Fellow spankos, make of that what you will.

I'd hesitate to laugh if I were standing off to the side there just because of what's in your hand 😅 That being said, spanko bloopers are a different kind of funny!

"There's nothing wrong with stopping and clarifying!" YES. Such an important point, and something I learned the hard way early on as a spanko.

You: "That means I can't get spanked for my behavior tonight!"
@biggirlspanker.bsky.social: "Uh huh..."

I felt that "Uh huh" in my soul 😂

Will do! I know I've said this in the Chicago chat, but you three do some fantastic work on the podcast!

I’ll give it listen!!

Oh I can imagine!! One trend I've noticed is submissive men expecting a female switch to be toppy 24/7, too. I'm sure many have had that frustrating experience.

Lmao pretty much!! So disrespectful.

Ickkkkkkk. Guessing they were referring to themselves lol

Precisely! My rule is I wouldn't brat someone who I wouldn't let top me, and not to brat constantly. It just becomes obnoxious after a while.

Absolutely. I know if I'm in a submissive headspace and someone brats me, all it does is annoy me; and I know I'm not the only switch with that experience.

I love this! I've seen people hint at it on Fetlife and elsewhere. You're absolutely right. Everything else we spankos do requires consent. Bratting is no different.

I have a bratty streak too; I 100% get that! I think it's why communication is so important, and why that negotiation stage is so important.

This is a conversation that I think NEEDS to happen in the spanko community. Much love to our bratty friends, but like anything, consent should be obtained prior to any bratting.

Absolutely, and communication is so important, as is managing expectations.

And that makes total sense!! I think that's where open communication and managing expectations is so important. I'm a pure 50/50 switch and whenever I discuss entering a dynamic with someone, that's something I make clear - that I can't be one role 24/7, that's just not how I'm wired.

100%. The bratting discussion is another one that I think needs to happen. I'm all for good-natured fun, but some definitely take it too far.

YES! That's an excellent point. Honestly, if I'm in a submissive headspace and someone tries bratting me, it just annoys me. Especially if I've communicated I'm not feeling toppy.