RSDiva
@rsdiva.bsky.social
taking RSD to new depths since 2025
(an AuDHD burner account... because unmasking in public can be dangerous #iykyk)
(an AuDHD burner account... because unmasking in public can be dangerous #iykyk)
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RSDiva
@rsdiva.bsky.social
· Oct 7
yes I think it’s cruel to label a person with “rejection sensitivity” when they’ve endured heaps of state-sanctioned abuse & neglect* and now get sad each time it happens anew.
friends, that’s peak victim blaming
(*I’m looking at you, ABA & all your spinoff cultural norms 🤨)
friends, that’s peak victim blaming
(*I’m looking at you, ABA & all your spinoff cultural norms 🤨)
when there’s disagreement they love to say, You’ll both need to meet in the middle -
But the middle is a place I left in the dust ages ago -
it’s a speck in my rearview on the path I took to lose me
so I could have a few stolen moments among you
Before my autisms once again proved “too much”
But the middle is a place I left in the dust ages ago -
it’s a speck in my rearview on the path I took to lose me
so I could have a few stolen moments among you
Before my autisms once again proved “too much”
January 6, 2026 at 6:21 PM
when there’s disagreement they love to say, You’ll both need to meet in the middle -
But the middle is a place I left in the dust ages ago -
it’s a speck in my rearview on the path I took to lose me
so I could have a few stolen moments among you
Before my autisms once again proved “too much”
But the middle is a place I left in the dust ages ago -
it’s a speck in my rearview on the path I took to lose me
so I could have a few stolen moments among you
Before my autisms once again proved “too much”
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“Yes, you are,” replied Toad.
December 12, 2025 at 2:38 AM
“Yes, you are,” replied Toad.
I’ve been shamed a lot for being sad - depressed - intense.
But I realized today: a lot of the grief I carry isn’t even mine.
Pls dont shame us for being empaths & couriers of ancestral trauma… our energy & our capacity to hold the grief are needed.
Stop pathologizing the deep thinkers & feelers
But I realized today: a lot of the grief I carry isn’t even mine.
Pls dont shame us for being empaths & couriers of ancestral trauma… our energy & our capacity to hold the grief are needed.
Stop pathologizing the deep thinkers & feelers
November 27, 2025 at 10:25 PM
I’ve been shamed a lot for being sad - depressed - intense.
But I realized today: a lot of the grief I carry isn’t even mine.
Pls dont shame us for being empaths & couriers of ancestral trauma… our energy & our capacity to hold the grief are needed.
Stop pathologizing the deep thinkers & feelers
But I realized today: a lot of the grief I carry isn’t even mine.
Pls dont shame us for being empaths & couriers of ancestral trauma… our energy & our capacity to hold the grief are needed.
Stop pathologizing the deep thinkers & feelers
slept thru breakfast cried thru lunch
but after that my outlook improved…
lesson learned? sometimes ya gotta give in to the sad.
give RSD its moment in the spotlight and then it will shut the hell up for a while
but after that my outlook improved…
lesson learned? sometimes ya gotta give in to the sad.
give RSD its moment in the spotlight and then it will shut the hell up for a while
November 20, 2025 at 9:52 PM
slept thru breakfast cried thru lunch
but after that my outlook improved…
lesson learned? sometimes ya gotta give in to the sad.
give RSD its moment in the spotlight and then it will shut the hell up for a while
but after that my outlook improved…
lesson learned? sometimes ya gotta give in to the sad.
give RSD its moment in the spotlight and then it will shut the hell up for a while
weird being way too much & also not enough
…nowhere near enough
never enough to make ‘em stay
…nowhere near enough
never enough to make ‘em stay
November 5, 2025 at 9:42 PM
weird being way too much & also not enough
…nowhere near enough
never enough to make ‘em stay
…nowhere near enough
never enough to make ‘em stay
EDS at midlife means my teeth are all cracking and breaking, rushing to abandon ship like rats on a sinking vessel
October 30, 2025 at 2:59 PM
EDS at midlife means my teeth are all cracking and breaking, rushing to abandon ship like rats on a sinking vessel
October 25, 2025 at 6:38 PM
ofc they want you to think you're your own worst enemy... that turns the spotlight away from their cruelties & failures
October 17, 2025 at 8:02 PM
ofc they want you to think you're your own worst enemy... that turns the spotlight away from their cruelties & failures
you fucking matter and your feelings matter too
❤️
❤️
October 17, 2025 at 6:59 PM
you fucking matter and your feelings matter too
❤️
❤️
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"If we keep calling autistic communication a 'deficit,' we miss the truth. Autistic ppl don’t lack social skills; we have our own. We connect in ways that make sense within our neurotype, just as other groups do." Dr. Megan Neff; her #SNS panel is in 15 min.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...
