Miss Pearl 🍁
@omisspearl.bsky.social
Find me at omisspearl.com
Author, blogger, dominant and occasionally community (dis)organizer.
I talk about lifestyle femdom and stuff. Often I tilt at windmills. No, I will not be your dominant.
(she/they) 18+ posts may occur.
Author, blogger, dominant and occasionally community (dis)organizer.
I talk about lifestyle femdom and stuff. Often I tilt at windmills. No, I will not be your dominant.
(she/they) 18+ posts may occur.
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Miss Pearl 🍁
@omisspearl.bsky.social
· Sep 6
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"The Unbearable Submissive Ego Of Domme Songs"
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"The Unbearable Submissive Ego Of Domme Songs"
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Researching who wrote various BDSM guides, because you never want to announce 'it is quite good' and find out you recommended a noted missing stair.
November 13, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Researching who wrote various BDSM guides, because you never want to announce 'it is quite good' and find out you recommended a noted missing stair.
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Autism is navigating that 99% of the time you are hyper empathetic, but that 1% is going to spectacularly fuck you over when you try to act on the 99% part.
It's also struggling with the incongruity between your values & your own behavior, but not quite knowing how to square that particular circle.
It's also struggling with the incongruity between your values & your own behavior, but not quite knowing how to square that particular circle.
November 13, 2025 at 4:14 PM
Autism is navigating that 99% of the time you are hyper empathetic, but that 1% is going to spectacularly fuck you over when you try to act on the 99% part.
It's also struggling with the incongruity between your values & your own behavior, but not quite knowing how to square that particular circle.
It's also struggling with the incongruity between your values & your own behavior, but not quite knowing how to square that particular circle.
The secret to happiness is truly small, achievable goals.
Currently daydreaming about making someone deepthroat my fingers and then using their drool as lube
November 13, 2025 at 4:09 PM
The secret to happiness is truly small, achievable goals.
Interestingly I find that people who go deep into the weeds sewing historical fashion don't tend to poison your YouTube as quickly as people whose emphasis is on wearing or LARPing history. Someone trying to source 18th century busks seems less inclined to long lectures on how Things Were Better.
It's interesting seeing how much 'the medium is the message' plays for algorithm pipelines, based on which one of my YouTube habits drags you into horrible politics land.
Gardening takes you to homesteading, which lands in antivax. War history/theory goes straight to crusty old fart fascism.
Gardening takes you to homesteading, which lands in antivax. War history/theory goes straight to crusty old fart fascism.
November 13, 2025 at 3:46 PM
Interestingly I find that people who go deep into the weeds sewing historical fashion don't tend to poison your YouTube as quickly as people whose emphasis is on wearing or LARPing history. Someone trying to source 18th century busks seems less inclined to long lectures on how Things Were Better.
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It’s that time of year again, where I come around asking for support for @scarleteen.com for those able to pitch in with some cash, some shares, or both. We’re raising for a healthcare fund for our team this time around, and a 10k match is in play: classy.org/fundraiser/6815368 Can you help? ❤️🙏🏼
November 13, 2025 at 2:42 PM
It’s that time of year again, where I come around asking for support for @scarleteen.com for those able to pitch in with some cash, some shares, or both. We’re raising for a healthcare fund for our team this time around, and a 10k match is in play: classy.org/fundraiser/6815368 Can you help? ❤️🙏🏼
Bluesky is often an exercise in catching a side eye glimpse between some community's major beef with 0 context. "Oh God, it's them again, isn't it?" *Scoff noises*
But you have to dig to find out if it's fraud, sex offenders, organizing bullying or just being cringe. And do you really want to?
But you have to dig to find out if it's fraud, sex offenders, organizing bullying or just being cringe. And do you really want to?
November 13, 2025 at 2:57 PM
Bluesky is often an exercise in catching a side eye glimpse between some community's major beef with 0 context. "Oh God, it's them again, isn't it?" *Scoff noises*
But you have to dig to find out if it's fraud, sex offenders, organizing bullying or just being cringe. And do you really want to?
But you have to dig to find out if it's fraud, sex offenders, organizing bullying or just being cringe. And do you really want to?
It's interesting seeing how much 'the medium is the message' plays for algorithm pipelines, based on which one of my YouTube habits drags you into horrible politics land.
Gardening takes you to homesteading, which lands in antivax. War history/theory goes straight to crusty old fart fascism.
Gardening takes you to homesteading, which lands in antivax. War history/theory goes straight to crusty old fart fascism.
November 13, 2025 at 2:05 PM
It's interesting seeing how much 'the medium is the message' plays for algorithm pipelines, based on which one of my YouTube habits drags you into horrible politics land.
