Every year I try to pick a quote and 2026 is RuPaul; “What other people think of me is not my business. What I do is what I do. How people see me doesn’t change what I decide to do.”

I've been trying to be more social on a few different apps but honestly it feels like I'm micro dosing poison lol. Anything that has any kind of a news feed is just awful. I still feel like I have to be aware of what's going on around me but in the new year I would like to be more aware of that cost

2025 was filled with unbelievable grief. We lost family, friends, mentors, and visionaries. The ripples cast last January are still felt today. This year I want to reinforce my mental infrastructure so when tragedy hits I can give myself the space and grace to process it.

I've never been a resolution person (I'm too anxious and once I fall off the wagon I stay off lol) so I commit to a college try:

In 2026 I'm going to try to continue to rebuild my community. We lost a lot of contact with people since lockdown and I worked hard to reconnect in 2025 so more of that.

like... I thought that my social media feed was over exaggerating or rage baiting me but no we're all just going to collectively forget that Tuesday happened and continue doing the same thing over and over and pretending it's not insanity from a bunch of trust me bros

It's been nearly two decades of this dance and because we're familiar partners the fallout won't be too bad.

I'm glad that things get fixed up when we have the time to do it and having it be a little dysfunctional is the spice of life. I wish that we'd start The Project earlier though lol /end

It's almost always something that is Very Important and likely Overdue.

This is where I swing in as support - most of these projects require starting something that takes time to work and during that pause is The Distraction. I've become pretty adept at redirecting him back like a focus timer /4

The Project is remembered late at night the day before The Holiday. Sometimes it's physical - usually it's virtual - but almost always there's some kind of large setup that must be started and addressed before wrapping up. Setting up is easy and putting it away is like fighting with the ocean. /3

which will (of course) run into the next weekend. I'm pretty used to it by now so I'm able to offer support before everything comes crashing down tonight.

Usually the big catalyst for this is The Project that was accidentally indefinitely postponed until there was More Time. /2

I'm sure there's a study out there that talks about how holidays are terrible for people that are neurodivergent because once they leave the confines of that very strict schedule there are no rules, time has no meaning, and the days after the holiday are going to turn into catching up on sleep /1

when the rubber hit the pavement he was just a regular guy like the rest of them when the cameras were off. If there's anyone out there with the neuromuscular disability looking for community I highly recommend hooking up with NMD United www.nmdunited.org on their socials. Happy Labor Day, Kids.

shirts with washable markers. Looking back on it, it was a small thing but that whole interaction informed the rest of my life. Before that day, he was practically a saint in my eyes - taking his time and clout to raise money and awareness for something that did not affect him personally but /2