Ngina Otiende | Marriage Coach
@nginaotiende.bsky.social
Writer and coach, helping women address relationship problems with courage so they can thrive. Author of Courage & The Newlyweds. Find me at intentionaltoday.com
Judas man stole, lied, and sold out his friend and rabbi. His is not a typical surface-level hurt between good folk.
Christians need to get it right
Read the new blog post "Why You Dont Have to Eat with Your Judas" 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/jesus-loved-...
Christians need to get it right
Read the new blog post "Why You Dont Have to Eat with Your Judas" 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/jesus-loved-...
April 18, 2025 at 1:02 AM
Judas man stole, lied, and sold out his friend and rabbi. His is not a typical surface-level hurt between good folk.
Christians need to get it right
Read the new blog post "Why You Dont Have to Eat with Your Judas" 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/jesus-loved-...
Christians need to get it right
Read the new blog post "Why You Dont Have to Eat with Your Judas" 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/jesus-loved-...
For women who are frustrated with bad theology and church culture being used to justify their painful experiences: intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
April 12, 2025 at 2:12 PM
For women who are frustrated with bad theology and church culture being used to justify their painful experiences: intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
Pandering to one person just so
they won't have to change isn't good for anyone.
Get Courage: for women who are tired of absorbing all the responsibilities of relating while their partner enjoys the benefits. You deserve better. intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
they won't have to change isn't good for anyone.
Get Courage: for women who are tired of absorbing all the responsibilities of relating while their partner enjoys the benefits. You deserve better. intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
April 9, 2025 at 2:02 PM
Pandering to one person just so
they won't have to change isn't good for anyone.
Get Courage: for women who are tired of absorbing all the responsibilities of relating while their partner enjoys the benefits. You deserve better. intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
they won't have to change isn't good for anyone.
Get Courage: for women who are tired of absorbing all the responsibilities of relating while their partner enjoys the benefits. You deserve better. intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
In marriage, the answer
isn't always "let's work
through this." Sometimes the answer is "let me explore what
peace and safety looks
like for me." Read the blog post: When a Spouse Won’t Address Harmful Character Issues intentionaltoday.com/character-is...
isn't always "let's work
through this." Sometimes the answer is "let me explore what
peace and safety looks
like for me." Read the blog post: When a Spouse Won’t Address Harmful Character Issues intentionaltoday.com/character-is...
April 8, 2025 at 8:20 PM
In marriage, the answer
isn't always "let's work
through this." Sometimes the answer is "let me explore what
peace and safety looks
like for me." Read the blog post: When a Spouse Won’t Address Harmful Character Issues intentionaltoday.com/character-is...
isn't always "let's work
through this." Sometimes the answer is "let me explore what
peace and safety looks
like for me." Read the blog post: When a Spouse Won’t Address Harmful Character Issues intentionaltoday.com/character-is...
Once we familiarize ourselves with the baseline of virtue that even non-religious people achieve without sweating we’ll start to recognize when spouses have no high values to begin with.
Check out The Newlyweds (for dating, new and maturing couples) here 👇🏽
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Check out The Newlyweds (for dating, new and maturing couples) here 👇🏽
amzn.to/4gxBdxC
March 29, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Once we familiarize ourselves with the baseline of virtue that even non-religious people achieve without sweating we’ll start to recognize when spouses have no high values to begin with.
Check out The Newlyweds (for dating, new and maturing couples) here 👇🏽
amzn.to/4gxBdxC
Check out The Newlyweds (for dating, new and maturing couples) here 👇🏽
amzn.to/4gxBdxC
I don't "fix" everything I come across but this thinking I see often.
For a healthy, balanced view of marriage and relationships, check out my book! amzn.to/4gxBdxC
For a healthy, balanced view of marriage and relationships, check out my book! amzn.to/4gxBdxC
March 18, 2025 at 12:49 PM
I don't "fix" everything I come across but this thinking I see often.
For a healthy, balanced view of marriage and relationships, check out my book! amzn.to/4gxBdxC
For a healthy, balanced view of marriage and relationships, check out my book! amzn.to/4gxBdxC
I once believed complementarianism was God's design for marriage.
I no longer believe that.
I no longer believe that women are mere followers and men should carry the entire marriage on their shoulders.
Here's why 👇🏽
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I no longer believe that.
I no longer believe that women are mere followers and men should carry the entire marriage on their shoulders.
Here's why 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/are-gender-r...
March 6, 2025 at 11:55 PM
I once believed complementarianism was God's design for marriage.
I no longer believe that.