Gardening takes you to homesteading, which lands in antivax. War history/theory goes straight to crusty old fart fascism.
Gardening takes you to homesteading, which lands in antivax. War history/theory goes straight to crusty old fart fascism.
To this book's credit, all this isn't being said in a vacuum. Guide writers have to simultaneously emphasize nobody is a monster, while reigning in fantasy oriented morons who desperately want everything to be real to the point of danger to everyone involved.
Read a guide for dominants focused on understanding what subs want and not taking yourself too seriously. Now reading a guide for subs focused on largely communicating to get your needs met. A lot of "he gives me this, he does that, he is the other".
November 12, 2025 at 9:10 PM
To this book's credit, all this isn't being said in a vacuum. Guide writers have to simultaneously emphasize nobody is a monster, while reigning in fantasy oriented morons who desperately want everything to be real to the point of danger to everyone involved.
We are 42% into this guide and hooray we have hit "active submission", where we get some advice focused on the dominant. It's not bad (the book puts a lot of emphasis on relationship skills), but I am still kind of finding my hypothesis we think dominance is supposed to support itself out is true.
November 12, 2025 at 8:52 PM
We are 42% into this guide and hooray we have hit "active submission", where we get some advice focused on the dominant. It's not bad (the book puts a lot of emphasis on relationship skills), but I am still kind of finding my hypothesis we think dominance is supposed to support itself out is true.
Read a guide for dominants focused on understanding what subs want and not taking yourself too seriously. Now reading a guide for subs focused on largely communicating to get your needs met. A lot of "he gives me this, he does that, he is the other".
November 12, 2025 at 8:41 PM
Read a guide for dominants focused on understanding what subs want and not taking yourself too seriously. Now reading a guide for subs focused on largely communicating to get your needs met. A lot of "he gives me this, he does that, he is the other".
In one of those purge all the things moods, which currently involves manually emptying 3 years+ of YouTube "watch later".
November 12, 2025 at 8:15 PM
In one of those purge all the things moods, which currently involves manually emptying 3 years+ of YouTube "watch later".
The US being very insistent I pee in a cup every year to maintain my ADHD prescription is super weird.
November 12, 2025 at 5:44 PM
The US being very insistent I pee in a cup every year to maintain my ADHD prescription is super weird.
Take some extra time to support @acvalens.net
They have been one of the people tanking the anti-censorship fight and that puts them extra in the crosshairs for abusive reporting. Recently it was oopsies their unrelated to porn journalism Kofi being banned.
They have been one of the people tanking the anti-censorship fight and that puts them extra in the crosshairs for abusive reporting. Recently it was oopsies their unrelated to porn journalism Kofi being banned.
November 12, 2025 at 2:56 PM
Take some extra time to support @acvalens.net
They have been one of the people tanking the anti-censorship fight and that puts them extra in the crosshairs for abusive reporting. Recently it was oopsies their unrelated to porn journalism Kofi being banned.
They have been one of the people tanking the anti-censorship fight and that puts them extra in the crosshairs for abusive reporting. Recently it was oopsies their unrelated to porn journalism Kofi being banned.
A random favourite song, no BDSM subtext in this one though:
youtu.be/L1lNVvG5ZiU?...
I grew up on the context of the SCA and have a soft spot for folk music.
youtu.be/L1lNVvG5ZiU?...
I grew up on the context of the SCA and have a soft spot for folk music.
Dominion of the Sword
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Dominion of the Sword · Melrose Quartet
Dominion
℗ Melrose Quartet
Released on: 2017-11-10
Music Publisher: MCPS/PRS
Composer, Lyricist: Martin…
youtu.be
November 12, 2025 at 2:05 PM
A random favourite song, no BDSM subtext in this one though:
youtu.be/L1lNVvG5ZiU?...
I grew up on the context of the SCA and have a soft spot for folk music.
youtu.be/L1lNVvG5ZiU?...
I grew up on the context of the SCA and have a soft spot for folk music.
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In a lot of ways other leftists chose this path folks. They shrugged and didn’t care when Patreon banned a ton of hypnosis and TF creators, or when YouTube started their ASMR crackdown. Now it’s coming for queer porn creators, more and more. Who will stand up?
November 11, 2025 at 7:02 PM
In a lot of ways other leftists chose this path folks. They shrugged and didn’t care when Patreon banned a ton of hypnosis and TF creators, or when YouTube started their ASMR crackdown. Now it’s coming for queer porn creators, more and more. Who will stand up?
People think Misandry is some sort of bizzaro world role reversal where evil women throw all the men in a cage and hit them with whips for being male. But that's not even how actual Misogyny actually works, it's just as much as nuanced, intersectional problem.
