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Phil and Maude write about how to have a peaceful relationship. Their motto: “Spreading peace, one relationship at a time!”
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This is the kind of church that I prefer.
~~From Poetry for the Soul
~~From Poetry for the Soul
October 4, 2025 at 7:50 PM
This is the kind of church that I prefer.
~~From Poetry for the Soul
~~From Poetry for the Soul
It's like driving: the car goes where you look.
Why Being Positive is so Powerful in Relationships and in the World
Raise your voice to affirm that the path is one of love and gentleness, peace and kindness, and that we are on that path
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October 6, 2025 at 7:49 PM
It's like driving: the car goes where you look.
There’s a very distinct sensation associated with truly being seen
September 22, 2025 at 3:31 PM
There’s a very distinct sensation associated with truly being seen
You will find that you get more done and experience more fully when you spend that bit of time learning to be fully present and open in your interactions with others.
September 13, 2025 at 5:56 PM
You will find that you get more done and experience more fully when you spend that bit of time learning to be fully present and open in your interactions with others.
In these kinds of sessions, something new always emerges. It grows out of that union of two having an awareness of the way of the one.
September 13, 2025 at 5:54 PM
In these kinds of sessions, something new always emerges. It grows out of that union of two having an awareness of the way of the one.
n each of these styles of reaching solutions, there is an implied separateness between the people. You are on one side, and the other person is on a different side. Peaceful paths require a foundational understanding that you are both on the same side.
September 13, 2025 at 5:51 PM
n each of these styles of reaching solutions, there is an implied separateness between the people. You are on one side, and the other person is on a different side. Peaceful paths require a foundational understanding that you are both on the same side.
You can't have a peaceful relationship if you don't have respect for your partner.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T Is One of the Factors of Peace in Relationships
To fully respect another person is to find the place where there’s no attempt or need to alter them
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September 9, 2025 at 3:38 AM
You can't have a peaceful relationship if you don't have respect for your partner.
To fully respect another person is to find the place where there’s no attempt or need to alter them; you’re not trying to make them you; you’re accepting them for who they are.
September 8, 2025 at 12:10 PM
To fully respect another person is to find the place where there’s no attempt or need to alter them; you’re not trying to make them you; you’re accepting them for who they are.
Peace craves to exist within relationships and can be applied to all interactions. When coupled with love, peace sings with a Siren’s song.
August 31, 2025 at 2:25 PM
Peace craves to exist within relationships and can be applied to all interactions. When coupled with love, peace sings with a Siren’s song.
This sense of trust allows a different behavior when moments of apparent clashing occur. You are interested in how the other person feels without any thought of who is right or wrong. You also feel safe and able to communicate what you are feeling. These sharings are devoid of blame and accusation.
August 18, 2025 at 2:42 PM
This sense of trust allows a different behavior when moments of apparent clashing occur. You are interested in how the other person feels without any thought of who is right or wrong. You also feel safe and able to communicate what you are feeling. These sharings are devoid of blame and accusation.
This is not about suppressing your feelings, but rather selecting which of your feelings and thoughts you want to represent in your words and deeds.
August 16, 2025 at 2:36 PM
This is not about suppressing your feelings, but rather selecting which of your feelings and thoughts you want to represent in your words and deeds.
It is very empowering to realize that we have a choice in how we relate if we reach out and grab it. Sometimes all it takes is stepping inside yourself and finding the value you want to manifest with your actions and words. Peace is just a choice away
August 16, 2025 at 2:32 PM
It is very empowering to realize that we have a choice in how we relate if we reach out and grab it. Sometimes all it takes is stepping inside yourself and finding the value you want to manifest with your actions and words. Peace is just a choice away
When something happens that jars me or pushes a button, I stop and say What is happening? Oh, this is interesting. What is it inside me that I’m responding to? What is going on for me here that I’m having this reaction? It gives me a choice. And by doing this, I roll through the days more easily.
How Relationships are Your Path Toward Growth
Looking inward to realize and get to know more of yourself is an integral part of gaining self-knowledge
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August 14, 2025 at 9:38 PM
When something happens that jars me or pushes a button, I stop and say What is happening? Oh, this is interesting. What is it inside me that I’m responding to? What is going on for me here that I’m having this reaction? It gives me a choice. And by doing this, I roll through the days more easily.
