Aftercare for me looks like softness and reassurance—physical closeness, hydration, and gentle check-ins. Feeling emotionally seen and having space to decompress and discuss what I enjoyed, would change for the next time and other feedback. This helps me feel safe and grounded.

If it’s a new or old dynamic which is involved, I really value having an in-person conversation about boundaries and limits in a calm and casual setting first. I like approaching it as a collaborative check-in—what we’re curious about, what’s off-limits, and how we’ll communicate if things shift.