November 11, 2025 at 3:38 PM
People think Misandry is some sort of bizzaro world role reversal where evil women throw all the men in a cage and hit them with whips for being male. But that's not even how actual Misogyny actually works, it's just as much as nuanced, intersectional problem.
Christmas is coming so I am going to shamelessly remind people that "A Holiday Under Her Control" is a lovely light femdom romance read like everyone keeps saying they want to see more of. Because we deserve cheesy Hallmark style Christmas specials too. www.amazon.com/Holiday-Unde...
November 11, 2025 at 3:32 PM
Christmas is coming so I am going to shamelessly remind people that "A Holiday Under Her Control" is a lovely light femdom romance read like everyone keeps saying they want to see more of. Because we deserve cheesy Hallmark style Christmas specials too. www.amazon.com/Holiday-Unde...
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A rare interview with the creators of the always-funny, always-brilliant, and *usually*-sexy—or occasionally anti-sexy—OGLAF!
Cooper has kept a low profile over the years, but is legitimately one of the very best artists in comics today. Read OGLAF if you're old enough to drive!
Cooper has kept a low profile over the years, but is legitimately one of the very best artists in comics today. Read OGLAF if you're old enough to drive!
Talking Oglaf with Trudy Cooper and Doug Bayne: 'We'd stay up all night drawing stuff to make each other laugh' - The Comics Journal
Other than some time off every year for Christmas, Trudy Cooper and Doug Bayne have delivered a new Oglaf comic, skewering fantasy tropes with absolutely not safe for work humor, every week since 2008...
www.tcj.com
November 10, 2025 at 6:42 PM
A rare interview with the creators of the always-funny, always-brilliant, and *usually*-sexy—or occasionally anti-sexy—OGLAF!
Cooper has kept a low profile over the years, but is legitimately one of the very best artists in comics today. Read OGLAF if you're old enough to drive!
Cooper has kept a low profile over the years, but is legitimately one of the very best artists in comics today. Read OGLAF if you're old enough to drive!
Early Christmas shopping. *Whistling noises*
Their NoFrillDo line better than many premium toys I have tried.
Their NoFrillDo line better than many premium toys I have tried.
Until food stamps resume, I'll be donating 25% of all NoFrillDo sales to my local food bank. That's $5 per series 3, $6 per series 1, and $10 per series 2. Go get a dildo and dil-do some good.
funkittoys.com/nofrilldo
funkittoys.com/nofrilldo
NoFrillDo | funkittoys
NoFrillDo project description and purchase page
funkittoys.com
November 10, 2025 at 8:54 PM
Early Christmas shopping. *Whistling noises*
Their NoFrillDo line better than many premium toys I have tried.
Their NoFrillDo line better than many premium toys I have tried.
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November 10, 2025 at 3:53 PM
Finished it up. My verdict remains that the advice is solid, but that it remains in the camp largely of assuming you know what you want and are trying to puzzle out what the sub wants. This honestly seems to be the trend of what people think dominants most need to hear.
About 83% into "The Heart of Dominance". It's pretty good, including trying to be aggressively inclusive by gender. It does assume you can detect hyperbole, however.
November 10, 2025 at 4:03 AM
Finished it up. My verdict remains that the advice is solid, but that it remains in the camp largely of assuming you know what you want and are trying to puzzle out what the sub wants. This honestly seems to be the trend of what people think dominants most need to hear.
About 83% into "The Heart of Dominance". It's pretty good, including trying to be aggressively inclusive by gender. It does assume you can detect hyperbole, however.
November 9, 2025 at 10:57 PM
About 83% into "The Heart of Dominance". It's pretty good, including trying to be aggressively inclusive by gender. It does assume you can detect hyperbole, however.
Zipper dramatic void staring reached equilibrium. On deciding where discontent falls on the spectrum of this is being unreasonable, determined big bulky zipper on delicate latex piece must be either error or some sort of materials shortage snafu?
November 9, 2025 at 4:38 PM
Zipper dramatic void staring reached equilibrium. On deciding where discontent falls on the spectrum of this is being unreasonable, determined big bulky zipper on delicate latex piece must be either error or some sort of materials shortage snafu?
Opened up a Cathouse Clothing order ready to try it out and forgot that they powder everything for shipping like it's going into the deep archives, and it needs a good bath first before wearing.
Good thing there's no pressing social occasion I needed it for.
Good thing there's no pressing social occasion I needed it for.
November 9, 2025 at 4:06 PM
Opened up a Cathouse Clothing order ready to try it out and forgot that they powder everything for shipping like it's going into the deep archives, and it needs a good bath first before wearing.
Good thing there's no pressing social occasion I needed it for.
Good thing there's no pressing social occasion I needed it for.