Seeing Autism as Difference, Not Deficit
Small talk or straight talk? Autism communication has its own logic—and embracing difference opens the door to empathy. Understanding this can transform empathy and connection.
www.psychologytoday.com
September 13, 2025 at 8:43 PM
"If we keep calling autistic communication a 'deficit,' we miss the truth. Autistic ppl don’t lack social skills; we have our own. We connect in ways that make sense within our neurotype, just as other groups do." Dr. Megan Neff; her #SNS panel is in 15 min.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...
Reposted by RSDiva
Books by Niamh Garvey (@niamhgarvey.bsky.social) and Dr Megan Anna Neff are excellent for learning about your own capabilities and needs! Both authors are Autistic.
I'll link to a couple below (I am sure there are other great books, but these are ones I have personally read).
I'll link to a couple below (I am sure there are other great books, but these are ones I have personally read).
September 12, 2025 at 12:55 AM
Books by Niamh Garvey (@niamhgarvey.bsky.social) and Dr Megan Anna Neff are excellent for learning about your own capabilities and needs! Both authors are Autistic.
I'll link to a couple below (I am sure there are other great books, but these are ones I have personally read).
I'll link to a couple below (I am sure there are other great books, but these are ones I have personally read).
found out yesterday a group of the neighbor moms got together recently, without me
the mom who mentioned it was like, "I thought I was going to see you there?" and I just shook my head stiffly, blood pulsing in my head, RSD screaming inside but outside silent
how could I tell her I wasn't invited
the mom who mentioned it was like, "I thought I was going to see you there?" and I just shook my head stiffly, blood pulsing in my head, RSD screaming inside but outside silent
how could I tell her I wasn't invited
October 17, 2025 at 2:44 PM
found out yesterday a group of the neighbor moms got together recently, without me
the mom who mentioned it was like, "I thought I was going to see you there?" and I just shook my head stiffly, blood pulsing in my head, RSD screaming inside but outside silent
how could I tell her I wasn't invited
the mom who mentioned it was like, "I thought I was going to see you there?" and I just shook my head stiffly, blood pulsing in my head, RSD screaming inside but outside silent
how could I tell her I wasn't invited
tried to tell a dear old friend abt her microaggressions, made a gentle attempt to carve out space for myself & still keep the friendship...
her response?
"We see this situation differently. And that's okay with me"
Kim this isn't flavors of ice cream it's ableist bullying.
and it's NOT ok with me
her response?
"We see this situation differently. And that's okay with me"
Kim this isn't flavors of ice cream it's ableist bullying.
and it's NOT ok with me
October 16, 2025 at 8:45 PM
tried to tell a dear old friend abt her microaggressions, made a gentle attempt to carve out space for myself & still keep the friendship...
her response?
"We see this situation differently. And that's okay with me"
Kim this isn't flavors of ice cream it's ableist bullying.
and it's NOT ok with me
her response?
"We see this situation differently. And that's okay with me"
Kim this isn't flavors of ice cream it's ableist bullying.
and it's NOT ok with me
dunno what got into me but I stood up to 3 ‘friends’ today
2 separate friend groups but same dynamic: I’d let them treat me like I was lucky to tag along
(in truth, I believed that was true)
but today I had a change of ❤️
I said “enough”
quietly, no fuss
felt like Michael Corleone in Godfather I
2 separate friend groups but same dynamic: I’d let them treat me like I was lucky to tag along
(in truth, I believed that was true)
but today I had a change of ❤️
I said “enough”
quietly, no fuss
felt like Michael Corleone in Godfather I
a man in a suit and tie with the year 2022 on the bottom right corner
ALT: a man in a suit and tie with the year 2022 on the bottom right corner
media.tenor.com
October 14, 2025 at 4:13 AM
dunno what got into me but I stood up to 3 ‘friends’ today
2 separate friend groups but same dynamic: I’d let them treat me like I was lucky to tag along
(in truth, I believed that was true)
but today I had a change of ❤️
I said “enough”
quietly, no fuss
felt like Michael Corleone in Godfather I
2 separate friend groups but same dynamic: I’d let them treat me like I was lucky to tag along
(in truth, I believed that was true)
but today I had a change of ❤️
I said “enough”
quietly, no fuss
felt like Michael Corleone in Godfather I
so tired of meticulously planning 5 different possible convos before entering a small talk situation
for once I’d love to just wing it, just pick up my kid after martial arts class & say whatever comes to mind in the moment
but I know what’ll happen.
the other moms have me walking on eggshells
for once I’d love to just wing it, just pick up my kid after martial arts class & say whatever comes to mind in the moment
but I know what’ll happen.
the other moms have me walking on eggshells
October 11, 2025 at 3:29 PM
so tired of meticulously planning 5 different possible convos before entering a small talk situation
for once I’d love to just wing it, just pick up my kid after martial arts class & say whatever comes to mind in the moment
but I know what’ll happen.