To reap the most benefit from such self-exploration, look for what values are involved. Are there real values involved, or is this reaction some leftover vestige of earlier life? Is this fear-motivated, or love-motivated?
August 14, 2025 at 6:36 PM
To reap the most benefit from such self-exploration, look for what values are involved. Are there real values involved, or is this reaction some leftover vestige of earlier life? Is this fear-motivated, or love-motivated?
What is going on inside me? What is this reaction about? A rich field of learning and growth awaits those who follow this path. It removes conflict, blame, withdrawal, and judgment in one simple act.
August 14, 2025 at 6:33 PM
What is going on inside me? What is this reaction about? A rich field of learning and growth awaits those who follow this path. It removes conflict, blame, withdrawal, and judgment in one simple act.
“When I feel myself reacting to someone with discomfort, withdrawal, or confusion, I go inside and talk it over with myself. I ask, “Hmm, what is going on inside of me that is bringing this turmoil or reaction?”
August 14, 2025 at 6:30 PM
“When I feel myself reacting to someone with discomfort, withdrawal, or confusion, I go inside and talk it over with myself. I ask, “Hmm, what is going on inside of me that is bringing this turmoil or reaction?”
it relies on a deep sense of the “we” in the relationship and a firm shared knowledge that we are both on the same side
July 13, 2025 at 10:20 PM
it relies on a deep sense of the “we” in the relationship and a firm shared knowledge that we are both on the same side
You will find that you get more done and experience more fully when you spend that bit of time learning to be fully present and open in your interactions with others
July 12, 2025 at 1:51 PM
You will find that you get more done and experience more fully when you spend that bit of time learning to be fully present and open in your interactions with others
In being fully available to another person, you come out of the busyness of thoughts and personal stories into the world of unique personalities, each seeking to grow and find peace
July 12, 2025 at 1:37 PM
In being fully available to another person, you come out of the busyness of thoughts and personal stories into the world of unique personalities, each seeking to grow and find peace
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Roses 🌹😍❤️
The petals are white outside, but red on the inside. The red is showcased when the petals fully open. "Never judge a book by its cover." And not everyone/everything is "what you see is what you get." Hidden treasures get exposed over time. ✨️💖
#Flowers #Rose #photography #Nature #quote
The petals are white outside, but red on the inside. The red is showcased when the petals fully open. "Never judge a book by its cover." And not everyone/everything is "what you see is what you get." Hidden treasures get exposed over time. ✨️💖
#Flowers #Rose #photography #Nature #quote
July 5, 2025 at 6:55 PM
Roses 🌹😍❤️
The petals are white outside, but red on the inside. The red is showcased when the petals fully open. "Never judge a book by its cover." And not everyone/everything is "what you see is what you get." Hidden treasures get exposed over time. ✨️💖
#Flowers #Rose #photography #Nature #quote
The petals are white outside, but red on the inside. The red is showcased when the petals fully open. "Never judge a book by its cover." And not everyone/everything is "what you see is what you get." Hidden treasures get exposed over time. ✨️💖
#Flowers #Rose #photography #Nature #quote
This sweet nougat of grace is there always between us. And on this journey we have undertaken to swim within it with consciousness.
July 8, 2025 at 5:42 PM
This sweet nougat of grace is there always between us. And on this journey we have undertaken to swim within it with consciousness.
Placing an emphasis on the value that relationships have in your life helps you shift them from passing encounters to a central position of importance.
July 8, 2025 at 3:21 AM
Placing an emphasis on the value that relationships have in your life helps you shift them from passing encounters to a central position of importance.
The key component is that you take the time to just revel in being together, in whatever form, as long as conscious presence and awareness are part of that sharing.
July 8, 2025 at 2:31 AM
The key component is that you take the time to just revel in being together, in whatever form, as long as conscious presence and awareness are part of that sharing.
In being fully available to another person, you come out of the busyness of thoughts and personal stories into the world of unique personalities, each seeking to grow and find peace. This is a path to peaceful relationships.
July 8, 2025 at 2:28 AM
In being fully available to another person, you come out of the busyness of thoughts and personal stories into the world of unique personalities, each seeking to grow and find peace. This is a path to peaceful relationships.