Miss Pearl 🍁
@omisspearl.bsky.social
Find me at omisspearl.com
Author, blogger, dominant and occasionally community (dis)organizer.
I talk about lifestyle femdom and stuff. Often I tilt at windmills. No, I will not be your dominant.
(she/they) 18+ posts may occur.
Author, blogger, dominant and occasionally community (dis)organizer.
I talk about lifestyle femdom and stuff. Often I tilt at windmills. No, I will not be your dominant.
(she/they) 18+ posts may occur.
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Miss Pearl 🍁
@omisspearl.bsky.social
· Sep 6
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"The Unbearable Submissive Ego Of Domme Songs"
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"The Unbearable Submissive Ego Of Domme Songs"
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It's a nuisance to be one of those people who really likes the aesthetics of old systems and nice old things, but knowing that age tends to make things full of rot or gatekept all to heck in the worst ways.
November 20, 2025 at 2:05 PM
It's a nuisance to be one of those people who really likes the aesthetics of old systems and nice old things, but knowing that age tends to make things full of rot or gatekept all to heck in the worst ways.
When someone who is A Somebody is posting mundanities I can never tell how much replying at them is actually appropriate and how much is overwhelm. I worry about the parasocial grey area versus the fact that I know people who share want attention, because human.
November 19, 2025 at 8:15 PM
When someone who is A Somebody is posting mundanities I can never tell how much replying at them is actually appropriate and how much is overwhelm. I worry about the parasocial grey area versus the fact that I know people who share want attention, because human.
Listening to "Nine Tailors" a 1934 murder mystery that would fall firmly in the classification of cozy. In which they discuss auto erotic asphyxia, and if the possible murder might not just be that.
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
November 19, 2025 at 6:55 PM
Listening to "Nine Tailors" a 1934 murder mystery that would fall firmly in the classification of cozy. In which they discuss auto erotic asphyxia, and if the possible murder might not just be that.
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
Try as I might, the full on anti natalist/voluntary extinction part of environmentalism or thinking about big systems will never not give me the ick. It's generally packaged with a lot of lazy homicidal ideation and thoughtlessness in the same flavor of the "end demand/Nordic" attack on sexwork.
November 19, 2025 at 2:05 PM
Try as I might, the full on anti natalist/voluntary extinction part of environmentalism or thinking about big systems will never not give me the ick. It's generally packaged with a lot of lazy homicidal ideation and thoughtlessness in the same flavor of the "end demand/Nordic" attack on sexwork.
Enjoying "In The Dog House", as far as fun femdom comics go. There are the usual aspects people will find irksome regarding consent and romance fiction tropes, but the chemistry is fun and you can read it for the plot alone.
November 18, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Enjoying "In The Dog House", as far as fun femdom comics go. There are the usual aspects people will find irksome regarding consent and romance fiction tropes, but the chemistry is fun and you can read it for the plot alone.
"Mindfulness" got very fashionable as an affordable mental health strategy and pushed as a corporate bandaid to stressed workers. They thought it puts the onus conveniently on the individual.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
November 18, 2025 at 2:45 PM
"Mindfulness" got very fashionable as an affordable mental health strategy and pushed as a corporate bandaid to stressed workers. They thought it puts the onus conveniently on the individual.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
Has anyone else noticed that sub writing about "why" tends to talk about feelings and dom writing about why tends to be more circumspect?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
November 18, 2025 at 2:05 PM
Has anyone else noticed that sub writing about "why" tends to talk about feelings and dom writing about why tends to be more circumspect?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
I think if I have to be judgemental about the subject of motivation, internalized scolding is the actual "brain being lazy". Positive self talk and patience with yourself are much harder.
November 17, 2025 at 8:15 PM
I think if I have to be judgemental about the subject of motivation, internalized scolding is the actual "brain being lazy". Positive self talk and patience with yourself are much harder.