the other moms have me walking on eggshells
for once I’d love to just wing it, just pick up my kid after martial arts class & say whatever comes to mind in the moment
but I know what’ll happen.
the other moms have me walking on eggshells
so tired of apologizing for ‘getting it wrong’ in social situations and ‘overthinking’ the outcome
my whole life I’ve playing the game blindfolded & without the same rulebook as everyone else
my whole life I’ve playing the game blindfolded & without the same rulebook as everyone else
October 11, 2025 at 3:23 PM
so tired of apologizing for ‘getting it wrong’ in social situations and ‘overthinking’ the outcome
my whole life I’ve playing the game blindfolded & without the same rulebook as everyone else
my whole life I’ve playing the game blindfolded & without the same rulebook as everyone else
me: fuck I totally forgot to text that friend back, I’m such a loser
also me: they didnt text me back, it’s probably bc they hate me? probably everyone hates, and why wouldn’t they I’m a loser
also me: they didnt text me back, it’s probably bc they hate me? probably everyone hates, and why wouldn’t they I’m a loser
October 9, 2025 at 7:03 PM
me: fuck I totally forgot to text that friend back, I’m such a loser
also me: they didnt text me back, it’s probably bc they hate me? probably everyone hates, and why wouldn’t they I’m a loser
also me: they didnt text me back, it’s probably bc they hate me? probably everyone hates, and why wouldn’t they I’m a loser
classic rock hit Summer of ‘69 is full of double entendre and I just realized that TODAY!!!!!!!
I’m the absolute last human on earth to receive this memo aren’t I?
I’m the absolute last human on earth to receive this memo aren’t I?
October 8, 2025 at 8:36 PM
classic rock hit Summer of ‘69 is full of double entendre and I just realized that TODAY!!!!!!!
I’m the absolute last human on earth to receive this memo aren’t I?
I’m the absolute last human on earth to receive this memo aren’t I?
yes I think it’s cruel to label a person with “rejection sensitivity” when they’ve endured heaps of state-sanctioned abuse & neglect* and now get sad each time it happens anew.
friends, that’s peak victim blaming
(*I’m looking at you, ABA & all your spinoff cultural norms 🤨)
friends, that’s peak victim blaming
(*I’m looking at you, ABA & all your spinoff cultural norms 🤨)
October 7, 2025 at 6:48 PM
yes I think it’s cruel to label a person with “rejection sensitivity” when they’ve endured heaps of state-sanctioned abuse & neglect* and now get sad each time it happens anew.
friends, that’s peak victim blaming
(*I’m looking at you, ABA & all your spinoff cultural norms 🤨)
friends, that’s peak victim blaming
(*I’m looking at you, ABA & all your spinoff cultural norms 🤨)
“Earlier u said u weren’t upset but I just wanted to make sure, are u sure? You’re not mad?” is absolutely a great conversation opener don’t let some insensitive snob tell you otherwise
October 7, 2025 at 5:32 PM
“Earlier u said u weren’t upset but I just wanted to make sure, are u sure? You’re not mad?” is absolutely a great conversation opener don’t let some insensitive snob tell you otherwise
knock knock
who’s there
Erin
Erin who
Air in your lungs & out again for a count of 8 will help you feel better so let’s take some deep breaths together bestie. You’re gonna be ok. I promise ❤️❤️❤️❤️
who’s there
Erin
Erin who
Air in your lungs & out again for a count of 8 will help you feel better so let’s take some deep breaths together bestie. You’re gonna be ok. I promise ❤️❤️❤️❤️
October 6, 2025 at 7:06 PM
knock knock
who’s there
Erin
Erin who
Air in your lungs & out again for a count of 8 will help you feel better so let’s take some deep breaths together bestie. You’re gonna be ok. I promise ❤️❤️❤️❤️
who’s there
Erin
Erin who
Air in your lungs & out again for a count of 8 will help you feel better so let’s take some deep breaths together bestie. You’re gonna be ok. I promise ❤️❤️❤️❤️
my agenda for today*:
1) inadvertently annoy someone, mildly
2) ask “are you mad at me” and don’t accept no for an answer
3) until they level up to “actually, yeah i AM mad at you”
*repeat daily until death
1) inadvertently annoy someone, mildly
2) ask “are you mad at me” and don’t accept no for an answer
3) until they level up to “actually, yeah i AM mad at you”
*repeat daily until death
October 6, 2025 at 7:00 PM
my agenda for today*:
1) inadvertently annoy someone, mildly
2) ask “are you mad at me” and don’t accept no for an answer
3) until they level up to “actually, yeah i AM mad at you”
*repeat daily until death
1) inadvertently annoy someone, mildly
2) ask “are you mad at me” and don’t accept no for an answer
3) until they level up to “actually, yeah i AM mad at you”
*repeat daily until death