM
New publication!
My peer-reviewed article has just been published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal!
Adopting a queer lens working with LGBTQ+ young people. ❤️🌈
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
My peer-reviewed article has just been published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal!
Adopting a queer lens working with LGBTQ+ young people. ❤️🌈
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
Yesterday I delivered an EMDR workshop for the regional group in Bedfordshire, Buckinghamshire and Hertfordshire on recovery after sexual assault.
September 26, 2025 at 8:14 AM
Yesterday I delivered an EMDR workshop for the regional group in Bedfordshire, Buckinghamshire and Hertfordshire on recovery after sexual assault.