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Important distinction between "uuuuff I don't like THAT" or "here's all the interesting ways in which this is fucked up" VS "They Never Should Have Written This In The First Place, Let This Be A Lesson To You To Never Write Anything Lest You Risk Becoming An Abomination Like Them""
November 17, 2025 at 2:53 PM
Important distinction between "uuuuff I don't like THAT" or "here's all the interesting ways in which this is fucked up" VS "They Never Should Have Written This In The First Place, Let This Be A Lesson To You To Never Write Anything Lest You Risk Becoming An Abomination Like Them""
I think the first and foremost trouble the majority of neurodivergent people have is probably the sense of general shame. Your childhood was one of more corrections than a neurotypical child, and a sense you just weren't trying hard enough to keep in step.
November 17, 2025 at 2:05 PM
I think the first and foremost trouble the majority of neurodivergent people have is probably the sense of general shame. Your childhood was one of more corrections than a neurotypical child, and a sense you just weren't trying hard enough to keep in step.
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hello i am looking for queer porn created by ace/gray ace/demi people that is available to read for free online (legally!!)
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
November 16, 2025 at 7:02 PM
hello i am looking for queer porn created by ace/gray ace/demi people that is available to read for free online (legally!!)
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
A surprising amount of distraction blocking/avoiding culture tends to be incredibly punitive and shame focused in its approach. It's similar to diet culture, but for things that one might find entertaining rather than edible.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.
November 16, 2025 at 8:15 PM
A surprising amount of distraction blocking/avoiding culture tends to be incredibly punitive and shame focused in its approach. It's similar to diet culture, but for things that one might find entertaining rather than edible.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.
Migraine fairies starting today off. Ow. May need to cancel all engagements and tend to the icepick in my right sinus.
November 16, 2025 at 2:05 PM
Migraine fairies starting today off. Ow. May need to cancel all engagements and tend to the icepick in my right sinus.
Seattle people, a little bird told me that the author just left an Autographed copy, just after I bought mine. Bet one of you could still claim it...😁
#BeguiledBooks
#BeguiledBooks
Loot from the Beguiled Books opening in Seattle. Unfortunately they don't have the second book of @scarlettgauthor.bsky.social 's duology in stock, but they promised to order it. But, hooray for physical copies finally! #FemdomRomance
November 15, 2025 at 10:23 PM
Seattle people, a little bird told me that the author just left an Autographed copy, just after I bought mine. Bet one of you could still claim it...😁
#BeguiledBooks
#BeguiledBooks
Loot from the Beguiled Books opening in Seattle. Unfortunately they don't have the second book of @scarlettgauthor.bsky.social 's duology in stock, but they promised to order it. But, hooray for physical copies finally! #FemdomRomance
November 15, 2025 at 9:16 PM
Loot from the Beguiled Books opening in Seattle. Unfortunately they don't have the second book of @scarlettgauthor.bsky.social 's duology in stock, but they promised to order it. But, hooray for physical copies finally! #FemdomRomance
I just want to be over this book ban/prude panic nonesense, so I can go back to more harmless fandom slap fights and analytical criticisms.
It sucks to criticize a trope or a narrative assumption and have someone in the peanut gallery be gung-ho to financially and socially ruin the creator.
It sucks to criticize a trope or a narrative assumption and have someone in the peanut gallery be gung-ho to financially and socially ruin the creator.
November 15, 2025 at 8:15 PM
I just want to be over this book ban/prude panic nonesense, so I can go back to more harmless fandom slap fights and analytical criticisms.
It sucks to criticize a trope or a narrative assumption and have someone in the peanut gallery be gung-ho to financially and socially ruin the creator.
It sucks to criticize a trope or a narrative assumption and have someone in the peanut gallery be gung-ho to financially and socially ruin the creator.
It's going to be interesting to see the mainstreaming of "villains are hotter" to "the heroes are bad guys actually" to see if there's eventually a pendulum swing based on a glut of retellings. Don't get me wrong, I love a villain and am not tired of it...
