Sara Mathews (PlumJam)
@plumjam61.bsky.social
Experienced Therapist, Grief Counsellor and Clinical Supervisor. BACP Registered and Accredited working online. Likes a laugh, loves fashion!
www.saramathewscounselling.co.uk
www.saramathewscounselling.co.uk
Secret opinion
(Because fairly sure no one I know reads this stuff ….)
I am trying to do more of what I want or don’t want and less of what other people want me to do. I’m trying to be polite and kind but so far this week I’ve had a dear friend be rude to me and now I’ve got a sulking husband.
(Because fairly sure no one I know reads this stuff ….)
I am trying to do more of what I want or don’t want and less of what other people want me to do. I’m trying to be polite and kind but so far this week I’ve had a dear friend be rude to me and now I’ve got a sulking husband.
June 25, 2025 at 7:39 AM
Secret opinion
(Because fairly sure no one I know reads this stuff ….)
I am trying to do more of what I want or don’t want and less of what other people want me to do. I’m trying to be polite and kind but so far this week I’ve had a dear friend be rude to me and now I’ve got a sulking husband.
(Because fairly sure no one I know reads this stuff ….)
I am trying to do more of what I want or don’t want and less of what other people want me to do. I’m trying to be polite and kind but so far this week I’ve had a dear friend be rude to me and now I’ve got a sulking husband.
11 more people and I reach 1,000 followers which to me is EPIC!
Grateful for this growing community thank you
Grateful for this growing community thank you
June 17, 2025 at 8:17 AM
11 more people and I reach 1,000 followers which to me is EPIC!
Grateful for this growing community thank you
Grateful for this growing community thank you
How to greet your therapist 🤣https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdD2h6fF/
TikTok - Make Your Day
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June 15, 2025 at 6:09 PM
How to greet your therapist 🤣https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdD2h6fF/
BlueSky engagement be like
Drop ….
Drop ….
a large body of water with waves and foam coming out of it
ALT: a large body of water with waves and foam coming out of it
media.tenor.com
June 6, 2025 at 3:50 PM
BlueSky engagement be like
Drop ….
Drop ….
Loved Department Q on Netflix - unusually I much preferred TV Carl to Book Carl who I thought was tiresomely sexist.
But once again fictitious representations of a therapist are very odd. One minute she’s offering therapy, the next she pretending he’s her brother and then she’s round his house!
But once again fictitious representations of a therapist are very odd. One minute she’s offering therapy, the next she pretending he’s her brother and then she’s round his house!
June 6, 2025 at 6:05 AM
Loved Department Q on Netflix - unusually I much preferred TV Carl to Book Carl who I thought was tiresomely sexist.
But once again fictitious representations of a therapist are very odd. One minute she’s offering therapy, the next she pretending he’s her brother and then she’s round his house!
But once again fictitious representations of a therapist are very odd. One minute she’s offering therapy, the next she pretending he’s her brother and then she’s round his house!
Posts that assertively demand we all stop doing this or calling something that when no-one I know, have read or worked with have ever used these terms 👀
What is that all about?
What is that all about?
May 22, 2025 at 7:10 AM
Posts that assertively demand we all stop doing this or calling something that when no-one I know, have read or worked with have ever used these terms 👀
What is that all about?
What is that all about?
I just don’t understand when narcissistic traits became like witch burning. Isn’t it our job to work with people to help them live better lives?
I’m a CSA survivor and did my fair share of hurting myself and others when I was younger. Imagine if we were all demonised rather than supported.
I’m a CSA survivor and did my fair share of hurting myself and others when I was younger. Imagine if we were all demonised rather than supported.
May 20, 2025 at 7:59 AM
I just don’t understand when narcissistic traits became like witch burning. Isn’t it our job to work with people to help them live better lives?
I’m a CSA survivor and did my fair share of hurting myself and others when I was younger. Imagine if we were all demonised rather than supported.
I’m a CSA survivor and did my fair share of hurting myself and others when I was younger. Imagine if we were all demonised rather than supported.
I see things on social about how anxiety belongs to one generation or another and I think it’s nonsense.
All of us throughout our lives may feel anxious, overwhelmed etc. I think it’s useful to understand how age and social context impact that but not in order to take sole ownership.
Your view?
All of us throughout our lives may feel anxious, overwhelmed etc. I think it’s useful to understand how age and social context impact that but not in order to take sole ownership.
Your view?
May 19, 2025 at 6:36 AM
I see things on social about how anxiety belongs to one generation or another and I think it’s nonsense.
All of us throughout our lives may feel anxious, overwhelmed etc. I think it’s useful to understand how age and social context impact that but not in order to take sole ownership.
Your view?
All of us throughout our lives may feel anxious, overwhelmed etc. I think it’s useful to understand how age and social context impact that but not in order to take sole ownership.
Your view?
I have a neuro divergent supervisor. She is fantastic!
I learn so much from her in many different ways but specifically:
I have learned how we build relationship together in ways that suit us both and how we can notice, discuss and learn from differences between us.
I learn so much from her in many different ways but specifically:
I have learned how we build relationship together in ways that suit us both and how we can notice, discuss and learn from differences between us.
May 12, 2025 at 8:24 AM
I have a neuro divergent supervisor. She is fantastic!
I learn so much from her in many different ways but specifically:
I have learned how we build relationship together in ways that suit us both and how we can notice, discuss and learn from differences between us.
I learn so much from her in many different ways but specifically:
I have learned how we build relationship together in ways that suit us both and how we can notice, discuss and learn from differences between us.
I get that algorithm’s can be evil but BS is a very hard platform to feel much sense of belonging I find.
