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when I say, "I love coffee," what I mean is, "I love David Lynch, who also loved coffee."
FINISHED READING WAR AND PEACE BY LEO TOLSTOY 28 OCTOBER, 2025
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And, in what should be an automatic coda to any article about women's consumption of sexual material, anything good in erotica most certainly could not apply to porn. For ... reasons.

Sexy words: good. Sexy pictures: bad.

Society has so many weird rules about how women get off.
Above all, romantasy allows for "exploration of domination and surrender and intensity — within a very protective framework," said Erika Miley, a clinical sexologist in Spokane, Wash. Unlike standard pornography, which she described as immediate and visual, romantasy tends to be internal, emotional and imaginative, Dr. Miley continued. "Porn bypasses that safety of the slow burn," she said. "Whereas romantasy intentionally builds it."
November 17, 2025 at 6:05 PM
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I think there are interesting observations about the kinds of sex characters are having, enjoying, etc in popular romance. but whorephobia and anti-porn rhetoric is not doing the genre any favors. it is incredibly alienating and dehumanizing to read these papers often with little or no pushback.
November 17, 2025 at 2:26 AM
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November 16, 2025 at 8:09 PM
scarr.bsky.social
I burst out laughing when I got to the diagram lol. I was like, is this a joke? several times the author of the paper was like, "we don't know for sure but we will keep looking for harm" or "we don't necessarily think the government should ban porn . . . "
November 16, 2025 at 2:54 PM
scarr.bsky.social
I read the source the paper cited, A Sensible Antiporn Feminism by A. W. Eaton, and it did also suck!
feedback effects of pornography for individual users: desire for pornography - pornography usage - sexist attitudes - leads back to desire for pornography As a remedy, this article offers a careful and nuanced delineation of pornography's alleged harms, recognizing a wide range of potential injuries that differ in terms of character and severity. Third, and related, we are sensitive to the entire range of pornography's putative harms when proposing means of prevention and redress. A sensible APF is cautious and judicious and not necessarily in favor of state regulation of pornography. Fourth, we understand the claim that pornography causes harm as a hypothesis that has yet to be conclusively proved (or refuted) and that must be tested empirically. This article proposes that APF employ the methods of epidemiology-our current best science of causes—in attempting to verify the harm hypothesis. Fifth, a sensible APF holds that gender inequality is the cumulative effect of multiple factors, of which inegalitarian pornography is just one. This is to say, we adhere to a multicomponent view of causality in which pornography is one factor in a complex causal mechanism. We do not hold pornography solely responsible for gender inequality, nor do we think that elimination of pornography would solve all our problems. Sixth, and related, we also construe the causal relation between pornography and its purported harms probabilistically and as holding ceteris paribus. This is to say, exposure to pornography is neither necessary nor sufficient for its putative injuries but rather raises the chances of harm depending on context. Seventh, and finally, we conceive of pornography's role in sexism on the model of a feedback loop: at the same time that inegal-itarian pornography is the result of gender inequality, it also facilitates and accelerates this inequality, and it does so cumulatively.
November 16, 2025 at 2:38 PM
scarr.bsky.social
exactly! I feel insane that this kind of idea of fiction as a model for behavior is taken seriously.
November 15, 2025 at 8:41 PM
scarr.bsky.social
I was supposed to do things today not spiral about this piece of shit paper
KEYWORDS Romance; popular romance studies; pornography; sex; feminism; romance genre; genre fiction; pro-sex feminism; anti-porn feminism The romance genre is a powerful educative tool which can - and should - advocate for the realities of sex, and present egalitarian pursuits of pleasure, so as to remind young people (but specifically women) that what sex is, and could become, lies with them (Srinivisan 2021, 71).
November 15, 2025 at 7:59 PM
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November 15, 2025 at 7:17 PM
scarr.bsky.social
*sources being the romance books
November 15, 2025 at 7:08 PM
scarr.bsky.social
it’s a mess! I think there is something to explore wrt what popular romance is saying about desire … but this is not it! it’s also not drawing from interesting sources sorry lol
November 15, 2025 at 7:07 PM
scarr.bsky.social
people writing these papers get hung up on the *aesthetics* of porn - angles, positions, etc. - discounting any possibility of porn being an art object and an object of labor worthy of evaluation, one that is not hung up on morality of its existence!
November 15, 2025 at 6:49 PM
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it’s from North American Romance Writers!

www.goodreads.com/book/show/33...
North American Romance Writers
In this work, Kay Mussell and Johanna Tuñón collect ess…
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November 15, 2025 at 6:23 PM
scarr.bsky.social
anyway art doesn’t need to be didactic (romance is art, porn is art)
I have discovered since, has a much smaller purpose and a much more immediate benefit. Good writing is about honesty, about finding Your own view to the truth and expressing it as articulately as possible in your own individual voice, so that a reader can try your world out for a day or two and test it against her own. To the extent that social or philosophical realities feminism, humanism, postmodernism, all the isms have shaped my thinking (and many have), then these have shaped my work. But I support no philosophies or trends in my writing that derive from a sense of social responsibility. Romance has often found itself heaped with more than its share of burden when it comes to social responsibilities. One example that comes immediately to mind is the attack on romance from feminist quarters in the last decade, which claims that romance fosters unhealthy sexual roles for women. I won't even argue whether this claim has merit; it doesn't, but merit is not my point. First of all, I take exception to anyone who would have romance novels take on a responsibility that no other branch of literature is asked to shoulder: namely the "molding" —or "mismolding," some would say—of its readers. Anne Tyler writes rather charmingly of dysfunctional families yet is not blamed for creating them. Norman Mailer has written with interest and some sympathy for murderers yet has never had seriously to defend himself as the cause of murders. Vladimir Nabokov is not these days blamed for pedophilia; such examples are infinite. Why a romance that portrays one rotten thing or another should then have to defend itself or, God forbid, the entire genre against perpetuating unhealthy attitudes is beyond me. Rotten things are part of life. People liking rotten things is a part of life. If someone can portray rotten values at work in a sympathetic way, what a feat! What a work of art! I've seen it done well in romances, and ! applaud it. I've seen it done badly in romances and this is my point and I loathe the work. But not for its subject matter. Rather, for its creator's failure of imagination. Romance, I suspect, will never gain the stature it covets because of the social issues it addresses. Moreover, if we seek praise for the issues we address, we are likely to win it and find ourselves on the same plane as writers of good self-improvement pamphlets. Or worse, the writers of good propaganda that supports the current regime, the party line. That is not to say that if an issue speaks to a writer, she should not write about it. We all have content, ideas to get across. I am only saying that the whole notion of "issues" smacks of a kind of self-censorship to me. l hate to think of a writer looking for a "good topic" instead of a compelling topic, a social topic instead of her own topic particular to her
November 15, 2025 at 6:12 PM
scarr.bsky.social
this paper sucks and so does most romance scholarship wrt porn and sex work.
November 15, 2025 at 5:58 PM
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thank you for understanding 😂🖤
November 14, 2025 at 12:43 AM
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Anyway: pornographic art and performance is good, people have a right to the vast majority of their kinks, and it is ridiculous that consenting adults are finding those rights strangled by big tech and payment platforms
November 14, 2025 at 12:00 AM