Erik Karff, LMFT | LGBTQ+ & Men's Therapy in SF
@sftherapy.bsky.social
LGBTQ+ affirming therapist in SF specializing in men’s mental health, anxiety, grief, and relationships. Offering therapy for emotional wellness and growth. https://buff.ly/hgLkv8K
#LGBTQTherapy #MensMentalHealth #TherapyForMen
#LGBTQTherapy #MensMentalHealth #TherapyForMen
So many couples carry shame they’ve never named—about needs, desire, identity, mistakes.
This piece explores how shame shows up in relationships and what repair actually looks like.
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#CouplesTherapySF #AttachmentHealing #RelationshipAdvice
November 19, 2025 at 5:10 PM
So many couples carry shame they’ve never named—about needs, desire, identity, mistakes.
This piece explores how shame shows up in relationships and what repair actually looks like.
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#CouplesTherapySF #AttachmentHealing #RelationshipAdvice
November 15, 2025 at 10:48 PM
What are the hallmarks of #avoidant attachment?
How does interpersonal trauma shape these patterns?
And how can mindful self-compassion begin to transform them?
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#AttachmentStyles #TraumaHealing #MindfulSelfCompassion #Therapy #Healing
November 13, 2025 at 10:48 PM
What are the hallmarks of #avoidant attachment?
How does interpersonal trauma shape these patterns?
And how can mindful self-compassion begin to transform them?
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#AttachmentStyles #TraumaHealing #MindfulSelfCompassion #Therapy #Healing
For many gay men, perfectionism isn’t just a personal habit—it’s a survival strategy. I explore how this shows up and what therapy can offer.
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#GayMen #MentalHealth #Perfectionism #QueerTherapy
November 13, 2025 at 5:10 PM
For many gay men, perfectionism isn’t just a personal habit—it’s a survival strategy. I explore how this shows up and what therapy can offer.
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#GayMen #MentalHealth #Perfectionism #QueerTherapy
We don’t talk enough about how perfectionism can serve as protection—and how it also takes a toll. If you’re a gay or queer man and you’ve felt this way, you might find something connected here.
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#LGBTQIA #GayMenMentalHealth #TherapyForMen #Authenticity
November 11, 2025 at 10:48 PM
We don’t talk enough about how perfectionism can serve as protection—and how it also takes a toll. If you’re a gay or queer man and you’ve felt this way, you might find something connected here.
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#LGBTQIA #GayMenMentalHealth #TherapyForMen #Authenticity
Avoidant attachment can look like independence on the surface, but often hides deep patterns of protection.
How does trauma shape these patterns? & how can mindful self-compassion help us soften & heal?
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#AvoidantAttachment #SelfCompassion #TraumaHealing #TherapyForMen
October 30, 2025 at 4:10 PM
Avoidant attachment can look like independence on the surface, but often hides deep patterns of protection.
How does trauma shape these patterns? & how can mindful self-compassion help us soften & heal?
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#AvoidantAttachment #SelfCompassion #TraumaHealing #TherapyForMen
“To Be a Man” by Martin Luke Brown hits hard because it’s honest.
This new article is about how it mirrors men’s quiet struggle between control & closeness.
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#TherapyForMen #Masculinity #MusicAndHealing
October 7, 2025 at 4:10 PM
“To Be a Man” by Martin Luke Brown hits hard because it’s honest.
This new article is about how it mirrors men’s quiet struggle between control & closeness.
buff.ly/JWm4SW8
#TherapyForMen #Masculinity #MusicAndHealing
October 2, 2025 at 4:10 PM
Gay men often carry shame that isn’t just personal—it’s inherited through silence, stigma, and distorted ideas of masculinity. My latest blog explores how shame takes root and how we can begin unlearning it.
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#GayMen #MensTherapy #LGBTQMentalHealth #QueerMentalHealth
September 18, 2025 at 9:48 PM
Gay men often carry shame that isn’t just personal—it’s inherited through silence, stigma, and distorted ideas of masculinity. My latest blog explores how shame takes root and how we can begin unlearning it.
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#GayMen #MensTherapy #LGBTQMentalHealth #QueerMentalHealth
“Be a man.” “Don’t cry.” For gay men, these messages combine w/ homophobia to create layers of shame. In this blog, I explore how this legacy shows up today—& the process of liberation .
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#GayMen #Masculinity #MensTherapy #QueerMentalHealth
September 17, 2025 at 4:10 PM
“Be a man.” “Don’t cry.” For gay men, these messages combine w/ homophobia to create layers of shame. In this blog, I explore how this legacy shows up today—& the process of liberation .
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#GayMen #Masculinity #MensTherapy #QueerMentalHealth
Shame doesn’t just belong to the past. For many gay men, it’s a legacy carried in silence, stigma, and the way masculinity has been policed. My new article unpacks this burden and paths toward healing.
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#GayMen #MensTherapy #Masculinity #LGBTQMentalHealth
September 16, 2025 at 9:48 PM
Shame doesn’t just belong to the past. For many gay men, it’s a legacy carried in silence, stigma, and the way masculinity has been policed. My new article unpacks this burden and paths toward healing.
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#GayMen #MensTherapy #Masculinity #LGBTQMentalHealth
Disconnection isn’t just a feeling—it’s a pattern many queer men have had to survive.