I no longer believe that women are mere followers and men should carry the entire marriage on their shoulders.
Here's why 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/are-gender-r...
I no longer believe that.
I no longer believe that women are mere followers and men should carry the entire marriage on their shoulders.
Here's why 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/are-gender-r...
Gen 2:23 is not an announcement of male superiority. You can create a happy, healthy marriage..without hierarchy, gender roles, 24/7 sacrifice or the death of your personhood. Check out my new book, The Newlyweds! amzn.to/3v0Hf7T
March 5, 2025 at 2:40 AM
Gen 2:23 is not an announcement of male superiority. You can create a happy, healthy marriage..without hierarchy, gender roles, 24/7 sacrifice or the death of your personhood. Check out my new book, The Newlyweds! amzn.to/3v0Hf7T
Just because it’s in the Bible doesn’t mean it’s instructive.
Excerpt, from my book Courage: Reflections and Liberation for the Hurting Soul 👇🏽
amzn.to/3v0Hf7T
Excerpt, from my book Courage: Reflections and Liberation for the Hurting Soul 👇🏽
amzn.to/3v0Hf7T
March 4, 2025 at 12:26 AM
Just because it’s in the Bible doesn’t mean it’s instructive.
Excerpt, from my book Courage: Reflections and Liberation for the Hurting Soul 👇🏽
amzn.to/3v0Hf7T
Excerpt, from my book Courage: Reflections and Liberation for the Hurting Soul 👇🏽
amzn.to/3v0Hf7T
The capacity to be kind, thoughtful, generous, respectful, honoring, helpful & humble is in all, not just some of us.
The Newlyweds addresses patterns of hardheartedness without sugarcoating the issues & offers insights into how kind-hearted spouses can grow AS EQUALS. Check it out amzn.to/4gxBdxC
The Newlyweds addresses patterns of hardheartedness without sugarcoating the issues & offers insights into how kind-hearted spouses can grow AS EQUALS. Check it out amzn.to/4gxBdxC
March 2, 2025 at 12:23 AM
The capacity to be kind, thoughtful, generous, respectful, honoring, helpful & humble is in all, not just some of us.
The Newlyweds addresses patterns of hardheartedness without sugarcoating the issues & offers insights into how kind-hearted spouses can grow AS EQUALS. Check it out amzn.to/4gxBdxC
The Newlyweds addresses patterns of hardheartedness without sugarcoating the issues & offers insights into how kind-hearted spouses can grow AS EQUALS. Check it out amzn.to/4gxBdxC
Its the women who are supposed to sacrifice their joy, their soul, their integrity, their expectations, their hopes, their dignity, their sense of belonging, their safety. Let's talk about why we need to retire harming marriage narratives👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/why-viewing-...
intentionaltoday.com/why-viewing-...
February 28, 2025 at 3:05 AM
Its the women who are supposed to sacrifice their joy, their soul, their integrity, their expectations, their hopes, their dignity, their sense of belonging, their safety. Let's talk about why we need to retire harming marriage narratives👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/why-viewing-...
intentionaltoday.com/why-viewing-...
Love is not self-serving.
Love does not exalt wickedness.
Love is accountable.
Love rejoices in integrity.
Love always shields and keeps from harm.
Our values were never supposed to cause or perpetuate harm.
Read more 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
Love does not exalt wickedness.
Love is accountable.
Love rejoices in integrity.
Love always shields and keeps from harm.
Our values were never supposed to cause or perpetuate harm.
Read more 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
February 25, 2025 at 2:52 AM
Love is not self-serving.
Love does not exalt wickedness.
Love is accountable.
Love rejoices in integrity.
Love always shields and keeps from harm.
Our values were never supposed to cause or perpetuate harm.
Read more 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
Love does not exalt wickedness.
Love is accountable.
Love rejoices in integrity.
Love always shields and keeps from harm.
Our values were never supposed to cause or perpetuate harm.
Read more 👇🏽
intentionaltoday.com/courage-refl...
You don't need gender-roles and boxes to have a happy marriage. I wrote The Newlyweds to make this process easier for couples just starting out AND at any stage of relationship. Check it out intentionaltoday.com/the-newlywed...
February 15, 2025 at 1:17 AM
You don't need gender-roles and boxes to have a happy marriage. I wrote The Newlyweds to make this process easier for couples just starting out AND at any stage of relationship. Check it out intentionaltoday.com/the-newlywed...
