It happens. Much respect for reading the thread! ♥️

Respectfully, you two are talking about completely different things. Unmarried women who aren't partnered with men enjoy all those benefits. Women who are in relationships, living with the man, and having his babies are in more danger than married women.

This. Exactly this…

Would love to discuss. I’m speaking from the angle of my legal practice and the lack of financial supports for unmarried SAHMs as barriers to rebuilding their lives in the event a marriage fails. I understand the inequity of marriage and that single childless women are better off.

One of my favorite mom memories was being a mystery reader on my daughters birthday! She was so hype!

I can’t do this. I just survived the DLC 😩

There’s a reason people say “the person you marry is not the person you divorce.” I can’t do fantasy island with y’all today..

My question stands if you’ll answer it, what are you doing to make it safer for women since we know that at least *some* women will partner with men and have children anyway?

I get the whole if you experience any level of privilege your opinion is invalid thing in leftist circles but you’re barking up the wrong tree. I understand people have to grandstand for validation from the peanut gallery but my boots are on the ground. What are you doing exactly?

See, that’s where you lost the plot, I started my career in legal aid in a major east Coast city. I also served for years as a union lawyer with working class folks.

And yeah, as a kid who grew up with a single mother, in section 8 housing, I did take my place in the system to help my people

Yes, this does happen but most women do make it to alimony. So — as an analogy — just because some people react to a vaccine I wouldn’t recommend that people not be vaccinated..

I’m a candy ADDICT and strangely, I can’t get w/ these…maybe my palate is too unrefined 😩

I deal with women on an individual basis as a family law attorney, so sure, I don’t have stats handy. I have helped numerous women gain access to assets (even hidden assets) and had their husbands pay apl or assist with attorneys fees. This IS my lived experience..

And also — even though abuse is all too common, not every woman is abused. But if the marriage just isn’t working after she’s dedicated her life to her kids and family, I want that woman walking away with her fair share! So many women have been left with nothing except child support..

No, never. In fact, I believe we need to do a better job of building women up in their homes and childhoods so that they have more self worth and RUN when they see red flags. But if I can’t wave a magic wand to stop abuse, I want women to be more secure when they leave than less.

In some states men even pay APL (alimony pendente lite) which is alimony while the divorce is ongoing which incentivizes them against dragging out the divorce as an abuse tactic.

Child support alone vs child support, alimony, and a mortgage contribution can mean the difference between feeding and clothing your children and not. Yes, it’s inconvenient either way but imo having access to more resources is better for the woman and children involved.

Well in an unmarried SAHM scenario with financial abuse; the woman must financially rebuild to get financially stable; a married SAHM can access resources by filing for divorce…this is crucial when women are leaving abuse.