This new piece explores why it’s so hard to reach for connection, and what’s underneath the silence. buff.ly/FXsAILx
#GayMen #QueerMen #LGBTQMentalHealth #Masculinity #TherapyForMen
This new piece explores why it’s so hard to reach for connection, and what’s underneath the silence. buff.ly/FXsAILx
#GayMen #QueerMen #LGBTQMentalHealth #Masculinity #TherapyForMen
August 29, 2025 at 9:48 PM
Disconnection isn’t just a feeling—it’s a pattern many queer men have had to survive.
This new piece explores why it’s so hard to reach for connection, and what’s underneath the silence. buff.ly/FXsAILx
#GayMen #QueerMen #LGBTQMentalHealth #Masculinity #TherapyForMen
This new piece explores why it’s so hard to reach for connection, and what’s underneath the silence. buff.ly/FXsAILx
#GayMen #QueerMen #LGBTQMentalHealth #Masculinity #TherapyForMen
August 27, 2025 at 9:48 PM
When we say “men don’t open up,” we rarely ask: what’s it costing them? This piece is for anyone curious about why disconnection runs so deep. #MentalHealthAwareness #Masculinity #MensHealth #MentalHealth
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August 27, 2025 at 4:10 PM
When we say “men don’t open up,” we rarely ask: what’s it costing them? This piece is for anyone curious about why disconnection runs so deep. #MentalHealthAwareness #Masculinity #MensHealth #MentalHealth
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Feeling disconnected is more than just being alone. It’s about emotional isolation. It's real and let’s talk about it.
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#MenAndFeelings #Loneliness #EmotionalWellness
August 14, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Feeling disconnected is more than just being alone. It’s about emotional isolation. It's real and let’s talk about it.
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#MenAndFeelings #Loneliness #EmotionalWellness
Loneliness isn’t always obvious. Emotional isolation can be just as painful. Learn more about the difference.
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#LonelinessAwareness #MenInTherapy #MentalHealthMatters
August 12, 2025 at 4:10 PM
Loneliness isn’t always obvious. Emotional isolation can be just as painful. Learn more about the difference.
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#LonelinessAwareness #MenInTherapy #MentalHealthMatters
Shame isolates. Connection heals. A new piece on the hidden patterns that keep us stuck—and how therapy helps. Link: buff.ly/8mR5A9S
#shame #mensmentalhealth #therapyforchange #healingjourney
August 5, 2025 at 4:10 PM
Shame isolates. Connection heals. A new piece on the hidden patterns that keep us stuck—and how therapy helps. Link: buff.ly/8mR5A9S
#shame #mensmentalhealth #therapyforchange #healingjourney
There’s a path between self-sacrifice and disconnection. It’s called interdependence.
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#codependency #relationships #therapy #healing #boundaries
August 4, 2025 at 4:10 PM
There’s a path between self-sacrifice and disconnection. It’s called interdependence.
New post here: buff.ly/gxVRTmR
#codependency #relationships #therapy #healing #boundaries
Shame whispers: “You’re the only one who hurts.” It lies. You’re not. On how we hide, hurt, and heal:
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#mentalhealth #mensissues #healing #therapy #emotionalhealth
August 1, 2025 at 9:48 PM
Shame whispers: “You’re the only one who hurts.” It lies. You’re not. On how we hide, hurt, and heal:
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#mentalhealth #mensissues #healing #therapy #emotionalhealth
Untangling care from control.
Dismantling the myth that love means sacrifice.
Moving from codependency to interdependence: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#queerhealing #codependency #relationaltrauma #interdependence #therapyinsights
Moving from codependency to interdependence: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#queerhealing #codependency #relationaltrauma #interdependence #therapyinsights
July 25, 2025 at 9:48 PM
Untangling care from control.
Dismantling the myth that love means sacrifice.
Moving from codependency to interdependence: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#queerhealing #codependency #relationaltrauma #interdependence #therapyinsights
Moving from codependency to interdependence: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#queerhealing #codependency #relationaltrauma #interdependence #therapyinsights
What does it actually mean to be “too much” or “too needy”?
And what if the path out of codependency isn’t detachment—but deeper connection with boundaries?
A new post: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#codependency #relationalhealing #mentalhealth #LGBTQtherapy #selfworth
A new post: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#codependency #relationalhealing #mentalhealth #LGBTQtherapy #selfworth
July 23, 2025 at 9:48 PM
What does it actually mean to be “too much” or “too needy”?
And what if the path out of codependency isn’t detachment—but deeper connection with boundaries?
A new post: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#codependency #relationalhealing #mentalhealth #LGBTQtherapy #selfworth
A new post: buff.ly/qQUQlW4
#codependency #relationalhealing #mentalhealth #LGBTQtherapy #selfworth
Early in my training, we’d read one of Thích Nhất Hạnh’s invocations weekly. His teachings shape how I sit with loss — my own & my clients’. This poem still brings me back to interbeing. buff.ly/NynbGEb
#Therapists #GriefWork #ThichNhatHanh #MindfulTherapy
July 17, 2025 at 9:48 PM
Early in my training, we’d read one of Thích Nhất Hạnh’s invocations weekly. His teachings shape how I sit with loss — my own & my clients’. This poem still brings me back to interbeing. buff.ly/NynbGEb
#Therapists #GriefWork #ThichNhatHanh #MindfulTherapy