Just me?
Just me?
April 25, 2025 at 2:25 PM
I get that algorithm’s can be evil but BS is a very hard platform to feel much sense of belonging I find.
Just me?
Just me?
April 24, 2025 at 11:52 AM
Back to work today
April 22, 2025 at 7:43 AM
Back to work today
Morning Blue Sky. Therapy practise re-opens today after by holiday. Going back to the work is always energising and daunting too. It matters
#therapy
#therapy
April 22, 2025 at 6:56 AM
Morning Blue Sky. Therapy practise re-opens today after by holiday. Going back to the work is always energising and daunting too. It matters
#therapy
#therapy
Today is my 64th birthday!
Busy day with client work but nice plans coming up. Therapeutically my 60’s have been the best years of my career. It’s a great decade for me.
#Therapist
Busy day with client work but nice plans coming up. Therapeutically my 60’s have been the best years of my career. It’s a great decade for me.
#Therapist
April 8, 2025 at 6:02 AM
Today is my 64th birthday!
Busy day with client work but nice plans coming up. Therapeutically my 60’s have been the best years of my career. It’s a great decade for me.
#Therapist
Busy day with client work but nice plans coming up. Therapeutically my 60’s have been the best years of my career. It’s a great decade for me.
#Therapist
Seeing ourselves with “softer eyes” sounds like a goal most of us would benefit from. Lovely stuff from @pperry.bsky.social
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
Intrusive thoughts have convinced me I’m repulsive to look at
This inner critic isn’t you, it’s just a voice that has been given far too much authority
www.theguardian.com
April 6, 2025 at 7:51 AM
Seeing ourselves with “softer eyes” sounds like a goal most of us would benefit from. Lovely stuff from @pperry.bsky.social
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
The ultimate misogyny- it’s Mother’s Day in the UK and they only let us have 23 hours of it ….
#clockschange
#clockschange
March 30, 2025 at 8:52 AM
The ultimate misogyny- it’s Mother’s Day in the UK and they only let us have 23 hours of it ….
#clockschange
#clockschange
Training had been intense. Since Marjorie won both the Chockabox (small) and Chockabox (medium) competitions her coach felt she was ready for Chockablock and maybe one day even Chockabrick!
#Wackywordwed
#Wackywordwed
March 27, 2025 at 7:47 AM
Training had been intense. Since Marjorie won both the Chockabox (small) and Chockabox (medium) competitions her coach felt she was ready for Chockablock and maybe one day even Chockabrick!
#Wackywordwed
#Wackywordwed
Morning BlueSky just a straightforward forward greeting that doesn’t mention any kind of politician whatsoever!
Have as good a day as you can everyone
Have as good a day as you can everyone
March 26, 2025 at 8:11 AM
Morning BlueSky just a straightforward forward greeting that doesn’t mention any kind of politician whatsoever!
Have as good a day as you can everyone
Have as good a day as you can everyone
This is so important and one of the many reasons to look beyond labels
A person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.
- #CarlRogers
- #CarlRogers
March 23, 2025 at 9:45 AM
This is so important and one of the many reasons to look beyond labels
All my life I’ve been someone who sometimes wants to stir the pot…by this I mean say things that are hard to say. Having controversial views is nothing new so it’s not just me. I think it comes from the repression I experienced as an abused child when I couldn’t speak
March 23, 2025 at 8:44 AM
All my life I’ve been someone who sometimes wants to stir the pot…by this I mean say things that are hard to say. Having controversial views is nothing new so it’s not just me. I think it comes from the repression I experienced as an abused child when I couldn’t speak
@janecasey.bsky.social I am on Book 6 and absolutely love Maeve….thank you for creating her and thank you to @mariankeyes.bsky.social for the recommendation
March 17, 2025 at 9:16 AM
@janecasey.bsky.social I am on Book 6 and absolutely love Maeve….thank you for creating her and thank you to @mariankeyes.bsky.social for the recommendation
Reposted by Sara Mathews (PlumJam)
Are you aware of this starter pack for the psychodynamically curious? Do follow and feel free to ask to join if you post regularly on this topic: go.bsky.app/D8D9ARz
March 16, 2025 at 11:11 AM
Are you aware of this starter pack for the psychodynamically curious? Do follow and feel free to ask to join if you post regularly on this topic: go.bsky.app/D8D9ARz
Episode 3 of the Netflix drama Adolescence is an amazingly powerful representation of a therapist that I actually recognise as truthful.
Usually in dramas we are busy having affairs with clients or generally behaving like morons but this was incredible.
#therapists
Usually in dramas we are busy having affairs with clients or generally behaving like morons but this was incredible.
#therapists
March 16, 2025 at 10:40 AM
Episode 3 of the Netflix drama Adolescence is an amazingly powerful representation of a therapist that I actually recognise as truthful.
Usually in dramas we are busy having affairs with clients or generally behaving like morons but this was incredible.
#therapists
Usually in dramas we are busy having affairs with clients or generally behaving like morons but this was incredible.
#therapists
Love the idea that imposter syndrome just doesn’t know what it’s talking about @pperry.bsky.social
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
Feeling like an imposter is holding me back at work
That voice in your head telling you that you’re saying the wrong things, or not saying enough, is not telling the truth
www.theguardian.com
March 16, 2025 at 8:53 AM
Love the idea that imposter syndrome just doesn’t know what it’s talking about @pperry.bsky.social
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
Adolescence tho
Extraordinary telly
Extraordinary telly
March 15, 2025 at 8:05 AM
Adolescence tho
Extraordinary telly
Extraordinary telly