November 15, 2025 at 4:23 PM
It's going to be interesting to see the mainstreaming of "villains are hotter" to "the heroes are bad guys actually" to see if there's eventually a pendulum swing based on a glut of retellings. Don't get me wrong, I love a villain and am not tired of it...
@strainedsilver.bsky.social has an accidental investment piece via his big 100% wool overcoat. When he bought it in the early aughts it was an alt fashion thing, the era of small thin sunglasses and techno optimism. Couple of decades later and it is a compliment magnet classic.
find someone who will wear a big overcoat with you
IG meetcutesnyc
IG meetcutesnyc
November 15, 2025 at 4:14 PM
@strainedsilver.bsky.social has an accidental investment piece via his big 100% wool overcoat. When he bought it in the early aughts it was an alt fashion thing, the era of small thin sunglasses and techno optimism. Couple of decades later and it is a compliment magnet classic.
The usual absolute frustration that I am steering someone wrong when yet another person shows up on the forum I moderate with questions about starting sex work.
a dog in a space suit says i have no idea what i m doing
Alt: a dog in a space suit says i have no idea what i m doing
media.tenor.com
November 15, 2025 at 4:02 PM
The usual absolute frustration that I am steering someone wrong when yet another person shows up on the forum I moderate with questions about starting sex work.
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With painstaking care, she assembled the hair, limbs, eyes and teeth to craft the perfect lover. Then with a spell she brought him to life, giving him a piece of her very own soul.
November 14, 2025 at 10:23 PM
With painstaking care, she assembled the hair, limbs, eyes and teeth to craft the perfect lover. Then with a spell she brought him to life, giving him a piece of her very own soul.
Whoever keeps commissioning @beckymastery.bsky.social please don't stop. Their mastery of expression and tension in pose is sublime. ❤️
November 15, 2025 at 2:00 AM
Whoever keeps commissioning @beckymastery.bsky.social please don't stop. Their mastery of expression and tension in pose is sublime. ❤️
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Monster romance, yes or yes? 💞
September 20, 2025 at 12:01 AM
Monster romance, yes or yes? 💞
If Starbucks is curious, I went from an enthusiastic PSL basic girlie to avoiding you because you stopped being the reason why my queer artist friends had healthcare and started being why they had repetitive strain injuries.
I bought the over priced beverage for the people who made it.
I bought the over priced beverage for the people who made it.
November 15, 2025 at 1:56 AM
If Starbucks is curious, I went from an enthusiastic PSL basic girlie to avoiding you because you stopped being the reason why my queer artist friends had healthcare and started being why they had repetitive strain injuries.
I bought the over priced beverage for the people who made it.
I bought the over priced beverage for the people who made it.
Kink in public isn't the big deal everyone makes it out to be, and most of the arguments against it conflate just existing with an invitation to participate. Or they operate under the most bad faith/kink shame interpretation of what people may potentially do.
"my least woke opinion is---"
That's enough. We've had enough people indulging in the "thrill of a little conservatism", as a treat. Of considering reactionary thought to be a salacious and taboo in a world descending into reactionary mania.
Give me your MOST woke opinions. We're bringing it back.
That's enough. We've had enough people indulging in the "thrill of a little conservatism", as a treat. Of considering reactionary thought to be a salacious and taboo in a world descending into reactionary mania.
Give me your MOST woke opinions. We're bringing it back.
November 15, 2025 at 1:12 AM
Kink in public isn't the big deal everyone makes it out to be, and most of the arguments against it conflate just existing with an invitation to participate. Or they operate under the most bad faith/kink shame interpretation of what people may potentially do.
When you type up a nice thoughtful Reddit reply and the app resets, purging what you were saying.
November 14, 2025 at 5:06 PM
When you type up a nice thoughtful Reddit reply and the app resets, purging what you were saying.