If you're tired of hearing that the most important part of marriage is learning how to "bear with each other" (aka for have little to no expectations for growth and maturity) then you want to check out my new book The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality Health and Happiness in Marriage. amzn.to/4gxBdxC
February 13, 2025 at 12:59 AM
If you're tired of hearing that the most important part of marriage is learning how to "bear with each other" (aka for have little to no expectations for growth and maturity) then you want to check out my new book The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality Health and Happiness in Marriage. amzn.to/4gxBdxC
My book The Newlyweds launched today! Get the skills & discernment to co-create a healthy connected marriage, AND clarity for when a relationship is operating outside of the framework of respect and honor. I hope you check it out and help me spread the word! 👇🏽 intentionaltoday.com/the-newlywed...
February 11, 2025 at 1:06 AM
My book The Newlyweds launched today! Get the skills & discernment to co-create a healthy connected marriage, AND clarity for when a relationship is operating outside of the framework of respect and honor. I hope you check it out and help me spread the word! 👇🏽 intentionaltoday.com/the-newlywed...
The Newlyweds, releasing this Monday February 10th 2025, pours into willing, kind-hearted partners AND partners in chronically hurting one-sided relationships. It's currently on preorder on Amazon.
February 7, 2025 at 2:21 AM
The Newlyweds, releasing this Monday February 10th 2025, pours into willing, kind-hearted partners AND partners in chronically hurting one-sided relationships. It's currently on preorder on Amazon.
We can have better marriage values! In the latest article on the blog, I'm exploring why the "men are born leaders and softness cannot be integrated" is flawed thinking (despite what your pastor says) and how gentle partnership wins. Check it out! intentionaltoday.com/embracing-so...
February 4, 2025 at 1:11 AM
We can have better marriage values! In the latest article on the blog, I'm exploring why the "men are born leaders and softness cannot be integrated" is flawed thinking (despite what your pastor says) and how gentle partnership wins. Check it out! intentionaltoday.com/embracing-so...
If you are looking for a marriage book that addresses patterns of hardheartedness without sugarcoating the issues while offering insights on how kind-hearted spouses can grow and learn then The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality Health & Happiness in Marriage is the book for you. On pre-order on Amazon!
January 30, 2025 at 1:46 AM
If you are looking for a marriage book that addresses patterns of hardheartedness without sugarcoating the issues while offering insights on how kind-hearted spouses can grow and learn then The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality Health & Happiness in Marriage is the book for you. On pre-order on Amazon!
Marriage counseling doesn't work for every "marriage" problem because sometimes the problem is a spouse not the marriage. Christian marriage books should offer clarity in this area not add to the confusion. The Newlyweds, my new book goes on pre-order Jan 27. Clarity & validation are my main things
January 24, 2025 at 1:23 AM
Marriage counseling doesn't work for every "marriage" problem because sometimes the problem is a spouse not the marriage. Christian marriage books should offer clarity in this area not add to the confusion. The Newlyweds, my new book goes on pre-order Jan 27. Clarity & validation are my main things
In my new book, The Newlyweds, (pre-orders open Jan 27th!) I talk about how we were taught to do marriage vs what actually works. I address harmful frameworks & theology and explore how we can heal and grow. I share stories & data to help us move forward with clarity & confidence. Stay tuned!
January 18, 2025 at 3:39 AM
In my new book, The Newlyweds, (pre-orders open Jan 27th!) I talk about how we were taught to do marriage vs what actually works. I address harmful frameworks & theology and explore how we can heal and grow. I share stories & data to help us move forward with clarity & confidence. Stay tuned!
The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality, Health and Happiness in Marriage is my latest book & it's all about helping couples co-design a life & marriage both people enjoy & offering clarity when the marriage isn't working. Marriage books should be able to do both. Pre-orders open Jan 28 2025.
January 17, 2025 at 1:00 AM
The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality, Health and Happiness in Marriage is my latest book & it's all about helping couples co-design a life & marriage both people enjoy & offering clarity when the marriage isn't working. Marriage books should be able to do both. Pre-orders open Jan 28 2025.
Men can, and do indeed, get by without being coddled, helped, or fixed by women. Men don’t need female interventions to thrive because they too are created in the image of God. Just like women, they have access to God when they struggle. Here's what I mean 👇
intentionaltoday.com/husband-want...
intentionaltoday.com/husband-want...
January 10, 2025 at 3:32 PM
Men can, and do indeed, get by without being coddled, helped, or fixed by women. Men don’t need female interventions to thrive because they too are created in the image of God. Just like women, they have access to God when they struggle. Here's what I mean 👇
intentionaltoday.com/husband-want...
intentionaltoday.com/husband-want...